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And here is the question... Ladies and Gents; do you suffer from sleep walking? And if you have a dream state orgasm (or orgasm quickly after waking), do you find that all day long you have an insatiable hunger for more and that no many how many times, it is just not enough?


Yes! I don't sleep-walk but I have sex-dreams and orgasm in my sleep sometimes. Usually the orgasm wakes me up. I try to get back to sleep (and back into the dream) as quickly as possible though... LOL...

It does leave me horny for the rest of the day... definitely.
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Alpha Blonde
Quote by MMonroe
Have you ever found that your high sex drive, love for sex and general horniness has attracted the wrong kind of guys? Once that are only interested in using you and for nothing else?

If so what did you do about it, and how do you maintain the balance between serious relationship but with the strong sexual side included


When you find both (the connection and the sex), then it will make you both want to pursue things. It's rare to find both sides of that coin, but it does happen. If a guy loves having sex with you, but then drops off from wanting a relationship, then he obviously feels something is lacking in the connection department. And very often, there is. Sometimes we get so blinded by being thrilled with great sex that we forget that the connection isn't there (and vice versa). Sometimes one person in the relationship doesn't care as much about not having both. Or they want to imagine what it "could" be like. And uhmm... in most cases that ends up being the female half of the relationship. Sorry, but just calling it like I see it. LOL

Girls tend to project a lot when we find a guy that we connect with sexually. We want to believe that the connection outside of sex is or has the ability to be just as strong. But often, it isn't. We blame the guy because he walks away or treats us like shit. But in the end, if the connection was so great, then why would he walk away? Sometimes we just have to call it like it is... you can have great, lustful sex, but sometimes that's all it is.

In my experience, guys prefer having serious relationships that include a strong, lustful sex life. They're just looking for both. And sometimes it just isn't there.

Sometimes it operates in reverse, where the guy wants more, and the girl isn't feeling the non-sexual connection, but it tends to work the other way more often.
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She's sexually kinky and doesn't have traditional views on monogamy. Sounds like a good deal to me!

Just make sure she is talking seriously and not just in the fantasy realm. Let her pick the girl (someone she is comfortable with and in a situation of her choosing).

If you don't want to do it though, or if it makes you uncomfortable, then I'd say just to avoid the whole thing. You both have to be into it for it to work and not cause problems later.

But a lot of couples venture into this domain in modern relationships. It's really not that shocking. I have the same fantasy as your girlfriend. I've lived it out in threesomes with boyfriends in the past, but I've always wanted to just orchestrate something and then just watch. People are a lot more open-minded and logical about sexual explorations than people of older generations are. Don't be deterred by traditional and conservative viewpoints. You have to be open minded and be secure in a relationship for this to work. If it feels right for you guys, then go for it!
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Alpha Blonde
I hear the dialogue in my head as I am watching the scene unfold in my mind, almost as if it's a movie. I like to place myself in that moment, and take my time with the dialogue and let it come as naturally as if I am the character speaking it, and then imagining what the other character would say back to me. A lot of times I will say the dialogue out loud before writing it, or think about it while in the shower or driving or working out. Sometimes I'll jot a few good lines down and then keep them for later when I'm actually writing the scene.

For me, when I'm reading a story that is heavy on dialogue, I do "hear" the voices in my head.

Even when I'm reading things on the forum or when "e-chatting" with someone, everyone has a different voice/tone in my mind. It's purely created by my imagination, but I tend to "hear" written words, complete with different depths in tone, speed, and even accents. Everyone ends up with a distinct 'voice' in my mind, whether they are Lushies or story characters.
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This is one of my favourites. I found it very inspiring.

Quote by Wiki


God Grew Tired Of Us (2006) chronicles the arduous journey of three young Southern Sudanese men, John Bul Dau, Daniel Pach and Panther Bior, to the United States where they strive for a brighter future. As young boys in the 1980s, they had walked a thousand miles to escape their war-ridden homeland, and then had to make another arduous journey to escape Ethiopia.

During the five years they walked in search of safety, thousands died from starvation, dehydration, bomb raids and genocidal murder. Finally, they found relative safety in Kenya’s Kakuma refugee camp. In 2001, 3,600 lost boys, including John, Daniel and Panther, were invited by the United States to live in America. The three boys uproot their lives and once again embark on a journey, leaving behind thousands of other refugees who, in the course of their traumatic odyssey, have become their adopted extended family. They must now learn to adapt to the shock of being thrust into the economically intense culture of the United States, learning new customs, adapting to new and strange foods, coping with the ordeal of getting, and keeping a job, or multiple jobs, while never forgetting the loved ones they left behind in Africa. They dedicate themselves to doing whatever they can to help those they left behind in Kakuma, and to discovering the fate of their parents and family.

God Grew Tired Of Us was produced, written and directed by Christopher Quinn, executive produced by Brad Pitt and narrated by Nicole Kidman. The title of the documentary is a quote from John Dau discussing the despair he and other Sudanese felt during the civil war.

At the 2006 Sundance Film Festival, the film won both the "Grand Jury Prize: Documentary" and the "Audience Award" in the "Independent Film Competition: Documentary" category.
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Alpha Blonde
Quote by WellMadeMale
Gawddamn. I must have been slacking - or drunk (and slacking) I missed this whole thread back around Memorial Day weekend.

Doll, was that back when we were sexting?


Just incase I am the "Doll" you are talking about... nope... 'we' implies a back and forth exchange. You did send me a message about wanting to fuck my mom though, so maybe that's what you're talking about?

At least your mind was in MILF territory on Memorial Day, even though you missed this thread.
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Alpha Blonde
Quote by SweetPenny
DD, I thought your mind might be dirtier than mine, but I saw right away that it was a dildo.


I was just kidding babe... lol

Although you have to admit, it's more of a junior sized dildo.
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Alpha Blonde
Why does he look like he's been doped up on horse tranquilizers in all these photos? That would be my main concern.

I didn't even realize it was a dildo. I thought it was a jalapeno pepper...
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Alpha Blonde
Quote by lustone
I find that individuals tend to come to a mutual agreement when it comes to sex. Sometimes, the woman or man wants to wait until they are married. Anyone think that's a good thing? Or is it a bad thing?


It's a bad thing. Sexual chemistry is extremely important. Maybe this was ok back in the day when sex was mainly just used for procreation, so even if it sucked, it wouldn't matter so much. But if you enjoy sex, you want to make sure you're able to enjoy it with the person you are making that lifetime commitment to. Buyer's remorse, in the case of marriage, can lead to a complicated and expensive return policy.
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Alpha Blonde
Quote by Recognizexl
THANKS everyone. I truly appreciate it. My wife hasn't been with any other men besides me. I'm her first b/f believe it or not. We don't really have discussions about sex. We just do it.

As for tossing her salad as a precursor...i'm on the fence. I mean, I've seen some porn and its get me interested..(ex: girl in doggystyle and guys eating her pussy from behind, then starts tossing her)......but i can't go through with it for some reason.....Well, actually I know the reason.....

I'm not sure how she would react to it either. I did drop hints before and say 'I wanna kiss you everywhere', and she just smiles and we continue to mess around. Closest I've come is just kissing her ass cheeks. I've thought about placing plastic wrap to cover her ass and 'tossing' it that way, so there's a barrier......weird?????

Anyway, thanks again everyone for your replies.

Any feedback on this plastic wrap thing? =/


I've always found this term hilarious! "Tossing the salad" was actually a prison slang term whereby salad dressing was used to make the ass-licking of dominant inmates by the weaker boys a more appetizing experience. Needless to say, hygiene probably isn't at the top of the list of priorities among many prisoners.

But I digress... showering and cleaning should do the trick. As Penny mentions, use your fingers. Maybe have her take a take a long bath... enjoy the suds. It's a rather safe sex-act. If there is higher level of concern, a simple over the counter enema should alleviate any hesitations, although the concerns are more psychological than anything else. And then toss her salad and have her toss yours! It's a highly erotic experience, enjoyed by all.

And if all else fails, maybe you can try Ranch dressing or possibly Thousand Island Low-Cal.


Some Useful Links:

http://www.realprincessdiaries.com/2008/06/smoothness-and-eating-ass/

http://www.realprincessdiaries.com/2009/07/enemas-and-more-on-anal-sex/
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Alpha Blonde
Quote by WellMadeMale
Can anyone spell: High Fucking Maintenance?

Oh, I think I just did. With 11 beers in my gut, even. Beat that...all you alcoholic Lushies!


It appears that this thread owes you a drink (and to anyone else that had the masochistic energy to read through this entire mangled drama-rama!)

Enjoy...



Disclaimer: this post may contain humour that is harmful to your sensitivities. Please view with caution.




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Alpha Blonde
Actually Bassman, most of my post was meant in jest, but it's obvious we both have a very different sense of humour. I really wasn't offended by your posts, nor was I actually insinuating that you (literally) had a rise in blood pressure. But you chose to engage with similar insinuations (eg. that I prefer men who have no respect for women) and I just chose to volley it back on a similar level after it happened a few times in this thread. Although mine was meant with humour, whereas yours probably was meant literally, even though I didn't take it as such at the time.

Satire works for some people, and I suppose it might offend others that take it literally. In the past, it was the attention it drew by making social commentaries on issues that made it a vehicle for affecting change in society (by raising awareness through controversy). In layman's terms... it gets people talking. And the rest of the time, it's really just a style of humour that a lot of people seem to enjoy and understand. I'd say most concepts of humour run the risk of offending people if you look at the average comedy skit, or satirical movie (eg. Borat). But that's getting off point here.

Behind the satirical twist, there are elements of truth to the subject matter. I don't think the author has any obligation to be PC in her opinions. She is just stating the kind of characteristics that she finds unattractive in a man. Her opinion is pretty much shared with a lot women out there today. Whether women term this kind of guy a "nice guy", or "obsessive clingy guy", or "insecure, doormat guy"... it really doesn't matter. But I'll bet this thread would be hard-pressed to find a woman who would post and say "yes, I read the article, and the author is way off base because that is exactly the kind of man that I'm looking for!". Although, who knows... stranger things have happened.

As MMonroe originally intended when she posted this article, was to explain to men the kind of things that turn women off. There seems to be many questions by men (both in the forum and in life in general) about what women are looking for, and the extreme stereotypes of "nice guy" vs "bad boy". This article meant to demystify what most women mean what they use that "urban social term".

As you will notice, I have made this post completely devoid of humour or entertainment value, so as to not inflame anyone who doesn't understand it.
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Actually Bassman, as I scan back to your original posts directed to me (for example) you are rolling with the personal insults (eg. "If for example you, DD, don't like guys that treat women with respect, that's your choice and I'm fine with that" or "DD, you can stand behind your "nice guy" posts all you want, but you have nothing to teach me or anyone else here on this"). So, you can dish it out and, as you call it, 'slander and trash' people all you want, but you become righteously offended if anyone directs any comments back to you? Have you seen me at any point in this entire thread direct any comments to you personally? Nope. Have I busted out the oversized font to rant back at you? Nope. Now, is that because I finished top of my class in my internet anger management class last year? Or maybe it's really because I have a sense of humour which has been sorely lacking by a couple of people in this thread. I am still kind of surprised by the blatant over-reaction to such a commonly used "urban social term".

Now, I could choose to give myself a stress-induced nose bleed by angrily typing away about how I never said that I don't like guys that treat women with respect and how you don't know "jack shit about me", but I won't. Because I think for the more reasonable people reading this thread... they kinda already get it.

Nobody was attacking you specifically. What "I" and a few others were trying to do was clarify the fact that satire is a legitimate literary genre employed by the author to create a humorous and entertaining statement about the concept of "the nice guy", as was the artist that drew those cartoons. I don't know if "nice guys" are missing the humour gene but that might be an interesting study for the critical thinkers over at Heartless Bitches International. In the meantime, it might be wise to stay away from SNL, MADtv, the Colbert Report and The Far Side comic strips in order to avoid such an unhealthy rise in blood pressure.

Oh, and just to clarify... Damon and I don't "believe" in cartoons. Not since grade school anyway.
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Alpha Blonde
Ask her if she is interested in trying anal again.

If she is, it might be worthwhile to get her a butt-plug, an anal vibrator and a bottle of lube, and let her experiment on her own a bit. She'll probably feel more comfortable going at her own pace at first so that she can have a good experience with it and understand how amazing it can feel. It might also help if she's experimenting without the pressure of you sitting there with a hard-on, wanting to speed things along. If she experiments on her own a few times, she'll probably be more open to trying again with you.

Because she had a painful first attempt, she will be all nerves at this point. If she's the one lubing a butt-plug or toy and inserting slowly on her own, she has the option to go as slow as she needs to.

I have a friend who is "trying to get comfortable with anal" and this is what she's doing to relax herself to the experience, after several failed attempts with her man... A bit of anal-training without any pressure from you is probably the best way to go with this...
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Alpha Blonde
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OK, let's all pause for a moment so that everyone can step away from their computer and go take their blood pressure medication.

When everyone has stabilized, it might be worthwhile to look up the definitions of "irony" and "satire", which will help you to understand the nature of this article. Uhmm... I thought it should be obvious to "most" people that you're not supposed to take the website "Heartless Bitches International" as a literal translation.

Sense of humour anyone? Fail!


Ha, my blood pressure's fine!

The writer may not have intended for readers to take her article seriously, I'm still not sure about that, but there are many women who share her opinion. You made similar comments yourself in Javier's "Nice Guys" thread (Ask the Gals section):

To me, a bad-boy is just someone that has a distinct POV and isn't catering to anyone by expressing it. He's not a PC guy that tells you what you want to hear, and he's not going put himself on the back-burner in order to cater to all your whims and indulgences the way a "nice guy" would. I like guys with strong personalities that stand out from the pack. Girls tend to equate "nice guys" with being boring, mainstream, and lacking a distinct POV. The reason is that they want to be liked. The bad-boy doesn't care if he's liked. He acts first, without an agenda, and is confident about it. He doesn't give a shit if you like him... and that's sexy! In many ways the 'bad-boy' is more authentic that way. And that just translates to confidence, which is universally sexy.

I dated a couple of "nice guys" in my days, and while they did everything right and very much by the books when it came to dating, there was no depth or edge to their personality. I tend to equate the "nice guy image" with a more shallow personality (not in terms of being superficial, but just in terms of life experience, interests and opinions). Their goal is to not "rock the boat" and to have people like them, and this takes precedence over their own authentic needs and wants. I tend to respect a guy that has the balls to be his own person, and not hiding behind a facade of being politically correct and nice *all* the time. The non-conformist guy probably has an interesting mind, is likely a bit sarcastic about life, and generally is more stimulating to be around. I'll admit I tend to see the "nice guy" image as being somewhat one-dimensional, and I have always been better suited to a more complex guy.


Your definition of a nice guy and mine aren't alike at all, but since we base our opinions on our own personal experiences, I couldn't expect them to be.


Aw, I knew the day would come when my forum manifestos would be used against me...

Actually, if you look at the website "Heartless Bitches International", there is a disclaimer that the 'rants' are used as satire. In fact even wikipedia under the topic of "Nice Guy" references them: Link


In early 2002, the website Heartless Bitches International (HBI), which "employs irony as a strategy to offer humorous explorations of contemporary gender relations"[16] published several short essays (which they labelled "rants") on the concept of the "nice guy". Central to the theme of these essays is that a genuinely nice male is desirable, but that many people purporting to be, or believing themselves to be a "nice guy" are actually clingy, self-abasing, and insecure to such an extent that their attempts to be nice and desire to be loved, make them neither nice nor loveable. The worst examples of such behavior being caricatures of behaviors that would be more desirable in moderation.[17][18]


As for my opinions... I stand by my original "nice guy" post. But as I mentioned a few times in this thread already, the term "nice guy", even as it is referenced by wiki is a "social term", not one that is meant to be taken literally. We all want to be around people that are 'nice', myself included. But the social term has come to represent a lot of things that "most" women don't want (ie. insecure, emotionally needy, a doormat, boring, or overly self-sacrificing). That's not the definition of "nice"... that's the definition of the social term representing the kind of guy that many women complain about.
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Alpha Blonde
OK, let's all pause for a moment so that everyone can step away from their computer and go take their blood pressure medication.

When everyone has stabilized, it might be worthwhile to look up the definitions of "irony" and "satire", which will help you to understand the nature of this article. Uhmm... I thought it should be obvious to "most" people that you're not supposed to take the website "Heartless Bitches International" as a literal translation.

Sense of humour anyone? Fail!
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Alpha Blonde
Quote by WellMadeMale


After about 9 months of living like a homeless person, with a roof over my head, I woke up one weekend morning, looked around the place and thought..."I could never bring a woman home to this pigpen."



I have a female friend who swears that this was the first tip-off that her boyfriend was cheating on her. After over a year of enduring his swamp-mess of a bathroom when she stayed over (crud on the sink, filthy mirrors, rank-smelling towels, and never any toilet paper within reach), she came over one day and found the bathroom spotless and clean. He had even washed the towels. She immediately suspected something was up. Especially when she saw that he had actually put the dirty clothes that were usually left on his bedroom floor into the actual laundry hamper. She did a bit of sleuthing over the next couple of day, and sure enough...she found out that he had just started screwing around with another girl.
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Alpha Blonde
Wow... so many guys have totally misread and misinterpreted this article.

Seems as soon as the term "Nice Guy" is used, a guy's emotional reaction takes over everything else.

Let's flip it and ask if guys want a "Nice Girl"... meaning a girl that gets rid of her girlfriends the minute she is dating you, calls you several times a day to let you know how she's feeling and how much she cares about you, agrees with everything you say, and makes you her complete focus and wants you to do the same. She loves those long evening talks about where you stand as a couple, and since you've become involved, she knows that you'll want to cut out those guys nights and just spend time with her, where you can just be together as much as possible. Sound thrilling?

The term/label needs to be trashed... but it's the sentiments of what turns off the opposite sex that is the point here.

The article does not insinuate that women want assholes, or that being a nice person is a bad thing.

It's just explaining the actual meaning behind the "urban social term", even though the term itself is outdated and inaccurate. I actually thought that was pretty obvious...
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Alpha Blonde
Actually I think this article seeks to explain what people mean when they use the term "Nice Guy" in a negative way. This is demystifying the concept of "Nice" being a negative trait. It's not that a woman doesn't want a guy who is nice... she doesn't want a guy that acts in the way the article describes.

They probably just need to find a different term for it altogether actually.
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Alpha Blonde
Brilliant article. If anyone has ever been confused by the whole "nice guy" issue, they should read this article. It's perfectly explained.

Great post!
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Alpha Blonde
No, I can't say I've ever puked or come close to it. I find deep throat works really well on my back with my neck stretched. The alignment is the most comfortable that way. You don't have much control over it in that position, but that's part of the fun... When I'm on my knees, I just make sure my gag reflex is relaxed enough to know I'm not going to worry about something bad happening... LOL...

I have a friend who is a male stripper, and he had a bachelorette party come into his club. He ended up in the coat-room with the bride. She ended up throwing up on him during a BJ, but she was pretty drunk as well. Even worse, she tried to pretend it didn't happen, and just kept going. He stopped her though... lol... and helped her clean herself up. Made for a funny story!

It does serve as a cautionary tale for women though... if you're wasted, it's probably best to skip the deep throat that night.
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Alpha Blonde
My vote goes to LadyX for her inspired artistic brilliance in creating her own wallpaper....

I'm kind of in love with it... As always, she knows how to make a statement, and it always has impact!
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Alpha Blonde
I've never understood this issue, and how/why girls don't initiate, unless you are intimidated by your man, in which case you definitely need to be communicating more in general.

I've always just reached out and started touching him, or whispered something dirty in his ear.

Sometimes, I put a cute spin on things (like when woman ask their man if an outfit makes them look fat), where I'd be in the bedroom and call out to him in another room, "honey, can I get your advice on something?" And then I'd walk out stark naked except for a hot little thong and ask innocently, "Do these panties make my pussy look wet?" I can't think of a time where that didn't get an instant reaction.
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