I completely agree with you Susie and no your not bring a prude your being empowered. Having a friend who was traumatised because if as a child and teen i feel very conflicted about people writing about it for pleasure and i am not a prude.

Dear Mr Bear Aka James i will brew the tea for you i fave a teapot for the very job. English breakfast extra strong & will be available soon in a bear sized mug, let me know if you take milk with yours plus some blueberry sugar cookies i made for you and Fuzzy and i will get you a mug of coffee next , plus a blueberry danish or cookies