Wow, where to begin?
First of all, I do not have all the answers. Just some thoughts and first impressions, which may or may not be valid, and are probably out of context because I cannot know the whole story. No doubt, your reality is way more detailed than we can possibly discuss here.
You suggest you are a "control freak", and can't get over things that are beyond your control. At least you recognize this in yourself, as a first step to maybe making a positive change. Maybe ask yourself why you are so fixated on things you cannot control. If you stop worrying about what you cannot control, then you will be way more relaxed, more receptive to changes that cannot be avoided anyway. Don't sweat the small stuff. Learn to roll with the punches. Sorry for the cliches. At the heart of it all, don't try to change others to suit yourself. You may always be disappointed if you cannot yield...and then it will not be "her fault" (or anyone elses fault) for not changing. How you feel is all on you, in your hands, under your control. That is what you are entitled, and expected, to control.
So, this woman may be really interested in certain qualities about you, but maybe there is something keeping her from committing. Like...maybe...your need to be always in control??? What if instead you are equals in all things? You don't have to agree on everything, just agree enough to have fun and want to be together more often. If that is not happening, and you are trying your best, it is not your fault or hers, it just is what it is. And then, it may be time to reassess your priorities
You should not worry about what others think and feel about you. You should only focus on your own reactions, how you feel about how others feel.
Too many things to list. Probably the most immediate concerns are doing my taxes, getting anew shed built, and getting a boat ready for the summer.
Maybe it sounds trite, but I find personality and a nice face are way more important. Sure a nice ass or nice breasts may draw attention initially, but very soon after that, I am looking elsewhere.
I always read a person's profile. There is a lot to consider.
Are they currently active?
Do they make posts on the forums.
Do they have pics?
I usually read at least one story, if they have published any.
In a request, I consider it courteous and repectful to say something nice or something interesting about something they have said in their profile, so from reading my request, It should be obvious I have actually taken the time to read their profile.
Any woman's behaviour may depend on environmental factors earlier in her life. What she experienced while living at home with parents could have a lot to do with it, depending on whether or not cultural norms other than "North American" may have applied. Some "North American" families can be mighty uptight and ultra-conservative. I can remember having no luck dating a girl in high school, maybe because she was the oldest of three girls in an ultra-religious white Catholic family.
After leaving home, out on their own, people tend to blend in, and you can't tell there is as much of a difference in attitudes. The only difference may be how they look, but otherwise we are all the same. So, I don't buy the argument that anyone of any heritage is necessarily more "conservative", or (in my experience) any easier or harder to get into bed, or any more or less of an intense lover. The variation seems to have nothing specifically to tie it back to their heritage.
The risk of STIs from total strangers could be a justification. But, let them watch and play with themselves, if that gets you two hot.
I'd be only interested in women, and would not mind if with two women that are into each other. Been thinking the wife should live out her fantasy someday.
Duty? Never have thought of it as such. Can't imagine anyone thinking of it that way.
Pleasure? Absolutely! Love the taste, the feel, the response of my lover to different things I try. Love the way she can enjoy it, and feel so relieved and complete as a sexual being.
I love to give, with no expectation that I will get anything in return. The ultimate pleasure would come from seeing her eventually fall into blissful sleep with a smile on her face. There should be no need to reciprocate, only the reciprocal joy of giving.
I see no reason why not. A person's personality and intelligence is what attracts me. Physical attributes do not matter so much, and are subject to inevitable change over time anyway. I would rather get to know a person for what they do and what they think, than how they look.
My outer toes have practically no nails whatsoever.
I would give away my spot. Because, to get to the point where just two get to live, we have really f*kd up big-time! I would have already tried everything possible to stop the insanity, so the frustration would be great, adn I'd wonder if anything would make it worth staying. What would be the point of staying if we have all failed to take care of this, our only life?
Good things can go bad. Then, you have to live with the consequences. If you have some way to escape after the wheels fall off, then maybe it is worth pursuing. But if you can't, don't. My advice would be to not go there, and instead, turn it into a hot story about something good.
There is nothing wrong with getting yourself off. Everyone should, without feeling any shame, and without judging others that choose to for themselves.
I think he is being selfish, and not understanding that levels of arousal for a couple can often vary and be totally different, due to meds or other perfectly natural reasons.
I assume he has no reason to be concerned that you are cheating, so in a sense he should be relieved that your need has not driven you to that. He may still be be jealous. He may imagine you are thinking of other partner(s), and for some, "improper" thoughts are a crime.
It is probably worth seeking counselling. Best of luck.
I'd kiss her lips if she'd kiss mine!
If I had to pick and got to do only one thing, it's got to be giving oral. Nothing beats the delicious taste of an excited woman. Something to be savoured for hours.
With spouse and 2 of 3 grown up kids in a 5BR house, paid off long ago. Oldest kid moved out to an apartment of his own. Still enough room around here!
Hardly bikini time around here. It's minus fricking 20 outside! Just about any style would warm the chestnuts though.
this comment! 
It is all good....very good. I would never complain.
