I never can remember the name but that new Beau Bridges comedy will at least get a look.
The only other things are returning series:
Criminal Minds
Survivor
Homeland
American Horror Story
Law & Order: SVU
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Never a full body shot with face and all, but have sent out various bits and pieces of me through the years.
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Quote by TeilaWolfe
For me, bi-curious means not attracted to the same sex in a sexual way but willing to do sexual activities with the same sex just for fun without looking for a relationship. In other words, Can have fun with but not wanting a relationship with someone of the same sex. That's my personal opinion.
My only problem with that thought is how do u have sex with someone you are not attracted to? The whole part of getting excited enough to have sex with someone is that you are attracted to them and want to do have sex with them.
The whole words bisexual - homosexual - heterosexual -- all have "SEXUAL" in common. That to me lends to think they are referring to the sexual part and not particular a relationship beyond the sexual.
There are many str8 people who just want to have sex and not looking for a relationship. Are they just hetero-curious.
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Thanks everyone for the comments and advice.
We are talking tonight.
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Quote by PersonalAssistant
To me the solution is easy ....
Delete. I love delete.
Delete her from your phone - any texts or numbers you don't know (suspect from her) delete. Do NOT answer it .... if she leaves a voicemail .... delete. Easy peasy.
Eventually she will give up unless she a psycho. Most people do not like rejection. If she comes OVER to your place, grab your keys and say .... was just going out - take care. Do NOT make a date to get together later.
Go find yourself a new sex buddy that rocks your world. And, I suggest, you should at least LIKE the fuck buddy a bit - makes things a little easier.
You're welcome.
That part is easy. I don't even have a cell phone -- so there are no text messages. I don't have a Facebook -- so no delete there.
Other than a few times that we have planned to get together -- the majority of times together are just when we happen to run into each other at the bar. Before this weekend I hadn't even talked to her or seen her for 3 weeks.
Everything is really casual.
Most of it as I said is me venting. Seeing if others have been in a similar situation. And I am sure some of it may be a bit of a guilty conscience that I might be using her. When maybe she is using me. Who knows.
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Quote by SereneProdigy
Sorry to say, but there's a lot of contradiction in what you're saying. Have you told her or not? If you told her you don't want to ever establish a relationship, it pretty much implies you don't want to get involved with her now or later. If you feel it's not clear in her mind, just explain it to her more explicitly.
You are just seeing a contradiction. I have stated many times what I have told her.
Have you not ever told someone something and wonder if they fully understand?
Maybe she does and maybe she doesn't. I know she understands there is nothing more happening now. I have told her that over and over.
I do not want to bring the subject up with her again as one if she asks why I will have to either lie to her or tell her the truth. I do not want to hurt her feelings. I also don't want her to think by me bringing it up that I do want more somewhere down the road.
A lot of it is me wondering and venting.
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Quote by Kinky_Becky
Interesting takes. I've always been attracted to more open people and over the years I've had a lot of people tell me they often wonder what it would be like to be with someone of the same sex, even though they have no physical attraction to them. For example, a man who wonders what it would be like to suck a cock, even though they find other men unappealing. I've even used a strap-on on a few of them. Ironically, it still leaves them wondering because it's not a real cock, and I can understand that. After all, sucking a piece of plastic is nothing compared to having a cock throbbing and pulsating in your hand and mouth, you know, being to actually make someone else cum and have that sense of accomplishment.
Those are the people I've always considered bi-curious. I figure if you only like the opposite sex you are heterosexual. You can be a virgin and be heterosexual, so why can't you be a virgin and be bisexual? If you are a guy and attracted to men only, you're gay; if you're attracted to both, you're bisexual, whether you are a virgin or a complete and total man-whore. But since they are heterosexual (based on attraction) with a bit of sexual curiosity for the same sex/genitalia, I always took it that those individuals were more deserving of that title.
I still believe that everyone should be able to categorize themselves however they wish.
Excellent points.
As far as the strap-on thing, I have known many str8 men who love for the girls to use a strap-on on them but they have no attraction at all to another man and no desire to have a real cock.
So I firmly hold the belief that a str8 man can full enjoy that and still be str8.
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I'll say it again....I have told her point blank that I do not want a relationship. She knows that. I have made that clear to her. My last two relationships including 5 years of marriage ended really bad. I do not want to even face the possibility of that again for awhile.
I am just not sure that she knows that there will probably never be. And it has nothing to do with when or if I want a relationship. She has never asked me if I think there can be more later. I just think in the back of my mind that she thinks there will be.
Maybe I am just thinking wrong and don't want to bring it up because I am afraid she will ask why.
As it is right now she knows I see other people and she sees a lot of guys and girls too. Sometimes we even go weeks in between seeing or talking. And then we'll hook up a few times in the same week.
I am just not sure that she knows that there will probably never be. And it has nothing to do with when or if I want a relationship. She has never asked me if I think there can be more later. I just think in the back of my mind that she thinks there will be.
Maybe I am just thinking wrong and don't want to bring it up because I am afraid she will ask why.
As it is right now she knows I see other people and she sees a lot of guys and girls too. Sometimes we even go weeks in between seeing or talking. And then we'll hook up a few times in the same week.
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Quote by seeker4
Which has never been my understanding of the term. To me, it's always meant curious to try but haven't done so, thus not sure if "bisexual" really fits or not. Me, in other words. Once I get it on with a guy and enjoy it, I'll happily change my orientation label to bisexual because then I won't need to be curious about it anymore.
I agree with you.
I think curious fits for those guys or girls who are just wondering.
As I said in another thread though I think a person can be gay or bisexual and not ever have sex though.
Sometimes you just know the same way that a str8 person knows they are straight.
I knew I was bisexual even before I ever had sex the first time. The only thing that held me back from practicing was my fear that someone would find out. But I knew that when I saw a naked woman I wanted her but when I saw a naked man I wanted him too.
But there are some people who are not so sure. And I feel that curious fits those people.
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Quote by StylisX
I know I clearly don't have enough experience in this scenario, however you have mentioned that she has a son and is looking for a Husband and a Father for him. I think this point is quite important. Depending on how old the child is, I would say that you shouldn't be in this relationship mainly because if your not looking to stick around then dont let the son get attached to you.
Regardless of the above, if she is looking for the relationship and your not, and even based on what you have said about not being able to stand her when your outside the bedroom, I have to question how happy you really are with her. Sure she is good in bed, but if thats all there is too it and you both see different futures with each other, why continue?
But I shall reiterate, I dont think I have enough experience in this area with women that have children. This is just my opinion.
Just tell her whats really on your mind before things get too out of hand.
That would never be a problem. I have done the Big Brother program in this area since I was 20 years old (14 years now). But so far I have no interaction with the boy at all. We only get together when the little boy is spending time with his dad or his grandparents.
I would never do that to a child and as I said I have told her point blank that I am not looking for anything. The only thing I have not been honest with her is that there may never be more between us. She hasn't asked and I haven't volunteered. If she ever pushed the subject I would tell her.
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A few months back I picked up a girl at my local hangout (bar). I didn't really like her when I met her but she was hot and I was horny. I figured what the hell, count it up as a one night stand.
Well several months later, we are still dating and still fucking. She is wild in bed. Loves 3somes and we have had a few. Loves roleplay, rough sex, loves to use a strap on, gives great head, into anal, and so forth. She is one of the best lays I have ever had.
But outside the bedroom, I can hardly stand to be around her. We have nothing in common plus at times she is just downright rude. We go out and she is constantly demeaning to waitresses, etc. She hates anything to do with the outdoors. It's hard to even watch a movie with her. If it is not some sappy love story or chick flick she refuses to watch it.
I am not really looking for a relationship. But she is. I know right now I don't want to go further. She has a son and is looking for a husband and dad for him. I have been honest with her that it is not what I am looking for but I have never told her that I don't think with her it would ever happen anyway. It is just kind of out there.
I feel guilty at times for enjoying the sex so much, and for leading her on in a sense. But then again I don't know how to tell her I just don't like her as a person. I have always believed you like a person for who they are and not try to change them.
Anyone ever been in this type of situation and how did you handle it?
Well several months later, we are still dating and still fucking. She is wild in bed. Loves 3somes and we have had a few. Loves roleplay, rough sex, loves to use a strap on, gives great head, into anal, and so forth. She is one of the best lays I have ever had.
But outside the bedroom, I can hardly stand to be around her. We have nothing in common plus at times she is just downright rude. We go out and she is constantly demeaning to waitresses, etc. She hates anything to do with the outdoors. It's hard to even watch a movie with her. If it is not some sappy love story or chick flick she refuses to watch it.
I am not really looking for a relationship. But she is. I know right now I don't want to go further. She has a son and is looking for a husband and dad for him. I have been honest with her that it is not what I am looking for but I have never told her that I don't think with her it would ever happen anyway. It is just kind of out there.
I feel guilty at times for enjoying the sex so much, and for leading her on in a sense. But then again I don't know how to tell her I just don't like her as a person. I have always believed you like a person for who they are and not try to change them.
Anyone ever been in this type of situation and how did you handle it?
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I know many on here hold the belief that bi-curious can be anyone who has sex with the opposite sex but doesn't want a relationship with them.
I hold the same as those above and just hold that the word curious defines it. If you curious about something that means you wonder how it feels, what it would be like. If you have already done it how can you still be curious about it?
I think it becomes a comfort thing for some folks. They have done it and liked it and would do it again, but hey it sounds better saying I am bi-curious. Like a straight guy who has done it and knows he will do it again. But still can't admit that he is bisexual just yet.
I hold the same as those above and just hold that the word curious defines it. If you curious about something that means you wonder how it feels, what it would be like. If you have already done it how can you still be curious about it?
I think it becomes a comfort thing for some folks. They have done it and liked it and would do it again, but hey it sounds better saying I am bi-curious. Like a straight guy who has done it and knows he will do it again. But still can't admit that he is bisexual just yet.
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I don't see why not. A heterosexual person can give up other men and women during marriage. No not all of them but yes many can do it and remain faithful to their spouses. It depends on your level of commitment. Yes it is hard, but you have to choose what you want in your life and how important your relationship is.
I was married for 5 years to a wonderful woman. For those 5 years I was faithful to her...no other men or women except for one brief encounter that was dictated by her in the first year of our marriage. She wanted to try a 3some and she chose one of her friends from college to experiment with. We had our 1 and only adventure outside our relationship with a girl friend of hers. My wife did not enjoy it and we never did it again.
Our relationship ended but it had nothing to do with infidelity or the sex or lack of any part.
I was married for 5 years to a wonderful woman. For those 5 years I was faithful to her...no other men or women except for one brief encounter that was dictated by her in the first year of our marriage. She wanted to try a 3some and she chose one of her friends from college to experiment with. We had our 1 and only adventure outside our relationship with a girl friend of hers. My wife did not enjoy it and we never did it again.
Our relationship ended but it had nothing to do with infidelity or the sex or lack of any part.
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Any of the Michael Moore documentaries
The Twilight movies
Really sappy disease of the week type movies
Avatar
The Harry Potter movies
Any horror movie series that goes past parts 3 or 4
The Twilight movies
Really sappy disease of the week type movies
Avatar
The Harry Potter movies
Any horror movie series that goes past parts 3 or 4
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As Metilda said the actions are all the same. You brought up fellatio it always involves the mouth and the penis, but just like every blowjob in real life is not the same you don't have to write it the same.
Not just the place can be different or in a story the characters are sometimes different. But even with partners you sometimes have to change things up. If in a relationship you do things the same way every time over and over it gets boring. So you change it up.
Fellatio can be performed on your knees with him standing up, in a 69 position, sometimes with your eyes closed, eyes open, sometimes he lets you control the action, sometimes he wants to be more involved with more thrusting, and so forth.
You use the emotions, the excitement, the positions, etc. to change up what is basically the same action. And also each time you write what is a similar scene you don't have to include the same action. Leave it open and let the reader imagine what might have happened.
I read a series of stories recently by an author and almost every sex scene this author wrote included taking the condom off after sex with the same wording... they reached over and took some tissues off the bedside table and used it to remove the condom and then the partner leaned in to suck off any remnants of the lovers juices. It just got boring and repetitive.
Not just the place can be different or in a story the characters are sometimes different. But even with partners you sometimes have to change things up. If in a relationship you do things the same way every time over and over it gets boring. So you change it up.
Fellatio can be performed on your knees with him standing up, in a 69 position, sometimes with your eyes closed, eyes open, sometimes he lets you control the action, sometimes he wants to be more involved with more thrusting, and so forth.
You use the emotions, the excitement, the positions, etc. to change up what is basically the same action. And also each time you write what is a similar scene you don't have to include the same action. Leave it open and let the reader imagine what might have happened.
I read a series of stories recently by an author and almost every sex scene this author wrote included taking the condom off after sex with the same wording... they reached over and took some tissues off the bedside table and used it to remove the condom and then the partner leaned in to suck off any remnants of the lovers juices. It just got boring and repetitive.
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I never have been in a gay bar. Of course don't pick up too many guys in a str8 bar here in the south, but I am always receptive to both sexes.
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Love to do it. Have done it many times camping. One of my male fuck buddies also loves it. We especially love to go hiking and often skinny dip which usually leads to sex. We have only been almost caught a few times. One time did get caught by a nice lady who joined us.
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I guess I am a tough scorer to some degree.
I don't give 5's too easy, but I do give out a lot of 4s. The majority of stories I score get 4. I reserve the 5 for the stories I find exceptional.
As someone else said a few grammar or typos don't bother me but when they get to the point that it interferes with the flow then it bothers me. Or if I have to stop to figure out what they actually meant there.
I have never given a 1. Only a 2 once or twice and the story was just really bad. I have given 3's just when the story is that -- average.
Since I am scoring erotic stories my biggest thing is I have at least got to get a tingle. If the story is great but just has no erotic appeal then I feel as far as this site goes they missed the point. I would probably score it higher on another site but number 1 the stories have got to be erotic or hot.
The only thing that really bothers me since I follow a lot of authors and read their full set of stories -- I hate when an author just seems to follow a cookie cutter formula in writing. All of their stories have no variety, etc. I recently read through one authors stories and every sex scene just seemed to be the same in each story with a new set of character names.
And I really hate when an author does a series but in some of the chapters it seems nothing really happens. It's like watching a 3 hour movie where the 2nd hour could have been cut out and the story still been as good.
I don't give 5's too easy, but I do give out a lot of 4s. The majority of stories I score get 4. I reserve the 5 for the stories I find exceptional.
As someone else said a few grammar or typos don't bother me but when they get to the point that it interferes with the flow then it bothers me. Or if I have to stop to figure out what they actually meant there.
I have never given a 1. Only a 2 once or twice and the story was just really bad. I have given 3's just when the story is that -- average.
Since I am scoring erotic stories my biggest thing is I have at least got to get a tingle. If the story is great but just has no erotic appeal then I feel as far as this site goes they missed the point. I would probably score it higher on another site but number 1 the stories have got to be erotic or hot.
The only thing that really bothers me since I follow a lot of authors and read their full set of stories -- I hate when an author just seems to follow a cookie cutter formula in writing. All of their stories have no variety, etc. I recently read through one authors stories and every sex scene just seemed to be the same in each story with a new set of character names.
And I really hate when an author does a series but in some of the chapters it seems nothing really happens. It's like watching a 3 hour movie where the 2nd hour could have been cut out and the story still been as good.
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Yes I have -- not a common occurrence but has happened often.
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Quote by BiMale73
OK, I guess that could be one definition. But there are a lot of people, here and elsewhere, that claim to have done the experimenting but still call themselves bi-curious. It seems that bi-curious and bisexual often means the same, but some people just prefer one term over the other to describe their own sexuality.
And why are there no such terms as BDSM-curious, milf-curious or trans-curious? Just askin'
I hold that my first thing I said and the 2nd are still the same.
You can know you are bisexual or heterosexual or whatever and not have had sex.
But you can also be in a stage where you are curious about it too or even confused. You might think you are attracted to guys and want to explore it but you are not sure until you try.
You might be interested in BDSM but not sure if you want to or not -- so you are curious about it.
As far as what you say about people preferring to say bi-curious instead of bisexual. There are a lot of gay or bisexual guys out there too that prefer to say they are straight. But does that make it so?
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I never realized how much I miss the Timeline feature until it is not there.
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Quote by BiMale73
That would mean virgins can't be hetero-, bi- or homosexual then? I'm not sure everyone agrees on that.
No it does not. A person can be any of those things without ever having had to have sex in any of those categories.
Many gay guys know they are gay even before they have ever have sex with another man. It is because attraction to women does nothing for them, but they know they are attracted to men. The same for gay women. Women turn them on even before they have sex.
I knew I was bisexual even before I ever had sex with anyone. I got turned on by both men and women. It didn't matter.
A person who is 100% heterosexual doesn't have to have had sex to know they are heterosexual.
I did a google search on the term "what does bi-curious mean" and this is what the general answer on quite a few sites says:
Bi-curious is when you do not know if you are straight or lesbian/gay or just plain bisexual. It's the experimental kind of stage. Myself I went through it and I am bisexual. You can decide by yourself what you become. (this is from wiki.answers.com)
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The basic definition of curious means eager to learn or know; inquisitive.
You add the word bi to curious. It just means you are eager to learn what it is like or to know.
If you have already had sex with someone of the opposite sex then you should know if you liked it or not. You should no longer just be curious about it.
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I don't understand why people are confused over what it is to bi-curious and bisexual.
Bisexual simply put means you have had sex with both the same sex and the opposite sex and would do it again. It is normal practice for you.
Bi-curious simply means that at this point you are curious about what it would be like to have sex with the same sex (man on man or woman on woman) but you haven't gone beyond the stage of just fantasizing or wondering about it. Some people out of fear or other reasons never get out of that stage as it just scares them. But they always remain curious. I think there are more men that fall into that category than women.
Just simply because if a woman has sex with another woman she is still seen the same by society esp. by men. But another man has sex with another man there is a lot more at risk as he is looked down upon by much of society. So many men never get beyond the curious stage.
And I personally don't buy that bisexual and bi-curious has anything to do with relationships or who you want to spend the rest of your life with. There are many men who are 100% heterosexual but they don't want to marry or get into a relationship. Does that mean they revert to being hetero-curious just because at that point in life they are looking for that person they want to spend the rest of their life with.
I have sex with both men and women. I am bisexual. But right now I am not looking for any man or any woman to have a relationship with. I have never had anything more than sex with a man -- not saying I won't ever but it is just not something I am looking to happen.
Bisexual simply put means you have had sex with both the same sex and the opposite sex and would do it again. It is normal practice for you.
Bi-curious simply means that at this point you are curious about what it would be like to have sex with the same sex (man on man or woman on woman) but you haven't gone beyond the stage of just fantasizing or wondering about it. Some people out of fear or other reasons never get out of that stage as it just scares them. But they always remain curious. I think there are more men that fall into that category than women.
Just simply because if a woman has sex with another woman she is still seen the same by society esp. by men. But another man has sex with another man there is a lot more at risk as he is looked down upon by much of society. So many men never get beyond the curious stage.
And I personally don't buy that bisexual and bi-curious has anything to do with relationships or who you want to spend the rest of your life with. There are many men who are 100% heterosexual but they don't want to marry or get into a relationship. Does that mean they revert to being hetero-curious just because at that point in life they are looking for that person they want to spend the rest of their life with.
I have sex with both men and women. I am bisexual. But right now I am not looking for any man or any woman to have a relationship with. I have never had anything more than sex with a man -- not saying I won't ever but it is just not something I am looking to happen.
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I don't think sex scenes have to be explicit but the basic part of the definition of erotic and erotica in any form is that the story is sexually arousing.
Here are the basic definitions of erotic:
"arousing or satisfying sexual desire: an erotic dance.; of, pertaining to, or treating of sexual love; amatory: an erotic novel; subject to or marked by strong sexual desire"
This is from dictionary.com from their encyclopedia part for erotica:
"literary or artistic works having an erotic theme; especially, books treating of sexual love in a sensuous or voluptuous manner. The word erotica typically applies to works in which the sexual element is regarded as part of the larger aesthetic aspect. It is usually distinguished from pornography, which can also have literary merit but which is usually understood to have sexual arousal as its main purpose."
So to me erotic stories or erotica has to do that either though intense foreplay or sexual content. I do not necessarily think stories have to be explicit to achieve that, but to me if you don't achieve that in your story then it is not an erotic story at all.
I have read stories on here that are supposed to be erotic that in no way excited me at all. And no they weren't in categories that would turn me off. They were good stories and well written, but the only mention of sex maybe two lines which might have been something like we went back to his apartment and made love for hours.
Some people have the idea that if you mention sex it is erotic, but to me I agree with Dancing Doll stories like that belong on another site. To me erotica that doesn't have strong sexual emphasis (whether it is just descriptive or a major part of the story) then it just becomes fiction with a sex scene thrown in. I can read that type of story anywhere and do all the time. When I read erotica I expect to be sexually stimulated -- if not it fails. And a good erotic story can turn me on better than porn any day of the week.
I am reading a series right now on here called Nailing Neely Jordan. The parts I have read so far the main characters still have failed to have sex, but the build up has been great. And every story leaves me hard by the end of it and wanting more.
Here are the basic definitions of erotic:
"arousing or satisfying sexual desire: an erotic dance.; of, pertaining to, or treating of sexual love; amatory: an erotic novel; subject to or marked by strong sexual desire"
This is from dictionary.com from their encyclopedia part for erotica:
"literary or artistic works having an erotic theme; especially, books treating of sexual love in a sensuous or voluptuous manner. The word erotica typically applies to works in which the sexual element is regarded as part of the larger aesthetic aspect. It is usually distinguished from pornography, which can also have literary merit but which is usually understood to have sexual arousal as its main purpose."
So to me erotic stories or erotica has to do that either though intense foreplay or sexual content. I do not necessarily think stories have to be explicit to achieve that, but to me if you don't achieve that in your story then it is not an erotic story at all.
I have read stories on here that are supposed to be erotic that in no way excited me at all. And no they weren't in categories that would turn me off. They were good stories and well written, but the only mention of sex maybe two lines which might have been something like we went back to his apartment and made love for hours.
Some people have the idea that if you mention sex it is erotic, but to me I agree with Dancing Doll stories like that belong on another site. To me erotica that doesn't have strong sexual emphasis (whether it is just descriptive or a major part of the story) then it just becomes fiction with a sex scene thrown in. I can read that type of story anywhere and do all the time. When I read erotica I expect to be sexually stimulated -- if not it fails. And a good erotic story can turn me on better than porn any day of the week.
I am reading a series right now on here called Nailing Neely Jordan. The parts I have read so far the main characters still have failed to have sex, but the build up has been great. And every story leaves me hard by the end of it and wanting more.
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This is hard for me to narrow down but I'll give it a go:
1) Stagecoach
2) Vertigo
3) All About Eve
4) Red River
5) Star Trek 2: The Wrath of Khan
Honorable Mentions:
How the West Was Won
Shawshank Redemption
Now, Voyager
The Manchurian Candidate (original)
The Searchers
1) Stagecoach
2) Vertigo
3) All About Eve
4) Red River
5) Star Trek 2: The Wrath of Khan
Honorable Mentions:
How the West Was Won
Shawshank Redemption
Now, Voyager
The Manchurian Candidate (original)
The Searchers
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Quote by Barry007
Your a dumbass, a man CANNOT fake it, he either cums or doesnt.
Totally and completely wrong. There are many men either by medicine effects or other reasons who have retro-ejaculation where the cum never comes out of the penis. They have all the effects of coming but don't cum.
One of my medicines for my diabetes has that effect. Not every time but it happens often.
With those men you couldn't prove what they are faking or not because there is no cum anyway.
And sorry but I know many men who fake it and their partners never know or don't care.
The only sure fire a partner might know is if they were giving a blow job or a hand job. But there are definitely ways in vaginal or even anal intercourse to fake it.
With my sometime retro ejaculation I have often not told partners about it and they never knew. I could have easily faked the other parts of my orgasm but thankfully I didn't have to. I just didn't shoot the goods.