I don't know your or your girlfriend's history, but I did look at your profile and I did notice that you are British.
As a fellow Brit, I'd like to tentatively put forth a theory..
We are not generally an especially sexual nation - brought up to believe that sex is bad and dirty - sometimes women are conditioned to believe that sex is perfunctory - purely to reproduce or to sate their partner at the weekends. I'm not saying that this is the case specifically with your girlfriend, but it IS endemic in this green and pleasant land.
I know that there is plenty which I could never discuss with my "regular" friends - they would most likely think that I am a pervert for writing erotica here and would find it it difficult to understand why I am on Lush ,if they could understand at all.
It could be just as simple as the fact that she doesn't know any different and that oral sex is a "dirty" thing in her mind - in which case you can respect her preconceptions, or you can communicate and work together to change them.
There are of course other factors which could be taken into consideration - perhaps she is inexperienced sexually - worried about things like scent/taste/appearance of her body and genitalia. Who knows what her journey is up until this point - it's really very common for girls to be told that they aren't good looking or worth anything - this is all stuff that can be worked on though, with counseling, therapy... whatever.
I don't know what age you or your girlfriend are, but another potential factor that could be taken into consideration would be if she has had children - women's bodies can change dramatically (to them) after giving birth - of course, that can be a very personal thing and mothers will worry about a change in appearance/taste etc...
Also (and I've posted about this more than once) it's my experience that some of the men I've been with tend not to have been very skilled at performing cunnilingus - no offence and this isn't a slight towards you or anyone else, but as some of my comrades have already mentioned, sometimes it's easier to just say you don't like oral, rather than receive poor quality...
I think that (again as others have said) you need to communicate with your partner, talk about why there's a problem. Explain that it's something you'd really like to do for her, how it makes you feel, why you desire it - let her understand that you find her attractive "down there", encourage her to start to shed her inhibitions...
Maybe there's more to it - she may have a history which means that oral is something that disturbs her, or she simply doesn't like it, but at least if the two of you can talk to each other about it, gently and at a pace she's comfortable with, then you are standing yourself in good stead to be able to work through this together and find a solution that suits you both...
I commend you for wanting to work it through and I wish you both the very best!!
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Maybe you should get yourself in the chat rooms, forums, read some stories and get to know some of the rich community we have here...
(or maybe, heaven forbid, you could get out and meet some of your real life college peers and think about actual sex - you say you're 21 - you should be out catching some real tail, not pretending on a phone or computer screen)
I'm pretty certain that with a quick internet search, you can find sites where you can cam, if that's your thing...
At least you're up front about it, I suppose...
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It's very early in a relationship to be so worried...
I guess that the main thing is that you are able to feel comfortable and confident in it. Now, while it's true that he may not have updated his relationship status on FB, it does seem unlikely - I mean, you're much more likely to update it if you've finished a relationship, aren't you?
I would say you need to back off, detach, just a wee bit - it sounds like you're quite emotionally involved already?
He might well still be in a relationship with this girl but it doesn't sound like much has happened between the two of you?
Speak to him, just ask if he's with this other girl... If he is, then back away gracefully, with your dignity still intact. If he's not, well, see how you feel about that and what you want to do then...
However it all pans out, I wish you the best of luck xx
