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I'm not sure what is more disturbing; the woman offering up her virginity for cold hard cash or the men who are bidding on it. What has this world come to?
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BelleduJour
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 57
Canada
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Leftover grilled salmon with maple glaze crumbled over a green salad - yum!
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Dear Lord! What will they think of next? With all these advances in virtual sexual satisfaction, its any wonder people even bother connecting in real life. I'm not a fan of this APP or any app like this unfortunately but knock your socks off if you are.
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Based on a thread we both responded to about having sex with random people, he seems to have had a knack for being at the right place at the right time ;)
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Quote by Haineko
Keep the beer I'll take the chocolate & sex
My thoughts exactly!
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It sounds like someone has a panty fetish ;)
It depends on the underwear and also what I happen to be wearing as to whether or not I feel mine. Most of the time, it's not an issue and I don't spend time thinking about them but sometimes I'll put on a pair that are a bit small or tight or fit differently that some other panties I own and therefore I notice them more. Same with my bra. Some bras are made for comfort and I don't notice anything but sometimes, particularly when I'm wearing fancier bras with lace and other embellishments, it can be very distracting how much I notice it.
It depends on the underwear and also what I happen to be wearing as to whether or not I feel mine. Most of the time, it's not an issue and I don't spend time thinking about them but sometimes I'll put on a pair that are a bit small or tight or fit differently that some other panties I own and therefore I notice them more. Same with my bra. Some bras are made for comfort and I don't notice anything but sometimes, particularly when I'm wearing fancier bras with lace and other embellishments, it can be very distracting how much I notice it.
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Sorry about that dude... The truth is that when someone wants to be with someone they make it happen no matter what. Everything else is bullshit.
BINGO! It really is THIS simple.
I too am in a long distance relationship for the first time in my life. Trying to make a relationship work when you're in the same house is hard enough at the best of times never mind adding distance and a border between you.
If you really want it to work, you make the effort and work together to figure out how to navigate your way around obstacles. If either of you don't, it's doomed ESPECIALLY in long distance relationships.
Keep your dignity and shut this one down. The writing is on the wall with this woman unfortunately.
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First, I'm sorry to hear of your frustrations.
I had a very similar experience in my marriage of 20 years which I've spoken about many times in various threads. We were crazy for each other, couldn't keep our hands off of one another and then it all started to change after we got married. It shifted and slowed down until it came to a screeching halt without so much as a warning or explanation or discussion with me. Obviously, my hubby didn't have birth control to blame or any other medications to point fingers at so the decision to stop having sex completely was all the more confusing and incredibly frustrating. Celibate for 3 years? You're lucky. My imposed celibacy went on for close to 10 years! I actually stopped keeping track because it was just too painful to think about and brought on a lot of shame I had no idea how to deal with.
Women are much more complicated creatures when it comes to sex and their libidos. I will agree that seeking both medical advice as well as psychological is important. It's wonderful to hear that you both are committed to one another and it sounds like she's open and willing to seek out help in order to make things better - that's a really good sign. I think that if you love one another, you need to not be afraid to turn over every rock including couple's counselling. There are no guarantees with any of this but at least you will know that when you lay your head on your pillow at night, you've done everything you could to save your relationship.
Having said all of this, I am in full agreement with dpw that you should not be expected to be celibate indefinitely unless that's a decision YOU come to on your own. Unfortunately, my story didn't end with a happily-ever-after. Unlike your partner, mine was very reluctant to discuss why things had changed and even more reluctant to seek help until I was ready to hand him divorce papers. Again, my struggle went on for WAY too long and much of that was because of the fact that I loved this man and wanted more than anything to stay married and keep our family together. Unfortunately, I had had enough and did not want to live out the rest of my days forever celibate, a decision HE made without my consent. Of course, there is more to the story but sex or the lack of intimacy was a HUGE reason why I turned in my dance card. As you can imagine, it was incredibly painful but I had and still have no regrets about it because I know I did everything in my power to save my relationship.
I wish you the very best with all of this and hope that you find your happy ending.
I had a very similar experience in my marriage of 20 years which I've spoken about many times in various threads. We were crazy for each other, couldn't keep our hands off of one another and then it all started to change after we got married. It shifted and slowed down until it came to a screeching halt without so much as a warning or explanation or discussion with me. Obviously, my hubby didn't have birth control to blame or any other medications to point fingers at so the decision to stop having sex completely was all the more confusing and incredibly frustrating. Celibate for 3 years? You're lucky. My imposed celibacy went on for close to 10 years! I actually stopped keeping track because it was just too painful to think about and brought on a lot of shame I had no idea how to deal with.
Women are much more complicated creatures when it comes to sex and their libidos. I will agree that seeking both medical advice as well as psychological is important. It's wonderful to hear that you both are committed to one another and it sounds like she's open and willing to seek out help in order to make things better - that's a really good sign. I think that if you love one another, you need to not be afraid to turn over every rock including couple's counselling. There are no guarantees with any of this but at least you will know that when you lay your head on your pillow at night, you've done everything you could to save your relationship.
Having said all of this, I am in full agreement with dpw that you should not be expected to be celibate indefinitely unless that's a decision YOU come to on your own. Unfortunately, my story didn't end with a happily-ever-after. Unlike your partner, mine was very reluctant to discuss why things had changed and even more reluctant to seek help until I was ready to hand him divorce papers. Again, my struggle went on for WAY too long and much of that was because of the fact that I loved this man and wanted more than anything to stay married and keep our family together. Unfortunately, I had had enough and did not want to live out the rest of my days forever celibate, a decision HE made without my consent. Of course, there is more to the story but sex or the lack of intimacy was a HUGE reason why I turned in my dance card. As you can imagine, it was incredibly painful but I had and still have no regrets about it because I know I did everything in my power to save my relationship.
I wish you the very best with all of this and hope that you find your happy ending.
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Immaterial to me ... I'm more interested in the "total woman" than just singling out one part of her body to concentrate on.
Good answer
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Since this is posted in Crowd Sourcing, I'm going to assume women can post on here as well...
I suppose it's not surprising that I didn't cum at all the first time I had sex. Or the next several times for that matter. Although I was well versed at making myself cum through masturbation, it just felt like a completely different ballgame with a dick inside me...which as already been echoed countless times here...didn't last very long either. Eventually, with enough practice and increasing comfortability with both my partner(s) and myself, I managed to sort it all out and thank God for that
I suppose it's not surprising that I didn't cum at all the first time I had sex. Or the next several times for that matter. Although I was well versed at making myself cum through masturbation, it just felt like a completely different ballgame with a dick inside me...which as already been echoed countless times here...didn't last very long either. Eventually, with enough practice and increasing comfortability with both my partner(s) and myself, I managed to sort it all out and thank God for that
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For me personally, I would NOT be able to provide my partner with that pass nor would I want him to give me one. I'm with TheSexyNun, when I'm with someone, I'm with him and only him and I'm in it with both feet. If I wanted to fuck around just for the sake of sex, I'd stay single. Not sure why people enter into relationships or marriage if they still want to play the field.
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If this thread reinforces anything it's that meeting your "perfect" or "ideal" mate guarantees nothing in the end. It takes a lot more than a gut feeling to keep you together.
I subscribe to the belief that everything happens for a reason and that people come and go in our lives to either teach us lessons or help them with theirs. If you're not with that one special person right now, it's because it wasn't meant to be. Learn from that experience and use it to become a better version of yourself. And above all, DON'T let it close you off to the possibility of finding true love again.
I subscribe to the belief that everything happens for a reason and that people come and go in our lives to either teach us lessons or help them with theirs. If you're not with that one special person right now, it's because it wasn't meant to be. Learn from that experience and use it to become a better version of yourself. And above all, DON'T let it close you off to the possibility of finding true love again.
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I'm from Ontario and from a region that is known for it's gardens, history and natural wonders ;)
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It means, imo, if you have to get drunk for something, it isn't something you really want to do.
Tread carefully. If she's really not into it when sober, she's really not into it much.
BINGO! Exactly what I wanted to say. Tread carefully indeed. As I've said countless times on here, sometimes those fantasies are best left as fantasies. Unfortunately, they don't all turn out like a scene in a porn movie. And once that bell has been rung, there is no going back from it. If she needs some kind of substance to get through it, that's a red flag in my humble opinion.
Besides, do you really want those experiences to be only as a result of getting your wife stoned drunk?? I think that says a lot about YOUR character if that somehow seems to be okay with you.
If having such fantasies are important to you, I'd start small and work your way up rather than jumping into the deep end without a floatie. Just my
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Embarrassed??? Never! My nipples show through all my tops even when they're not hard from being cold and usually end up being the topic of conversation at some point regardless of the company I'm keeping. It is what it is but I'm definitely never embarrassed by it.
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Oh my goodness...where do I begin?! Okay, here is my personal list of favourites;
Shame - Definitely NOT romantic fucking but it has some amazing sex scenes and watching Michael Fassbender doing anything even peeing was enough to make my panties wet!
Lie With Me - A Canadian Indie film. Not a lot of talking but there were some good sex scenes
9 Songs - A British Indie film. Very little talking but lots of great sex scenes that were REAL! It was also the only film at the time that showed the main male actor ejaculate on camera. Hot!
History of Violence - I will agree with the ladies on here who've pointed this one out - love Viggo
Killing me Softly - Very erotic and borderline creepy but still insanely good sex scenes.
91/2 Weeks - A classic! I can't tell you how many times I've cum to this movie in my younger years.
Unfaithful - Another great film with some pretty passionate sex scenes.
Brokeback Mountain - I'm not sure how many women enjoyed it but I have a bit of an obsession with gay porn so this movie hit all the right buttons for me, not only on sexually but emotionally as well. Great tent scene.
The Notebook - Yes, yes, what can I say...I'm a girl who loves the romance that drips from every scene in this movie. It is probably my favourite romantic movie of all time.
And many more but I'd be here all day if I listed them all!
Shame - Definitely NOT romantic fucking but it has some amazing sex scenes and watching Michael Fassbender doing anything even peeing was enough to make my panties wet!
Lie With Me - A Canadian Indie film. Not a lot of talking but there were some good sex scenes
9 Songs - A British Indie film. Very little talking but lots of great sex scenes that were REAL! It was also the only film at the time that showed the main male actor ejaculate on camera. Hot!
History of Violence - I will agree with the ladies on here who've pointed this one out - love Viggo
Killing me Softly - Very erotic and borderline creepy but still insanely good sex scenes.
91/2 Weeks - A classic! I can't tell you how many times I've cum to this movie in my younger years.
Unfaithful - Another great film with some pretty passionate sex scenes.
Brokeback Mountain - I'm not sure how many women enjoyed it but I have a bit of an obsession with gay porn so this movie hit all the right buttons for me, not only on sexually but emotionally as well. Great tent scene.
The Notebook - Yes, yes, what can I say...I'm a girl who loves the romance that drips from every scene in this movie. It is probably my favourite romantic movie of all time.
And many more but I'd be here all day if I listed them all!
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Hmm. Well, Gilbert Grape, an amazing performance as a special needs kid, Blood Diamond was awesome. Titanic, Departed....yeah, the guys got it going on..
Took the words right out of my mouth
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Yes, it's happened a few times but the most embarrassing and most humiliating time was when it was my teenage son!!!! I still cringe thinking about that day - ugh. Thankfully, we have a close relationship and we talk openly about a great many things. It definitely wasn't my favourite talks but it was it was. Now a days, he avoids my room like the plague "just in case". Live and learn my son, live and learn ;)
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Different ways, Wardog - some of us just can not have 'one night stands' with random people - it goes against how we see the world.
Others, such as yourself, may have no problem with that; and I do not berate you for it. Just see that not everyone is the same in that respect.
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I've tried several times over the years to find the love for the chatrooms but have yet to figure out why people enjoy them as much as they do. I actually find it stressful trying to keep up with all the chatter and responding to everyone. I really just feel more like a fumbling idiot than anything else. Is there a secret to it?
I'm still confused how anyone really gets to know each other in there given all the distractions - just when you think you like one flavour, two more magically show up! Personally, the whole experience felt a bit impersonal to me but I know there are many that love it and have met some great friends in there so...
I guess we all have our avenues for making connections. Chatrooms just happen not to be mine.
I'm still confused how anyone really gets to know each other in there given all the distractions - just when you think you like one flavour, two more magically show up! Personally, the whole experience felt a bit impersonal to me but I know there are many that love it and have met some great friends in there so...
I guess we all have our avenues for making connections. Chatrooms just happen not to be mine.
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There was a similar post on this very subject
http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postsm1462937_What39s-the-longest-amount-of-time-you39ve-ever-masturbated-for.aspx#1462937
http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postsm1462937_What39s-the-longest-amount-of-time-you39ve-ever-masturbated-for.aspx#1462937
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An airline stewardess in the plane's restroom at 33,000 ft while the other stew stood watch outside the door; midway back on a nearly empty bus late at night with a divorcee on her way back home to Mom & Dad; In the deserted (and CLOSED) balcony of an almost empty movie theater with a lady who had been with but ignored by, Navy personnel; in my car after giving an "appreciative" drunk in a swimming suit a ride back to her camp ground (and those are but a few) I'm still alive, well and uninfected with anything, thank you!
=d> Congratulations seem to be in order I think.
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It's situational I think. If we're at home with no plans to leave the house, I'm not going to have much issue with it. On the other hand, if I'm put together and we're fooling around just before going out or worse yet, we're out already and we decide to have some fun and he blows his load in my hair...yeah...I'm not going to be particularly thrilled about walking around in public with sticky hair.
At the same time, I'm never one to turn down an opportunity for some playtime and like Nyaeve80 said, in the heat of the moment, anything can happen and I'm nothing if not a very forgiving woman.
At the same time, I'm never one to turn down an opportunity for some playtime and like Nyaeve80 said, in the heat of the moment, anything can happen and I'm nothing if not a very forgiving woman.
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I have a select group of male friends that I talk to on a pretty regular basis and we often end up talking about sex or sexual experiences or the like. It's harmless chatter about topics that perhaps might be for some people but perfectly natural for us because of our personalities and comfortability with one another. Does that mean we want to fuck? Not at all. Sometimes a conversation about sex or sexual experiences is just that, a conversation. No need to read into it any more than that unless YOU want more. If that's the case, then ask the questions and get it out on the table once and for all. I don't see the point in dancing around the subject if it's something you're hoping will happen. Go for it!
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I try to be as honest as possible but some details I just don't give out. I suppose some of the reasons people do it are innocent and some maybe not. I have been asked direct questions and I say sorry I can't tell you that. Its more omitting information than changing anything. I have made some friends here that I may confide a little more in but that is because we have spent time building a little trust.
If its for role playing and just purely to escape or to cover your tracks because you can't afford to get busted then...who am I to judge? But if you are hurting people and manipulating them then that is just unkind and mean.
I'm very much the same way. Omission rather than fabrication is a testament to my enjoyment and fulfilment here. As for any fears of being found out, I'm not sure why that would be an issue since there are countless parameters in place here to keep one's profile anonymous. You are in completely control here.
Although I have come to be very open minded about the many reasons why people do what they do on here including why someone would create a completely erroneous profile, that doesn't mean I don't question it. Personally, I would think it would be exhausting just trying to keep up with all the lies and storytelling. I can't even imagine spending that much time pretending but whatever floats your boat I guess.
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I've had many marathon phone sex sessions with my current partner that have lasted anywhere from 12 to 26 hours. Of course, we're NOT masturbating continuously during those ridiculously long encounters (that's just crazy) but rather it's a cycle of chat, tease, play, cum, rest, over and over and over again.
And yes, I have been known to be feel quite tender after those marathons sessions but you'll never find me complaining about them ;)
Not sure if these were the kinds of answers you were looking for but it would appear that many have interpreted it this way.
And yes, I have been known to be feel quite tender after those marathons sessions but you'll never find me complaining about them ;)
Not sure if these were the kinds of answers you were looking for but it would appear that many have interpreted it this way.
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Ugh! If I MUST choose, I might have to go with good old fashioned missionary on this one.