Very good analogy. Now the question is how many MEN will bother to read this thread and offer up a sympathetic moment to understand what it's like for women in this world sometimes.
Thank you for sharing.
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BelleduJour
Over 90 days ago
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Of course! I can't speak for everyone but for me, the excitement and the subsequent pleasure that comes from masturbating to a crush be it online or in real life is far more satisfying than hitting play and watching a bit of porn.
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I have never timed how long it takes my man to orgasm because it's irrelevant. However long it is, we always make sure the other is completely satisfied.
Keeping time sounds more like something someone would do because they were feeling frustrated or perhaps unsatisfied in some way with their sexual encounters otherwise I can't imagine why anyone would want to do that unless it's for shits and giggles of course.
Keeping time sounds more like something someone would do because they were feeling frustrated or perhaps unsatisfied in some way with their sexual encounters otherwise I can't imagine why anyone would want to do that unless it's for shits and giggles of course.
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"Or being so mad at an ex-boyfriend that you suddenly seeked the exact opposite personality wise?"
I'm guilty of this. Like a lot of girls I think, I went through a serious phase in high school of being hopelessly attracted to the bad-boy-dumb-jock types with blonde hair - oh yes, they HAD to be blonde! After being jerked around by one and heart broken by another, I not only found myself turned off of my "usual" type but I turned on my heels almost immediately and started dating the cute-sweet-super-smart types with dark hair exclusively. I'm still insanely attracted to the dark haired boys you can bring-home-to mama except that these days they all have a bad boy quality that is often reserved for the bedroom and that is just fine with me ;)
I'm guilty of this. Like a lot of girls I think, I went through a serious phase in high school of being hopelessly attracted to the bad-boy-dumb-jock types with blonde hair - oh yes, they HAD to be blonde! After being jerked around by one and heart broken by another, I not only found myself turned off of my "usual" type but I turned on my heels almost immediately and started dating the cute-sweet-super-smart types with dark hair exclusively. I'm still insanely attracted to the dark haired boys you can bring-home-to mama except that these days they all have a bad boy quality that is often reserved for the bedroom and that is just fine with me ;)
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I got married at at 24 so to ME, I think that is a respectable age that displays both a healthy level of maturity and sound judgement (of course, there are always the exceptions!). I don't think age or the age gap is as big of an issue as is the compatibility and maturity of each person. I've met and dated men my age and older who acted more like spoiled and selfish children then the men they were supposed to be. And then there have been men I've met and dated in their twenties and early thirties that blew me away and really forced me to rethink many of my preconceived notions I had about younger men.
Today, my partner is 13 years younger than me (he's 32 and I'll be 45 in January) and it is without a doubt the most rewarding relationship I've had on every level. And just as you articulated so well, "We're just...us. There is no older/younger dynamic", I couldn't have said it better myself nor agree more wholeheartedly. The heart wants what the heart wants. Good luck!!!
Today, my partner is 13 years younger than me (he's 32 and I'll be 45 in January) and it is without a doubt the most rewarding relationship I've had on every level. And just as you articulated so well, "We're just...us. There is no older/younger dynamic", I couldn't have said it better myself nor agree more wholeheartedly. The heart wants what the heart wants. Good luck!!!
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I definitely prefer my man cumming in or on other places over giving me a facial BUT there is no denying that there is a 'porn star/porn movie' element to it that can be very exciting given the right situation. If it's done with someone I know well and care about, I don't find it demeaning at all. Variety is the spice of life after all but at the same time, it's not something I want to happen every time we have sex.
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It depends on the guy and the chemistry but typically, I prefer to dominate the first time we have sex, or at least start off dominant and then let him take over. As far as top or bottom, it could go either way but if it's my turn to be in charge, I will end up riding him at some point. It's all so good!
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O.M.G. YES!!! I was 30 when I finally got pregnant. Up until that point, I didn't truly understand what 'being horny' was until I got pregnant and WOW! The only thing that would have made it better was if my (ex) hubby wasn't so freaked out about having sex with a pregnant woman for fear of 'hurting the baby' - ugh.
These days, I have probably come as close as I'll ever be to how I felt those several months whilst pregnant thanks to having reached my sexual prime. It's a beautiful thing
These days, I have probably come as close as I'll ever be to how I felt those several months whilst pregnant thanks to having reached my sexual prime. It's a beautiful thing
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Quote by trinket
There's got to be something about him that catches my attention in the first place. Whether it's looks, his laugh, his manner etc.. Of course there has to be a certain amount of physical attraction. He has to have clean fingernails and clean shoes. If he can't even pull that off, it's a 'no go' for me.
Once I get past that, hopefully he's able to hold a decent conversation about more than his car, or bike, or himself. A sense of humour is a MUST. If you can't laugh and talk with someone, it's not going to work.
Perfectly articulated. I'm with Trinket on this one.
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As for me - I tend to go for porn clips the most, followed by fantasies involving guys I know and/or phone sex. Visual porn is really easily accessible but usually I go for clips that feature my current real-life fantasies or desires - sort of like background visuals to my own imagination and projected fantasies.
Bang on. Couldn't have said it better than this.
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Nothing hotter than a man who isn't afraid of his own cum...no matter where he leaves it ;)
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Personally, I rarely send out friend requests but if/when I do, there would have to be something particularly intriguing that sets them apart from the rest on here that would warrant me making the first move. I'm sure like many women on here, I get lots of friend requests (men out number women on here after all) and not only do I ALWAYS read their profile but I'm especially interested in reading their introduction email that accompanies their request - no intro, no add. Is it really that hard? Like my profile clearly states, I'm very selective about who I friend.
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Now THAT's a fantasy for sure!
Someone sounds like a Grumpy Gus! 
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That was a quick resonse, 14 months!! Have you been dredging or applying the Lazarus technique to the forums. I thought I hadn't seen this before.
Haha and touché! If you must know, I didn't have a chance to respond sooner because this thread was created BEFORE Lush implemented the new TIMELINE (which I think is brilliant by the way). I just happen to come across this when I was seeking out new and interesting posts to comment on. Had I seen it 14 months ago, I would have responded the same way 14 months ago
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I don't think it's healthy to be 'completely connected' too often, like the expression 'joined at the hip'. Guys are often more introverted than women and spending too much time together, even good quality time, can be emotionally draining. Women sometimes use guys as a crutch because they don't have other interests to fill their time with. Sometimes they take it personally when a guy doesn't want to be with them 24/7 and that's really not fair to someone who needs to spend time in his own head pursuing other interests. One of the reasons many guys appreciate 'independence' in a woman is so they can have the time they need apart from their SO. This is just my 2 cents, but that might be part of this 'too much sex' issue. It might not be too much sex, it might be too little freedom.
I have no idea how you got this from reading my post. The 'completely connected' I was referring to was an emotional connection NOT a physical one. I have absolutely NO desire to be joined at the hip with anyone, least of all any man that I'm in a relationship with. That sounds more like something I might have wanted/done when I was a teenager in high school but definitely not something I crave at this age - I have my own beautiful life to live, thank you very much. I think having separate interests and friends and A LIFE outside of your own relationship is not only healthy but critical to a happy and fulfilling relationship.
Emotional connection is something completely different.
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Oh my goodness, there are SO many that I love and enjoy!! If I HAD to choose it would really be a tie between missionary for those tender but passionate lovemaking encounters where romantic connection made with eyes and lips amplify the experience AND doggy style for the more raw and rough fuck-my-brains-out encounters where a little hair pulling and spanking are all too welcome. 
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I too LOVE it deep inside my pussy but there is also something supersonically hot about my man cumming in my mouth. I'm very easy to please 
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Quote by CurlyGirly
I love watching the man I'm in a relationship masturbate. I think mutual masturbation is very hot as a bit of foreplay. However, I do NOT enjoy random guys who recently joined sex sites who have red AV's masturbate. That I don't like.
I second that
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A giant mug of green tea but I am really wishing it was a French vanilla cappuccino.
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Hmm, seeing as how MdeSade64 is a self-proclaimed dominate, I suppose I would allow him to dominate me if only to see just how good he really is 
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I've done it many times and although nothing can ever compare or replace skin on skin, sex can be a great alternative and with the right partner, it can be A LOT of FUN!
Happy -fucking!
Happy -fucking!
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I find that women are more open to cum facials through than in person.
- don't forget the clorox wipes -
Then you haven't been hanging out with the right women
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Spent the evening at home with my teenage son and my two nieces (18 and 20 years old) eating popcorn, watching old home movies and laughing so much we were crying! There is nothing better than spending quality time with the ones you love. I'm a very happy girl tonight.
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Why is it most women will not admit they masturbate to their hubbies or b/f's.
You've got to be joking!! Either I'm super naive or I'm far too liberal for my own good. Regardless, I am a BIG fan of masturbating and have NO issue with admitting it, talking about it and sharing that experience with my lover.
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I can't say that I've ever had a vibrator or dildo inserted in my vagina BUT I have spent a whole day with an anal plug in my arse, usually at the request of my lover(s). Talk about all-day foreplay 