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ByronLord
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The people whose photographs they claim are of them are all lifted from a porn site. Its not too difficult to tell even without image search tools. Professional models behave very differently in front of the camera to normal people which is why some photographers go to great lengths to find new models who are not so stereotypical.
Women whose idea of cyber is the guy does all the work.
Women whose idea of cyber is the guy does all the work.
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Quote by MarySweets
In answer to the original question there really isn't much about a real BDSM relationship. I knew the author had done research via google, bdsm sites etc. A part of me is glad that there is some interest in the lifestyle another part of me is that there is a lot to learn about the complex relationship of a dom/sub.
I was with my mistress for a year and a half. She taught me a lot about the bdsm world.
I got bored half way through book 2. In particular, I get the feeling that Christian is going to turn out to be an ex-BDSM type by the end of book 3 and I don't think Ana is ever going to get a proper workout in that red room of pain.
Now stick that blasted inner-goddess in the red room of pain....
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I recently submitted a couple of stories in which I had used the historical present.
I open the message from the moderators and find a rejection: My story changes tense and does not involve time travel. I am shocked, disappointed. Don't the moderators know that the historical present is a time honored device for establishing immediacy?
I open the message from the moderators and find a rejection: My story changes tense and does not involve time travel. I am shocked, disappointed. Don't the moderators know that the historical present is a time honored device for establishing immediacy?
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Quote by sprite
y'all actually make anal sound fun... might have to give it another go sometime... any volenteers?
Me! Me! Pick me!
The main thing with anal is patience and not trying to go any faster than the receiver is up for that particular day. If an ass is not in the mood to take a cock then its not going to.
People might like to read my 'Kate's Anal correspondence course' series which is actually cribbed largely from various anal sex-ed sources.
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Quote by Catnip
I think we might be talking cam chat here?
I'd say come as you are, naked or dressed. Leave as it feels best, preferably naked so I can look at that cute behind as you walk away..
The dressed upperbody and naked bottom, doesn't really do much for me, tilting the cam and "TaDa! Looksy here, this is a cock." *shakes head*
At burning man that is known as 'shirt cocking' and is frowned upon. Though I can't quite see why as wearing a shirt to keep the sun off the shoulders seems like quite a good idea in the desert.
Why do the people walk away from you when you cam Catnip?
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Quote by MoonlightSerenity
What about subs who's Master's no longer have accounts on here? My Master, and other Masters and Mistresses that I know of are okay with their subs talking to other people so long as we follow certain rules for our chatting. Do you still consider us to be real subs?
I find the implied sexual one up-manship of defining what a 'real sub' would do in an exclusionary way rather depressing.
There are folk in the gay community who can't understand the fact that some people really are bisexual and seem to see them as some how inferior or closeted.
Different people are into different things. Some people are painsluts, most are not. Some people are into bondage, most are not.
I don't much care what society thinks of what I do/don't in the bedroom or the basement. It is quite frankly none of their business unless I am hurting someone else (without consent) or harming them. I don't need their approval to validate my lifestyle. And that goes for folk inside the community who want to appoint themselves arbiters of standards as well..
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In my experience it's a matter of helping out the sub to say no.
I can't do this, because my master says so. In many occasions the master has said so since it's something the sub have a hard time saying on their own.
Me for example have always had a very hard time saying no to things and always been able to get talked into doing things I really did not want. With someone to blame for saying no, it's much easier.
I think there are a few fake subs who just skip the master part.
Heck, I have an agent to negotiate contracts for me. She has no decision making over pricing whatsoever but the clients are told she does. She isn't even on a commission as the only thing she does is provide a cut-out for negotiations.
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Quote by DLizze
For several years, like back in the ninties, like, there was this like, PHRASE, that was like so overused, Man. "A new paradgim" I am like so glad we found a new paradgim, and don't like have to say "a new paradgim" like all the freaking time any more. Just sayin.....
That comes from a book on scientific method by Khune which pointed out that real science does not work the way that Karl Popper claimed it works.
According to Khun, productive science takes place when there is an example that scientists can apply cookie cutter like to solve problems. Paradigm is just a fancy word for example. So Newtonian mechanics provided a framework that could be used to explain most of the observations in physics until the mid 19th century.
Every so often someone does an experiment that completely up-ends the framework in a way that forces a complete revision of the whole field. Which is what happened with Quantum Mechanics and Relativity. Which Kuhn called a paradigm shift.
What the folk who witter on about finding new paradigms don't get is that it is a BAD THING. There is no need for a new paradigm when the old one works well and is producing good science. You only need to turn to a new paradigm when things have broken and there is a crisis.
If the CERN 'faster than light neutrinos' had been accurate then there might have been a crisis and a need for a paradigm shift. But we haven't had a proper paradigm shift in science now for at least 80 years.
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"There are reasons I don't want to get into here"
Every time someone has pulled that phrase on me they have turned out to mean that they know that they are a lying stinking weasel and that if they actually stated their reason everyone would know that is what they are.
Another thing that gets my goat (another one) is when people talk about the intentions of countries as if they were people. They will talk of what 'the US' or 'Israel' or 'Iran' want to do when in fact we all know that there is a huge range of opinion in every country and even more so in government.
It is a sloppy way of thinking that is unfortunately common even in circles that should know much better.
Every time someone has pulled that phrase on me they have turned out to mean that they know that they are a lying stinking weasel and that if they actually stated their reason everyone would know that is what they are.
Another thing that gets my goat (another one) is when people talk about the intentions of countries as if they were people. They will talk of what 'the US' or 'Israel' or 'Iran' want to do when in fact we all know that there is a huge range of opinion in every country and even more so in government.
It is a sloppy way of thinking that is unfortunately common even in circles that should know much better.
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Why worry about what other people think?
Reading your email I sense two separate concerns. One is your partner who you mention in the last sentence. Your much bigger concern seems to be that you might not be a 'proper lesbian' whatever that might be and what other people might think of that. Which is the sort of thing that did worry me at 19 but does not worry me these days.
The gay community can be rather insular. I am straight, but I write for a gay blog. Like many communities that has been formed by adversity there is a tendency for members to suggest that anything less than 100% commitment is some sort of betrayal.
There is another possibility here and that it is that this is being driven by your mating drive rather than your sex/bonding drive. If you are straight there is no real need to distinguish between the two. But there are good reasons to suspect they might be different.
We are products of evolution and in evolutionary terms a female-female pair bonding can be just as successful in terms of child rearing, provided that is there is a child to rear. And our genes haven't adapted to in-vitro fertilization yet, or for that matter the fact that we now live to 70s and 80s rather than 35 being old.
So don't discount the possibility that some bastard sexist gene in there somewhere is desperately trying to turn on the 'baby making machine' gene.
I must stress here that my argument is meant to be factual rather than normative. The fact that we are biological creatures with some multi million year old genetic code adapted to a particular way of life does not make that life 'better'. We are all of us living way outside our design parameters. We are also designed to eat and store as many calories as possible because we are adapted to the possibility of famine.
Understanding what might be going on is merely a tool to help find out a solution. Depending on you and your partner, that solution might run from having a date with a straight or bi guy[*], to her taking you with a strapon. It is also possible that she is having similar feelings.
I certainly don't think that there is any particular merit to being a 'gold star' lesbian. Better to try something and know than make an issue of not having tried it.
[*] Taking a gay guy to bed does not seem like a good plan in this particular circumstance. Not unless you want to make a comedic movie.
Reading your email I sense two separate concerns. One is your partner who you mention in the last sentence. Your much bigger concern seems to be that you might not be a 'proper lesbian' whatever that might be and what other people might think of that. Which is the sort of thing that did worry me at 19 but does not worry me these days.
The gay community can be rather insular. I am straight, but I write for a gay blog. Like many communities that has been formed by adversity there is a tendency for members to suggest that anything less than 100% commitment is some sort of betrayal.
There is another possibility here and that it is that this is being driven by your mating drive rather than your sex/bonding drive. If you are straight there is no real need to distinguish between the two. But there are good reasons to suspect they might be different.
We are products of evolution and in evolutionary terms a female-female pair bonding can be just as successful in terms of child rearing, provided that is there is a child to rear. And our genes haven't adapted to in-vitro fertilization yet, or for that matter the fact that we now live to 70s and 80s rather than 35 being old.
So don't discount the possibility that some bastard sexist gene in there somewhere is desperately trying to turn on the 'baby making machine' gene.
I must stress here that my argument is meant to be factual rather than normative. The fact that we are biological creatures with some multi million year old genetic code adapted to a particular way of life does not make that life 'better'. We are all of us living way outside our design parameters. We are also designed to eat and store as many calories as possible because we are adapted to the possibility of famine.
Understanding what might be going on is merely a tool to help find out a solution. Depending on you and your partner, that solution might run from having a date with a straight or bi guy[*], to her taking you with a strapon. It is also possible that she is having similar feelings.
I certainly don't think that there is any particular merit to being a 'gold star' lesbian. Better to try something and know than make an issue of not having tried it.
[*] Taking a gay guy to bed does not seem like a good plan in this particular circumstance. Not unless you want to make a comedic movie.
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Quote by nicolaThis is something that really upsets Law Enforcement. I have been on the net and managed enough systems that I have had more than a few causes to refer a matter to law enforcement.
I received a chat log this morning which made me sick to my stomach.
- "I suspected the member was a ped* and wanted to expose them" - NO EXCUSE, You are not a law enforcement agent
Almost every perp will try to claim that there was some justification for their activities. They will DDoS an entire site and then try to claim that they were only trying to stop some group of (insert favorite bad guys here).
Another big problem is that amateurs often get in the way of genuine intelligence and LE efforts. Imagine that you are wanting to get intelligence on Al Qaeda. The place you are likely to go look for it is the jihaddi chat sites. Getting an agent tunnelled into one of those sites takes a huge investment in time and effort. Now imagine that after you have done all that the chat room disappears because some vigilante decides to take it off the net.
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Quote by clum
I take the point of the original poster and I think there could be a better way of doing things (and a few have been suggested).
What brings me on his side is the fact that one of my stories is ranked as the All-Time Most Popular Oral Sex story with a grand total of... 14 votes. To me, that doesn't indicate that my story actually is the best Oral Sex story on this site (feel free to disagree); not enough people have expressed an opinion on the story to make that kind of claim.
I also rank 13th on that same list with a story which has been rated 27 times - twenty-five 5s and two 4s. Surely this should be considered a better story than the first, no?
That is what I think is wrong. When I am looking for stories I find the 'best of' pages to be less useful than they could be.
I don't think that a story with 150 votes should fall 25 places in the rankings because someone gives it a 4.
Now if the problem could be solved by a degree in statistics at MIT... well my wife happened to teach stats there. Only problem is I am not sure I want to ask her about this issue as she might read some of the stories I write.