So... I recently got an email from someone on another site who is a big fan of a series that I'm writing and asked if I would mind if he wrote a few chapters for it using two of my characters (that I was already planning on writing chapters about). It took me aback to be honest, and while I know he meant it to be flattering, the idea of someone barging in on my series and writing and posting unsolicited chapters for it was disturbing.
I have also had people ask in the past if they can "use a character" from one of my stories and add them to their own stories... which I find less disconcerting, but still kind of... weird.
On the other hand, I suppose this is similar to the whole "embellishment" feature that some authors allow.
How do you feel about the "embellishment option." Would you enjoy the idea of a 'fan' taking one of your stories and expanding on it or adding chapters to a series that you're writing, or do you prefer to have complete control over your writing when it comes to stories and characters?
OK, it depends on what kind of answer you really want.
I can easily spout the "age doesn't matter" and "some younger girls are just more mature" jargon and fist-pump you onward into fantasy-land.
But...
As far as younger girls are concerned, I find these sorts of 'older man' fascinations to be short-lived. Some women might have the inclination to try a much older man for whatever reasons (daddy complex, golddigger, maturity reasons)... But with a 25 year age difference, reality does catch up at some point. Interests, energy levels, desires will at some point diverge very sharply. Online, it's easier to ignore these pitfalls...
It's just my opinion, but I'd suggest enjoying the moment but not expecting too much in the long-term.
I'd need the full package...
Unless... the no-sex thing was due to illness or some kind of life-altering accident, and even in most of those cases there are some levels of intimacy that can probably be achieved. If I was committed and in love, I wouldn't walk out if the no-sex situation was beyond their control.
Ask to watch her masturbate to orgasm.... then take note of what she is doing (stimulation levels/tempo etc)
You may also want to incorporate a small hand-held toy that you can use on her during sex. This works well in the doggy position. Or you can try something like the we-vibe for couples.
Yank down on your balls, pinch your perineum (between your scrotum and your asshole), or squeeze just below the head of your dick.
And yes, those are actual techniques that have been suggested as helping to delay male orgasm... I'm not just giving mean tips to be a beyotch (as tempting as it might be).
No. Most of us have lives to lead outside of masturbation.
It would get very boring, very fast.
Kind of like saying "I like chocolate"... and then asking if someone would like to eat chocolate all day long, every day of their lives. At some point, the pleasure of doing it is going to turn off.
As well, it sounds like this woman has some bizarre OCD like compulsion. I doubt she is enjoying it as much as people want to assume she is.
I've seen many different methods used for new story announcements. I am curious as to what readers prefer.
I was always under the impression that the point of the "follow the author" option was to allow individual readers to decide whether they wanted to be alerted when someone specific published a new story. I'm noticing more and more people are now choosing to PM their entire friend list whenever they post something, which often results in multiple-announcements if you're already following them.
Outside of the "follow the author" option that every reader has, how do you prefer that writers 'market' a new story?
Do any of these tactics annoy you or do you feel that the more attention an author can draw to their own story, the better.
If I have to choose between those two options, then it's rockstars all the way!
I love the depth and edge and artistic unconventional mind. I don't mind a bit of arrogance if it's combined with an entertaining and outgoing personality.
I've never been into the cowboy thing...
Actually I've known a lot of conservative guys. A lot of guys think they are sooo dirty but once they get past the typical "ultimate fantasy" of a MFF threesome, the sense of adventure quickly dries up.
I've known more truly kinky girls than truly kinky guys. Guys may watch more porn or be more fixated on sex, but that doesn't mean they are perverts in the true sense of the word.
I think perversion is an evolving trait as well. It's something you either embrace and nurture or avoid and hide from.
I don't mind at all, as long as it's well written and I can believe in the authenticity of the character to some degree.
Yes, and I can do it quite easily in public without anyone knowing (eg. university lecture halls, small classrooms, movie theatres, airplanes). I've been doing it since I was first able to orgasm, and sort of kept it up as something kinky to do when bored in a roomful of people. I think I've kind of perfected it over the years... to my knowledge nobody has ever noticed. I did in an airplane once sitting next to my boyfriend at the time, and then asked him later, and he had no clue I had just orgasmed. I find the orgasms fairly intense (they are all kegal related). And the mind is the biggest sex organ, right?
My favourite drink is an extra dirty vodka martini with blue-cheese stuffed olives (if I'm out in a lounge). In a busy bar or club I'm a vodka-soda girl (preferably pear-vodka) with a twist of lime... or vodka/water for the healthiest option. I usually end my drinking nights when I'm out with vodka sodas because they are easy to shout and order at the bar and they are good to help sober up (nightclubs make vodka soda notoriously weak).
I do like wine (red in the winter and dry white in the summer). I hate sweet wines.
Corona is the only beer I'll drink, and I love it in the summer (and yes, it's because I can put a lime in it).
I'm not big into the fruity drinks unless I'm on holiday... I do love mojitos and a good margarita though.
My favourite splurge is champagne though (the real stuff, not sparkling wine)... I love a good rose.
Hmm... looks like I'm a fan of most alcohol now that I read this. As for ordering different things with different people. No, I just order what I want, but my preferences are more based on the season (summer vs winter drinks) and how drunk I want to get that night.
You might have a prolapsed uterus. That's the only thing I can think of that might cause bleeding after rough sex.
Definitely check with a physician.
If we've been having sex all day (especially intense or rough sex), then yeah I can definitely feel it the next day but not in a really uncomfortable way or anything. I actually kind of like the kinkyness of being a bit sore in the aftermath. And... I definitely have no lube issues.
And of course there have been cases where my cervix has been sore for up to a day (or two) afterwards if the guy had a really big cock, but I guess that's not quite the same as 'chafing'.
If we are defining a geek as 'a person who is single-minded or accomplished in scientific or technical pursuits but is felt to be socially inept'... then yeah, I'm going to take a pass.
I don't dislike geeks but when it comes to dating it's all about compatibility. I love a brilliant mind but I also need someone who is outgoing, confident and socially with-it, otherwise I'd get bored fast.
I would never sacrifice on requiring intelligence in a potential mate though. That is always a must, but for me, there has to be a balance between the academic and social side.
