Ah, puppyhood. They are really sooooo adorable at that age. And very much all about snuggling up like that.
I might try this! Every second period I'm more crampy than usual - I actually go into this spacey type fog for about two days as well. For whatever reason, I'm always forgetting to buy Midol - probably because when I go to the drug store I'm never cramping so it slips my mind or I figure meh - it won't be so bad.
I have no idea where the line is really drawn. I think saying 'vanilla sex' is basically what people term as anything below their particular kink level. It's kind of like a casual insult with a solid dose of arrogance - "pffft - you're so vanilla and I am way kinkier than you". And then, of course, anything more extreme than what they're into is deemed as freaky or fucked up, so everyone who uses that term thinks that they're at exactly the right level of 'cool kink'.
Even though it's used in the BDSM world, there are also various levels within that community as well. I'm sure someone who takes BSDM to a fringe extreme also thinks there are plenty of 'vanilla BDSM'ers' as well. And maybe those who enjoy the things that are forbidden by Lush rules would think that all of us, including the BDSM crowd are vanilla.
In a way, it's kind of like sexual elitism.
I wear very short skirts or dresses if i'm clubbing but it's all situation appropriate. They are not totally trash-tastic either - I like to keep it hot but classy.
Love the shorts for the beach or working out or just when you're keeping it casual/sexy during the day or at a resort bar.
If I saw someone walking toward me on the street, the first things I'll notice is his build and his stride - the way he moves and the vibe he puts off.
I thought last night's attack episode was pretty explicit by Discovery channel standards. I don't remember them showing so much blood and spaghetti-muscle in the past.
I've always thought the case of that one surfer who was attacked by two great whites randomly honing in on him at exactly the same time was pretty crazy. I mean what are the odds, right? And then he's involved in a third great white attack a few months later? I would have started feeling like I was in a Final Destination moment!
I don't really profile surf unless I see their posts in the forum - so from there, it's either an eye-catching avatar (whether it's real or a representation or something funny/random doesn't matter to me) or something they've said in their posts that sounds interesting and I might take a peak at their profile.
Once I'm on a profile - I think others have already hit on the big points - someone that seems like a real person, can string sentences together, has put some effort into their profile, and someone that seems fun or comes across as someone you might vibe with.
I don't send a lot of friend-adds - usually we'd have had to interact on some level (even just exchanging a few words) for me to send them, but I'm not at all picky with accepting them. The writing component of the site is a huge reason as to why I'm here, so anyone that has read my stories, liked them or enjoyed my forum posts - I'll accept them all. In terms of actual friendships though, beyond just being on each other's lists - it feels like it has to happen in a more organic way for me. The people I talk to regularly have been friendships that have developed naturally over time or because of a common vibe.
I have noticed in my time on Lush that the faster the hook-up, the harder the fall. I think that people sometimes rush into things without really getting to know the other person in a natural way. And if you only keep it online, I think the connection should develop even slower than it would in real life. I've seen profiles where a person has only been here a week before they are declaring their 'love' for someone and changing their relationship status. I mean how well can you even know someone in such a short period of time - especially if both people are bypassing the normal 'connection time' in favour of that drug-like high of feeling 'loved' and 'wanted.' With this outlook, it's easy to fall prey to people who are just looking to dick around with someone's emotions and have a little mini-vacay from their own reality. It's easy to cast the smoke and mirrors for short periods of time but when the initial euphoria of excitement settles down a bit, the players will bail because it starts to become more work than fun.
I feel compassion for those that have been hurt in these ways, but my advice would always be to keep perspective and take it slow with the emotions. Let things happen naturally. And if you come across a guy or a girl who is tripping on saying "I love you" when they barely know you and delving right into some kind of intense 'relationship' - especially the kind that involves putting rules and limitations on your real life time and freedom, please be very cautious and skeptical.
Take your time and really get to know someone before you jump in with both feet. And also - if you only intend on keeping it online, it's important to be realistic about the fate of your connection - the 'players' are very aware of this and are grateful that it's much easier to disappear online than in real life. It's all gratification for them and then when they're done - they just move on and let the chips fall where they may. Their parting thoughts are probably along the lines of "well, we were role playing, weren't we? I thought you knew that too." They are either clueless about the pain they might have caused someone who really *was* invested in it or they are just too cowardly to be respectful about handling a 'breakup' and look for the easiest way out. Most people that have been hurt will probably be able to look back on it and see the warning signs they chose to dismiss. Listen carefully to your gut feeling and intuition along the way - they're usually right.
I only let myself get very close to one guy I originally connected with on here and years later we are still very close (in an offline way).
Just remember to take your time and don't drop your defences and don't be too eager to drink the kool-aid. Your time is valuable, and someone should be willing (and interested) in earning your respect and the right to become part of your world - that goes for both online and off.
I actually prefer people around my own age or close to it. All my main relationships were guys that were around 2-4 yrs older.
Overall, for a relationship, I'd be fine with 5 yrs younger up to 10 yrs older with maybe the odd exception if there's strong attraction and chemistry. It's not a hard rule, but more just a general preference and what I look for.
If I'm single when I'm older I'll bet I relax that '5 yrs younger' bit and stretch it to 10 yrs on either side though.
