Alpha Blonde
I have no problem buying drinks or dinner for a guy that I'm into as the relationship progresses. We aren't living in the dark ages here. LOL
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Dancing_Doll
Over 90 days ago
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Alpha Blonde
But if they aren't already on Facebook, are they really worth finding and getting to know again? 
Alpha Blonde
Quote by LittleBambiQuote by Dancing_Doll
Really? Even escorts, prostitutes and porn stars have rules or boundaries that they will not cross for money. I think the 'all or nothing' mentality is more on the rare side of things.
I see a big difference between making out with a hot girlfriend (something you might even do anyway) and accepting cash versus having sex with an unattractive man that you would never touch otherwise for money. They are on opposite ends of the spectrum in my opinion. One is for hands-off visual titillation and the other is to provide direct sexual gratification.
I didn't mean that so literally - I simply meant if I felt it okay to be paid for something such as a kiss....that I guess I wouldn't see so much of a difference between that and being paid for sex. I wouldn't have sex (or do anything else) with someone I wouldn't otherwise touch with a barge pole for money.
I'm merely asking to gain an understanding of how other people feel with regards to this....I live in a very 'white middle class area' and the idea alone of having sex for money would make your average tweed wearing person here pass out from disgust
....jokes aside, I don't know more than one or two people in my real life who have any real experience either directly or indirectly with this 'subject'....so just being curious!
LOL, you'd be surprised. I live in a very 'white and wealthy' area and it's practically brimming with sex for money (the high-end escort variety)... although you can find it on the street about 10 minutes away. It seems fairly common for men who frequent bars in the area to approach attractive well-dressed women who are not even advertising anything explicitly and try to 'finesse an arrangement' as though every woman has her price. It has happened to me many times even though I'm not even dressed provocatively in these bars, but just meeting girlfriends for martinis in a classy venue. It definitely creeps me out, although it does make for some hilarious stories of how guys try do the 'finessing'...
Then again, I know several girls that work that scene and although they will publicly deny what they are doing, it's fairly obvious to anyone "in the know". If I am having drinks with one of those girls (even if it's just an innocent girls night), it's very much assumed that I'm for sale as well and there are always those 'typical guys' approaching. Everyone remembers certain faces and gets to know the players on that scene.
Sex for money is everywhere... how it's exchanged and the cost may vary, but you'd be surprised at where you find it...
Alpha Blonde
Quote by LittleBambiQuote by naughtygirl91
I have been offered it, and considered it, butnever done it. I don't see anything wrong with people who choose to, like it was said before, you have to think about long and hard and know that it is something that you can personally handle. It is different for everybody. Although like others I have been paid to make out with a girlfriend and have never minded taking the cash!
Out of interest, can I ask why you felt comfortable to accept money for that but not for sex? Really not 'dissing' your opinion or personal decisions - just genuinely interested as I'm the sort of person that'll go all out or not at all (ie. if I accepted money for one thing I'd accept it for something 'more' ie. sex)
Really? Even escorts, prostitutes and porn stars have rules or boundaries that they will not cross for money. I think the 'all or nothing' mentality is more on the rare side of things.
I see a big difference between making out with a hot girlfriend (something you might even do anyway) and accepting cash versus having sex with an unattractive man that you would never touch otherwise for money. They are on opposite ends of the spectrum in my opinion. One is for hands-off visual titillation and the other is to provide direct sexual gratification.
Alpha Blonde
I probably shower twice a day on most days... once in the morning and a quick one after the gym later.
Teeth brushing is mandatory... wow, I was surprised that the majority have chosen option one. Do people seriously not brush their teeth everyday?
Teeth brushing is mandatory... wow, I was surprised that the majority have chosen option one. Do people seriously not brush their teeth everyday?
Alpha Blonde
Suits are good for the office, weddings, funerals and formal events.
They do look good... but...
I'm not into a guy wearing a suit on a regular basis if it's not for one of the above mentioned reasons. I find it too pretentious, boring, and stiff.
I far prefer a guy in nice jeans and a stylish shirt or quality tee. I don't mind the jeans and sports jacket look if he wants to be a little dressier. I prefer trendy-casual for going out and just basic casual the rest of the time.
Suits... meh... they really don't excite me that much. I see younger guys overdressed in suits going out on thursday nights trying to look like high rollers when they don't even have an office job and to me, that's one of the douchiest things ever.
They do look good... but...
I'm not into a guy wearing a suit on a regular basis if it's not for one of the above mentioned reasons. I find it too pretentious, boring, and stiff.
I far prefer a guy in nice jeans and a stylish shirt or quality tee. I don't mind the jeans and sports jacket look if he wants to be a little dressier. I prefer trendy-casual for going out and just basic casual the rest of the time.
Suits... meh... they really don't excite me that much. I see younger guys overdressed in suits going out on thursday nights trying to look like high rollers when they don't even have an office job and to me, that's one of the douchiest things ever.
Alpha Blonde
Yes, I've done it to avoid progression to full sex.
Plus everyone knows that BJ's don't count! Just ask Bill Clinton...
Plus everyone knows that BJ's don't count! Just ask Bill Clinton...
Alpha Blonde
No, I haven't, however it has been offered to me on several occasions. I can't imagine I would ever do it unless I was in a very serious financial crunch with no other options available.
I was once offered $1,000 to make out with a female friend for two minutes though. Explained: a girlfriend and I were in a high end strip club and some high rollers thought it would be more fun to pay non-strippers to do something just for the novelty of it. Of course, we locked lips and took the cash. We were students and $500 each to kiss was irresistible.
I was once offered $1,000 to make out with a female friend for two minutes though. Explained: a girlfriend and I were in a high end strip club and some high rollers thought it would be more fun to pay non-strippers to do something just for the novelty of it. Of course, we locked lips and took the cash. We were students and $500 each to kiss was irresistible.
Alpha Blonde
Quote by Shibui
Dancing_Doll:
Sorry for taking the phrase literally. I thought a jackrabbit was: Climb on from behind, do your thing and climb off. (Doesn't seem like much fun to me.) Can you take the phrase somewhere else?
No, jackrabbit just means aggressive, fast-paced sex... it doesn't specify any particular position. It would be with either missionary or doggy or some other variation.
I enjoy high-tempo thrusting as a way to mix things up, but if it's only set on one speed and that's the only way the guy knows how to fuck or it just feels like the guy is just masturbating with a woman, then it's a problem.
Aggressive, intense thrusting can be great at the right moment but it's always better in smaller doses
Alpha Blonde
Interesting responses on this thread! I guess what a lot of the pro-golddigging responses have proven here is that looks are indeed more important than real love.
If you have the cash to buy it (of course...).
I actually suspected that a lot of people would value looks over love, but sometimes it's hard for people to admit that based on the need to be PC all the time. I'm impressed with the honesty in this thread so far...
If you have the cash to buy it (of course...).
I actually suspected that a lot of people would value looks over love, but sometimes it's hard for people to admit that based on the need to be PC all the time. I'm impressed with the honesty in this thread so far...
Alpha Blonde
I voted sledgehammer as my favourite but it's best to mix it up and vary things, with the exception of Jackrabbit (not usually a fan of that). Very few guys know how to do that one well.
Alpha Blonde
I love horror movies, but I find them mostly entertaining rather than overtly scary. To me, Jaws is a classic, and was genuinely scary, but not really a traditional horror film
I don't really find the slasher or gore-fest films very scary at all. Although among those, I think Rob Zombie does a decent job with his films.
Paranormal Activity was kind of cool as a recent unique addition to the genre.
And... although it may not be classified as a 'horror film'... Open Water had me on the edge of my seat and stayed with me for a long time after seeing it. It focused on the pure psychology of terror without gimmicks.
I don't really find the slasher or gore-fest films very scary at all. Although among those, I think Rob Zombie does a decent job with his films.
Paranormal Activity was kind of cool as a recent unique addition to the genre.
And... although it may not be classified as a 'horror film'... Open Water had me on the edge of my seat and stayed with me for a long time after seeing it. It focused on the pure psychology of terror without gimmicks.
Alpha Blonde
Quote by kojoQuote by DudealiciousQuote by kojo
look at these boys taking the moral high ground!! kudos kids, i have the money and the looks and am young as well. Hypothetically speaking if i felt that i wasnt being able to get the reaction i wanted, id use my money asset just like other guys use their body, or their cars, or their social significance to demand attention.
ive gotten with girls just because of the bike i own, would you judge me or her her??
what im saying Ash is your looking at the whole gold digging thing the wrog way. How you should be looking at it is the same way you see women getting attracted to men with nice eyes, smile, body, butt, sense of humor , and the list goes on. So what if a girl is attracted to a man who can provide them with financial stability and she happens to be smoking hot. Show me one girl who doesnt want to be pampered and ill show you a world full of them.
Dont Hate Dont Judge, just do your thing
Kojo I don't know you from Adam, but there are a LOT of people on lush that have a ton of money. The funny thing is most of us are not here to brag about it.
I really think you have mis-read DD's question, she is asking about gold digging more from a Anna Nicole Smith perspective. Ash is probably not looking at the whole gold digging thing the "wrong way" moreso asking a question....
It's awesome that you have a nice bike and gotten with girls because of it, however I really don't think that would provide a woman with a life long sense of financial stability.
Sorry Mr. Dudealicious, didnt mean to brag and hurt your feelings, just wanted to use an example which i thought was apt to explain my point, as i found that one of the shallowest reasons a girl would get with me.
With respect to me missing the point i would rather Ash tell me that i did instead of you assuming i did.
Any way thanks for taking the time out to explain your point of view, and point noted, like i said Dont Hate, Dont judge, just keep doing your thing
I actually don't "hate" on gold diggers. In fact, I have a lot of gold digger friends.
What I hate is men who are ugly and old who have cash who think that any young, hot girl should give them the time of day and have this kind of attitude or 'overzealous perseverance' in pursuing women that are WAY out of their league by flashing the money card. For those that are not gold diggers, it's annoying that this kind of guy feels entitled to attention and is operating under the assumption that flashing some money, a free trip, or shopping at Cartier will make any woman roll over and drool.
Yes, they can get 'some women' but they shouldn't be so cocky and overconfident to think that every woman has "her price", and then get annoyed or stalkerish when they are rejected.
Some of us don't give a fuck how much money he has in the bank if he is old enough to be your grandpa and looks like a decrepit troll.
Sorry... just my 'pet peeve'.
Outside of my own personal opinions, I'm totally fine with rich ugly guy and the trophy wife match up. They are each offering one asset and one liability to the partnership.
But... I've always wondered if it's ever bothered the men to know that the women are in it only for the cash and security. I know there is the whole illusion of the let's make-believe we are all super happy and in love factor.... but... are the men aware of the reality of the situation and not caring about it, or are they thinking that the woman has fallen for his "effervescent charisma" or some other random trait that has overridden the fact that he is 4 inches shorter than her, 35 years older than her and has the personality of a wet sock. I'm just wondering if it's something that's just knowingly accepted or if it's part of the greater self-delusion that makes it work in his mind. I just wish these guys would stop getting so pissed off when they find out that the wife is fucking her personal trainer or tennis instructor. It should just be seen as part of the overall package that they bought into. Kind of like how women that date professional athletes and musicians should expect their men to have girls on the side.
And yes, I see the same thing happening (although on a more rare level) with the older woman and her younger boy-toy. I kind of have the same opinion of those match ups too.
As long as everyone is keeping it real though... more power to 'em.
Alpha Blonde
Quote by Magical_felix
A girl once told me to imagine my penis being inside out and inside my body and to then stick something in my ass.
Hope that helps bro.
Actually I kinda agree with her...
LM... try using a dildo (or a couple of fingers) on yourself. It'll help understand the feelings and sensations of anal. And no, I'm not kidding. You guys have the p-spot in there though, so it will probably feel a little different than it does for girls (based on this, it should actually feel even better).
For me, anal is tighter, dirtier and has more of a feeling of total submission. There's a trust factor there too. I tend to become more primal when my ass is getting fucked, and I usually have a craving to have something shoved into my mouth or just let become unhinged with really filthy dirty talk.
You also have that rush of pain-to-pleasure so that can be delicious as well. I should note that I'm using the term 'pain' loosely... it really shouldn't hurt if you're going slow and using lube... but there is that initial moment of being filled with maybe a bit of discomfort but as you start to relax, it turns into waves of pleasure.
Vaginal sex is incredible and has more a full-body pleasure feeling, whereas anal is more localized and intense.
Most anal orgasms are probably going to involve some additional clitoral stimulation so that's where I see them differing but I tend to notice the spasms/contractions more.
Alpha Blonde
I have to be in the mood to tease. I tend to do it a lot when on the beach or by pool-side. Rubbing suntan lotion on in a teasing way, the way I move as I walk by a group of people in a bikini or the way I use a chunk of ice from a drink to run over my sun-kissed skin to 'cool down', or untying the straps on my bikini top to avoid tan lines where any little slip might result in a bit of intentional 'accidental' public nudity. I tend to do that a lot... plus usually my mind wanders while tanning/relaxing, so I find little ways to entertain myself (and others).
I'm not really one to randomly do things on a regular basis though. I have to be in a certain mood, and a little bit bored and horny at the same time. The main issue is that when you tease, it often invites the 'approach' from guys, and that can just get annoying. You have to be a bit targeted with these things.
I wouldn't specially go outside to suds up and wash my car for the thrill of giving a group of ditch-diggers a hard-on. Then again, who washes their own car these days?
I'm not really one to randomly do things on a regular basis though. I have to be in a certain mood, and a little bit bored and horny at the same time. The main issue is that when you tease, it often invites the 'approach' from guys, and that can just get annoying. You have to be a bit targeted with these things.
I wouldn't specially go outside to suds up and wash my car for the thrill of giving a group of ditch-diggers a hard-on. Then again, who washes their own car these days?
Alpha Blonde
- constantly checking/using his blackberry during the date
- openly checking out other women on the date.
- inability to move past basic level conversation (if he seems dumb, it's game over).
- saying that he enjoys going hunting
- being bad kisser
- him being generally introverted or awkward
- narcissism or vanity where he's trying to prove how 'cool' he is
- dressed like a douchebag (or even worse, if he IS a douchebag)
- openly checking out other women on the date.
- inability to move past basic level conversation (if he seems dumb, it's game over).
- saying that he enjoys going hunting
- being bad kisser
- him being generally introverted or awkward
- narcissism or vanity where he's trying to prove how 'cool' he is
- dressed like a douchebag (or even worse, if he IS a douchebag)
Alpha Blonde
I would have grouped /reluctance within one category, spanking/BDSM in another and on it's own.
I tend to prefer reluctance and stories the most because these categories are often the most psychologically complex.
I tend to post a lot of stories in the section because it seems to be a more all-encompassing category that seems to have subtle implications of "warning: (almost) anything goes."
Stories about reluctance, cheating, blackmail, revenge and psychological dom/sub are most intriguing to me. I like the intensity.
I tend to prefer reluctance and stories the most because these categories are often the most psychologically complex.
I tend to post a lot of stories in the section because it seems to be a more all-encompassing category that seems to have subtle implications of "warning: (almost) anything goes."
Stories about reluctance, cheating, blackmail, revenge and psychological dom/sub are most intriguing to me. I like the intensity.
Alpha Blonde
Let's say that you are ageing and not a big winner in the genetic lottery when it comes to looks.
If you had the cash, would it give you incentive to go for a girl that was way out of your league just for the sex and ego-boost? Would it bother you if she was just after you for the money or is this just considered "fair trade" for having a hot girl on your arm and in your bed if you were not able to attract the kind of girl you really wanted on your own.
Be honest!
ps. And no, I'm not asking this because I am one.
If you had the cash, would it give you incentive to go for a girl that was way out of your league just for the sex and ego-boost? Would it bother you if she was just after you for the money or is this just considered "fair trade" for having a hot girl on your arm and in your bed if you were not able to attract the kind of girl you really wanted on your own.
Be honest!
ps. And no, I'm not asking this because I am one.
Alpha Blonde
Girls (and gay guys):
Do you care about a guy's balls?
Like... does it matter to you if they are big, small, firm, saggy, shaved, hairy, do they need to come in pairs, or are you the type to never look below the cock so it doesn't matter anyway? What do you prefer if you had your choice?
What if you were with a guy that had some scary looking balls (like maybe they hang like a metronome). Would it turn you off? In such cases would a surgical ball-lift ever be something that you might suggest if it was your long-term partner?
Let's discuss!
Do you care about a guy's balls?
Like... does it matter to you if they are big, small, firm, saggy, shaved, hairy, do they need to come in pairs, or are you the type to never look below the cock so it doesn't matter anyway? What do you prefer if you had your choice?
What if you were with a guy that had some scary looking balls (like maybe they hang like a metronome). Would it turn you off? In such cases would a surgical ball-lift ever be something that you might suggest if it was your long-term partner?
Let's discuss!
Alpha Blonde
Stubble can be sexy. I'm not into the full beard or goatee thing though at all.
While on the subject of facial hair, I assume nobody is sporting a mustaches anymore but incase someone was stuck in a time warp or was considering the idea that it looks distinguished... please locate the nearest razor asap.
While on the subject of facial hair, I assume nobody is sporting a mustaches anymore but incase someone was stuck in a time warp or was considering the idea that it looks distinguished... please locate the nearest razor asap.
Alpha Blonde
I would consider myself a 'switch' and enjoy role-playing with both my submissive and dominant side (both psychologically and physically).
I'm not really into the formal BDSM 'master/slave' dynamic though.
I'm not really into the formal BDSM 'master/slave' dynamic though.
Alpha Blonde
Quote by pete379
Why do you think my wife was willing to give me blowjobs before we got married, but now she refuses I'm confussed
To answer the OP... why don't you start refusing to go down on her and see if she changes her tune...
