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I think it's a unanimous consensus on this one. Overdressed FTW.
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I wear thongs and g-strings and I've never had an issue with VPL (visible panty line) and yoga pants.
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Christmas songs are like anthems, rhymes and lullabies. Everyone knows the words (so it's bonding), it evokes the nostalgia of childhood (when Christmas was a *really* big deal), and there are memories associated with hearing them (a comforting element).
They are also relatively simple for non-singers to be able to sing and enjoy, without needing solid vocal pipes or accompanying musical splashes, hence they tend to be sung out loud more often.
There are a lot of great 'new' holiday-themed songs out there but based on popular demand, they'll probably never become classics. Music was a lot more limited in scope in the past, so there were only so many holiday songs or Christmas carols to learn and sing. This is what made them popular enough to tip over into the 'classics' territory over the decades.
They are also relatively simple for non-singers to be able to sing and enjoy, without needing solid vocal pipes or accompanying musical splashes, hence they tend to be sung out loud more often.
There are a lot of great 'new' holiday-themed songs out there but based on popular demand, they'll probably never become classics. Music was a lot more limited in scope in the past, so there were only so many holiday songs or Christmas carols to learn and sing. This is what made them popular enough to tip over into the 'classics' territory over the decades.
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I’m sorry for your loss, Zina.
Depression and suicidal ideation is something that a lot of people struggle with. The easiest way to explain it, when going through an intensive episode (lasting either weeks or months or even years), is like swimming against a rip current. Every experience you have that confirms that running negative internal dialogue is like hooking a small weight onto your ankle. With each weight added, you have to swim harder. It’s absolutely exhausting and takes all of your effort to keep your head above water. It is a very scary place to be in because there is no logic or reasoning and sometimes it almost feels like there’s a rational part of you on the outside looking in, and yet feeling powerless to stop the momentum.
Sometimes we forget that, like an illness, there’s not always a magic cure. You could have supported and been there for your friend in every way possible, but sometimes it’s just not enough to turn the tide, so please don’t ever blame yourself for that. I know that it's difficult for many to understand how one could make such a choice. When you can’t swim anymore, you just want to stop. That place of permanent peace is like a ship on a dark stormy night, offering you shelter and a reprieve from the exhaustion of fighting those currents. Please know that it’s a choice that doesn’t come easily. Most people have no idea just when that person first hit the water, but it was likely far before anyone noticed them actually struggling.
Sometimes you don’t know until it’s too late. Similar to people with addictions, many people who suffer from depression have developed ways to hide what they’re going through or diminish their struggle because they don’t want to burden loved ones, bring others down or possibly even fully admit it to themselves either. Sometimes you can’t see it coming because as an outsider looking in, what they’re going through doesn’t always ‘seem that bad’ to warrant such an extreme choice. It might even look like they have a lot going for them, so how can their mind work in such dark ways? Sometimes they’re still smiling… and then one day, unexpectedly, they’re gone.
It’s important to reach our to your own support group to understand that grieving is healthy. In your friend’s case, I can’t imagine the added stress of dealing with a part of himself that doesn’t always garner the support it should in society. The fact that you understand his struggles and have lost a good friend as well as a mutual supporter makes it all the more difficult. Please reach out to others and know that people do care and understand, whether they have lost someone themselves, or whether they're the ones that are still in the water, fighting those currents.
I hope you do find a place of peace and healing, and I know that will take time.
Ashleigh xo
Depression and suicidal ideation is something that a lot of people struggle with. The easiest way to explain it, when going through an intensive episode (lasting either weeks or months or even years), is like swimming against a rip current. Every experience you have that confirms that running negative internal dialogue is like hooking a small weight onto your ankle. With each weight added, you have to swim harder. It’s absolutely exhausting and takes all of your effort to keep your head above water. It is a very scary place to be in because there is no logic or reasoning and sometimes it almost feels like there’s a rational part of you on the outside looking in, and yet feeling powerless to stop the momentum.
Sometimes we forget that, like an illness, there’s not always a magic cure. You could have supported and been there for your friend in every way possible, but sometimes it’s just not enough to turn the tide, so please don’t ever blame yourself for that. I know that it's difficult for many to understand how one could make such a choice. When you can’t swim anymore, you just want to stop. That place of permanent peace is like a ship on a dark stormy night, offering you shelter and a reprieve from the exhaustion of fighting those currents. Please know that it’s a choice that doesn’t come easily. Most people have no idea just when that person first hit the water, but it was likely far before anyone noticed them actually struggling.
Sometimes you don’t know until it’s too late. Similar to people with addictions, many people who suffer from depression have developed ways to hide what they’re going through or diminish their struggle because they don’t want to burden loved ones, bring others down or possibly even fully admit it to themselves either. Sometimes you can’t see it coming because as an outsider looking in, what they’re going through doesn’t always ‘seem that bad’ to warrant such an extreme choice. It might even look like they have a lot going for them, so how can their mind work in such dark ways? Sometimes they’re still smiling… and then one day, unexpectedly, they’re gone.
It’s important to reach our to your own support group to understand that grieving is healthy. In your friend’s case, I can’t imagine the added stress of dealing with a part of himself that doesn’t always garner the support it should in society. The fact that you understand his struggles and have lost a good friend as well as a mutual supporter makes it all the more difficult. Please reach out to others and know that people do care and understand, whether they have lost someone themselves, or whether they're the ones that are still in the water, fighting those currents.
I hope you do find a place of peace and healing, and I know that will take time.
Ashleigh xo
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If everyone who was in an unhappy marriage or relationship was authentic to their feelings and needs and dissolved those unions, there would be a lot more single people in the world and it wouldn't feel like you're the only one on a lonely street.
Since you were brave enough to start over again yourself, and were able to end a relationship where you didn't feel you could trust him, I'd actually say that you're a lot more emotionally healthy than many others who torture themselves in miserable relationships or keep holding onto that shred of belief that Mr Untrustworthy will change his ways. And let's face it - how many unhappy couples do we all know.
Try not to stress too much about it. I know that's easy to say and there are certain times of the year (holidays, V-day etc) where it feels a lot worse. I've had stretches of time of being single or just casually dating - there are plenty of upsides to that if you have a good social group. If your friends are all in the marriage bubble, try to branch out and meet some new people. Do some traveling - either on your own or with girlfriends or even a tour group if you're into that kind of thing.
It's important to be optimistic and hopeful of meeting someone that's good for you and falling in love and coupling up, but equally as important to be prepared to have a good time with life even if it doesn't happen. I think the pressure is what causes many to make bad decisions or hook up with the wrong person and then cling to the idea of 'maybe it's better to be in a couple and miserable than go at it alone'.
In my honest opinion, I believe there is more value in the *possibilities* of what's ahead vs being trapped in a situation that doesn't fulfill you. You may have many wonderful relationships that rise and fall naturally, interspersed with periods of being single and alone for a while. I'd still rather pick that, with shorter bursts of excitement and giddyness and love vs a lifetime of monotony or nothing special with the wrong partner.
The whole 'happily ever after' dream is a reality only for the minority of human beings. I just think society hasn't fully embraced the truth of that, despite climbing divorce and infidelity rates and the boom of the marriage counselling industry. Being single and independent doesn't always have to be a bad thing. Somewhere along the way of enjoying life, you will probably find someone you click with again anyway. Enjoy the connections as they come. But don't forget to enjoy your freedom too.
Since you were brave enough to start over again yourself, and were able to end a relationship where you didn't feel you could trust him, I'd actually say that you're a lot more emotionally healthy than many others who torture themselves in miserable relationships or keep holding onto that shred of belief that Mr Untrustworthy will change his ways. And let's face it - how many unhappy couples do we all know.
Try not to stress too much about it. I know that's easy to say and there are certain times of the year (holidays, V-day etc) where it feels a lot worse. I've had stretches of time of being single or just casually dating - there are plenty of upsides to that if you have a good social group. If your friends are all in the marriage bubble, try to branch out and meet some new people. Do some traveling - either on your own or with girlfriends or even a tour group if you're into that kind of thing.
It's important to be optimistic and hopeful of meeting someone that's good for you and falling in love and coupling up, but equally as important to be prepared to have a good time with life even if it doesn't happen. I think the pressure is what causes many to make bad decisions or hook up with the wrong person and then cling to the idea of 'maybe it's better to be in a couple and miserable than go at it alone'.
In my honest opinion, I believe there is more value in the *possibilities* of what's ahead vs being trapped in a situation that doesn't fulfill you. You may have many wonderful relationships that rise and fall naturally, interspersed with periods of being single and alone for a while. I'd still rather pick that, with shorter bursts of excitement and giddyness and love vs a lifetime of monotony or nothing special with the wrong partner.
The whole 'happily ever after' dream is a reality only for the minority of human beings. I just think society hasn't fully embraced the truth of that, despite climbing divorce and infidelity rates and the boom of the marriage counselling industry. Being single and independent doesn't always have to be a bad thing. Somewhere along the way of enjoying life, you will probably find someone you click with again anyway. Enjoy the connections as they come. But don't forget to enjoy your freedom too.
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Quote by nicola
This thread would have lent itself to a poll.
Definitely Red. I normally go for a glass (ok bottle!) of Cabernet Sauvignon or Shiraz.
It really depends on the accompanying food though. A Pinot Blanc is delicious with fresh oysters, for example. I tend to drink more white wine and champagne in the summer months.
I'm the same way. I don't drink much white wine, but if I do, it's always in the summer. And it's almost always Sauvignon Blanc - I find it more crisp and refreshing than some of the sweeter Chardonnays. I really dislike sweet wines.
When I have wine, 90% of the time it's red - mostly Cabs or Syrah/Shiraz. I love heavy, rich wines that have those dark chocolatey, oak, blackberry or leather overtones.
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Quote by lucybabee
Also the woman that The Governor was sleeping with and her daughter may try and join the group, they were the only survivors, and she didn't answer Rick when he shouted at her, they may try and say they didn't know he was like that etc, which in fairness they didn't... I don't see any other reason why they wouldn't of killed off atleast the younger one if they didnt have plans to have her in future episodes
Yeah, I quite like the younger sister character that froze up when the Governor killed Hershel and started blowing stuff up. She seems like she has a solid moral compass and could be an interesting character. It's a shame though, that just as they'd established a proper lesbian couple, they kill off her curly-haired girlfriend one episode later. Hopefully Tara sticks it out and becomes part of the regular cast. I think since both sisters weren't involved in any violence against Rick's group, they would be able to find a place among them, assuming that group can still exist, given how fragmented it is now.
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Quote by Wilful
lucybabee wrote:
"I was really surprised that Rick mentioned nothing in his speech, about how the Governor brutally murdered all of his last group in anger, only that they took in some of the survivors, or did I not hear it properly?"
Yeah, Rick's speech had some holes in it. He really needs to get himself off to Toastmasters. There's heaps more he could have said to win them over. But the Governor was going to snap his biscuit regardless, so it doesn't really matter. If it was me, I certainly would have tried to talk some reason into the group.
lucybabee wrote:
"Now that they are all split up into 5 different groups, do you think the rest of the season will be them all surviving in their own and gradually finding eachother? Or will they find eachother again and be stuck back in the same problem as season 2 when it was sooo slow with them trying to find a safe place to live?"
Hmm, good one. I think it'll be a combination of both. There's drama in the search for each other, and there's drama in the quest for a safe haven. My money's on some of them linking up quite quickly, but I think it'll take the rest of the season for them all to get together. There might be an opening for Carol to get back in with some of them though, which will certainly ratchet up the tension. And there's that rat baiter to deal with too.
I can't wait. I'm out of my mind!
I always assumed the rat-baiter is that little girl that Carol took over as a daughter-figure (can't remember her name). The one who wanted to act like the walkers were like 'pets' or still human in some way. It's possible she was trying to feed them like stray dogs because she'd humanized them in her mind.
Or maybe there's still a nutter in their midst.
I'm wondering what the major obstacle will be in this next season - like they had to overcome the walkers, then the governor, then the plague/flu. I haven't read the comics, but I read somewhere that there is some other group of survivors that become cannibals, called 'The Hunters' that factor into the comics? I'm wondering if they show up in the next season to become the new bad guys.
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Quote by Barry007
Noquite the contrary I just have sense enough to realize that women are sick and tired of hearing idiots like you wondering about dick size
Actually I get more sick of guys who insist on answering a question on behalf of the female gender and then getting the answer wrong.
As always... hate the question? Don't answer it. The easiest way to a stress-free forum existence.
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So... here's the deal on size:
Is there such a thing as too small? - yes.
Does size matter? - yes, to a degree.
The people who say it doesn't matter haven't been with a guy that was too small (it's only happened to me once, most guys usually hit at least average). The guy who was too small asked if I enjoyed the sex afterward. I assured him it was awesome. Even though it wasn't. So if he was in this thread, answering on behalf of all women, he'd probably also tell everyone that size doesn't matter at all and it's about his personality and intelligence. Most women aren't going to be mean about it and say anything outright, but we are going to be thinking "damn, he's small" *sad face* when we reach into your pants.
It's probably not the end of the world if you have a solid relationship going or there's real potential there. Some women care less than others about penetration. But yeah, contemplate intercourse using a tampon for the rest of your life. It does kinda matter. You can work around it, obviously, but it depends on the women and maybe the guys skills at oral and the way you mesh as a couple (if you're thinking long-term).
I don't think any woman really cares as much if a guy is at least average though. For example, whether he's 6 inches or 9 inches probably isn't a big deal. Although to be honest, if you're too big, anal might be off the table, so there's no sense in wishing for an overly big one.
Is there such a thing as too small? - yes.
Does size matter? - yes, to a degree.
The people who say it doesn't matter haven't been with a guy that was too small (it's only happened to me once, most guys usually hit at least average). The guy who was too small asked if I enjoyed the sex afterward. I assured him it was awesome. Even though it wasn't. So if he was in this thread, answering on behalf of all women, he'd probably also tell everyone that size doesn't matter at all and it's about his personality and intelligence. Most women aren't going to be mean about it and say anything outright, but we are going to be thinking "damn, he's small" *sad face* when we reach into your pants.
It's probably not the end of the world if you have a solid relationship going or there's real potential there. Some women care less than others about penetration. But yeah, contemplate intercourse using a tampon for the rest of your life. It does kinda matter. You can work around it, obviously, but it depends on the women and maybe the guys skills at oral and the way you mesh as a couple (if you're thinking long-term).
I don't think any woman really cares as much if a guy is at least average though. For example, whether he's 6 inches or 9 inches probably isn't a big deal. Although to be honest, if you're too big, anal might be off the table, so there's no sense in wishing for an overly big one.
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Quote by Mazza
What does that mean? "Not doing the things they should"?
I think he meant...
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You look beautiful and congrats on having the courage to make a smart decision. I know it must have been difficult but you are absolutely right - they are just teeth and really not such a big deal. Health always comes first and you have a great attitude!
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Technically it's cheating and probably not 'ok' unless you have her consent, but it's ultimately up to you if you're willing to risk the potential consequences. Only you can answer that.
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I got this one from a Mixologist as well.
It's very refreshing and nice and clean compared to the typical sangria recipes.
I'm thinking of making this same recipe over the holidays but instead of berries and mint, I'm thinking of maybe trying some muddled cranberries and fresh mint or even some pomegranate to keep it more 'holiday festive'.
White Berry-Mint Sangria
Mix the following into a pitcher:
Dry White Wine (full bottle)
Cointreau (1 ounce)
Pear Vodka (2-3 ounce)
Soda Water
Fresh berries (blueberries and raspberries)
Fresh torn mint
In terms of exact measuring, you can add more or less of any of the above to please your own taste palate.
It's very refreshing and nice and clean compared to the typical sangria recipes.
I'm thinking of making this same recipe over the holidays but instead of berries and mint, I'm thinking of maybe trying some muddled cranberries and fresh mint or even some pomegranate to keep it more 'holiday festive'.
White Berry-Mint Sangria
Mix the following into a pitcher:
Dry White Wine (full bottle)
Cointreau (1 ounce)
Pear Vodka (2-3 ounce)
Soda Water
Fresh berries (blueberries and raspberries)
Fresh torn mint
In terms of exact measuring, you can add more or less of any of the above to please your own taste palate.
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Damn Liz, you got some good ones!
These are a little more subtle, but:
Look at her eyes! No - not those eyes - the eyes on her face! Just an altogether ugly colour to put on at full blast all the way up her eyebrow.
And then some celeb bad choices that I think look awful:
And then this poor guy that obviously got a make-over while passed out... just for fun.
These are a little more subtle, but:
Look at her eyes! No - not those eyes - the eyes on her face! Just an altogether ugly colour to put on at full blast all the way up her eyebrow.
And then some celeb bad choices that I think look awful:
And then this poor guy that obviously got a make-over while passed out... just for fun.
Alpha Blonde
Sometimes you're in the midst of having some really crazy, dirty, porny sex and a facial just seems like the right way to cap it off.
I don't mind it on occasion, although I always have my mouth open so he has something to aim for. If a guy has good aim, some lands in my mouth, the rest on my face.
It's not something I'd want on a regular basis - just now and then - for fun.
I don't mind it on occasion, although I always have my mouth open so he has something to aim for. If a guy has good aim, some lands in my mouth, the rest on my face.
It's not something I'd want on a regular basis - just now and then - for fun.
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Quote by SereneProdigy
Is it really that hard to believe that some guys actually take care of their bodies and know how to fuck?
Actually every guy I know like this hates James Deen - even the ones that have similar sexual styles. I'm always expecting them to be pro-Deen because of the sex style and scenes he's in, but nope - they just don't take to him well - mainly because he doesn't look the part. It still always surprises me, although at this point I can kind of see it coming.
Two of the most popular porn stars in the business are James Deen and Manuel Ferrara. Look at how into the sex they are in their scenes and how genuinely turned on and orgasmic (in a non-faking way) the women often seem. There's eye contact and connection. It's like you forget the cameras are there. The guys are intense - they're not spaced out, being thrust-robots or fucking with one hand on a hip so the cameras can get in on that angle. That's why women respond to guys like this.
It's a shame more male porn stars don't take their lead and realize what will set them apart from the usual faceless studs in the business.
ps. The critical fit guys usually have less an issue with Manuel Ferrara - probably because he more fits the traditional 'hot guy' image compared to Deen.
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Quote by SereneProdigy
His dick is actually not that big, at least when compared to a lot of other pornstars. Probably around 7 inches or so, in my opinion. But that would be the ideal size for many women, so I envy him in that regard.
The porn industry claims 9 inches. I'm sure that's a bit exaggerated for marketing mystique.
It does look to be a nice one though.
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It's his attitude... he fucks girls the way they want to be fucked. As far as typical male porn stars go, he's quite intense and he knows dominant rough sex while still maintaining the passion and connection, rather than seeming detached, douchey or just in it for himself.
He is definitely not the typical porn star as far as looks go - I think he's on the shorter side and pretty lean so he's not the usual big, beefy guy you tend to see in porn, but that probably makes him more relatable to women as well. As you mentioned, he comes off like a fun guy too, so there's personality attraction. That might make more of a difference with women responding to male porn stars. Guys are probably drawn to the hottest girl, but male porn stars are a dime a dozen and they rarely feel distinctive or memorable. James Deen has done all the right things as far as marketing himself and coming across as a guy that would be fun to both fuck and hang out with.
He also has a big dick. Apparently the dildo modeled after him is a monster - I remember reading reviews where women who purchased it were overwhelmed by the size. I haven't seen it in person but it looks interesting.
He is definitely not the typical porn star as far as looks go - I think he's on the shorter side and pretty lean so he's not the usual big, beefy guy you tend to see in porn, but that probably makes him more relatable to women as well. As you mentioned, he comes off like a fun guy too, so there's personality attraction. That might make more of a difference with women responding to male porn stars. Guys are probably drawn to the hottest girl, but male porn stars are a dime a dozen and they rarely feel distinctive or memorable. James Deen has done all the right things as far as marketing himself and coming across as a guy that would be fun to both fuck and hang out with.
He also has a big dick. Apparently the dildo modeled after him is a monster - I remember reading reviews where women who purchased it were overwhelmed by the size. I haven't seen it in person but it looks interesting.
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I've dated and been in relationships with several different types, although there's been no progression of 'bad boy to nice guy.' I think that might make sense if one wanted real life stability (ie. kids, marriage etc.). Some guys are just more risk averse than others when it comes to long-term relationships. Not that there's any guarantees.
I do think it's important to get involved with different types of guys during the 'dating years' so that you know what you want and what you don't want and so you're not left with those 'what if's' when you make a commitment. I came close to an engagement at one point and he was everything I thought I wanted... up until I met someone else and realized that I wanted to take a gamble on someone who was totally different. That kind of life experience when it comes to love and passion is invaluable.
I do think it's important to get involved with different types of guys during the 'dating years' so that you know what you want and what you don't want and so you're not left with those 'what if's' when you make a commitment. I came close to an engagement at one point and he was everything I thought I wanted... up until I met someone else and realized that I wanted to take a gamble on someone who was totally different. That kind of life experience when it comes to love and passion is invaluable.
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Quote by SuccubusDreams
Lol I didn't say a vibrator. Any toy qualifies. Though a remote bullet is fun since you can turn it on or off when its convenient.
It's still not my thing. As I said, I've done the buttplug and remote egg for a few hours at a time, usually with a partner involved in some way. It's fun in small doses, but then I need to get stuff done and I'd rather have my internals be gadget-free if I'm not lubed or focused on sex or being aroused. Plus it would be annoying to have to use the bathroom throughout the day (ie. removals/reinsertion without lube, accidentally having something fall out or get dirty). I love my play time - but just not for that length of time. I'm also one of those rare types that can orgasm without manual stimulation or toys involved if I'm really turned on, so I can still be 'au natural' with public play and get off if I wanted to.
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Quote by SereneProdigy
I really hope that post wasn't any serious...
LOL... No that's just our Steph.
Don't believe him about the bars of soap. He just likes the oral visuals and all that soapy liquid dripping down our chins.
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Quote by BlondeBookworm
Yeah, I like to wear skinny jeans and jeggings with boots.
I buy all of my jeans at American Eagle. Their jeggings are stretchy and pretty comfortable for me.
Did you see their Cyber Monday deal today? Everything is 50% off and free shipping - you can get them for like $23 til midnight tonight. Total steal!
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Quote by JohnC
To be fair, I don't think anyone KNEW that. ;) And was it possible to place it in the appropriate STICKY thread? Just wondering.
With that said, being that the forum has clearly laid out sections, I don't really know if you actually made the OP look better, or worse.It kind of supports what I said above.
No. It was not possible to place it into a sticky. I simply moved it to a section that was more on-topic.
Apologies if the mere existence of this forum thread has raised anyone's blood pressure.
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Quote by JohnC
I think some of the feelings in this thread may not be simply trying to gang up on a new member, or to bash anyone; but instead that it (the OPs post) shows complete selfishness and not caring about the forum in general to make such a lengthy post (and thread of its own) when clearly there is a STICKY thread dedicated to this topic. I for one don't buy the idea that someone might not understand basic forum etiquette and practices concerning SEARCH and STICKY.
To be fair - this thread was originally posted in another section of the forum. I moved it to the BDSM section.
I also agree with Ravyn's post.
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He's such a cutie. He sounds really happy too.
I love how youtube and twitter has allowed celebs and public figures more control over how they address fans and the general public. You can give an interview to the media and many will find a way to twist the story and misquote to get splashier headlines. This is the perfect way to just be real and say something the way you want to.
I love how youtube and twitter has allowed celebs and public figures more control over how they address fans and the general public. You can give an interview to the media and many will find a way to twist the story and misquote to get splashier headlines. This is the perfect way to just be real and say something the way you want to.