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Mazza
3 weeks ago
Straight Female, 55
0 miles · Lanark
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Mazztastic
Quote by thesexynun
you hizzy are so so so wrong
was married to a man who turned me down all the time
told me i was an oversexed woman who needed help
years i asked
for i loved him
how long did i keep asking 14 years
then i warned him i would find another
and i did
Similar story to me...
There were other reasons, but this is the main one for the separation.
It was pretty soul destroying to be in what one could only term as a loveless marriage...
Glad to say that my confidence is coming back now, bit by bit...
To the OP, I'd say that communication is the key. You must talk about this with your partner and find a way for both of you to be happy in the relationship.
Mazztastic
Quote by naughtynurse
Me neither. I think the last one time I wrote a comp entry was the one you got third in?? I'm excited to finally have an idea, the desire, and the inclination to write. Now just to whittle out the time.
That was the valentines comp.... I've only entered one other, the spice it up comp, but I never placed in that one (I thought it was a better effort from me though, than the 3rd placed one)
Mazztastic
Having just watched the video, I do think that calling it sexual harassment is far too strong and I don't think that it's right that the child should have "sexual harassment" on his record - how long will that stay there?
Surely at 6 years old, his motivation for doing this was not from a sexual standpoint, so it cannot really be defined as sexual harassment? Certainly from what his mother says, that doesn't seem to be the case, given that she says that he is now asking questions about sex.
To actually go as far as suspending the kid seems like a huge overreaction and I wonder what the effects of singling him out will have on him?
MF's comments, while also a bit strong (IMO) do raise serious points. I agree that the whole culture thing can only be changed by teaching from a young age what is and is not acceptable. Children, male and female, ought to be taught about boundaries, what is and is not okay, respect for other people's needs, wants and feelings etc etc.
The video said that the boy had been suspended before for kissing this same girl. Kids do shit like that, when I was young (yeah, back when the world was still in black and white, before technicolour hahah), they might have pulled your pigtails, or shoved you or something... That's just the way things were. School is one of the places where we can experiment, learn, be educated, form our opinions - that's the whole point of it - not just academic learning, but all the societal stuff too...
I don't know if the school tried any other measures to deal with the boy's behaviour, but in my mind, rather than have him in the "news" and vilified for sexually inappropriate behaviour (which I realise was more likely the mother, railing against this), they would have done better to have a class discussion about boundaries and respecting other people's feelings, about what things are and are not acceptable behaviour - that way the whole class could have learned together and benefited from this, rather than have one child singled out. Perhaps speaking to his mother and asking her to talk to her child? Maybe they did those things, the video didn't say. I feel they've taken an overly heavy handed approach. Surely the school could have dealt with it better? After all, it's also their responsibility to tech the kids in a positive way, rather than the sort of defensive behaviour we are seeing more and more in this "sue-culture" society.
It just seems to me that the whole situation could probably have been averted and dealt with in a positive way, rather than sensationalized like this... Sigh, it just seems to be the way of it these days, huh?
We need to educate not just our kids, but ourselves...
Surely at 6 years old, his motivation for doing this was not from a sexual standpoint, so it cannot really be defined as sexual harassment? Certainly from what his mother says, that doesn't seem to be the case, given that she says that he is now asking questions about sex.
To actually go as far as suspending the kid seems like a huge overreaction and I wonder what the effects of singling him out will have on him?
MF's comments, while also a bit strong (IMO) do raise serious points. I agree that the whole culture thing can only be changed by teaching from a young age what is and is not acceptable. Children, male and female, ought to be taught about boundaries, what is and is not okay, respect for other people's needs, wants and feelings etc etc.
The video said that the boy had been suspended before for kissing this same girl. Kids do shit like that, when I was young (yeah, back when the world was still in black and white, before technicolour hahah), they might have pulled your pigtails, or shoved you or something... That's just the way things were. School is one of the places where we can experiment, learn, be educated, form our opinions - that's the whole point of it - not just academic learning, but all the societal stuff too...
I don't know if the school tried any other measures to deal with the boy's behaviour, but in my mind, rather than have him in the "news" and vilified for sexually inappropriate behaviour (which I realise was more likely the mother, railing against this), they would have done better to have a class discussion about boundaries and respecting other people's feelings, about what things are and are not acceptable behaviour - that way the whole class could have learned together and benefited from this, rather than have one child singled out. Perhaps speaking to his mother and asking her to talk to her child? Maybe they did those things, the video didn't say. I feel they've taken an overly heavy handed approach. Surely the school could have dealt with it better? After all, it's also their responsibility to tech the kids in a positive way, rather than the sort of defensive behaviour we are seeing more and more in this "sue-culture" society.
It just seems to me that the whole situation could probably have been averted and dealt with in a positive way, rather than sensationalized like this... Sigh, it just seems to be the way of it these days, huh?
We need to educate not just our kids, but ourselves...
Mazztastic
Quote by sprite
ok, fuck you all - you're all right - no point in entering - no way you can write a good story in 1500 or less. hey, Nic? if i'm the only entry, do i get all 3 prizes?
I can totally do this...
You and me outside, now! Stripped to the waist...
*casually throwing a glove in your direction (and running away, giggling)*
Mazztastic
Quote by silveranode
We should have a special section, just for the 'Lush Tragics'.
That's a pretty dickish thing to say...
I think the advice you've been given is very good - concentrate on being you for a while longer, ease yourself back into the dating scene as and when you feel comfortable to do so...
Having just come out of a long marriage myself, I'm looking forward to some "me" time.
Who knows where I'll end up, but I'm kind of okay with not knowing, for now...
Mazztastic
Quote by JohnC
Isn't that what straight cross dressers do anyways? I think sometimes people try to look too deeply into kinks and fetishes. If you have no real desire to remove your male parts, or otherwise physically transform yourself into the other gender, IMO it is simply a fantasy or fetish; role play. To me it is no deeper than wishing you had been a fireman or police man and dressing up as one for sexual role play.
I think this kind of nails it for me... Thanks John
Mazztastic
Now, I have a serious point here too - When the 101 word poems were all the rage, I did one and it got posted, but then I got a PM to say it was over the 101 limit. This led to me getting grumpy, because it was bang on 101 according to Lush, and doing some comparisons (I got a Bug Slayer badge too btw thankyouverymuch)
Anyway, point being that I've written 505 words so far, according to wordcounttool. net/, but when I paste it into the Lush submit box, it only comes up at 477, which on such a short story comp, could make quite a big difference - obviously it would let the competitors post a story longer than 1.5k, or would the count be external? (Is it something to do with other characters or something?)
Anyway, I just thought it worth mentioning now, given that everyone will be paying a much closer eye on how many words they will be submitting and it is sure to become a headache otherwise...
EDIT: okay, so a 1,500 word count on wordcounttool comes in at 1415 on the Lush submit box... Just FYI (because I wondered)
Anyway, point being that I've written 505 words so far, according to wordcounttool. net/, but when I paste it into the Lush submit box, it only comes up at 477, which on such a short story comp, could make quite a big difference - obviously it would let the competitors post a story longer than 1.5k, or would the count be external? (Is it something to do with other characters or something?)
Anyway, I just thought it worth mentioning now, given that everyone will be paying a much closer eye on how many words they will be submitting and it is sure to become a headache otherwise...
EDIT: okay, so a 1,500 word count on wordcounttool comes in at 1415 on the Lush submit box... Just FYI (because I wondered)
Mazztastic
Quote by Coco
Can we have the upcoming birthdays list in our profiles limited to a week or two out? It's driving me a bit nuts being that long.
Yeah, I'd like that too, my list is huge! Although I did notice that a load of the January 1st ones disappeared, like the ones that defaulted to that date because their profile wasn't filled in. That was good, because there were tons of the buggers!!
In another thread, someone suggested that it would be good if there could be a link from option? So, maybe at the top of the story, if it was part of a series or something, you could put in the link for the preceeding part?
I thought that might be a good idea...
