I smile and either inhale deeply or arch my back. When possible, I will do or say something encouraging. I like it and want to let him know that not only do I not mind his appreciation, but I encourage it.
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Quote by JefferyB
I had a friend once that enjoyed rubbing her pussy back and forth over my cock while we were standing, facing each other. We both got off that way, but I didn't often penetrate her.
I did that on a dance floor once and nearly had him inside of me. It was sexy and fun. We didn't have sex in that position, but it was exciting experimenting to see how far inside he could get and it was sufficiently stimulating for us both on the crowded dark dance floor. A delightful tease indeed!
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Yes, I enjoy a nude beach. It's so much more comfortable than a Textile one, for sure! I agree that it's not a particularly erotic experience, but it is wonderfully freeing the very first time you go. And thereafter, you won't wantto have a wet bathing suit laying against your skin ever again.
For those of you worried about either being or seeing the Less Fit members of society, let me just say...it's a guarantee that you will. As someone else stated, it's really not a lot different than many non-nude beaches when it comes to the population, except I think the people are friendlier on a nude beach, which is a plus in itself.
The first time I went, I found myself in the area with a little time on my hands and decided to find it, since I knew there was one nearby, though I was not prepared to go to the beach. I had no sunscreen, no towel, no hat, I did have sunglasses, no book, no cooler, no food. But I wanted to find it, to be able to go back another day. It was a warm summer day and once I found it, I walked down to the beach, sat on my sundress and briefly went into the water as my reward. I stayed for a little less than an hour and when I got up to leave, the people nearest to me asked why I was leaving after such a short visit. I explained that I'd like to stay but I wasn't prepared and planned to return another day. They offered me everything I needed including sunscreen, shade, cool beverages, something to eat and made me feel welcome. I wouldn't expect that to happen at a traditional textile beach.
I did stay a while longer and did return again in the future.
My recommendation: if you want to do it, make it happen. Life is short, find your smiles.
And be gracious to newcomers, it makes a difference!
For those of you worried about either being or seeing the Less Fit members of society, let me just say...it's a guarantee that you will. As someone else stated, it's really not a lot different than many non-nude beaches when it comes to the population, except I think the people are friendlier on a nude beach, which is a plus in itself.
The first time I went, I found myself in the area with a little time on my hands and decided to find it, since I knew there was one nearby, though I was not prepared to go to the beach. I had no sunscreen, no towel, no hat, I did have sunglasses, no book, no cooler, no food. But I wanted to find it, to be able to go back another day. It was a warm summer day and once I found it, I walked down to the beach, sat on my sundress and briefly went into the water as my reward. I stayed for a little less than an hour and when I got up to leave, the people nearest to me asked why I was leaving after such a short visit. I explained that I'd like to stay but I wasn't prepared and planned to return another day. They offered me everything I needed including sunscreen, shade, cool beverages, something to eat and made me feel welcome. I wouldn't expect that to happen at a traditional textile beach.
I did stay a while longer and did return again in the future.
My recommendation: if you want to do it, make it happen. Life is short, find your smiles.
And be gracious to newcomers, it makes a difference!
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Yes, I do. I enjoy hearing what he wants and how he is feeling when I am touching him. I like dirty talk, it makes me feel sexy. Tellling him how I am feeling, knowing it is encouraging him, makes sex that much more fun. I like it when he knows that I have the filthiest things in mind for us when we are naked and I like knowing what naughty thoughts are running through his mind, as well.
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Quote by Ls63563
It is the combination of the feeling of the head of his cock parting my lips and beginning to push further into me, and the look on his face as he experiences the feeling of his cock being enveloped by me! It's hard to describe, but easy to imagine!
I couldn't agree more.
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Did you go forward with it? How it it work out? My thinking is that you never know what you might enjoy until you give it a shot. No reason not to Push Your Comfort Zone as long as you feel comfortable pulling back if you discover it's not working for you. Be honest and be open. It's okay if it turns out one thing or another doesn't interest you, but don't let that be the only time you try something different. Life is full of opportunities, sometimes you need to dive in to explore them.
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Personally, I love a nice glazing. I also enjoy having it rubbed all over my big bare breasts then feeling it dry there or better yet, having it licked clean. Regardless, if your partner simply cannot abide your desire on a regular basis, maybe making the point that the occasional Special Occasion would be much appreciated by you. And, IMHO, there's absolutely nothing wrong with your continued enjoyment of images of other ladies breasts being generously doused. You have every right to induldge your fantasies. You're not cheating on her. Your satisfaction is important and watching porn for those things that she doesn't wish to participate in, is a compromise. You still get to feel good and she doesn't have to engage.
Not everyone shares every interests. Relationships survive time because of compromise, this is no different.
Not everyone shares every interests. Relationships survive time because of compromise, this is no different.
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Yes, when I was in my 40's, he was in his early 80's. He was a lovely man. We met dancing and others on the dance floor encouraged us to move closer together, which both of us embraced. I commented that my braless nipples were getting very hard against his chest and when he admired them, I invited him back to my hotel room for a closer look. We enjoyed a wonderfully lascivious night and parted with smiles and one quick nude photo as a memory for him. He was lovely. We went back to our separate towns, several hundreds of miles away, but each with a fun story to recall. I still enjoy thinking of him and our brief but deliciously sensual time together.
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I'd like to do it with a Telemarketer on the phone. It'd be fun to see how long it takes them to figure out what I am doing on my end of the phone. Don't know how much I'd try to "not" give it away.
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Haven't yet, but love the idea. Looking forward to the right circumstances and then It's On! I would be proud, excited and happy to be shared with one or many!
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Well that's a totally different type of scenario than I was envisioning from your original post. I am sure that your wife was quite surprised at your chattiness, given your description.
Following up with someone on social media, given what you described is unnecessary and would probably seem odd, to me, anyway.
I'd leave it alone. It happened, it passed, move on. Nice of you to think of explaining yourself, but it seems to be it's best left to dissolve in the passage of time.
Following up with someone on social media, given what you described is unnecessary and would probably seem odd, to me, anyway.
I'd leave it alone. It happened, it passed, move on. Nice of you to think of explaining yourself, but it seems to be it's best left to dissolve in the passage of time.
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Yes, at FantasyFest. I had my upper torso and face painted. Spent the day walking around wearing nothing but a skirt and comfortable shoes and a big ol' smile. Loved it. Had my photo taken by many strangers, some in the photo with me, some without. It was fun.
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I am single, so it might be flattering for me.
If I were not, and we'd discussed that my relationship was Open, then again, it might be flattering.
Otherwise, I think if that information was not shared, After the Fact Contact was not invited and could be disturbing.
Regardless, I'd definitiely want to hear it couched in "I so enjoyed our conversation, I couldn't get you out of my mind" which would still make me apprehensive about being Stalked, but the tone of what would follow, would really define my receptiveness.
Respect that No Means No and all is well.
Also, remember, that even though he/she SAID or suggested that he/she is available, that doesn't necessarily mean it's so. I know more than a few "involved/Married" people who present as Single as an self-indulgent dialliance, fully expecting that this singular interaction is a fleeting casual encounter. Unexpected communication thereafter changes that dynamic entirely, possibly even causing panic if not dismay.
My suggestion is that if you do elect to make contact after tracking someone down, be cautious in presenting how and why you did so and be accomodating to however it's received. Showing initiative can be a good thing, but being perceived as a Stalker is surely not what you wish, I'm sure. The one thing I would be listening for, is what do you expect to happen next, now that you've found me? Be clear and get to that early in the communication, it will likely put the other person at ease much more quickly.
Good luck to you!
If I were not, and we'd discussed that my relationship was Open, then again, it might be flattering.
Otherwise, I think if that information was not shared, After the Fact Contact was not invited and could be disturbing.
Regardless, I'd definitiely want to hear it couched in "I so enjoyed our conversation, I couldn't get you out of my mind" which would still make me apprehensive about being Stalked, but the tone of what would follow, would really define my receptiveness.
Respect that No Means No and all is well.
Also, remember, that even though he/she SAID or suggested that he/she is available, that doesn't necessarily mean it's so. I know more than a few "involved/Married" people who present as Single as an self-indulgent dialliance, fully expecting that this singular interaction is a fleeting casual encounter. Unexpected communication thereafter changes that dynamic entirely, possibly even causing panic if not dismay.
My suggestion is that if you do elect to make contact after tracking someone down, be cautious in presenting how and why you did so and be accomodating to however it's received. Showing initiative can be a good thing, but being perceived as a Stalker is surely not what you wish, I'm sure. The one thing I would be listening for, is what do you expect to happen next, now that you've found me? Be clear and get to that early in the communication, it will likely put the other person at ease much more quickly.
Good luck to you!
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Mine grew to be 46DD and I like them, though they aren't ask perky as they used to be and I'd change that if I could.
I remember when I was younger, passing through various sizes. I was a B right out of the gate and a C by the time I was in college. I've been a D and now a DD for many years now. Now in my late 50's I don't expect them to continue growing.
I love having big boobs and I love being braless, even if they aren't ask perky anymore. I have been fortunate not to have any back problems.
If there were anything I would change, I suppose I would like it if my aerolae were larger and maybe a little darker. My nipples do a nice job of hardening up, but are not always as dark as I would like (easier to see through my blouse).
I've had many compliments of my breasts and I enjoy hearing them, especially from someone other than a lover. When a man compliments my chest, it makes me smile inside and out. I am proud of my big beautiful breasts and appreciate it when a man notices and says something nice, even if it's a simple as I like your blouse, when my nipples are easily on display.
That said, I would just like to say that I also liked having a nice solid B cup and a healthy C cup as well. To the ladies who feel comfortable going braless with A or B cups, you rock! To those who don't and those who think they are too big to go out in public braless, I remind you that some people like to see it and if it makes you happy or physically more comfortable, just do it. Life is short, live it fully! Don't underestimate your femine beauty and don't be shy about sharing it.
I remember when I was younger, passing through various sizes. I was a B right out of the gate and a C by the time I was in college. I've been a D and now a DD for many years now. Now in my late 50's I don't expect them to continue growing.
I love having big boobs and I love being braless, even if they aren't ask perky anymore. I have been fortunate not to have any back problems.
If there were anything I would change, I suppose I would like it if my aerolae were larger and maybe a little darker. My nipples do a nice job of hardening up, but are not always as dark as I would like (easier to see through my blouse).
I've had many compliments of my breasts and I enjoy hearing them, especially from someone other than a lover. When a man compliments my chest, it makes me smile inside and out. I am proud of my big beautiful breasts and appreciate it when a man notices and says something nice, even if it's a simple as I like your blouse, when my nipples are easily on display.
That said, I would just like to say that I also liked having a nice solid B cup and a healthy C cup as well. To the ladies who feel comfortable going braless with A or B cups, you rock! To those who don't and those who think they are too big to go out in public braless, I remind you that some people like to see it and if it makes you happy or physically more comfortable, just do it. Life is short, live it fully! Don't underestimate your femine beauty and don't be shy about sharing it.
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Funny story...
I went on a Girls Cruise, there were 5 of us, 3 in our balcony cabin and 2 in the inside cabin across the hall. We were expecting the ladies across the hall to come over any time, to have a cocktail with us as we sailed away. We left the door ajar for them to enter. On a wild whim, my sister laughingly suggested that we should be naked on the balcony when they arrived.
To my surprise, our other roommate jumped quickly on the bandwagon and before we knew it, we were sipping champagne naked out on the balcony as it passed through the harbor. We'd pulled the curtain to the balcony, so that when the ladies arrived, it would be a surprise as they passed through the darkened cabin and opened the curtain to access the balcony where they could hear us laughing.
Inside Cabin Lady #1 arrived first to discover the Bare Balcony Babes leaning casually against the railing facing her, toasting her,. #1 shrieked loudly with surprise and then broke out into howling laughter, causing Inside Cabin Lady #2 to rush into the cabin asking What the Hell??? The curtain was still obscuring the view and all #2 could see was #1 falling over laughing and pointing to the balcony door with tears streaming down her face. When #2 pulled back the curtain and beheld the 3 Nude Sirens splashing champagne all over ourselves in our own fits of hysteria, #2 yelped and turned bright red, breaking out in her own fits of laughter.
The 3 naked ladies then chorused, Let the Fun Begin! Yeah, we made a Vacation Memory on that trip, that's for sure!
I went on a Girls Cruise, there were 5 of us, 3 in our balcony cabin and 2 in the inside cabin across the hall. We were expecting the ladies across the hall to come over any time, to have a cocktail with us as we sailed away. We left the door ajar for them to enter. On a wild whim, my sister laughingly suggested that we should be naked on the balcony when they arrived.
To my surprise, our other roommate jumped quickly on the bandwagon and before we knew it, we were sipping champagne naked out on the balcony as it passed through the harbor. We'd pulled the curtain to the balcony, so that when the ladies arrived, it would be a surprise as they passed through the darkened cabin and opened the curtain to access the balcony where they could hear us laughing.
Inside Cabin Lady #1 arrived first to discover the Bare Balcony Babes leaning casually against the railing facing her, toasting her,. #1 shrieked loudly with surprise and then broke out into howling laughter, causing Inside Cabin Lady #2 to rush into the cabin asking What the Hell??? The curtain was still obscuring the view and all #2 could see was #1 falling over laughing and pointing to the balcony door with tears streaming down her face. When #2 pulled back the curtain and beheld the 3 Nude Sirens splashing champagne all over ourselves in our own fits of hysteria, #2 yelped and turned bright red, breaking out in her own fits of laughter.
The 3 naked ladies then chorused, Let the Fun Begin! Yeah, we made a Vacation Memory on that trip, that's for sure!
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Quote by JohnTSL
My wife often wears sweaters without a bra. She says the feel of a soft tight sweater clinging to her tits is pleasurable and she finds it arousing when her nipples protrude. She also likes the long stares she gets.
I totally agree! I love the feel and the look, exactly as described above. And, as with another poster, getting hugs or looks when I am dressed thusly, is a real pleasure. The softness and warmth of the sweater and the appearance of the curve of my large breasts swaying as I move, it is a wonderful sensation. I enjoy it especially in the Fall when the weather is changing and it's easy to slip on a lightweight clingy sweater and go for a nice walk outside or run some errands. The chill of the autumn air perks up my nips nicely and it makes for a fun day out in public!
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I lost my cherry to America. To A Horse with No Name, to be specific.
We were in his single bed in the room he shared with his little brother in his family home. We were teenagers and his family was away (including his brother). We'd been Heavy Petting for many (glorious) weeks prior and in that moment, the anticipation was literally Palpable. We were naked and he was on top of me. I begged him to "put it inside". When he asked if I was sure (which I appreciated), I said "YES, I want to Feel You Inside of Me." I was absolutely Desperate for him. I still recall that amazing discovery of Undeniable Desire. He said, *you are shaking," to which I replied, "I'm excited!" I still remember how wet I was and how lovely it felt to have him pressing himself into me for the very first time. Afterward, he wouldn't give me back my panties and I had to dance around with my bare bootie and freshly fucked pussy on display until it was near the time his parents and little brother were to return. Still makes me smile.
It only happens once, but what fun, What Wonderful Fun, I say!
We were in his single bed in the room he shared with his little brother in his family home. We were teenagers and his family was away (including his brother). We'd been Heavy Petting for many (glorious) weeks prior and in that moment, the anticipation was literally Palpable. We were naked and he was on top of me. I begged him to "put it inside". When he asked if I was sure (which I appreciated), I said "YES, I want to Feel You Inside of Me." I was absolutely Desperate for him. I still recall that amazing discovery of Undeniable Desire. He said, *you are shaking," to which I replied, "I'm excited!" I still remember how wet I was and how lovely it felt to have him pressing himself into me for the very first time. Afterward, he wouldn't give me back my panties and I had to dance around with my bare bootie and freshly fucked pussy on display until it was near the time his parents and little brother were to return. Still makes me smile.
It only happens once, but what fun, What Wonderful Fun, I say!
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30-ish. I was in my 40's and he was in his 70's. He was a lot of fun, very affectionate in a sexy way. Made me feel really desirable while emanating a very sensual vibe himself. He was enthusiastic and playful. We both smiled a lot. It was a very positive, memorablel one night stand. He flattered me when he asked to take a photo of me naked to remember me by. I cheerfully obliged and encouraged him to share it with friends. I like the idea of his bragging to buddies.
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If it's not a spouse, I would not expect the relationship to be sustainable. In the case of a wedded partner, I would ask to seek joint counselling to better understand the circumstances. If it's purely a matter of preference, then I would be asking if my spouse is willing to submit to my having a sex life independent of our marriage, since that was one of the covenents of that contract that he is no longer willing to support. If the answer to that is No, I would have to seek separation from the spouse, since that condition simply would not work for me.
I realize that the frequency sex is something that not all spouses agree upon, but what is described herein is extremely limiting and seemingly serves only one side. It is my understanding that sometimes these are just windows of time that some marriages pass through. But, I don't understand why, if it seems "henceforth" that one partner would just forego sex entirely. In that instance, if it's important to BOTH parties to stay together and one of the partners refuses to participate in a reasonable sexual relationship AND continues to expect/require exlusivitity, well, that just doesn't make any sense to me.
So, there you have it, one more opinion. Best of luck to you. Don't discount your own happiness, listen to what your spouse is saying and grasp the short and longterm implications of it. Decide what you feel is best for your longterm happiness and pursue whatever means necessary to achieve it.
I realize that the frequency sex is something that not all spouses agree upon, but what is described herein is extremely limiting and seemingly serves only one side. It is my understanding that sometimes these are just windows of time that some marriages pass through. But, I don't understand why, if it seems "henceforth" that one partner would just forego sex entirely. In that instance, if it's important to BOTH parties to stay together and one of the partners refuses to participate in a reasonable sexual relationship AND continues to expect/require exlusivitity, well, that just doesn't make any sense to me.
So, there you have it, one more opinion. Best of luck to you. Don't discount your own happiness, listen to what your spouse is saying and grasp the short and longterm implications of it. Decide what you feel is best for your longterm happiness and pursue whatever means necessary to achieve it.
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A female friend of mine shared that she climbed atop her bf and fucked him as they drove on an isolated highway late at night where Deer running into the road was the realistic risk. She told me it was difficult, but the very idea turned me on in a Big Way. Never did it myself and now, it doesn't seem realistic, but it's always sounds like an interesting adventure. I was grateful that she shared her story and seed my imagination, if not my experience.
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Road Head, Yes. Topless Driving, Yes. Naked Driving, Yes. It's harmless fun if done cautiously, though there's not telling how others will respond.
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I like being asked or told to undress. With him, I enjoy watching him undress knowing that he is readying himself to fuck me. Sometimes it's fun to unwrap him like a present, touching him all over as I slide him out of his clothes. I also like it when I start slipping out of my clothes and he gets a little greedy and helps me along. So I guess my answer is really, I like it all.
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Every chance I get. I love doing it, look for opportunities. Don't think I would do it with relatives though. Strangers are the most fun for me.
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Can't explain why, but when he moves his open palms or the back of his hands across the tips of my nipples, it just drives me wild.
Love, love, LOVE to have my breasts touched! To have them held from behind feels great, love being in public with his hands inside my shirt cupping my bare breasts, that feels soooooo good!
Suckling my breast slowly with a lot of tongueplay, that's delicious.
Rubbing them lightly then gently tweaking or twisting my nipple then looking at it, really turns me on, in private or in public, so my nipples harden and are on display through my shirt.
A quick playful grab in public is fun, especially if someone sees.
Feeling a 5 o'clock shadow grazing my bare nipples is uber-erotic!
Oil them up and play with them, jiggle them in your hands, slide your fingers all over those big bare shining globes, draw your fingertips up and pull gently on my nipples.
Lick 'em!
Rub your dick on my nipples, then let me titty fuck you.
Expose them to a friend, that's fun, too!
Love, love, LOVE to have my breasts touched! To have them held from behind feels great, love being in public with his hands inside my shirt cupping my bare breasts, that feels soooooo good!
Suckling my breast slowly with a lot of tongueplay, that's delicious.
Rubbing them lightly then gently tweaking or twisting my nipple then looking at it, really turns me on, in private or in public, so my nipples harden and are on display through my shirt.
A quick playful grab in public is fun, especially if someone sees.
Feeling a 5 o'clock shadow grazing my bare nipples is uber-erotic!
Oil them up and play with them, jiggle them in your hands, slide your fingers all over those big bare shining globes, draw your fingertips up and pull gently on my nipples.
Lick 'em!
Rub your dick on my nipples, then let me titty fuck you.
Expose them to a friend, that's fun, too!
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I am a 56 yo never married female. I have met many women in your wife's situation and it continuously amazes me, yes Amazes me, that these women seem Clueless of the impact that this behavior/attitude has on the marriage.
Having been in a secure relationship for so long, many of these women feel justified in calling upon the need for accommodating MY FEELINGS, MY NEEDS, after "so long." Which truthfully, though often justified, comes at "a bad time" for their other half. Meaning, as women enter Menopause, men enter the Mid-Life Crisis phase of their own life. Coincidence? I don't think so.
As she becomes more frigid, his sexual needs become more demanding. Truth be told, he is undergoing as much of a mental sexual change as she is a physical one. And as a function of their own aging process, each is feeling the need to accommodate any sexual demands that they've not felt were adequately met to date. For her, it may be Leave Me the Hell Alone and for him it may be Give Me More, More and More and by the way, Be Someone Else because my familiarity with you has become, frankly and disappointingly, Stale in bed.
It seems to me that most (not all) people enter a marriage understanding that the personal needs of their partner is paramount (because they love them so much) but it's also, in the long term, a Two Way Street. Meaning, that from time to time, over the many years of the relationship, one person's needs will outweigh the other's. And because it's a long term commitment, that prioritization of one person's needs over another's can go on for some time, obviously making the other, at some point, resentful and in many cases, more than interested in taking action to rectify the Needs Balance.
I believe that the peculiar yet undeniable timing of Menopause:Mid-Life Crisis is why a lot of marriages suffer at least the risk, if not the realization of divorce despite many happy years together. In my mind, it's a cruel and unfair reality that as she loses interest in sex, he begins to feel the panic of not having Explored More at a time when his body is aging and his appeal to women he finds desirable, may seem to be diminishing. Both individuals likely feel that this is the time to take action. For her, it's asking to be Left Alone, for him, it's expecting that his needs be met by either her or understood that it will be with someone else.
You asked for advice. As to your specific circumstances, as described above, you both lead stressful lives right now and you seem to love your wife and want to continue your marriage with her sans the Sexual Isolation you've been experiencing. Consider this: one day, in the not too distant future, you will not have the same pressures on your lives that you have now. Is she the one you want beside you then? Or do you see your life (realistically) different? If she is who you want, then work with her on this. It sounds like you have done some of that, by attending counseling, for which I commend you. I am sure that was difficult, but in my opinion, marriage contracts deserve it.
I stated at the outset of this (very long) message, that it's been my observation that women are clueless to what withholding sex for so long means to a marriage. I also stated that it unfortunately comes at a time in the individual's lives when he and she experience very divergent sexual needs. You must talk and come to an agreement about how you will negotiate this period of your lives together. If you cannot negotiate a common resolution and you need to find your own solution, be prepared for the emotional and logistical consequences that may follow, including the feelings, reactions and behaviors of your friends and family.
In the end, it's your life and you need to make your own decisions. Consider what is most important to you, not just in the short term, but in consideration of your life in the 20-40 more years of your life that you have left to live it. You will leave this earth alone, you need to be satisfied with the experience it held for you as an individual as well as who you are to the people you love and those who love you. The decisions you make are purely your own, best of luck to you.
I truly hope these words were of some use to you.
Having been in a secure relationship for so long, many of these women feel justified in calling upon the need for accommodating MY FEELINGS, MY NEEDS, after "so long." Which truthfully, though often justified, comes at "a bad time" for their other half. Meaning, as women enter Menopause, men enter the Mid-Life Crisis phase of their own life. Coincidence? I don't think so.
As she becomes more frigid, his sexual needs become more demanding. Truth be told, he is undergoing as much of a mental sexual change as she is a physical one. And as a function of their own aging process, each is feeling the need to accommodate any sexual demands that they've not felt were adequately met to date. For her, it may be Leave Me the Hell Alone and for him it may be Give Me More, More and More and by the way, Be Someone Else because my familiarity with you has become, frankly and disappointingly, Stale in bed.
It seems to me that most (not all) people enter a marriage understanding that the personal needs of their partner is paramount (because they love them so much) but it's also, in the long term, a Two Way Street. Meaning, that from time to time, over the many years of the relationship, one person's needs will outweigh the other's. And because it's a long term commitment, that prioritization of one person's needs over another's can go on for some time, obviously making the other, at some point, resentful and in many cases, more than interested in taking action to rectify the Needs Balance.
I believe that the peculiar yet undeniable timing of Menopause:Mid-Life Crisis is why a lot of marriages suffer at least the risk, if not the realization of divorce despite many happy years together. In my mind, it's a cruel and unfair reality that as she loses interest in sex, he begins to feel the panic of not having Explored More at a time when his body is aging and his appeal to women he finds desirable, may seem to be diminishing. Both individuals likely feel that this is the time to take action. For her, it's asking to be Left Alone, for him, it's expecting that his needs be met by either her or understood that it will be with someone else.
You asked for advice. As to your specific circumstances, as described above, you both lead stressful lives right now and you seem to love your wife and want to continue your marriage with her sans the Sexual Isolation you've been experiencing. Consider this: one day, in the not too distant future, you will not have the same pressures on your lives that you have now. Is she the one you want beside you then? Or do you see your life (realistically) different? If she is who you want, then work with her on this. It sounds like you have done some of that, by attending counseling, for which I commend you. I am sure that was difficult, but in my opinion, marriage contracts deserve it.
I stated at the outset of this (very long) message, that it's been my observation that women are clueless to what withholding sex for so long means to a marriage. I also stated that it unfortunately comes at a time in the individual's lives when he and she experience very divergent sexual needs. You must talk and come to an agreement about how you will negotiate this period of your lives together. If you cannot negotiate a common resolution and you need to find your own solution, be prepared for the emotional and logistical consequences that may follow, including the feelings, reactions and behaviors of your friends and family.
In the end, it's your life and you need to make your own decisions. Consider what is most important to you, not just in the short term, but in consideration of your life in the 20-40 more years of your life that you have left to live it. You will leave this earth alone, you need to be satisfied with the experience it held for you as an individual as well as who you are to the people you love and those who love you. The decisions you make are purely your own, best of luck to you.
I truly hope these words were of some use to you.
Advanced Wordsmith
I get wet just anticipating giving head! I get so slippery and so juicy when he is plunging his cock inside my mouth and I am rubbing it all over my face. When he cums, it makes me so happy. I swallow it all and then I smile with pleasure. I love how hot it makes me feel. When he feels how wet my pussy is, he smiles too.
Advanced Wordsmith
I love being braless. At home, it's comfy. In public, for me, it's sexy fun. Admiring eyes always make me smile and make my nipples hard, which makes it all the more fun for me (and I presume, the Admirer). I love how my big titties jiggle when I walk and how the curve of my generous breast fills out a tight t-shirt or sheer blouse. I always smile when I see a gentleman catching a glimpse, to encourage him, as well as to let him know that I am pleased that he approves. I do not enjoy disproving looks from ladies, who seem to be offended, but I am quick to remind myself that it's my decision how I choose to present myself to others, not anyone else's. So to those of you who would like to, but have not yet, I offer this: Life is Too Short, be comfortable and have fun!
Advanced Wordsmith
1) do you ever go out without your bra? Yes, as often as possible. At home, nearly 100% of the time. At work, very rarely. In public, often, very often.
2) do you wear your bra to bed? Never.
3) have you ever flashed your breasts? Yes,, I find it amusing.
2) do you wear your bra to bed? Never.
3) have you ever flashed your breasts? Yes,, I find it amusing.
Advanced Wordsmith
I would engage them on the site but not reveal that we know one another. After a suitable time, I might make reference to our common interest off the site, if the opportunity were to present itself organically. Otherwise, I would stay silent on the matter. I like that once an internet relationship is developed, it would be safe and maybe exciting to allow it to expand beyond that, at least the knowledge of it, anyway.
Advanced Wordsmith
To be blindfolded and fucked by someone I know, but I won't ever know whom. He will always know that he had me, but I will always look at every man I know and wonder if it's him or someone else.