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5 Nov 2013

Quote by dpw

1. Quote me where I state gay men aren't fit to be parents.
2. I have never said that the children are/will be bullied, I have said that it may put them in a position that might lead to bullying, a concern raised by the ongoing study by Cambridge University which reported earlier this year. Which by the way is the FIRST such study in the world of children adopted couples.
3. The American studies are theoretical not based on "gay adoption"
4. Surely you should be asking were there no men in my life?
5. Gender is not the same as orientation
6. Why have you got this thing about gay men? You chose to single them out before you knew I was gay.
7. Personally if anyone needs counselling (note the spelling) it's surely you. The vitriol is palpable, you need help.

1. You have intimated throughout this discussion that you don't believe gay men should be allowed to adopt children. If you thought that they would make fit parents, you wouldn't be so dead set against them adopting.

2. Once again, you have intimated that children raised by same sex parents would be bullied. If you don't think that they'd be bullied, what is your argument?

3. The studies were done using couples who are actual real life human beings who have adopted children. There are plenty of studies if you want to search them out. I'm not doing any more work for you because you are determined not to let any of the studies change your ming.

4. I asked if there were no women in your life because you insist that a child raised in a two male household can't have any feminine influences. Do you think all gay men live in a womanless bubble? If you had a child, don't you have women friends who would influence their lives?

5. What does that have to do with anything?

6. You didn't just appear on this thread. You've been her awhile. I read the forums, I look at people's profiles, I have known you were gay for quite awhile. You haven't been trying to keep it a secret. How could I not have known you were gay is a better question. I'm not going back and look for every reference you have made to being a gay man, but this is from your profile page:

Name:
Derek
Date Joined:
15 Sep 2013
Last Visit:
04 Nov 2013 (1 hour ago)
Sex:
Male
Age:
59
Sign:
Scorpio
Relationship Status:
Single
Orientation
Gay
Location:
Merseyside, United Kingdom

It's right there under Orientation.

7. Nothing I have said to you is personal. Don't think that it is. This thread isn't about you either, it's about children who need homes who are being blocked from adoption by people like you, both gay and straight.

Stop attacking me and do something useful.

4 Nov 2013

Quote by dpw

I find it amazing the number of people that throw out comments that show they either haven't read the thread or haven't understood a post. Nowhere in all my posts have I shown prejudice against gay men, show me! If you can't I will expect an apology or aren't you so quick at writing those?

This was my original statement on your prejudice.

Quote by me
I think you're carrying around a dangerous prejudice. You may be letting your personal feelings about gay men interfere with reason. If you are so prejudiced against gay men that you are unwilling to accept evidence that they make good parents, you don't really have an informed opinion, just a prejudice

I have seen nothing in any of your subsequent replies that makes me believe that you are not prejudiced. Do you even know what prejudiced means? You can be gay and be prejudiced against gay men. You have proven that with your remarks on their unsuitability as parents.

Your belief that gay men aren't fit to be parents isn't based on logic or evidence, but on your own feelings on the matter. Those feelings are prejudice. Studies show that your feelings are wrong, that actually gay men do make good parents. Children need to be adopted into loving homes, gay men can provide loving homes. The only reason you don't want them to adopt children is because they are gay.

That is prejudice. You are prejudiced. Try to overcome your prejudice rather than asking me to apologize for telling you the truth.

Your points that children raised by gay men are bullied in school don't hold water either. If only children raised by gay men were bullied in school, you might have a point, or if no children being raised by gay men were ever bullies, that might prove some sort of point, but it doesn't.

All sorts of couples and single parents have children who are bullies and children who are bullied. You are trying to force a link that just doesn't exist to make yourself feel better about your beliefs.

Your beliefs are wrong. They are hateful, and you need to get over them. Seek counseling, get into therapy, find out why you really have those feelings. And don't come back saying that I said you are hateful. I said your beliefs are hateful. Your beliefs are prejudiced.

Quote by dpw

With same sex parents there will always be a lack of maternal or paternal instincts, there is a lack of one type of role model for gender behaviour. Children learn this both consciously and subconsciously. There is an even greater problem if one of the children is the opposite sex to the parents, the parents have never experienced things that the child is.

Are there no women in your life? None of us live in a bubble. Children don't need a man and a woman in the home to learn gender behaviour. Did you learn to be gay? I certainly didn't learn to be a straight woman from my mother. There are all kinds of things that effect a child's gender identity, but being raised in a home with two sex same parents doesn't seem to be one of them.

There are studies that say you are wrong. You told Sprite that a hundred videos wouldn't change your mind. Do you not realize that that is because of your prejudice? You have an idea formed in your mind that is so deep that even facts and evidence can't change your mind. That is prejudice.

You posted my entire post, which included references to several studies that prove you wrong, but the only thing you wanted to talk about was that I called you prejudiced. You accuse me of not reading the thread, then absolutely refuse to respond to any evidence or offer any of your own. You only go back to your gut instincts which tell you that gay men shouldn't be raising children. You arm your self with reasons why, ignoring the fact that studies show you that your reasons are wrong, and you don't think that is prejudice?

What would you call it?

3 Nov 2013

Quote by dpw

Oh I'm very prejudiced!
I AM A GAY MAN!
I'v never stated ONCE that same sex couples don't make wonderful parents. Pleas read my posts I state quite clearly that it is society that is at fault, other children and often their parents are discriminatory and cruel.
If society isn't ready I am not in favour of a child being used as a guinea pig. If and when a study is done in the UK of the children that have been adopted by same sex couples and it shows that they didn't suffer from bullying or discrimination, then and only then will I be in favour of it! If it poves the opposite then I'd hope the law would be repealed, although I doubt that would happen.
Me! Prejudiced! I didn't know whether to laugh or cry!

You are prejudiced. It doesn't matter if you're a gay man. You have a prejudice. You won't let facts enlighten you. You harbor the belief that gay men can't raise children. That's a prejudice. Children don't have to be raised by gay men to suffer from bullying and discrimination you know. Kids being raised in foster homes, group homes and orphanages get plenty of that too. At least if a child has a home, there is a place safe from the bullies.

3 Nov 2013

Quote by dpw

Don't hate me for this but at the moment I am vehemently opposed to gay men adopting. I realise I'm setting myself up as a target but it is a strongiy held opinion that it isn't in the best interest of a child.

According to Children’s Bureau of the Administration for Children and Families of the United States Department of Health and Human Services, there are 123,000 children considered orphans awaiting adoption in the U. S. If you feel that it is in the best interest of a child to be raised in an institution, a group home or be shuttled about from foster home to foster home rather than adopted by loving gay parent's, you have obviously not spent much time considering your position.

You say that your primary concern is for the children. There are plenty of studies that say that children raised by two gay parents are as well adjusted as children raised by heterosexual parents.

The study: Can Gay and Lesbian Parents Promote Healthy Development in High-Risk Children Adopted From Foster Care? done by Justin A. Lavner, Jill Waterman and Letitia Anne Peplau showed that there is much benefit for children, even at risk children, from being adopted, and that it didn't matter if they were adopted into hetrosexual or homosexual homes.

"Adoption is known to promote cognitive and emotional development in children from foster care, but policy debates remain regarding whether children adopted by gay and lesbian parents can achieve these positive outcomes. This study compared the cognitive development and behavior problems at 2, 12, and 24 months postplacement of 82 high-risk children adopted from foster care in heterosexual and gay or lesbian households. On average, children in both household types showed significant gains in cognitive development and maintained similar levels of behavior problems over time, despite gay and lesbian parents raising children with higher levels of biological and environmental risks prior to adoptive placement. Results demonstrated that high-risk children show similar patterns of development over time in heterosexual and gay and lesbian adoptive households."

Every major children's health and welfare organization, including the American Academy of Pediatrics, the Child Welfare League of America, the American Psychological Association, the American Psychiatric Association, the National Association of Social Workers, and the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, confirms that gay parents make good parents. The American Medical Association, the nation's largest and most well respected association of physicians, with a membership of more than 200,000, agrees.

I think you're carrying around a dangerous prejudice. You may be letting your personal feelings about gay men interfere with reason. If you are so prejudiced against gay men that you are unwilling to accept evidence that they make good parents, you don't really have an informed opinion, just a prejudice.

2 Nov 2013

The only kind of threeway I would be interested in is mmf. I want to be the center of attention. Aside from which, I believe a woman can handle two cocks better than a man can handle two pussies.

http://www.tube8.com/hardcore/sandwich-with-incredible-blonde/1491331/

28 Oct 2013

I mostly just nap. I hardly ever get into a deep sleep. When I do, I wake up groggy and miserable.

10 Oct 2013

Quote by nicola
Have you been playing in photoshop again?

It's like the old joke:

Q. How do you make $1m in publishing?

A. Start with $2m.

It's not a joke. Dinosaur erotica is real and it generates big money for some people. Check this out: http://theweek.com/article/index/250692/dinosaur-erotica-exists-heres-what-you-need-to-know

3 Oct 2013

She is frustrated because she has planned a weekend to be with her husband and he decided to get his tires rotated instead. It sounds to me like he is constantly frustrating her, never letting her have her way. He's a bully, making her upset and then making fun of her. He's also an asshole for posting this video. I'm doubt that this argument started in the car. This is probably something that they'd gone over at home. He knew that she was angry with him, and he took advantage of that fact to make her look like a fool for his friends on youtube.

He want's to rotate his tires. Is rotating the tires such a necessity to his life that's he's willing to ruin his marriage over it? He takes a lot of obvious joy in her frustration and anger. She may be a spoiled brat, but he treats her like shit. If my husband posted a video like this about me, I'd be sitting in the divorce lawyer's office right now.

3 Oct 2013

He likes beer well enough to be a snob about it.

2 Oct 2013

Quote by Dancing_Doll
I like the title.
As far as erotica goes, it could be like a bunch of hot girls sporting more fucked up versions of a Camel Toe.
Camel Toes that are on a ruthless hunt for good dick.
Except with less blood. Well, unless it's that time of the month.
Good stuff.
Let us know when it's posted!

Zombies that don't want to feast on the flesh of the living, but to have sex with them.Sorority Girl Zombies would be a good title, or Cheerleaders of the Living Dead.

1 Oct 2013

It was an amazing group of great stories this time around. Congratulations to everyone who won, and thanks to all who entered.

1 Oct 2013

I'd hate it if someone else was using something I'd written to enrich themselves without at least giving me a share of the money. Conversely, my biggest literary dream is to have a poem of mine used to illustrate toenail fungus.

1 Oct 2013

I also have a title. Her Majesty Ruthie, Queen of All She Surveys, Empress of the Moon, Duchess of Brinberry, Defender of the Faith.

1 Oct 2013

I've found that the block button works very well in the chat rooms. If someone is annoying, block them. You can stay in the chat room and play without having to put up with them. You can also keep them from pms and black boxes and keep them from seeing that you're online.

29 Sep 2013

Quote by doctorlove
Have you ever sent naked pictures of yourself to someone other than on Lush?

When I was younger and more foolish.

29 Sep 2013

Quote by nicola
How long should a paragraph be?

A paragraph is a group of sentences about one subject. As long as the subject doesn't change, there is no definite length that a paragraph should be. Long paragraphs are harder to read and look strange on the page. Shorter paragraphs break things up and keep the reader's eyes moving along. I'd say three or four sentences is enough for one paragraph, but then you begin to get into sentence length, and some of those long winding sentences like Thomas Wolfe wrote and pretty soon just a few sentences are taking up a page, and how was I supposed to read one of those huge books and make a report on it when I couldn't get from one end of a sentence to the other without having to start over three or four times, making my entire educational experience harsher and more stressful than it should have been, so of course I used Cliff Notes, and if that's cheating, so what?

Abraham Lincoln was once asked, "How long should a man's legs be."

To which he probably replied, "That's the dumbest question I ever heard."

It was reported, though, that he said, "Long enough to reach the ground."

The third sentence in my Abraham Lincoln story could be combined with the second to form one paragraph instead of two separate ones, but I like the flow better the way it's written. Also, I've always suspected that the question was really about cocks. It may not have been, but this is a sex site. I don't want to go too many words without bringing up a sex organ.

What is the correct answer?

29 Sep 2013

There are a few things I'd like to forget now, so my answer must be no.

28 Sep 2013

Let your real Dom handle it. That's what I'd do.

28 Sep 2013

Slightly over an hour ago. Thanks for asking.

28 Sep 2013

No. An online relationship has to be meaningless and tawdry to be any fun.

28 Sep 2013

Quote by WellMadeMale
I'm guessing you skirt folders aren't real hip on the borderline hygienic concept of straddling and squatting down upon a duffel bag, then...I mean, without first folding excess skirtage.

Sometimes - less is more, but sometimes...more is a bit provocative too.

The Effects of Duffel Bag Sitting on the Sexuality and Libido of the Human Female would be a good science fair project.

I never fold my skirt. Skirts are to be lifted and smoothed. Preferably above my waist.

28 Sep 2013

Quote by She

Keep trying until she realizes that you mean it for real and not just for fun.

There is also a danger of being too persistent. Don't go to the point where she feels like you're harassing her. Don't make her feel uncomfortable. There is a chance that she just doesn't feel about you like you feel about her, and that she never will. You say that she is a single parent. Maybe she just isn't ready to date again. Ask her to go out with you and a group of friends.

27 Sep 2013

I know two men and one woman who have each been married five times. That is hopeless romanticism.

27 Sep 2013

The first anal sex known to have been filmed was in 1908. I imagine it was popular then. It's always been there, and people have always liked it. Are you asking when all anal porn got started?

12 Sep 2013

You're mad! You're mad!

11 Sep 2013

Quote by Archangelistic

As a matter of fact, I have, but thought it only contributed to the male propensity for promiscuity, not the ability to perform sexually on that level.

A man who can perform only a couple of times with one woman will be able to have sex a lot more times if it's a different woman each time. In the porn industry they use fluffers to get the male lead excited when he's been having sex with the same woman several times. A guy who is having a lot of sex with different women can have sex more often than a guy having sex with only one woman. I doubt that a man could have sex with as many different partners in one continues session as a woman under any circumstances, but probably a good deal more than with one partner.

11 Sep 2013

Pint Drunk

I call it whatever it is. Coke, Pepsi.

Soleillalune is right. Mexican Cokes are better. Also Jarrito's grapefruit soda is the best.

11 Sep 2013

Quote by Archangelistic
Fascinating that a girl would take on multiple cocks in such fashion. Would a guy be able to handle an equal number of females at once, while others were lined up for a shot? I'd volunteer for that one.

Ever hear of the Coolidge effect?

10 Sep 2013

Quote by BigDaddyRich
I don't know, but he's a good actor. I just don't think he could play that that role.

I agree. It's hard for me to imagine him as Pablo Escobar.

8 Sep 2013

Quote by Magical_felix

Whoa, someone hand me some aloe vera.

Sorry, I'm out of aloe vera. Here's some ginger.