Quote by nicola
Changing someone's username is a manual process. It takes time. A site volunteer's time, someone who is busy with more important admin tasks / has better things to do in their life than acting out someone's whim.

We are not going to change someone's member name because:

1) The wind changed.

2) It's a full moon.

3) My "Master" told me to.

You get the picture.

We've had too many people contact us recently, and even a few "Masters" who've asked for the name of their "slave" to be changed.

This might be a bit of a game to some of you guys, but it's a time waster for our admin staff.

"Masters" come and go, they get bored, they might want you to change it again. It's something we are not entertaining.

Please do not ask for your name to be changed, unless you are 100% certain, and have a valid reason to do so.

Once a name has been changed, it cannot be changed again for 6 months, so make sure you are happy with your choice.

Dammit. September was my Experiment Month. I had a new name for every day. Thanks a lot.

Quote by watchtower68
Don't fell bad John I've been a member for 3 days now had about the same thing go on this morning in one of the chat rooms I did manage to chat with one female but I guess I was either suppose to be speaking dirty or something like that I asked this woman where she was from she asked me the same it was short and sweet before I was interrupted by another male member so I just sat in the room while plugging some pedals up to my amp to play guitar.
Latter on I noticed a moderator was checking my profile as if I were up to no good or something.
As its been mentioned the chats here are not like AOL or IRC I've concluded I'm not welcome in the chat rooms and will likely just avoid using them all together from all that I can tell the problem is that too many guys want to get on bugging woman to I.M. with them so they can try to talk them into cyber sex and the like I to went in to all the chat rooms and said hello to everyone no rely so no big deal to me.

Not all the moderators check you out because you seem to be up to no good. Some of them check you out because you're fairly new, and they are friendly. It's good to know who is around. And if they noticed you having a hard time, the nice ones are more likely to remember you by checking your profile out. They see so many names in the chat rooms that it can be difficult. It's a standard procedure to keep an eye on everybody by looking at profiles, but it doesn't necessarily mean it's a negative action to do so.

I've been on Lush over a year now, and I have met some wonderful people. When I do (extremely rarely) venture into the chat rooms, it always takes me a long time to find my chatty feet. I would encourage you not to give up. It will be become quickly clear to you who has a stick up their bottom and who doesn't, but it will take you some regular visitations to work it out. It's just like a playground, really. There are some wonderful people. Sometimes we just have to hunt for them, and other times they just pop up in front of us. Please don't be discouraged so quickly.

Quote by Pat278
I'm interested to kno what is more preferable.

A guy who provides everything, and is open and treats you as an equal where you have a say in everything

or

A guy who provides everything, but is opinionated and makes all the decisions where you have little input.

Are you talking provision in material/monetary terms? If so, neither is preferable. I don't want everything handed to me on a plate. I work hard, and share what I have with people who matter to me when I can. I don't mind opinionated people, as long as they listen to me, too.

I think some decisions must be made alone (health, for instance), but after discussion if the consequences will be shared by both parties. If it's just where to go for a walk or dinner, I'm usually rubbish at those decisions, so he could choose more often than not.

Neither one of the options are particularly more favourable to me without more detail, sorry!

Quote by saint72


Well Shylass What i started here was to show new writers that there are people that are will to help them. Since I started this thread I have made some great friends and got the help I was needing the most. I know the story reading moderators are helpful and some does want to help. I took some of their information the wrong way due to I felt like they were start off with pointing out the A-Z resource in their first rejected e-mail. Then I would have to ask more questions some gave great feed back other I felt like were being a smart ass (lol...I must had been one too). Everyone just has to remember that e-mail is a cold contact and people can take information the wrong way and gets them in a up roar. Any way there are people that are willing to help others just that people has to ask for it.

The A-Z resource should be the first place we all start before submitting stories to Lush. I still refer back to it on a regular basis, and I've got a few works posted now.

Many authors, when faced with rejection of their work, refuse to take the time to explore all the help that is available. Most of their issues can be fixed by taking the time to read the resources they are pointed to. That is why the standard rejections come back with links to them. It isn't because the verifiers are lazy. It is the author's own fault if they are too lazy to read them. Sadly, that is often the case.

Should an author with a rejection not understand the issue, the verifier is open to polite requests for more help, especially after they have attempted to understand the links provided. Sadly, many don't even bother to click on them, or just see a bit of text and can't be bothered.

Each volunteer verifier has to deal with masses of stories, abuse where they shouldn't be abused, often, and are also (don't tell anybody this) human. If they are pressed for time, due to real life, or a large story queue, I think they can be forgiven for sounding terse at times. We all read another's words with our own or projected attitude, as you say.

There is also limited space in which verifiers can write notes for authors, so extra pleases and thank yous sometimes have to be removed in order to give as much help as possible.

I don't know the current statistics of story submissions, but the A-Z resource was developed to help meet obvious needs, since verifiers are short on time considering the ratio of submissions to mods. But most of them are happy and able to help those who prove they are willing to put effort in. If more people took the time to read the available help, and then ask for extra help afterwards, it would be better for all concerned. The authors would produce increasingly better work, and the verifiers would have more time to process more stories.

I wished to clarify what help you were seeking before posting any help I was able and willing to give, as I wasn't sure exactly what you were looking for. I am a little clearer now, thank you. I am glad your situation has been sorted out, and yes, people who are willing to work hard at producing stories to the best of their ability, but need more help, should feel free to ask for it. Sometimes I help them, but I crack the whip when I know they can exceed their own expectations. There is nothing more satisfying than seeing somebody who has put the effort in, be recognised for it. There are some truly excellent authors on Lush who started in the same position as you, so I am glad you sought out the help you needed. Hopefully, your writing path will become more and more exciting for you!

Lazy people should not ask for help, unless people who need to feel wanted would like to do all their editing and proof-reading for them, so they never learn themselves. But that's just my opinion.

Sorry for waffling.

Quote by Lisa


This is the guide on dialogue presentation that we send to authors:

http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst27829_Formatting-Dialogue.aspx

If you separate each speaker and give them their own paragraph it creates a smoother read and means people are less likely to have to pause to get their head around everything that's going on or try to figure out who's saying what. It also means you can use actions to show which character is speaking (making your scene easier to see and feel) and there's less of a need for dialogue tags. Whether or not you use dialogue tags is completely up to you, though.

It's a good job I'm not a mod any more! I completely missed two speakers in the same paragraph, and only saw the additional detail. I'm blaming the heat and Stupid-Customers-At-Work Syndrome.

Quote by Poppet
I hope this is the proper place to post this. If not, so sorry.

I - like so many of us here on Lush as authors want to improve on our writing skills. I mean, we want to get better, right? At least I know I do, so my question is this…

When I first started out on Lush, I used to use italics for speaking parts in my stories, and then it wasn't acceptable. At first I didn't like it, however now I look back at my old stories and it kind of irritates me. (I plan on fixing them all.)

I also used to do my speaking parts in lines such as

“Mm, I love when you submit to me, you wee filthy fucker.”

“Oh Mistress, you make this sub the happiest when you talk to me like that.”

“I know what you like; it’s why I own you.”

However when I read proper books, I notice they don’t speak like that. It’s in paragraphs. Such as…

“Mm, I love when you submit to me, you wee filthy fucker,” I coo softly, pulling your hair slightly. “Oh Mistress, you make this sub the happiest when you talk like that.” You whimper, looking up at me. “I know what you like; it’s why I own you,” smiling, I kiss your lips.

And, so I started writing my stories like this. I actually sort of like the second way. Some might say it looks ‘to busy’ so I’m wondering, which is actually the proper Lush way? Or does it even matter? Is it at the author’s discretion?

I haven’t had any stories fail because of this, but I do want to know what the mods think. I also would like to know what everyone thinks, to which they might like better, and which is easier to read.

I hope I can get some answers, I’m rather curious to know what everyone thinks.

In my opinion, both of those styles are fine. It's good to mix it up a bit. You can move a story along faster without "he said, she said", and allow your reader to be caught in the conversation.

However,you can enrich the story and build detail by allowing your reader to see perhaps a bigger picture, or a smaller one by showing them what is happening by adding emotion and "colour" through your descriptions.

When I am helping an author with their work, and they rely on one style more heavily, I suggest that they try adding in a few instances of the other style.

A good writer can use a mix of those styles to keep the story flowing, and keep the reader interested. Use them as tools to focus your reader on the details surrounding, or in, your characters, and to put focus on the words within conversation.

It's the same with poetry. I ask the author that I'm helping where they want impact and emphasis, or where they want the words to run or slide together. I think a lot of knowing which style to use, and where, comes down to practice and intuition.

There is no real "Lush way". Do as you see fit as the author, and develop your own style based on what you want your readers to focus on in that part of the story.

Quote by BBHappy
I'm I a bit overweight, 18, and still a virgin. But I do have an 8 inch cock. Would you do me?

Would you let a skinny lass suck your eight inch cock? Would you let a fat lass squish you down and ride you?

How do you feel if the tables are turned? Are you picky about her looks? Do you mind what she looks like, or does sexual desperation mean you're not as picky if it means you get some action? Do you genuinely not mind what she looks like, or does that play a small part (or even an eight inch part) in who you would get wiggly with? I'm sure you have varied preferences to any other man. Women are the same, in that some of us mind, and some of us don't. But mostly, I think you will find we're more likely to do you if we like you as a person.

I don't mind what a person looks like, personally. I don't find that's important to me. If I fancy them, nine times out of ten, it's because of how they treat me and their character/personality. That tenth time is usually down to whether they give me a big ol' smile or not.

And actually, at this point in my life, the bigger the willy, the more scared I would be (but I'd work on that for the right man).

Quote by BlackHawk1967
I dated a woman at work ( respiratory therapist) Took her out then back to my place, got busy on the couch and she pulled away. I was just like what!?? she went on a spiel about her uncle fondling / molesting her, some shit like that. when she finished i told her to take her clothes off, it's my turn now ...... and it worked, she spent the night. it's all in the technique.

Quote by freshprinceofdenver
Hi my name is will and im new here. Just want to say hi and wanted to know if anyone else is in the denver colorado area?

I lived in Aurora for a year once. I loved Colorado.

Quote by BiMale73
Can it be that the data used for the minimal number of posts validation is not always in sync with the live data? I saw that I had passed the requirement, but I still don't see an add link button (and my own code didn't work either ;)). Yesterday I noticed something similar with my scoring history. It took about half a day before a score I gave to a story was added there.

I think it's something to do with the cache or the thingy and the wotsit. It does take a few hours sometimes, but it updates eventually. Gav tried to explain it to me once, but I was sidetracked by his shiny helmet...

Quote by BlackHawk1967
Give her my card and tell her to give me a call when she grows up.

When she grows up? FFS. I pity the poor woman who has dealings with you if she's been assaulted previously and needs tenderness and time to be intimate! Geez!

Quote by nicola
You need to press the random story button from the home page only. Once you're in a category and press the random button, you're given a random story from that category only.

It made sense to leave it like this, so you can select a particular category and press the random button, or you have the choice to get pot luck from all categories, from the home page.

I wondered why it kept giving me the Gay Male category when I tried it once! I'd been reading friend's story and decided to see what I could find elsewhere.

I thought maybe you were doing a Facefudge and trying to tell me what I wanted to read, as opposed to what I really did want to read.

Quote by Inupendi
Hi All

I was looking at the 'benefits of meditation' and it got me thinking. A lot of people I meet/talk to / read around the subject of meditation talk about being in the 'now' or the 'present'.

My question is to ask people from their own observation, not from what they have read, been told or believe, but their own observation.

Meditation, exercise, sex and entertainment are all common subjects that get mixed in with being 'present' or in the 'now'.

Is it possible to register and realise simultaneously? Physics would say not possible, as would Neuroscience.

So I am coming from a place that can see it is possible only to be aware of the moment before the next moment. The 'Fore-Future'. The brain is an instrument of registering the past and fantasising/terrorising about the future.
The 'Now' does not exist, it's a nice idea but trying to be in 'it', personally I would give 'it' up.

What say you?

I'm not really sure what you're asking, I'm afraid. I don't meditate like most people would, but I do use certain techniques that are not dissimilar. I use them to take me away from the "now", which I am very aware of, and can distinguish between that, the past, and the future.

It's difficult to explain, but I have no trouble registering my "now", whether people say that is possible or not. I register it in what feels like a different part of my brain to my other thinking, and I do not think of it in words. It's an unspoken weight in my mind, when I choose to register it. Therefore, I am struggling to understand your post, sorry.

Quote by Mikeintexas
Whatever.......

By this, do you mean whatever punishment you've received has worked for you? That's great! Maybe you'd like to share that list with everybody, since that's what the thread is about.

Edit: Ooo, I spy subterfuge! I think you need to try something else on her. :