Generally 23-27 - post-college but pre-marriage. All my characters are typically mid-to-late twenty'ish. They're either living on their own, with roommates or with a BF/GF and basically establishing themselves and exploring. I think these things can create interesting conflict for characters. I like the mix of relationships vs. the single life and monogamy vs sexual adventure. It's also what I can relate to best in my own life.
I function on 5-6 but would LOVE 8 hrs or more. Unfortunately I don't typically sleep in on weekends either - my body is just wired to wake-up once I get into a routine. On the occasions where I do end up getting more sleep though, I do feel much better.
I am also a believer in the 15-30 min power-nap if you can get that bit of down-time - especially if you plan to be up late or are going out etc.
Not unless it was pre-established that we were into that kind of thing. You don't want to just drop that bomb on someone once they're a couple of drinks in on a random Friday night - "hey hon - why don't you go suck his dick. I dare you."
That kind of thing usually needs at least a bit of conversation/discussion beforehand. Start with sharing fantasies like this, see how she responds, and then if you can see that it turns her on or she might be into it, then you can look for opportunities and make suggestions.
If you're close friends with the guy, you could casually ask him what's up. Obviously she's very insecure by nature, but certain types of guys also like to provoke this or casually joke around about their 'hot' female friends with GF's too to keep them on their toes or even to keep the relationship at a certain 'non-intense' level. It could be that this has backfired and now she's just ultra-clingy or uncertain about their relationship. Plus she may have some major cheating-baggage from a past relationship.
I wouldn't say anything to her directly, other than when you're hanging out, try to casually reinforce how her man is such a great buddy and how he's totally not your type or he's helped give you great advice about guys in the past, or he's a great 'wing-man' to you in the bars etc. Basically just subtly reassuring her that you have zero interest in him and that it's mutual. You can kind of work this into random natural convos in subtle ways without coming right out and making it obvious. The more of a solid 'girl/girl' friend vibe that you're able to establish with her, the more she's going to feel comfortable with you in general. I know it seems like a lot of work. I've done this in the past myself.
Otherwise, I'd just let it play out. I don't know how serious it is, but if it's more of a casual relationship, things will probably blow over in a few months anyway. Eventually it will start to piss him off and he will address it with her. You can't have a functional relationship when one person is that paranoid and suspicious.
A clitoral orgasm is more 'shallow' than a g-spot vaginal orgasm. The best is when you are stimulating both, either through penetration and fingers on the clit at the same time or using a toy. If I'm just masturbating I use a toy that has an internal component and an arm that wedges against my clit (the Lelo Soraya). That's my fave way to have a orgasm while solo. If I'm just going for a quickie, I might opt for just clit-stimulation, either by another smaller/portable toy or using my fingers. I do like penetration though - either by fucking or just something that's hitting my g-spot (fingers or a toy). It's even better on a full bladder for me - I think the pressure increases the sensitivity.
Based on what you're looking for, I think you need to keep it a little more casual. As someone else said - it's like you're trying too hard. In a personal ad looking for sex, this makes you come across as either a serial killer or just desperate. You want to sound more cool and chill. Just use the right words - people will know what you're looking for.
"Bi-male, 24 y/o, athletic build, seeks NSA fun. No drama, no posers. Pics on request."
Put it up on Craig's List. Let us know how it works out.
I think sexual compatibility comes into play here. If it would please me to have a guy be rough and fuck me hard and make me his dirty little whore, would that be pleasing me or him? Hopefully both, but it would probably bother me if the guy wasn't into this at all and always had to do something that wasn't natural for him when it came to sex. If I wanted to sneak in behind him in a public bathroom at a dark bar and suck him off or pull up my skirt and get into the dirty talk, that still might be pleasing me if he feels awkward about public sex or isn't into it. So in general - I am happiest when we have mutual shared fantasies and sexual tendencies.
I've been with guys where we've been out of synch this way and it can be frustrating. In those cases, I'm probably the type to push the pace at first (to please me) but if he's not into that kind of thing, I'm not going to force it, so in the end I guess it's still about him.
As far as strictly just the physical goes - I do tend to enjoy being dominated (not always but definitely more than equal 'this or that'), so I guess I would pick pleasing him. It inadvertently ends up pleasing me anyway - just in a different way than focusing on my orgasm. I think this is where the energy is important. If it's just a guy that expects to passively lay on his back, enjoy his own pleasure and have me do all the work, that would not be fun for me. If he's active and the intensity is there, the same sex acts can be equally as exciting for the giver. It's kind of the difference between being sexually dominant vs selfishly passive. The guy is getting pleasure in both scenarios but for the girl - one is appealing and the other is boring.
