If I was the kind of guy my partner wanted to murder, I'm fairly certain I would be the kind of guy who would never forgive her for trying. Anyone who would honestly forgive her would probably not drive her to it in the first place. As for rating her...well she's probably not looking her best in those pictures, a smile and happier eyes would probably make her look a lot better. I wonder what he was doing to make her go to those extremes?
I kind of find them a bit of a turn on, is that weird? I love the way they roll out over me, especially if she does it.
It sounds like your husband is really into the baby and that's undeniably a good thing. My biggest regret is that I had so little time to mess about with mine when they were small, trying to build a career and all that seemed so important at the time. Now they are grown up and I will never get that time back. Let him have his fun and revel in the fact that he loves you both.