One I've always hated is when a guy puts two fingers together and keeps them as straight and stiff as he can and proceeds to finger fuck me at warp speed, often screwing up the direction as he goes along. Negative bonus points if his fingernails aren't perfectly smooth.
I've often seen this move in porn films, so I've always assumed this is where guys learn it.
I can't stand it. Two ram-rod fingers vigorously stabbing me is NOT a good feeling. Trying to approximate the speed of a vibrator just makes it even worse.
Fantasies are not cheating.
If you think your significant other would be bothered by your fantasies, then keep them to yourself.
Although it's hard to imagine someone that would think it's emotional cheating to fantasize about having sex with the girl in Playboy or the porn video or the girl that works at Starbucks. I've always seen emotional cheating as something that requires you to actually know the other person and form a bond (although it may not involve sex).
Fantasies are harmless fun...
I'm all for spontaneity, but when it comes to threesomes, I'm a firm believer that a couple should have some discussion beforehand about rules and expectations. I've always done that before bringing a third person into a sexual encounter when I'm in a relationship with someone.
The one time I was a third party, although there was a lot of alcohol involved, I remember some distinctly awkward moments because I wasn't sure how involved they wanted me in it. I was second guessing myself a bit, because without any direction, I remember being a little concerned I might do something to offend the other girl if I was too enthusiastic with her boyfriend. And let's face it... negotiating rules once you're in it, kinda spoils things. In that case, I relied on dirty talk and let them take the lead on directing the whole thing. But I wish we had talked about it beforehand.. I think it would have been even more fun.
The one MMF threesome I had was with a guy I was casually dating and his friend. They were both super straight, but unlike Rxtales, I think I enjoyed getting all the attention with that one... I like rising to the challenge of keeping them both going at the same time.
When it comes to bringing in another girl, my rules have always been that "I" get to choose the girl and arrange it. I know a few couples that have come to blows because they haven't followed this rule, because the guy was constantly on the prowl looking for a 'third girl' to bring in once he found out his girlfriend was open to threesomes. Suggesting your girlfriend's "hot friend" or constantly scoping other chicks at the bar when you are out together or on dates is a surefire way to create jealousy and relationship issues.
I've always made sure to pick another girl that I have some kind of connection to and who I know is into me, and that I'm into her. As other people mentioned, it's important that all parties are into each other. And I like having a connection with a girl that I know I can vibe with, and is respectful of what I want and what I don't. As for physical rules... I don't want my man kissing her... but other than that, I'm down for anything. I find kissing a rather intimate act... more so between a man and a woman. It's bizarre that way... that a man loves watching two women making out... but somehow it's about the only thing that would bother me in terms of what I'd want to see my guy doing with another girl in a consensual threesome.
As far as where to meet a third person... I've always just found girls rather easily. I seem to attract them, so it's always been an acquaintance or "quasi-friend" that I've met on the scene. I'm fine with casual friends, but I prefer to avoid threesomes with close friends. For me the ideal situation is someone that we'd meet on vacation, or someone that's disconnected enough from our immediate life, that I'm not going to be running into them constantly in the same social circles.
For those of you who have had threesomes, or would like to (where you are part of the original couple, and inviting in a third person), here are a couple of interesting questions. I notice they tend to vary when I ask people, so I'm curious to hear more opinions.
1. Do you have any rules that you set out beforehand and what are they? (eg. are there physical limits you set out such as levels of penetration or kissing etc?)
2. If you are part of a couple, does it matter who approaches the third party?
3. Do you have a preference over finding a stranger versus someone you already know (eg. a friend).
4. Are you only open to one kind of threesome (MFM or FFM?) or is it anything goes...?
5. How do you typically search for your third person?
There are some email viruses that will send emails to everyone in your address book as though it was coming from you. Do you have yourself in your own address book for some reason? Maybe check with someone else in your address book to see if they are getting the same emails. I was getting these from someone else for a while on a nightly basis and he had no control over them being sent. The good news is that it seems to stop at some point, maybe once the original spam-virus is confident that nobody is clicking on the link to buy online viagra. It seems to have a lifespan of about a month though.
I wouldn't find it romantic. I'd probably just laugh and find it amusing.
I don't take anything said while drunk or high very seriously, to be honest...
If you called her sober (or did a follow-up sober call) expressing similar sentiments then I think you're starting to approach something that could be seen as romantic if she still has feelings for you.
I read/vote on stories and don't really think me being an author has an effect on anything.
I will admit that if I start reading a story that wouldn't be a 5-score or at least a strong 4, then I don't vote. I probably should in order to make things more authentic, but in reality, if the story isn't good, there's nothing compelling me to actually finish reading it anyway.
