Short answer - What's the ideal handjob? The next one.

Longer answer - The Three "E" z's 1. Enthusiasm - a partner who wants this as pleasure for her as much as she wants it for me. 2. Engagement - communicate with eye contact, and verbal cues. This can include fantasy stories, teasing, or simply excitement of what is happening in the moment (see #1) 3. Eroticism - relish the details of the physical and psychological act. Use the sights, sounds, smell, and tastes to weave a moment set apart from the rest of the day (or night).