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CliffordAClavin
Over 90 days ago
Bi-curious Male, 52
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It was a fantasy for a lot of years before it became a reality. While I had some initial early exposure (too young to post when), I didn't follow through with anything but fantasy and strap-on play with my girlfriends and wives until I was 27-28 years old. That first time was friggin' surreal. I plan on publishing a story on it someday soon. Suffice to say, while it's not a regular part of my life, I can't imagine going a year without it.
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My current wife doesn't like it at all. She doesn't like the thought of me masturbating, no less actually doing it in front of her. My last wife couldn't watch me without joining in and taking over. If only she wasn't psycho.UQrUACGSPlgvwtXW
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A nice landing strip, but Brazilian from tail to hood. and moderate armpit hair turns me on something fierce.
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Lately it's been her flat on the bed, me taking her from behind mainly because it starts as a back massage. Frequently we'll do her favorite, which is me sitting upright on the couch. For some reason it hits her at a better angle than me lying flat and her riding cowgirl, plus I think she likes the breast play.
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I don't know where the fetish came from for me, but one winter my wife was getting lazy with shaving her armpits and they were getting pretty furry and I started playing with them. Wow, I was hard in an instant. She was of course completely self-conscious, but after five years this has become our little winter naughtiness. She lets her armpit hair grow out over the winter when nobody else can see it while keeping a well maintained bush down below (very short). I love the look, but while there's plenty of porn celebrating the full-on hippy look (with full 1970s bush to match), I have yet to find any with shaved or managed bush and nice armpit hair.
Anyone else find pit hair kinda sexy on a woman?
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Anyone else find pit hair kinda sexy on a woman?
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Golden showers and humiliation stuff. Glad I tried it, just not for me on either side.
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Until recently, I'd never been anything but gentle with my wife. In a previous relationship, 20+ years ago, I was a sub, but when I hooked up with her a decade after the relationship ended, I was the dom for the first time in my life, so I've been on both sides. My wife and I are relatively vanilla compared to my history with the exception of her pegging me from time to time in non-dominant play.
So a couple years ago I was talking about sex with my cousin, who's my sexual confidant (but nothing naughty between us). She suggested that a little roughness might be just what is in order and she said "sometimes a woman likes a little hair pulling and dirty talk." 50 Shades came out and my cousin brought the subject up again, but I still didn't act until about three months ago. My wife and I were arguing about something really stupid, like dishes in the sink and started play fighting. She was play slapping me and I grabbed both of her hands, pinned them to her sides and bear-hug carried her to the bed. I threw her on the bed and she started kicking at me, so I collapsed on top of her to take away her leverage and pinned her hands over her head. She was fighting hard, but there was still an air of play to it. I decided to take a chance and pinned her hands with one hand while undoing her scrubs with the other and pulling them down. Initially she freaked, but I could see in her eyes she was intrigued. She still fought hard and when she saw me pull my dick out, she actually looked scared. I had to make eye contact for a minute to make sure she was still good, but I didn't fall into my usual trap of asking if she was OK. I squirted a little lube on my dick and penetrated her, no foreplay, just hard fucking. I came faster than I'd ever come with her and she was pretty damn excited about the whole thing. We talked about it a little the next day, but she said she didn't want to talk it to death, but nothing I did was over the line. Essentially, she gave her approval while preserving her right to not approve of my tactics.
Our sex life hasn't been the same since. Before that we had tapered off to once or twice a month. Now, magically, we're doing it three times a week, a tempo we never had never had even in the beginning. I haven't been rough with her since, but something has changed. Some dynamic is different and we're both very happy to be FN like rabbits seven years in.
So a couple years ago I was talking about sex with my cousin, who's my sexual confidant (but nothing naughty between us). She suggested that a little roughness might be just what is in order and she said "sometimes a woman likes a little hair pulling and dirty talk." 50 Shades came out and my cousin brought the subject up again, but I still didn't act until about three months ago. My wife and I were arguing about something really stupid, like dishes in the sink and started play fighting. She was play slapping me and I grabbed both of her hands, pinned them to her sides and bear-hug carried her to the bed. I threw her on the bed and she started kicking at me, so I collapsed on top of her to take away her leverage and pinned her hands over her head. She was fighting hard, but there was still an air of play to it. I decided to take a chance and pinned her hands with one hand while undoing her scrubs with the other and pulling them down. Initially she freaked, but I could see in her eyes she was intrigued. She still fought hard and when she saw me pull my dick out, she actually looked scared. I had to make eye contact for a minute to make sure she was still good, but I didn't fall into my usual trap of asking if she was OK. I squirted a little lube on my dick and penetrated her, no foreplay, just hard fucking. I came faster than I'd ever come with her and she was pretty damn excited about the whole thing. We talked about it a little the next day, but she said she didn't want to talk it to death, but nothing I did was over the line. Essentially, she gave her approval while preserving her right to not approve of my tactics.
Our sex life hasn't been the same since. Before that we had tapered off to once or twice a month. Now, magically, we're doing it three times a week, a tempo we never had never had even in the beginning. I haven't been rough with her since, but something has changed. Some dynamic is different and we're both very happy to be FN like rabbits seven years in.
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MMF, but only if everybody is comfortable with everything. I'd like to try it all, DP, 69ing under her and giving oral while she takes it doggie, giving it to her while taking it... So many options.
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I just bought my wife three pairs of the Victoria Secret Cheeky low rise panties with lace trim. Had them modeled on Valentines and wow, they looked even better crumpled on the floor.
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Of the photos, 5 and 6 worked for me. I generally prefer straight hair, but I like the fact that my wife mixes it up. For work, it's always up so I get to see the delicate curve of her neck. For around the house it's always down, sometimes pulled back in a ponytail. When we're biking, hiking or on wildland fires together it's braided, which is probably my favorite, especially if we're going at it doggie style (she hates having her hair pulled unless it's in a braid, then she loves it).
I think different women look good with different hair length. There was a bartender near my home for a while that was bald. OMFG, she was unbelievably hot. She wasn't sick, she just liked it and so did I. Some women have beautiful ears or necklines that shouldn't be concealed, while others just look good with their face framed by thick locks. I think all guys minds go straight to the gutter when they see a kinky haired girl. Not sure what it is about that look that makes me think naughty, but it works every time. We have an attorney at work with kinky hair and looking at her objectively, she's pretty average, but with that hair, FNL, I just want to bang her bent over her desk every time I see her.
I think different women look good with different hair length. There was a bartender near my home for a while that was bald. OMFG, she was unbelievably hot. She wasn't sick, she just liked it and so did I. Some women have beautiful ears or necklines that shouldn't be concealed, while others just look good with their face framed by thick locks. I think all guys minds go straight to the gutter when they see a kinky haired girl. Not sure what it is about that look that makes me think naughty, but it works every time. We have an attorney at work with kinky hair and looking at her objectively, she's pretty average, but with that hair, FNL, I just want to bang her bent over her desk every time I see her.
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I think if you're naked in the US anywhere besides inside of your home, you're pretty much deemed a criminal by the public and the police. I'm sure there are nudists in all communities, however, I don't think there are any legal nudist places available. Maybe in Florida or California? It's a shame that America of all places tries to hard to censor and shame our bodies and mating practices (sex). When presented in an appropriate way, it's nothing to regulate or be afraid of, moral beliefs aside.
While there are certainly exceptions, I think you might be surprised just how laid back laws about nudity are. Here in Colorado the law reads as follows:
18-7-302. Indecent exposure
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A person commits indecent exposure:
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If he or she knowingly exposes his or her genitals to the view of any person under circumstances in which such conduct is likely to cause affront or alarm to the other person with the intent to arouse or to satisfy the sexual desire of any person;
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If he or she knowingly performs an act of masturbation in a manner which exposes the act to the view of any person under circumstances in which such conduct is likely to cause affront or alarm to the other person.
The crux of that is "with the intent to arouse or satisfy the sexual desire..." There have been court cases with nude sunbathers that have been successfully defended since their intent was not to arouse. While there are certainly municipalities with tighter restrictions, in many places being nude on National Forest while hiking is perfectly legal and the practice isn't that uncommon in remote areas. The Rainbow Family routinely moves onto a piece of National Forest with hundreds of naked folks and the only tangles with law enforcement they tend to have it overstaying the forest stay duration limit or violating their special use permit.
Personally, my first experiences with public nudity were at Strawberry Park Hot Springs near Steamboat Springs, Colorado. After dark clothing is optional and I decided to give it a try. I loved it! The feeling of swimming sans restriction is amazing and liberating. I wish I could do it more often. I've never managed to talk my wife into it despite her rockin' body, but I still hold out hope that someday she'll get over her hang ups and join me.
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It obviously varies by couple and while not a common view, I really don't care if my wife is sleeping with another man (or woman), so long as my needs in the relationship are being met, she doesn't embarrass me, and she's safe about it. I don't own her. I think the traditional view of monogamy is a joke and if it wasn't, why would the statistics show that 42% of partners will cheat over the course of their marriage (and the other 58% are liars). What I "demand" from a partner is emotional intimacy, stability, the absence of drama, and someone to share a home and all the responsibilities that come with it. Much like that song you absolutely fell in love with six months ago, listened to ten times a day the first week, but by the end of the month you caught yourself changing the station to get away from it, sex with a single partner and no one else is Hollywood, not reality. That doesn't mean you can't have a stable relationship for 20, 30 or 50 years, it just means that straying happens and there's a hell of a lot more to a marriage than sex. Ha, for most couples I know that have been married for 20 years, sex has nothing to do with marriage, so get over it.
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btw, a little off topic, but not too much - this law was just passed in Kansas:
The law empowers any individual or business to refuse to interact with, do business with, or in any way come into contact with anyone who may have some connection to a gay civil union, or civil marriage or any “similar arrangement” (room-mates?). It gives the full backing of the law to any restaurant or bar-owner who puts up a sign that says “No Gays Served”. It empowers employees of the state government to refuse to interact with gay citizens as a group. Its scope is vast: it allows anyone to refuse to provide “services, accommodations, advantages, facilities, goods, or privileges; counseling, adoption, foster care and other social services; or provide employment or employment benefits” to anyone suspected of being complicit in celebrating or enabling the commitment of any kind of a gay couple.
Actually, you jumped the gun on this one. It passed the house, but was killed in the senate on Friday.
The Kansas Senate decided on Friday that they would kill the legislation that was passed earlier this week by the state’s House of Representatives. The bill, known as House Bill 2453, would have opened the door to widespread segregation and discrimination of those in the LGBT community.
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I think so much has to do with your earlier experiences and what's in your head. I had very early exposure and learned to enjoy it well before I first had sex with a woman. Now I can cum anally with the right partner. Others I know who didn't get exposed to it until they were in their 30s or 40s have a lot harder time getting started even with relatively small stuff. My wife, for instance, doesn't like anything "back there" most of the time, but when she's on the brink, sometimes just resting a finger on her little rosebud or pushing a lubed finger into the first knuckle will be all it takes to send her over the edge. I can have her completely relaxed, but just touching her sphincter will shut things down for the evening, unless, like I said, she's already pounding on the door of an orgasm.
I think most people need to start with a nice small butt plug and just leave it up there during other fun stuff initially. Start to associate it with other things you like, like oral sex or vaginal sex. Gradually increase the size of the toy and the duration you leave it in for. As you get to bigger toys, you may have to warm up with a smaller one and after five minutes, swap out for a larger one. When I know I'm going to be having anal sex, I generally try to use a medium sized butt plug for about 15 minutes to a half hour before and pull it out just before we get started. What most folks don't realize is that there's two sphincters, the outer rosebud and an inner sphincter. When anal sex hurts after what seems like an adequate warm up, it usually is the inner sphincter that isn't relaxed enough. Butt plugs with a large taper (small neck, large mid-point) do a better job or relaxing this inner sphincter while staying in place well enough to do other things. The less taper, the more likely to fall out during play.
And while I always keep water based lubes around for toys, for actual penile penetration, silicone based lubes work much better for ass play. They don't get reabsorbed by the body, so you don't have to keep reapplying them.
I think most people need to start with a nice small butt plug and just leave it up there during other fun stuff initially. Start to associate it with other things you like, like oral sex or vaginal sex. Gradually increase the size of the toy and the duration you leave it in for. As you get to bigger toys, you may have to warm up with a smaller one and after five minutes, swap out for a larger one. When I know I'm going to be having anal sex, I generally try to use a medium sized butt plug for about 15 minutes to a half hour before and pull it out just before we get started. What most folks don't realize is that there's two sphincters, the outer rosebud and an inner sphincter. When anal sex hurts after what seems like an adequate warm up, it usually is the inner sphincter that isn't relaxed enough. Butt plugs with a large taper (small neck, large mid-point) do a better job or relaxing this inner sphincter while staying in place well enough to do other things. The less taper, the more likely to fall out during play.
And while I always keep water based lubes around for toys, for actual penile penetration, silicone based lubes work much better for ass play. They don't get reabsorbed by the body, so you don't have to keep reapplying them.
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I've done mmf once and ffm twice. All three times there were so many things I wanted to try, but for various reasons they didn't happen. I'd definitely love to have either again. You just gotta love options!
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I've done mmf once and ffm twice. All three times there were so many things I wanted to try, but for various reasons they didn't happen. I'd definitely love to have either again. You just gotta love options!
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I guess I can only speak from my experience and that is as a guy who was "straight" until I was about 27 or 28. Since then I've had a total of three partners, two of which I still hook up with (one for almost ten years, the other for almost 20). I'm happily married and one of my partners was the best man at my wedding.
So I guess for me, I'm not out there looking for people to hook up with. I'm open to the opportunity of having a male friend who becomes a FWB. In a perfect world, I'd hook up every month or two with one of my male partners, but instead it tends to be a trip to Vegas every couple of years, a camping trip every summer, a trip to the Lake on his boat or a visit while one of our wives is out of town. Maybe 2-3 times a year.
What turns me on is the sex, duh! What I don't like is anything that could shatter the illusion to the world that I'm a straight married guy with a professional career and good standing in my community. I also don't like kissing dudes. At all. Not even a little bit. Do I think some of that could be internalized homophobia? Yep, sure could be, but it's a pretty strong sense of distaste for the act, whereas I love reaching down a pair of briefs and grabbing a hard cock, pulling it out and dropping to my knees to suck it... which definitely seems more gay than kissing.SKcLDHA1JbeJLYg3
As for panties vs. boxers, I've never had a partner dress the roll, but it would definitely turn me on. I've fantasized about dressing up and playing the chick role, too, but it's never happened. I like taking a strap-on, but while I've done the whole role playing thing before, now I just want my wife to fuck me and she feels no compunction to degrade me in the process. It's just what we do when she's on her rag week and I'm horny.
I'd also consider myself a Kinsey 1.5-2. I've only met one 3 in my life and after a 20 year marriage, he's now dating a gay man (Kinsey 6, but very straight appearing). That will never be me. I love women and I've always had a closer connection to them. While I have great male friends, the intimacy just isn't there like it is with a woman. Thus, the one other factor comes in. A bi guy is always going to have his head turn when a pretty girl walks by and that alone is pretty cool. I like being able to talk to my partners about what I enjoy with my wife, what they enjoy with their wives, and not have that be a touchy issue.
So I guess for me, I'm not out there looking for people to hook up with. I'm open to the opportunity of having a male friend who becomes a FWB. In a perfect world, I'd hook up every month or two with one of my male partners, but instead it tends to be a trip to Vegas every couple of years, a camping trip every summer, a trip to the Lake on his boat or a visit while one of our wives is out of town. Maybe 2-3 times a year.
What turns me on is the sex, duh! What I don't like is anything that could shatter the illusion to the world that I'm a straight married guy with a professional career and good standing in my community. I also don't like kissing dudes. At all. Not even a little bit. Do I think some of that could be internalized homophobia? Yep, sure could be, but it's a pretty strong sense of distaste for the act, whereas I love reaching down a pair of briefs and grabbing a hard cock, pulling it out and dropping to my knees to suck it... which definitely seems more gay than kissing.SKcLDHA1JbeJLYg3
As for panties vs. boxers, I've never had a partner dress the roll, but it would definitely turn me on. I've fantasized about dressing up and playing the chick role, too, but it's never happened. I like taking a strap-on, but while I've done the whole role playing thing before, now I just want my wife to fuck me and she feels no compunction to degrade me in the process. It's just what we do when she's on her rag week and I'm horny.
I'd also consider myself a Kinsey 1.5-2. I've only met one 3 in my life and after a 20 year marriage, he's now dating a gay man (Kinsey 6, but very straight appearing). That will never be me. I love women and I've always had a closer connection to them. While I have great male friends, the intimacy just isn't there like it is with a woman. Thus, the one other factor comes in. A bi guy is always going to have his head turn when a pretty girl walks by and that alone is pretty cool. I like being able to talk to my partners about what I enjoy with my wife, what they enjoy with their wives, and not have that be a touchy issue.
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I prefer bottom, but I'd like to top again some day. My first time was a switch, but since then that partner has lost interest in bottoming and I'd like to try it again. In the meantime, I can't complain. I love nothing more than a hard cock buried to the hilt in my ass.
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I hadn't done it in probably 15 years and recently, after a friend on another forum posted some pictures, I can't get the thought out of my mind. Right now it's just wearing panties under my clothes. I just ran a call with my panties on under my firefighter turnout gear and I have to say, that was HAWT!
I used to have a girlfriend who really enjoyed playing with me in lingerie, pegging me, taking naughty pictures together, but after we got married all that went out the window. She caught me coming home from a shift one time and stripping out of my police uniform with panties and a bra on under my body armor and she was livid. Considering we used to go out together and act like lesbians while I cross-dressed when we first started dating, I'd say her reaction was more than a little unexpected and a big disappointment.
I used to have a girlfriend who really enjoyed playing with me in lingerie, pegging me, taking naughty pictures together, but after we got married all that went out the window. She caught me coming home from a shift one time and stripping out of my police uniform with panties and a bra on under my body armor and she was livid. Considering we used to go out together and act like lesbians while I cross-dressed when we first started dating, I'd say her reaction was more than a little unexpected and a big disappointment.
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I don't really like receiving to completion, but it's definitely fun foreplay before moving on to other things. Out of the 20+ women I've received head from, I only really enjoyed it with one. She had a gift. She could make me cum in under three minutes every time. Neither of my male partners has been particularly talented in the oral department.
As for giving, it's definitely fun. I have only done it maybe 20 times, so I'm a total amateur and it shows, but I'm an eager beaver...errm, ummm, or umm, well, nevermind. ;)
As for giving, it's definitely fun. I have only done it maybe 20 times, so I'm a total amateur and it shows, but I'm an eager beaver...errm, ummm, or umm, well, nevermind. ;)
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Average length, above average girth seems about right to me.