When I want to have a male as my main character, I write the entire story in third person but tell the story from the male character's perspective.
I have started a story that is male-first person but I haven't completed it yet (definitely more of a challenge to get just right).
For me, it's definitely a bit more awkward writing as a man. Even for my male-perspective third-person stories, I have to get into the right frame of mind to take into account how a guy would react to and interpret certain situations. Sometimes I will do a bit of research and ask a guy first, especially if it involves certain sex acts that I can't experience myself because of my gender.
I think everyone has an "inner guy" or "inner girl" that they can channel when writing for the most part... as long as you've had enough life experience with social situations. You can also base the character on someone you know in real life (something I've often done for my male characters).
I don't think there is anything wrong with writing as the opposite gender as long as you can pull it off, and make the character more than a two-dimensional stereotype of their gender.
If they're in my 'bed' and we're having sex, I assume they've already passed the test when it comes to a body type that I find attractive. In that respect, it does matter. If you're talking about little flaws that were not noticeable while they were clothed, then no, it's not that big of a deal. I think it also depends on how 'into them' you are. If you have a real connection, then you're way more likely to overlook physical imperfections, whereas if it's just casual dating or a random hook up, you might be more inclined to be critical or pass them over if the attraction level is mediocre.
On the topic, one of my friends back in university was always concerned about this because when she went out to pick up guys she would wear a padded push-up bra and some industrial-strength spanx body-shaper under her outfit that totally made her body look different than it did when her clothes came off. The illusion was like a firm-bodied, size 6, DD-cup when in reality she was more like a soft-bodied, size 10, B-cup. The guys didn't seem to mind that much but then again they were usually drunk when she went home with them anyway.
I would be accepting in the same way that I would be accepting if the partner I was with chose to break-up with me for whatever reason. I think what it boils down to is mutual respect. When someone wants out of a relationship, they need to be able to dissolve the relationship in a respectful way.
There is a huge difference between a conflicted or bisexual guy finally being brave enough to 'come out' and live the life he really wants and telling his wife/girlfriend versus a gay guy that is purposely using a girl as a 'beard' for family and society and totally disrespecting her along the way.
I work with a women those husband's conservative background seemed to pressure him to pretend to be straight. So he married this girl and then basically just treated her like a child-incubator and roommate while he carried on with his long-term boyfriend on the sly. She had no idea until she caught them... 10 years later! I think it's unfair for a guy to fuck up someone else's life knowing that they have no real interest in being with them other than to sign the marriage certificate and procreate. Some women might be accepting of the situation (eg. maybe they are lesbian and unable to come out or women who just want to marry their best friend) but I think it should be arranged up front.
I know many gay men that have been married and genuinely tried to make it work but realized later in life that they would prefer to be with a guy. Personally I wouldn't have a problem with it as long as I felt like he was being respectful about the break-up and the situation. When it comes down to it, cheating is cheating. If he realized he was gay and we went through a prolonged period where he was withholding sex while fucking around with guys on the side, I'd be just as pissed as if it was with another girl.
It's not ideal but it wouldn't bother me that much. How many people really think of their parents as anything other than "mom" and "dad" anyway.
I would have a much bigger problem with someone that shared the same name as my 'evil' long-term ex-bf. That name is ruined forever as far as I'm concerned.
I agreed to be a body-paint model at a charity event so I have no idea what I will be painted as yet.
I've been a carb-free gym-rat all month in preparation though.
You can buy it over the counter in Mexico so my ex-bf and I played with it experimentally about three times. Two times was after we'd already partied on X and the first time he took it and didn't tell me.
Yes, there is definitely a difference. The cock seems harder than normal, almost like it's made of marble. The fucking is more enthusiastic and vigorous (although this might also be because the guy knows he can fuck for days and not get tired or worry about coming too fast).
It's a lot of fun... but... in reality, there is only so much fucking you really want to experience in one session, right? Like hours later, you do get kind of sore (and bored). You (as the female) will want to rest, sleep or go do some other activity, and he will have a perma-hard-on for 8 hours. It's almost like too much of a good thing.
Of course this was with a guy that didn't need viagra in the first place. If a guy does need it, maybe the effects just even out to a more normal sexual experience. If your guy is young and experimental, I'd recommend splitting it in half for the first try so he knows what to expect at a lower dose.
I also tried a half viagra once, but there is some debate on whether this drug works on women. I felt super horny, but then I was super horny to begin with, so I can't say for sure if it made a huge difference for me. Plus I had already been rolling on X all night, so there might have been a different kind of effect.
I probably wouldn't mention anything (unless I was very drunk or we were already having kinky convo), but I'd be secretly excited and looking forward to our eventual playtime with the toybox.
Well... unless there was something super freaky in the box like a giant rubber fist or a buttplug the size of a bowling ball.
I don't think orgasms work the same as Pavlov's dogs.
Although, perhaps if every time I had an orgasm, I was rewarded with $1000 cash, I could be trained to cum on command.
I think for most people though, a person would have to turned on by the entire concept of orgasm denial and command orders for it to work... especially if you're talking about the hands-free, voice-command concept of orgasm. It might be a bit easier with the hitachi magic wand and a command, but I still think you have to be into that scene in general.
Missionary... on the floor of his basement while his wife was at work.
(yeah, yeah, I know...)
No, I've never cried. I don't ask for any favours, flirt or make a big production about it (I have too much pride). I just hand them the license/registration. For whatever reason though they always drop the fine to the bare minimum so I never lose points or have to pay very much. I actually thought that was just standard practice until some male friends told me it wasn't and that they always get nailed for max fines.
Ouch!
Sometimes I go into the sex store and see scary looking gigantic buttplug shaped things called "Anal Trainers" that make me cringe. Unless one has a career in the porn business specializing in gaping asshole videos, I don't think anyone want to be playing with anything like that.
Most anal vibrators are actually smaller than the average male penis... and tapered at the end as well.
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