I don't think marriage itself is the issue...
I think a lot of marriages risk failure because people are getting married:
1. Too early
2. For the wrong reason
3. Not giving enough consideration to what kind of person they are truly compatible with
AND
Because a lot of people feel like they "have to get married" because:
1. They are of a certain age.
2. Their families/career-path expects them to.
3. All their friends are getting married.
4. Because they just want to have kids/procreate.
5. They are afraid of being alone.
6. The person they are currently dating is pressuring them.
Marriage is not something for everyone. Once society wraps their head around this concept, the pressure is off, and people can choose to get married if it fits their situation but also not feel like they have to, panic, and pick the wrong person, all the while probably having a gut instinct that they will be going down on a sinking ship... eventually.
I like an athletic/healthy physicality, basically clean cut and well groomed, with more of a SoCal casual/trendy style. i'm definitely drawn to outgoing intelligence, an exceptionally dirty mind, outside the box thinker and a bit of a social rebel. They've got to have some edge to them and be able to roll with a twisted sense of humour and adventurous spirit. That goes for both guys and girls.
I wear them purely for sex appeal (fishnets or back-seamed hose) or for warmth (tights if I'm wearing a short skirt) during the winter OR for dance (if I absolutely have to).
Otherwise I actually hate them.
I'm one of those girls that would go bare legged all the time if I could. Once the warm weather hits, they are banished from my closet.
I'll admit they look incredibly sexy in erotica photos. I just dislike wearing them.
It's my least favourite tense to read or write in. It's definitely not a girl thing.
How do you feel about getting involved with married men?
I think the key to enjoying porn is... watching "the right" porn.
Watching mainstream porn with rounds of basic sex, cheesey acting, fake moaning and 'chica-bow-wow' music in the background would bore anyone.
You've got to get to the good stuff. Checking out what porn stars, directors, films have won AVN Awards, which is like the Oscars of porn, will point you in the direction of some good vids or performers (who actually look like they are into the scenes). Also, being open to exploring some kinkier porn than you might normally be into can make things interesting again. There are a lot of unique scenarios/storylines being created now. I find it makes a huge difference. Typical old-school porn puts me to sleep.
People always ask "what's your number" referring to how many sex partners one has had. I'm curious about cybersex partners... How many different people have you played with online?
I've created a poll, so that you can be as anonymous as you want to be.
I love it and I'm not at all ashamed to say it, whether it's on here or if it were to come up in a real-life conversation.
Of course, chances are with this being Lush, you're going to get a pretty unanimous vote on that, as LittleBambi says.
A lot of times there is a fear of being alone or fear of having to start all over again with a new person. Even an abusive or crappy relationship offers a kind of security, which often only makes sense to the person living in it. Sometimes it seems preferable to continue trying to bail out a sinking boat rather than getting into the water again and starting to swim solo. The unknown of starting over can be scary. It gets even more scary if their immediate social circle is already coupled up or married. Being the only "single person" again can be isolating on a social level.
And of course, every bad relationship has some good things going on in it. It's almost never entirely horrible. When people are trying to justify staying, they may choose to concentrate on the good things and minimize the bad. They start to see it through rose-coloured glasses or justify their decisions with reasoning like "oh well, who's really that happy in a relationship anyway?" or "well my S.O. is under significant stress due to work/job-loss/illness etc and once those hard times pass, things will improve"...
People will find ways to justify almost any decision. But they still want to have the license to be able to complain to friends about all the negative things. Sometimes if you have a friend that's in a bad relationship, you end up becoming kind of like a free therapist to them. They want you to listen, commiserate with them, but ultimately nothing you say is going to change their mind if they are determined to stay in a bad relationship.
