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Dancing_Doll
Over 90 days ago
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Quote by BigDaddyRich
Wnt to one, but I just watched. It just wasn't my thing, and looked kind of degrading to the two ladies that were there. Although they seemed to get off on it. I just knew I wasn't going there


Yeah, it's not for everyone, but I think the point is to get into (and enjoy) some dirty and degrading sex. I don't think anyone would go into a gangbang expecting any romance or intimacy.

And for the record, no, I haven't ever done one... but they are fun to write about.
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I also think men mistakenly think that 'persistence' is a positive thing and will eventually win a woman over. Of course this only happens in Rom-Com movies where the heroine gets fucked over by an asshole and then suddenly realizes that the real 'man of her dreams' is the guy-friend that's always been there for her and loves her just as she is... blah blah blah. This hollywood dream has fuelled many misguided fantasies.

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Ok. End of rant.


While I generally agree with your postings, Doll, I feel the need to interject a little something involving this rant.

You're correct that men should learn to take a hint, I've recently posted my own turning point in another similar thread. However, I take umbrage at the quote above. I am living proof that the girl-leaves-asshole, friend-consoles-girl, girl-falls-in-love-with-friend, friend-loved-girl-all-along thing isn't 100% bullshit. I've been happily with the same woman for over 15 years, and I've loved her longer than that. I'm not leaving her and she doesn't appear interested in leaving me.

And it was almost like a movie (except the part where the guy had a bazillion dollars and takes the girl shopping all over Beverly Hills). Oh, wait, wrong movie.

Realistically the scenario in your quote IS probably better than 99% fantasy and belongs mostly in John Hughes films, but I'm here to say my fantasy came true and there's a non-zero chance that this can actually happen. Occasionally the Good Guy wins.



You're right, I should have said this "usually" only happens in Rom-Com films.

But really, I wasn't saying that the good guy doesn't win. I'm all for the good guy winning. But I don't see "Good Guy" and "Friend Zone Buddy" as being synonymous. Sure there are exceptions to the rule (congrats by the way), but a lot of times the "Good Guy" is just a man that is open with his interests and intentions right from the beginning.

Of course feelings can develop over time, but I'm just against a guy using friendship to try to manipulate a girl into feeling something she has openly said she doesn't feel.
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I hear what you're saying, sorry to barge into gal-dom again, but that Hollywood thing goes both ways. There are just as many movies where the guy goes for the "hot/popular" girl while his female friend is in love with him. Of course he doesn't see it or even know he's in love until after the winning touchdown or homerun or free throw.. whatever. God, I hope people don't let what they see in movies guide how they live.

But to your points... I agree. Some guys don't listen to what they are told. Women too. Usually it is quite obvious when a woman doesn't like you. It's very clear, but we've all been raised as.. "don't take no for an answer"... "go after what you want".... "you can have anything you want if you try hard enough"..."if at first you don't succeed, try try again". We have grown up in a society that no longer says NO..... we are unable to accept rejection or criticism or failure. But... my only suggestion is to say that if a guy is pressing you hard enough.. just tell him straight up. If he has any brains, he'll back down. If not.. you may be better off in the long run without him.


Here's another question... Let's say your male friend hasn't come out with the direct proposition yet, but you can see it coming. All the signs and signals are there. Is there an effective way for a woman to pre-empt the awkward moment before he makes his move, without coming across as presumptuous? I think a girl can tell when her guy friend is crushing on her, but until he actually comes out with the 'big confession', it's hard to know how up front one should be....
Quote by lafayettemister
Just curious, but have any of you experienced this in the opposite direction? Someone you would like more from but he/she only wants to be your friend, if so, how did you handle it?


No, I haven't experienced this yet, personally...

I tend to be very sensitive to social cues though. I would certainly not want to misinterpret something and eventually make that person uncomfortable.

I think the reason it happens more often in the reverse is that women are far less likely to 'make the first move', and we are often very self-critical. So if we were to be secretly crushing on our male friend and he wasn't showing any interest in us, we will likely just think it's because he's not attracted to us or our thighs are too fat or something like that, and perhaps secretly pine/sulk and then move on.

I think society expects men to 'make the first move', so it's pre-wired in guys to keep 'trying for the prize' even when the 'prize' doesn't want to be won. I think this is a very common situation for women to be in. Inherently, most women enjoy/want to have male friends. For us, the separation of friendship and sexual attraction is very clear and distinct. For men, if they are hanging out with a woman that they find attractive and they are getting along, the natural course of thought is "of course, I'd like to fuck her/date her/marry her"...

I also think men mistakenly think that 'persistence' is a positive thing and will eventually win a woman over. Of course this only happens in Rom-Com movies where the heroine gets fucked over by an asshole and then suddenly realizes that the real 'man of her dreams' is the guy-friend that's always been there for her and loves her just as she is... blah blah blah. This hollywood dream has fuelled many misguided fantasies.

I just think guys need to learn to read signals that a woman is not interested. Here are some easy ones:

1. She tells you she isn't interested.
2. She doesn't flirt with you, and when you try to flirt with her, she brushes it off or keeps it very casual.
3. She talks about other men that she likes, is dating or is involved with.
4. She is always re-affirming what a great 'friend' you've been to her.
5. You do not have priority interest in her life. She is not going out of her way to talk to you, be with you, or hang out with you.

It seems like it should be simple, but I think every woman has gone through the awkward "no, I only think of you as a friend" conversation at least once in life. Then when the guy backs off a bit, and then tries again 3 months later, it tends to piss us off. We end up feeling like the friendship is bogus and the guy is just biding his time until he can try again. Plus it's soooo awkward. Women like having guy friends. We just don't want to sleep with all of you or think of you as "the one" just because we get along with you and enjoy hanging out.

Ok. End of rant.
Nah, I don't think you're addicted. You're just hormonal and since you're a virgin, you need some way to get release (that's where the masturbation/porn comes in). Women tend to get extra horny during their ovulation cycle, so that might explain why you are more aroused during certain weeks of the month. It's quite normal.

If you're concerned about someone walking in on you, then why don't you print off some of your favourite dirty stories and then go into the bathroom, lock the door and have fun in there. At least you'll have some privacy, and you won't have to worry about getting caught with porn on your computer screen when someone walks into your bedroom. There are lots of great male-masturbation stories on Lush if that's what you're into...

PS. A pocket-rocket vibrator only costs $20. Save up your cash and buy one of those. They are small, discrete and definitely do the trick!
Thanks again to all my lovely lushies who wished me a happy birthday in so many special ways!
It was a wonderful birthday and I definitely felt the warmth and the love...

Cheers to all you magnificent, talented and dirty guys and dolls...

An orgasm feels like a sexual supernova.





FYI. A supernova (plural supernovae) is a stellar explosion that is extremely luminous and causes a burst of radiation that often briefly outshines an entire galaxy, before fading from view over several weeks or months. During this short interval a supernova can radiate as much energy as the Sun is expected to emit over its entire life span.
Let's say you're romantically or sexually interested in a woman. After finally approaching her or confessing how you feel, she tells you that she doesn't feel the same way and/or is shocked that you'd think that she was. You find this surprising, probably because of some of the things she has done or said. Clearly she has been giving you 'mixed signals'.

What are some of the things that women do (whether it's online or in real life) that you think can be misconstrued as a signal of interest?
Let's say you meet a guy, whether it be online or in real life.

You get the feeling that he probably likes you, but you definitely do not feel anything romantic for him at all. You do however, enjoy their company on a casual friendship level, or just bantering with them because you have things in common.

Do you give hints right away that you're not interested in anything, hoping to pre-empt the guy from making an awkward move? If so, what do you typically do or say?

Do you feel resentful when a guy plays the friendship card and then suddenly confesses his love for you out of the blue three months later and then is shocked or pissed off that you have rebuffed him?

When you get the vibe that a guy likes you and you don't feel the same way, do you think you can ever 'just be friends', or do you think the dynamic will always be 'off' because the guy will constantly be trying to win you over on a subtle but endlessly persistent level.
Quote by SweetPenny
I can't think of any use for these things. As for tanning, wouldn't that still leave an unwanted mark for those of us who shave/wax down there?


Yes, but I don't mind that tanline... on account that I don't want to end up burning... I just find that's the one sensitive spot on my body that I like to protect from the sun or tanning bed.

Plus with the damaging effects of sun exposure, it's important to maintain a youthful looking pussy.
Quote by tommie
Happy Birthday, enjoy the cake.



Ouch! And nothing says 'surgical reconstruction' like that cake...

Looks like it was one helluva party!

Thanks Tommie! LOL
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Coors Light FAIL

I knew I could tease your true age outta you, in public!


Dude! It's been posted right on my profile since I joined Lush almost a year ago... You need to brush up on your stalking techniques, my friend...
I had to look it up... never heard of them before.

It's an interesting concept. I'd consider getting one to wear in a tanning salon to avoid tan-lines. Right now I wear a g-string but I guess this is one step beyond that.

I wouldn't wear one on a beach. I think it looks too cheeseball.

I don't know how comfortable they'd be either...
Oh my god, you guys are cracking me up...

Thanks for the birthday/birfday wishes everyone!

And Jeff, I am twenty-SEVEN today! Stop prematurely ageing me! Actually, on that whole matter, I have decided to stop ageing altogether after today. I trust that Her Royal Spriteness can make this kind of magic happen in the Lush Kingdom... here's hoping anyway.

Ok, time to party! Dildos and cake for everyone!



Quote by hislittleslut16
AGREED, btw dancing doll I'm still waiting for the third in your series. They are an interesting read.


I will write it about you! From now on, your name will be Stacey!
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*adds both the double-poster and Dancing Doll to the list... does some quick math...

Ladies;

By the looks of things your stories will be done in about six to ten years. Can you not cum till then?

Thank-you for your patience.

Regards
Woman


No, the only way I can cum is if stories are written specifically about me.
I thought everyone was like this?
Anyway, I will send a note to the moderators demanding that they approve any stories written about me in an express manner (preferably as soon as they hit the queue). I might also suggest that they make a special Dancing_Doll category so I don't have to waste any time reading stories that are not written about me... cause like... yanno... what's the point of that?


Since a lot of great stories are often missed on this site, or end up in obscurity if they are older... here's your chance to recommend a story that you really loved (for whatever reason) to other readers. Maybe it really struck a chord with you and you want to give it some public praise.

So here's what you need to include (and I'll go first!):

Title of Story: Casting Couch
Genre: Fetish
Author: Mia_Erotica
Why you're recommending it: This is just a great example of stylized and witty writing. To me, it stands out from a lot of the formulaic storytelling that many writers use. It's a twisted dirty little tale of a girl that will do anything in her quest for stardom, and definitely capitalizes on the irony and dark humour of the entire situation. It's not your typical sex story, and that's what makes it so refreshing. It's just a great piece of edgy writing... the kind of thing that makes you want to read it while sipping a martini and wearing red stilettos.
If you've always wanted boobs, then get them for yourself. Just don't get them because a guy is pressuring you.
With the advent of the 'gummybear implant' and new techniques, there is no scarring, no numb nipples and usually minimal complications. The key is to get something that will work with your body type, so I'd suggest 1-2 cup sizes bigger, depending on your frame. Those will look the most natural.

The way a woman wants to look is personal choice...

For the people that are all up in arms about "natural is best", let's see if they think to colour their hair when it goes gray, or wear makeup to hide facial flaws. I don't believe in criticizing people for wanting to make self improvements, whether those be minor or surgical, provided it will make that person happier and more confident. We're not talking about getting beachball-tits or the Heidi Montag plastic surgery special. So my feeling is... if you want them, then get them!

Some people are just anti-implant and anti-surgery because they see it as catering to vanity. A woman with abnormally large natural breasts will have them hanging down to her knees with the nipples pointing south once she gets older. Should she be denied the choice of a breast lift or reduction to improve her physical appearance? There is no difference, in my opinion. And I would not judge someone for wanting to make a physical improvement if they have the desire/cash to do so.

We all do things to make ourselves look better and feel better. It all comes down to individual choice.
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I would say treat that clit like a tiny cock.......and then treat it as you would want your cock treated[meaning, not too rough...etc.], I'm not saying the other parts don't need to be included...it's a package deal, so, don't forget,but, the clit's the star of the show. AND then LISTEN to your women....not just what she says, but, the sounds she makes and the breaths she takes.....PAY ATTENTION, don't just dive in like you're the pussy master...cuz not all pussies are the same..and just because it "worked" for one doesn't mean it will the next.

Just my opinion...that's what I like and how I give


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I procrastinate a lot and am easily distracted, but if you're having a hard time getting back into the writing... try just committing to writing a 1000 word story (without the intention to post them) every other day, just to get back into the groove of writing again. Knowing that it's just a short writing exercise sometimes takes the pressure off feeling like you need to create the perfect story. And eventually it gets the creative wheels turning again.










Happy Birthday! May your birthday be extra dirty and delicious!
And may there be no incriminating evidence left behind...
A sex toy won't ruin things if you're with a guy. There's still a huge difference between the feelings associated with sex and just using a sex toy. As a bonus if you get a fun guy, you can enjoy both together....

But I digress...

My first toys were the bullet and the pocket rocket. I used them all through university, so they served their purpose and are decent inexpensive, simple clit-stimulating devices.

As usual, I can't say enough good things about the Lelo brand of sex toys. They make several small hand-held clit stimulators that are great to use alone, but are also contoured in a way that you can also use them (or have your partner use them on you) during sex. They are re-chargeable toys (like an ipod) so you will never need to worry about needing batteries and they are impeccably made. I love this brand because they are the quietest toys on the market. I hate the 'buzzing' sound of a lot of toys... it can be distracting and rather unerotic... especially if you're considering using them with a partner. The Lelo line of toys is practically silent... But like I said, they are a bit pricier... but well worth the money in my opinion because they will last forever. You really do pay for quality when it comes to toys. If you're looking for a basic clit-stimulator, they have three versions, and their newest, "Alia", is waterproof, so you can use it in the bathtub.

But if you're just exploring toys and don't want to spend the cash, then the bullet or rocket are definitely decent... just be prepared for the loud buzzing and keep your supply of batteries well-stocked.
Multi-chapter stories are a challenge for every erotica author. Most people simply don't have the attention span or desire to follow a longer story. Those that do, however, often really enjoy them because of the depth of character development you can achieve.

I tend to avoid "chapter one" and "chapter two" statements in a story title. Now, I just try to make each chapter be able to operate as a stand-alone story. Most of my stories are longer than most, and that's simply because I hate breaking things up, and only do so if absolutely necessary. The character count guidelines on this site do affect the way I write a story because I want to ensure I can post it as a stand-alone story instead of smaller chapters. I find a story can lose momentum when there are days or weeks in between posts.

I am writing a series at the moment, but they are all stand alone stories with different character voices, simply bound together through a common plot device. Hopefully that doesn't deter readers. But most people who read my stories know what to expect in terms of style and length, so those that enjoy them will read them and those that don't will choose not to. It's all a readers choice as to what kind of erotic story they prefer, and I find this varies dramatically on this site.
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No offense, Doll, but you are being completely egocentric about this.

You are saying that because you think she's hot, that I do too. Therefore if I compare her to a noncelebrity and she comes out lower than them, that they are super hot.

The reality of this is that I do not think she's hot to begin with. Not in the slightest. Therefore many women in the world are hotter to me, even someone who most people would consider to be average.

Don't apply your likes to me. I'm not you. I wouldn't assume that you like everything that I do and therefore criticize you for not sharing my opinion. So why do that to me?

With that said, I do agree that the original question was leading, but you've taken it to an extreme in the other direction by slamming people for not liking Paris.

If you think I'm just trying to impress Amber or I'm falling for the leading question, feel free to look for a topic with a Paris nipple slip and see what I wrote in there, long before I saw this.


No offense taken, Pickle. I'm enjoying the conversation.

I'm not a Paris Hilton fan, as I've stated before. I would not slam anyone for disliking Paris (as herself). And I don't think I've done that. I'm talking strictly about looks, not the girl, herself.

I actually try to take the non-egocentric approach of rating someone on looks as objectively as I can, even though they may not be my type or someone that I would personally be attracted to. For example... I'm not attracted to Orlando Bloom... but do I think that he is below average in looks?... No... that's just not my physical type. But compared to the average guy, I think he's definitely good looking. I just take my preferences out of the equation and try to see things as they are.

We obviously hold people to different standards of beauty though. No worries...that is one variable I obviously didn't take into account during this discussion. Maybe I do need to be more critical of what people look like. Clearly I'm being way too generous with my rating system. I try not to be so superficial... but in the end, maybe I'm just too nice that way...