Salad and raw veggies. Time for that post-holiday food detox. I definitely ate (and drank) too much this year.
No. When I delete, it's usually for a reason, meaning that I can say it better or the concept doesn't work. I haven't written and then deleted an entire sex scene yet, but if it was a substantial scene I'd put thought into but then dropped it from a particular story because it didn't quite work, I can see myself maybe saving it for future ideas/stories. It just hasn't happened yet for me. I delete everything I edit out.
Jaw-dropping. Loved looking at these. The polar bear one in particular is just fantastic. Right time, right place = pure magic.
An egg-white omelette, folded over and stuffed with cottage cheese and alfalfa sprouts. A slice of papaya with a dollop of yogurt on the side.
I honestly think it depends on why you're here. If you're just here to read/write stories and play around in the forums, I don't think it's a big deal to keep it to yourself. It's just another social network. Unless you're the type of couple to always monitor each other's online activity and trade facebook passwords, then I don't see writing, reading and posting stuff online, regardless of the forum or website, to be cause for alarm.
If you're here to cyber, look for an online relationship or do the chatroom scene, there are more implications for deception. If you think it would bother your GF, then it's probably a sketchy thing to do.
As Belle said, he's just looking for a casual hook-up.
He's basically told you that for an actual relationship, proximity is really important to him. Because he's already told you this, he will asume that you know that whatever happens between you won't be leading anywhere. He's kind of giving you a heads-up incase you might be thinking his affections could lead to something more committed.
As for how you should act - it depends on whether you're fine with something casual. If you think your feelings could get involved or hurt, I'd take a step back and give him the impression that you want to keep things platonic.
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I think committed means you take your partner's needs and wants into consideration before making decisions that have the potential to affect you as a couple. You're thinking as 'we' more than just acting on individual wants when it comes to sex, flirting and monogamy.
I can't define it by drawing a line at 'monogamy' though. Each couple is different and have different needs/wants and expectations of their partner. Some encourage flirting, some might be open to threesomes or swinging or more.
You can be committed emotionally (ie. love) but then have a different outlook on recreational sex. This has to be mutual though. As long as there's no deception involved and a feeling that the person you're with comes above all others in some way, then I think you can consider yourself 'committed'.
In my opinion... nope.
As others have said, you can grow to appreciate them and maybe even love them in a 'comfortable way' - but passion needs that bit of spark and if you've spent some time with them (ie. a couple of dates) and it's not there, I wouldn't bother, unless you're just looking for one of those 'safe relationships'. Problem is, inevitably you will come across someone that you do have an immediate spark with and that will be difficult to resist and turn away from.
One of my absolute favourites - Thai green mango salad.
I just saw this the other day and was blown away. She did a fantastic job with it - it was very raw, gritty with so many smaller quiet moments that still linger in the head long after the credits roll. I thought the script was really complex as well - taking on a narrative that was part love story, part power exploitation and part war movie. I absolutely did NOT see that ending coming either. As on the edge of my seat as I was for the entire duration of the film, my assumptions about the inner workings and morality of Danijel and Ajla really hadn't gone to the possibility of where it actually ended up going. I think that's what messes with your head and keeps you thinking about it (as a viewer) for quite some time after.
I have always been a Jolie fan, and expected nothing less than greatness and I thought her directorial debut surpassed my expectations.
With the endlessly flakey people in Hollywood she has always stood out as a humanitarian giant and someone who puts her money where her mouth is. She always gets my respect and admiration (and girly crushes).
Well, I wrote a story about escorting (with a sequel), so I can't say it's never crossed my mind in fantasy form.
I've occasionally been mistaken as one in certain venues and hotel bars and been offered $, but when it comes down to it, it's not my thing. I do have a couple of friends who escort and it's definitely not as glam as it might appear at first glance - even when there's a lot of money/trips on the table.
So - yes, to the fantasy scenario and the idea of being a dirty thing for pay to an already appealing client. But, no to the real life vocation.
I know a few couples that have done the 'hall pass' thing. All of them are broken up at this point. I'm not saying it can't be done, but you have to almost have the mindset from the beginning. If one person is talking the other into it, pushing the agenda or doing it to 'save' a boring/dying relationship, then the relationship is doomed to fail in the long-term.
It adds a lot of complications, so you have to have a strong base to your relationship and be confident in your attitude and outlook on the failures of monogamy. I think doing the swinger thing or threesome/group sex thing is more palatable to most couples. The 'hall pass' idea is very hands-off, so more trust is required.
It's an easy thing to default to if you're no longer sexually interested in your spouse, but still want to stay in the marriage. That's more of a passive version of a 'hall pass' though. You're not emotionally invested in the same way.
