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!00% agree. Women first, second, etc., until you have lost count. If I get off somewhere in there, then OK. Me orgasming is not a requirement for my enjoyment.
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It tastes unlike anything else, but that is what makes it so special. You should not be afraid to taste yourself, as it cannot hurt you. Probably it is best to give it a try after a shower, when you have a chance to lie in bed, relax, have a nice extended play, and then taste after you have an orgasm and are feeling that nice feeling of euphoria. The association of the taste with extreme pleasure is what keeps me coming back for more!
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I'd love to hear about it!!
I have written a story about it: https://www.lushstories.com/stories/masturbation/mari-and-the-masseur-part-1.aspx
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I have been on the giving side of this. I am no pro, but I do not mind spending an hour making a woman feel special. Sometimes, a "happy ending" (or more) may result. I enjoy the feeling that I am giving pleasure, and need no touch in return to also have a good time.
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The nails on my baby toes are almost non-existent. I have yet to see someone with smaller nails on those toes than I have.
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i find not enough men my age like to go down and generally just want their treat and then it's on to the sex which is why i find men over 30 so much more attractive since they never seem to have a problem getting the job done. and not only that, get really into it. because to me, why do it if you don't love it? what are your thoughts? if it's trimmed/shaved and clean will you eat the pussy?
Well, I have always been a giver, since I got my start on giving great oral a couple of years before I had intercourse. I think that giving makes us both extremely happy, and it is a great lead-in to great intercourse, or very fulfilling and satisfying on its own.
Do I like to receive? Of course, but it is not a requirement. Not many women I have known seem to be really into it. Maybe I am just used to not getting it much. I do not believe in everything having to be reciprocal and "equal". I do not mind someone that is not into giving, as long as we both enjoy whatever is happening.
As for appearance - natural, trimmed, or bare - it is all good. I would never turn down the opportunity to please a woman orally.
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I can't speak for all guys, but I like a woman whether she is bushy, or trimmed, or bald. It is all good.
If a man loves you, he will love you how you are. If he complains, then maybe it is time to move on.
I would never ask someone to shave or trim. Someone I was intimate with went from hairy to bald overnight. It was a surprise to me, but in no way was it necessary, nor did I like her any more or less for it. It did feel different to me, but it was still all good.
In the end, it is what you feel about yourself that is important, as any intelligent, respectful man should know.
In practical terms, be sure to use the hottest water you can tolerate, a good quality razor (fewer times than you might think, so it is still sharp), and a good gel or soap. Let it soak long enough to soften up the hairs, at least a minute. Go with the grain to begin with, and then go against the grain to really get things super close. It is easier of course if surfaces are convex, but the main thing is keep pressure light. If you have to make more passes or press harder, it probably means you need a fresh razor.
And if you want an interesting experience, get a friend who shaves to shave you. Enjoy!
If a man loves you, he will love you how you are. If he complains, then maybe it is time to move on.
I would never ask someone to shave or trim. Someone I was intimate with went from hairy to bald overnight. It was a surprise to me, but in no way was it necessary, nor did I like her any more or less for it. It did feel different to me, but it was still all good.
In the end, it is what you feel about yourself that is important, as any intelligent, respectful man should know.
In practical terms, be sure to use the hottest water you can tolerate, a good quality razor (fewer times than you might think, so it is still sharp), and a good gel or soap. Let it soak long enough to soften up the hairs, at least a minute. Go with the grain to begin with, and then go against the grain to really get things super close. It is easier of course if surfaces are convex, but the main thing is keep pressure light. If you have to make more passes or press harder, it probably means you need a fresh razor.
And if you want an interesting experience, get a friend who shaves to shave you. Enjoy!
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No, never been stalked. At 45 you turn somewhat invisible. There is no reason to stalk me.
Should anyone ever be "stalked". Absolutely not! I can at least imagine the distress that would cause anyone being stalked. I cannot fathom why anyone would choose to stalk someone, unless they are emotionally immature and insecure, and probably in need of therapy.
Have I been accused of stalking? Sort of. I showed up one too many times within view of a slightly demented ex-gf, in a public setting (a popular donut shop). It was pure coincidence, but it elicited a text from her later that day, making her accusation. I made it very clear in my reply that I could not possibly stalk someone so mentally unstable. It was maybe not the right thing to say, but it served its purpose: the conversation stopped, and we have not talked since.
In fact, we were within eyesight once again. She decided to leave the area when she caught sight of me, even though there was no chance we would ever interact, and I had zero plans to walk up to her or talk with her. Simply put, she had already become a totally different person from the person I once liked (she found religion), so I had zero interest in connecting with her ever again. I only feel for her, in the sense that she needs some better direction in her life than it seems she is getting from her religious cult.
Should anyone ever be "stalked". Absolutely not! I can at least imagine the distress that would cause anyone being stalked. I cannot fathom why anyone would choose to stalk someone, unless they are emotionally immature and insecure, and probably in need of therapy.
Have I been accused of stalking? Sort of. I showed up one too many times within view of a slightly demented ex-gf, in a public setting (a popular donut shop). It was pure coincidence, but it elicited a text from her later that day, making her accusation. I made it very clear in my reply that I could not possibly stalk someone so mentally unstable. It was maybe not the right thing to say, but it served its purpose: the conversation stopped, and we have not talked since.
In fact, we were within eyesight once again. She decided to leave the area when she caught sight of me, even though there was no chance we would ever interact, and I had zero plans to walk up to her or talk with her. Simply put, she had already become a totally different person from the person I once liked (she found religion), so I had zero interest in connecting with her ever again. I only feel for her, in the sense that she needs some better direction in her life than it seems she is getting from her religious cult.
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I have never cum on someone's face, nor would I ever ask for it. It seems degrading. If young men are requesting it, then they are letting porn do the thinking for them.
What does your woman want??? Do that, and you will both (or all) be happy.
What does your woman want??? Do that, and you will both (or all) be happy.
Delicious! More please...
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Cowgirl. Never fails to please, especially when I can help tweak all the right buttons.
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When I was young and fairly new to my job, I encountered a co-worker I had previously admired from a distance in a records area. I had maybe been thinking something sexy while I worked at the deep end of a dead-end between two rows of floor-to-ceiling bookshelves. The co-worker unexpectedly showed up at the open end of the row to do some filing, dressed extremely nicely. She worked away for a few minutes, and I could not resist to sneak glances her way. I told myself I should stall for time, because I could not easily get past her to leave the stacks anyway.
Eventually, she started talking to me. I could not remember what our small talk was about, as I pretended to still be busy. She must have noticed my raging hard-on, perhaps because I was awkwardly turned sideways, trying not to fully expose myself while we talked. When she was done filing, she said in a low voice, "I am flattered to see you are interested in me." She smiled broadly and slowly turned to walk away.
I was super-embarrassed. I had to stay hidden between the stacks for another five minutes before I finally could walk comfortably in public.
The next day, as we passed each other briefly in the hallway, she smiled again, and told me simply to "Check today's horoscope." I remembered some of our small-talk of the previous day, at least the part where we both realized we had the same zodiac sign, as our birthdays were coming up soon.
When I found and read the local paper, the horoscope said, "Someone you have just met could become your lover". For once, it was right!
Eventually, she started talking to me. I could not remember what our small talk was about, as I pretended to still be busy. She must have noticed my raging hard-on, perhaps because I was awkwardly turned sideways, trying not to fully expose myself while we talked. When she was done filing, she said in a low voice, "I am flattered to see you are interested in me." She smiled broadly and slowly turned to walk away.
I was super-embarrassed. I had to stay hidden between the stacks for another five minutes before I finally could walk comfortably in public.
The next day, as we passed each other briefly in the hallway, she smiled again, and told me simply to "Check today's horoscope." I remembered some of our small-talk of the previous day, at least the part where we both realized we had the same zodiac sign, as our birthdays were coming up soon.
When I found and read the local paper, the horoscope said, "Someone you have just met could become your lover". For once, it was right!
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I've always been a giver, whether that is going down, or other things. That is how it has always been for me, even when I was young and just learning.
Getting older just means it is getting easier to know what to give. Success is pretty much a given now, even for some women that claim to have never had an orgasm, or never a good orgasm...or never more than one. I am amazed how women can orgasm from other than penetration, or of course oral.
My enjoyment is really dependent on the recipient's attitude. If she is having a good time, then that is great - mission accomplished, however that happens. If she is not really into it (and that has happened a very few times) I can at least say I tried my best, and it is just a "bad day" for the recipient. You can't push a rope - you can't expect everything to result in intense multiple orgasms, but it is nice target to always aim for.
I often do not receive, but that is OK. I am still having fun. I know some do not really get off on the "giving" part, as I do. I do not mind a "lazy woman" in that respect as long as she is really enjoying herself...though it would be nice now and then to be the receiver a little more often.
In the end, I am still happy.
Getting older just means it is getting easier to know what to give. Success is pretty much a given now, even for some women that claim to have never had an orgasm, or never a good orgasm...or never more than one. I am amazed how women can orgasm from other than penetration, or of course oral.
My enjoyment is really dependent on the recipient's attitude. If she is having a good time, then that is great - mission accomplished, however that happens. If she is not really into it (and that has happened a very few times) I can at least say I tried my best, and it is just a "bad day" for the recipient. You can't push a rope - you can't expect everything to result in intense multiple orgasms, but it is nice target to always aim for.
I often do not receive, but that is OK. I am still having fun. I know some do not really get off on the "giving" part, as I do. I do not mind a "lazy woman" in that respect as long as she is really enjoying herself...though it would be nice now and then to be the receiver a little more often.
In the end, I am still happy.
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Yes, a long time ago, and I learned a lesson. It happens a lot, it seems. More than people probably know.
If you expect it to last beyond a brief encounter, I would highly recommend against it if you have any reporting relationship with the person (i.e. your superior or subordinate, once or multiply removed) as that is potentially a firing offense, or opening the door to a whole lot of trouble.
If you are otherwise not that close, so to speak, then the only problem is what happens after a good thing goes bad. and that is not a trivial concern. So many times, you see people super-friendly at work, then BOOM - they are intentionally distant, after being so "chummy". it stands out almost as obviously as if they were caught "in flagrante". Even if you did not suspect something going on beforehand, because they were really good about keeping it cool at work, it is still noticeable to third parties when things go bad. Or, so it seems.
The only way to escape is if one or both parties change work locations. This is sometimes an option only when you work for a big employer with lots of job sites. if you cannot change jobs, or work apart on the same site, then things can get uncomfortable real fast.
If you expect it to last beyond a brief encounter, I would highly recommend against it if you have any reporting relationship with the person (i.e. your superior or subordinate, once or multiply removed) as that is potentially a firing offense, or opening the door to a whole lot of trouble.
If you are otherwise not that close, so to speak, then the only problem is what happens after a good thing goes bad. and that is not a trivial concern. So many times, you see people super-friendly at work, then BOOM - they are intentionally distant, after being so "chummy". it stands out almost as obviously as if they were caught "in flagrante". Even if you did not suspect something going on beforehand, because they were really good about keeping it cool at work, it is still noticeable to third parties when things go bad. Or, so it seems.
The only way to escape is if one or both parties change work locations. This is sometimes an option only when you work for a big employer with lots of job sites. if you cannot change jobs, or work apart on the same site, then things can get uncomfortable real fast.
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I really like to give, to feel I am a direct contributor to someone else's pleasure, while I also enjoy how they taste and respond. I like to receive, but giving in that case has to be the other person's idea. I do not beg, nor get bent out of shape if someone is feeling lazy. It is enough to be with someone in an intimate connecting way.
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The most important life lessons:
You cannot control what others think and do, especially what they think about you. Concentrate only on what you can yourself control. Maintain your own integrity, and control how you yourself react to what other people think and do. If you are true to yourself, you need never concern yourself about what others think, nor ever try to control them, nor change their minds. They will either be beside you, or they they are not worth worrying about.
A leader must have followers; otherwise, he is just a boss.
If you can't find the time to do it right the first time, when will you find time to fix it?
The solutions to any problem fit into three categories: "Fix it", "Live with it", or "Leave". Consider all possibilities in each category before picking the best solution.
You cannot control what others think and do, especially what they think about you. Concentrate only on what you can yourself control. Maintain your own integrity, and control how you yourself react to what other people think and do. If you are true to yourself, you need never concern yourself about what others think, nor ever try to control them, nor change their minds. They will either be beside you, or they they are not worth worrying about.
A leader must have followers; otherwise, he is just a boss.
If you can't find the time to do it right the first time, when will you find time to fix it?
The solutions to any problem fit into three categories: "Fix it", "Live with it", or "Leave". Consider all possibilities in each category before picking the best solution.
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Feedback is great in any form. But it is also a lot of fun, in a situation where you could easily be overheard by someone close by, to try to slowly build to maximum excitement while remaining absolutely silent. The only way of knowing if everything is going great is the pace of breathing, the twitching and writhing, ... and perhaps a stifled moan into a pillow.
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Two years before I lost my virginity, I first tried, and learned to enjoy immensely, pussy licking. I was hooked for life. And it can never be practiced enough! I enjoy seeing the different reactions it elicits in different women, especially those that have never had it done (or done right) before.
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I am thinking "Why am I mimicking this porn cliche? I should be ramming it in her instead, to make her cum too!"
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I always love fingering! But, each woman is different, and it takes time to find the magic spots inside. It is worth it when they are found. I have found a firm fingertip sideways swipe over her g-spot at two second intervals, works well, but be prepared to be soaked.
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I'll be brutally honest, I am still waiting.
The wife used to try, but lost interest into our marriage a few years. I've had others try, but no one seemed to be really into it, enjoying it. I think that is crucial, for great oral, that both parties have to be totally into it, in their roles as giver and receiver, for it to be really outstanding. Truth be told, I am an enthusiastic giver, and my wife gladly receives. I have been OK without getting oral in return. We are both happy, but then maybe I have not met the one that can change my mind, to show me what (if anything) I am missing.
Maybe someday...
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The wife used to try, but lost interest into our marriage a few years. I've had others try, but no one seemed to be really into it, enjoying it. I think that is crucial, for great oral, that both parties have to be totally into it, in their roles as giver and receiver, for it to be really outstanding. Truth be told, I am an enthusiastic giver, and my wife gladly receives. I have been OK without getting oral in return. We are both happy, but then maybe I have not met the one that can change my mind, to show me what (if anything) I am missing.
Maybe someday...
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It sure doesn't sound normal. It sounds like he has issues, and I feel for you. I am not sure how to get him the help he needs, but maybe you can both see a counselor. Maybe that will get the problem out in the open. Best of luck to you.
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Absolutely, it is a turn-on to see her playing her way to an orgasm. Usually, I have to slow down some, or I will be first over the finish line. It is actually nice to let her rub one out on her own terms, then surprise her with robust thrusting to get her to a second, third... She does not do it often (enough), and probably when she is really horny, so that maybe makes it easier to cum multiple times. It's all good.
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I am not personally interested in doing anything permanent like a tattoo or piercing. I can too easily imagine a day when I want it gone, because it just makes my natural deterioration over time look that much worse. But if someone else has one done, I am OK with that, even if it were one of my kids.
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As soon as money seems more important to the woman than sex or friendship, I usually realize it is time to move on. Did I always get away cleanly in those cases? No... At some point, you are in too deep, and have to take losses, rather than fight an expensive battle that only the lawyers win.
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like alot of guys, any where she wants. If it turns her on more even better.
Exactly! Wherever she wants is OK with me, even if the answer is into a hanky.