I have a lot of new ideas (I add them to an ongoing list on my computer). For me, time is more of a factor, as well as the motivation to delve into a 10,000 word effort. When I get inspired to write, the story flows fast (usually in 1-3 days).
I like going out of my comfort zone because I want to diversify my writing portfolio and I enjoy a challenge. It can quickly become boring to regurgitate the same sex-scene over and over again. My last story, Fade to Black, was riskier for me because it involved a femdom element and a strap-on (which I don't have direct personal experience with). Typically I write more from the "slutty-female/male-dominant" perspective so it was an interesting challenge for me. I questioned how much I wanted to push the content because I could have gone a lot darker and more intense, but I wanted to make it more "femdom-lite" because I knew I would be asking readers that expect a certain kind of story from me to walk with me down a path they might not be immediately comfortable with.
For the most part I think I would have trouble writing about a concept that I haven't *at least* explored through fantasy and found to be a turn-on myself. But as you push your own limitations and start to explore fantasies and kinks that are more 'out there' than you're used to, you'd be surprised at what you might find exciting. It also helps to have someone that you can explore these concepts with too... I'll be honest in saying that the engine that starts most of my stories and brings them to life has relied heavily on this.
The general rule for me though, is that until I get to the point where the idea makes my panties wet, I won't attempt writing about it.
Honestly I would just say on this whole topic... when it comes to your bodily orifices, "homemade-anything" isn't the best idea.
If you fuck this up, you can end up with serious bloating, cramping or even ruptures (hello bacterial infection!).
Just get one from the drugstore. It's not that expensive. If you want to reuse the enema-device for a quick anal-refresher, just clean thoroughly and substitute with luke-warm water. Be gentle.
There's no need to turn to the garden hose or kitchen appliances.
Seriously, it's worth the $10. Just do it.
Cause it makes you feel like a dirty girl. And it goes well with dominant/rough sex.
I have to be in the right mood though. And no red-eye please.
I have with one guy. It was semi-enjoyable but I was kind of squirming away during the cervix-pounding portion of the events. I also had the "phantom-cock" sensations for about 24 hrs afterwards (where you're still sore enough that you can almost still feel it).
It's not about the duration of the sex, it's how it's being used. Certain positions can be uncomfortable and rough sex is definitely not cool if you're an XL-guy. Not to mention the desire to go for multiple rounds isn't very high.
I know some girls love it (pain or not) but in my opinion, to max the creative potential of kinky sex, medium is always best.
I have a friend that dumped a guy because his dick was too big to enjoy regularly. It was like an 'event' to have sex and she had to pysche herself up for it. I have a similar mindset when it comes to this, but the larger-dick experience I had was just a fling anyway.
I absolutely love mirrors and have a floor to ceiling at the end of my bed too. Watching is such a turn on.
Tongue, bites, sucks and kisses along my neck and collarbone.
My neck is my most sensitive non-obvious erogenous zone by far.
Honestly? After a dozen I got bored (and dehydrated).
3-4 is more the norm.
In a cupboard? Not without elite-level contortion work.
Yes (and done that) to the other questions.
If you have an explicitly confirmed commitment to monogamy and you know the expectations up front of what they would or would not want you doing, and then decide to play in secret (with hookups, sexting or whatever), then I guess... technically... that is cheating. But the level of cheating is all shades of grey... just like most people's expectations of relationships.
I keep and like to look at the personal sexy/dirty pics I get sent when I'm bored during the day or feel like a little mental fantasy.
The commercialized porn I save for the laptop so I don't have to squint at the screen.
For me, it depends on the stories and how personal they are or how controversial or hardcore the content is. When I'm uncertain as to how it will be received, I tend to press 'submit' with some healthy nerves and then go get a 'lil drunk while waiting. I quickly settle down once the first few comments come through or when a close friend reassures me that it's a good one.
For the stories I haven't gotten nervous about at all (Bitches in the Basement and Sex Rehab Diaries: Kylie's Confession come to mind), it's more because I'm confident that the content will be a universal hit among readers. With your standard sweaty gangbangs and anal threesomes, I know I haven't pushed the envelope too much so I just assume ahead of time that people will enjoy the storyline and the sex.
With some of my more experimental fair (Sex Rehab Diaries: Stacey's Confession and Fade to Black), I just keep my fingers crossed and hope for the best.
Interestingly enough, I think the one I was most nervous about was The Cabo Connection. I remember finishing a whole bottle of wine waiting for that one to be approved. LOL
It makes sense to have the intimidation factor involved anytime you share something that you've written. Erotica is very personal in that it tells you a lot about the author, their kinks, the way their mind works and the way they probably enjoy having sex. It's the ultimate form of literary exhibitionism.
The general rule is: A naked upper body is hot; A close-up of your dick is not.
Women want to assume that there is an actual guy behind a profile and not just a flesh-covered dildo.
Show a torso shot with a towel wrapped around the waist, a side profile pic or discreet/casual in sunglasses, jeans and a t-shirt. Women are more interested in seeing a generalized impression of what you look like rather than a medical close-up of your dick.
I wouldn't touch any shell or cami made of satin, ruffles, or anything shiny, overly lacey or provocative.
Buy a quality suit, and let the tank/shell look like the kind of daytime top you could easily wear without the jacket. It should not look like lingerie.
I don't know anyone under 40 who wears stockings or hose in the summer, but if you're wearing a skirt in the winter with boots, they look great.
And please... no pantyhose with open-toed shoes or sandals (personal pet peeve of mine).
If you got your regular period in december on schedule as you mentioned, then I think you're pretty safe. You cannot have your period and be pregnant at the same time. You can, however, in rare instances have some light bleeding/spotting during the first trimester but this is not typical of period-bleeding. Hopefully you'd be able to tell the difference. If you're still stressed then grab a pregnancy test to put your mind at ease.
I did have to get a pat-down/semi-search once when I made the mistake of wearing a g-string that was held together by a little metal rhinestone heart at the back and I beeped at the metal detector.
They gave me the option of going to the "back room" or stepping into the totally non-discreet search box (ie. a chair with see-through plastic sides about waist-high). I opted for the open chair because I was in front of people I worked with on this trip and there was no way I was going to let them see me being led off to 'the back room' like a suspected drug mule or something. lol
Some were smirking and most people were watching openly. The 'officer' was actually quite young/pretty and she ended up blushing a bit because I think she 'got' the attention lure of the moment. Most people will find it entertaining watching one blonde feeling up another blonde. She did go under my top, around my bra and I had to open my pants while she did quick sweeps front and back and to see the offending metal panty-garnish. It was a pretty thorough physical search (more so than I thought it would be) but she was very professional and no it didn't turn me on at all. I can't say the same for the spectators though.
