You can consider posting a pic of yourself (not of your cock, and not of your face if you aren't comfortable with that)... maybe your chest or back or some kind of 'artistic rendition' of one of your pics using photoshop to give people an idea of what you look like. If you are chatting up girls with pics posted, they are probably going to want to see something from you. If they are asking for a cock-pic, it's probably a dude though.
Or you can just keep it low-key and not post anything, but switch up who you are trying to get to know. Profiles of 20 year old uber-hotties that are laden with a cache of pics in their image galleries are probably the wrong ones to chase after if you want to remain anonymous. As for cock-pics, there are a lot of women on this site that wouldn't even accept a friend-add if that's what you're leading with.
I think the guys that say they prefer "no make up" don't really know what no make up looks like.
They are usually referring to a girl wearing light make-up with natural hues.
The first kiss is always the hottest with the promise and anticipation of more.
Plus, kissing has always been my thing, so I hold it in high regard.
If the kissing falls flat, then so will the sex.
Yes, I absolutely agree. I mentioned something similar in the feedback section.
Having two separate lists seems fair to both the story writers and the poets on this site.
I often peruse that list looking for the hot stories of the month, but they are few and far between when the scores that poems get often dominate the Top Picks.
Tell us about your personal erotica writing style. When you stand back and look at your body of writing, you'll probably notice some trends and a certain kind of style to your writing. If someone was to say "I'm thinking of reading {insert your name}'s stories. What are they like?", what would be an accurate way to describe your writing?
Here are some random Qs just to get you thinking...
Do you tend to have recurring themes (or characters) in all your erotic stories?
Do you prefer writing stroke fiction or do you aspire to creating high end and complex literary tales?
Does your style involve the use of humour, quirkiness, or tongue-in-cheek satire?
Do you relish the dirty details or do you prefer to leave more to the imagination during sex scenes?
Do you prefer writing stories with romance and intimacy?
Do you mainly write true-life tales from your sexual past?
I have seen this happen many times... with both with men and women, so you are not alone in that.
Mourn the situation, get some friends together and go out and blow off steam.
And... one word of advice. Sounds like she's wanting to keep you in the bull-pen "just in case" things don't work out with the new guy. A lot of people do this when they are jumping from one relationship straight into the other. At all costs, please try to avoid being that guy waiting around and hanging onto the little emotional hooks she will probably throw out to you over the next little while. Put on a strong front to her, and make her believe you are happy and moving on with your life, even if you are a puddling mess in your bedroom for months. A lot of times the person will try to keep you on an emotional string until they solidify a new relationship by throwing out little sentimental "I miss you's" and "gee, I hope I didn't make a mistake" emails or phone calls. Don't fall for this. You are better off without her. And more importantly, she is doing it for selfish reasons. If things don't work out with the new guy, she is afraid of being alone and just wants to know you are still an option. The things that led her to stray will still be there, however, and you don't want to end up the 'filler' in between her transgressions and getting hurt over and over again.
While it's difficult to move on from a first love, just take solace in the fact that most of us have gone through this kind of thing before, and even when things seem hopeless... things will always get better. We all get cheated on, dumped, and hurt at some point in life. And most of us are not with our 'first love'. There is more out there waiting for you... more adventures and more good times to be had. You will fall in love again. So think of this period as a time of mourning and sadness, but just know that it will get better...
I think it's because women get a lot more attention on this site. As soon as you join, you get hundreds of guys immediately friending you, poking you and trying to online chat with you. So guys have to work harder to get a girl's attention (as a random guy in a huge sea of male profiles). So they create a hot female profile and suddenly other women drop their guard and become more open to talking to them. Plus if you have your eye on a "no men please" girl... that might be perceived as their only "in" to chatting with her.
To be honest, I think this results in a lot of cases where it's two guys cybering with each other and pretending to both be girls. I would think that a real girl would still be as into the small-talk and finessing required before cyber if she was talking to another girl, as she would require from a guy? I've had some girls try to very aggressively chat me up right out of the gates and the red flags go up.
I don't cyber 99% of the people on Lush anyway, so whether they are guy or girl doesn't really make a difference for me, but I do enjoy bantering and fun conversation and I think I have developed a good radar for 'faux-girls' on here. There is just a style to the profile and way of conversation that ends up seeming obviously unnatural. The hyper-feminized and hyper-sexualized profiles are easy stand-outs. I think guys tend to overdo it when creating a female persona.
One other feedback/suggestion I thought I'd put out there is the idea of having a 10 Top Story Picks for the month and a separate !0 Top Poetry Picks for the month. Most of the time, the top picks for the month are disproportionately taken up by poems (as it is today, 7 out of 10 picks for February are poems). It would be nice to separate them into two different columns so readers can browse the lists according to their preferences. Just an idea... (not something meant to begrudge poetry).
I haven't attempted writing from a male perspective with erotica yet, although this is in the works in the very near future. I'm not sure how easy or difficult its going to be. So far all my erotica writing has been in a first person female perspective since I find that's what works most naturally for me and provides a level of intimacy (both to myself and the reader).
In non-erotic fiction, the novel that I'm working on is actually from a male perspective (third person point of view though) and I have really enjoyed it and found creating that character and giving him a voice to be very natural.
I definitely think that it's an interesting experience or exercise to try to write from the opposite sex point of view. You'll learn a lot about yourself too in terms of what kinds of emotions, motives and preferences you assign to them, potentially becoming a reflection of how you perceive that gender as a whole.
If I'm going out at night, I like to dress sexy and show off, yes.
The rest of the time, I dress well, but nothing overtly sexual or for the purpose of teasing men. I still get lots of looks, but I like subtlety and I don't enjoy being harassed or whistled at or seeing erections popping up everywhere. Yes, I know... we are all supposed to love and crave attention. Being noticed is one thing but I just don't like it being shown in an over the top or tacky way. That's just me though...
Any help would be appreciated, but please don't say I should write from my own personal experiences... my sex life is not what you'd call exciting.
