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Just-SJ
Over 90 days ago
Straight Cis Female, 39
0 miles · Western Australia
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That is a hugely broad topic... so I am going to make a list:
1. A man who is good with children.
2. A man holding a puppy.
3. A man helping an old lady with her shopping in the rain.
Sensing a theme here?
Ok ok I can think of one time when I looked over and the sexiness of a moment just blew me away:
A man I had had my eye on for quite some time, and whom I got along with so very well was at the same gathering I was. He was round the BBQ with the blokes and I was mixing cocktails for the ladies. I happened to look over at a moment when he burst into loud, raucous laughter, and it was the sexiest thing I had EVER seen. I nearly fainted when he caught me looking and winked.
Sigh. I miss that moment...
1. A man who is good with children.
2. A man holding a puppy.
3. A man helping an old lady with her shopping in the rain.
Sensing a theme here?
Ok ok I can think of one time when I looked over and the sexiness of a moment just blew me away:
A man I had had my eye on for quite some time, and whom I got along with so very well was at the same gathering I was. He was round the BBQ with the blokes and I was mixing cocktails for the ladies. I happened to look over at a moment when he burst into loud, raucous laughter, and it was the sexiest thing I had EVER seen. I nearly fainted when he caught me looking and winked.
Sigh. I miss that moment...
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Tell you what, I'll take a survey of a bunch of women, and a bunch of men, and see who does better. And then in the interest of fairness, I'm going to use combinations thereof and see if I can tell the difference. When I am done I promise to post a comprehensive report of my findings.
Now, if volunteers could just form a line right here...
Now, if volunteers could just form a line right here...
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The definition of BDSM can only be found withing the dynamics of a single relationship. That is, it is different for each and every person, because it is a very personal and very subjective journey, and so what you experience with one partner will be different from what you experience with your next partner.
For a long time I steered clear of BDSM because of the stigma that goes with it. However, my desires were what they were, and so i began to research and explore online. What I found was that BDSM could be what I needed, so long as I was true to myself and knew exactly what that was.
Not all those involved in BDSM like to receive or inflict pain. Sure, some do, but some don't. It's a personal preference. Me?
Not all submissives are sluts! Goodness, how many times do I hear that? A submissive will not go boink anyone just because she is told to.
For me there is a need, a desire, an urge to submit. That doesn't mean I'm a door mat. Like many submissives, I'm a smart woman, I do well in my job, I have strong opinions, and I am not weak willed. When I choose to submit to someone it is a sign of respect, of trust, of a deep connection with that person. It is a gift, and not something that can be taken from me- I do not submit to just anyone.
BDSM is what it is to you and you alone, and that is the beauty of it! It's a chance to explore your desires in a world where people will (usually) not judge you for it, where you can be embraced for it. To me, it's a deeper level of sexuality, sensuality, and spirituality that I have not found elsewhere- it's a part of who I am.
For a long time I steered clear of BDSM because of the stigma that goes with it. However, my desires were what they were, and so i began to research and explore online. What I found was that BDSM could be what I needed, so long as I was true to myself and knew exactly what that was.
Not all those involved in BDSM like to receive or inflict pain. Sure, some do, but some don't. It's a personal preference. Me?
Not all submissives are sluts! Goodness, how many times do I hear that? A submissive will not go boink anyone just because she is told to.
For me there is a need, a desire, an urge to submit. That doesn't mean I'm a door mat. Like many submissives, I'm a smart woman, I do well in my job, I have strong opinions, and I am not weak willed. When I choose to submit to someone it is a sign of respect, of trust, of a deep connection with that person. It is a gift, and not something that can be taken from me- I do not submit to just anyone.
BDSM is what it is to you and you alone, and that is the beauty of it! It's a chance to explore your desires in a world where people will (usually) not judge you for it, where you can be embraced for it. To me, it's a deeper level of sexuality, sensuality, and spirituality that I have not found elsewhere- it's a part of who I am.
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Love love love it!
I now have a remote control wireless egg vibe too, which just adds to the fun. Most recently, I relaxed on the bank of the local river in the park and completely enjoyed myself. It's like a different orgasm, being out in public, being able to see and hear people... it drives me to new levels! I've done it all sorts of places; work (library), parks, theatres, buses, planes, clubs, restaurants... the list goes on.
Sometimes I just have to relieve the tension you know!
I now have a remote control wireless egg vibe too, which just adds to the fun. Most recently, I relaxed on the bank of the local river in the park and completely enjoyed myself. It's like a different orgasm, being out in public, being able to see and hear people... it drives me to new levels! I've done it all sorts of places; work (library), parks, theatres, buses, planes, clubs, restaurants... the list goes on.
Sometimes I just have to relieve the tension you know!
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Something casual!
I've been on so many dates where I have been taken to a lovely restaurant, and to be honest all I feel is pressure! Pressure to dress up extra fancy, to try and make my usually wild hair nice and sleek, to have perfectly applied makeup, and pressure to be on my best public behaviour. I really just don't feel myself, so it doesn't do any of us favours.
I like nice casual things like outdoor cinema, grabbing a coffee and as said above, picnics! Something that allows for a lot of talking, and a little more close contact than you get with a big dinner table and fifty forks and knives between you. I also like the good old fashioned grabbing a drink after work. Cause if that goes well, it can lead to dinner, or even better, to a nice dance session!
I've been on so many dates where I have been taken to a lovely restaurant, and to be honest all I feel is pressure! Pressure to dress up extra fancy, to try and make my usually wild hair nice and sleek, to have perfectly applied makeup, and pressure to be on my best public behaviour. I really just don't feel myself, so it doesn't do any of us favours.
I like nice casual things like outdoor cinema, grabbing a coffee and as said above, picnics! Something that allows for a lot of talking, and a little more close contact than you get with a big dinner table and fifty forks and knives between you. I also like the good old fashioned grabbing a drink after work. Cause if that goes well, it can lead to dinner, or even better, to a nice dance session!
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Weeks? Gosh.
I get antsy if I haven't orgasmed for a couple of days! I do my best not to go without. Having said that.... there have been agonising periods during which I have been ordered not to orgasm by Master. I'm pretty sure I nearly withered and died during those times, but they were never longer than 2 weeks. Yet.
I get antsy if I haven't orgasmed for a couple of days! I do my best not to go without. Having said that.... there have been agonising periods during which I have been ordered not to orgasm by Master. I'm pretty sure I nearly withered and died during those times, but they were never longer than 2 weeks. Yet.
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Quote by LadyX
You'll find some good answers here, too.
http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst11807_Withholding-sex-from-your-partner.aspx
Thanks for the link! I had a quick look for a similar topic but missed it.
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Hmmm. See, I agree with all of you, withholding sex makes no sense to me. But this topic came up recently in a conversation with a group of women, and I was surprised how many of them did withhold sex. It went beyond "I'm mad, I don't *feel* like sex", to where the issue had been dealt with but they for some reason were still holding out to "teach him a lesson".
I'm so glad you Lush women aren't so petty. I am curious though that there is not even one person here who says they have done it at some point!
I'm so glad you Lush women aren't so petty. I am curious though that there is not even one person here who says they have done it at some point!
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If you're actively hiding it, or wondering whether you should be doing it- you probably shouldn't be doing it.
The thing is, it doesn't matter what YOU consider cheating, because it's your partner's point of view you need to look at. If they consider it unfaithful, then it is, because they are the person your actions will affect.
Personally, if I am in a serious relationship, I don't mind casual cyber play, so long as I know about it. If my partner is logging back on at the same time regularly to cyber fuck the same person... that's when I have a problem.
The thing is, it doesn't matter what YOU consider cheating, because it's your partner's point of view you need to look at. If they consider it unfaithful, then it is, because they are the person your actions will affect.
Personally, if I am in a serious relationship, I don't mind casual cyber play, so long as I know about it. If my partner is logging back on at the same time regularly to cyber fuck the same person... that's when I have a problem.
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I think the key factor here is that he told his ex he loved her again. That to me indicates he had intentions of that love possibly going somewhere. If, as he told you, he intended to deal with it himself, he would have had no need to tell her at all. I think your man is telling some fibs, and is too fickle to make a decision. I also think he WON'T make a decision if he is not prompted to. Why should he, if he can have both of you?
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Speaking for myself, I've tasted cum that was almost pleasant, neutral, and completely rank. It all depends on the person and a variety of things factor into it.
I like for him to cum in my mouth, but it's more about pleasing him than anything else, although on occasion I really really want to taste his ultimate pleasure.
I like for him to cum in my mouth, but it's more about pleasing him than anything else, although on occasion I really really want to taste his ultimate pleasure.
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Moving the issue of blame aside for one moment...
When someone comes into a chat room and brings up concerns of suicide, no one can say for sure whether it's a sick joke, attention seeking, a troll, or a geniune plea for help from someone looking to reach out. And because of that, no one should ever actively encourage it.
In the end, it is that person's choice and the blame lays squarely on them. But that doesn't mean other people can't edge them a little closer to making that final call.
When someone comes into a chat room and brings up concerns of suicide, no one can say for sure whether it's a sick joke, attention seeking, a troll, or a geniune plea for help from someone looking to reach out. And because of that, no one should ever actively encourage it.
In the end, it is that person's choice and the blame lays squarely on them. But that doesn't mean other people can't edge them a little closer to making that final call.