Quote by Road_Runner
As my profile on my page says, I'm divorced. I was married 26 years when she decided the changes I needed in my life didn't suit her. After some reflection of our life together I came to one decision about our sleeping arrangements that may sound odd, but I'll explain my thoughts below.

When you are young and first married, money is tight so you make due with what you have. That means one of you bring your bed along to the relationship or may have somebody else's hand-me-down given to you. Generally this will be a bed no larger than a full size one. Because of it's size you sleep close together, often entangled as young lovers are in desire for each other.

The years go by and the relationship grows with time, but so does your ability to buy nice things. The day comes when that old bed needs or is desired to be replaced. So, now you have the money to buy a nicer bed, do you buy another full size bed or to you go to a queen size in thoughts of more comfort? Most couples buy the queen size thinking comfort.

In reality you've created space between you in bed and in your physical relationship. Now instead of being close while sleeping, you spread apart. You'll find fewer mornings of being cuddled together or even being close to each other. She'll have her side and he'll have his. So the relationship goes on like this, that little separation in the physical side that may not seem so large.

Then the day comes years down the road when it's time for a new bed again. Again with time and prosperity you go looking for the nicer things in life. You find that perfect king size bedroom suit and home it goes.

Now you've created even more space in your physical relationship. With such a large bed it is very easy to find your own space and lose touch with your partner.

Then you add in the other life changes that happen between you and that king size bed becomes ocean of separation.

I think this ever increasing bed size contributes to couples having less physical intimacy in their relationships and in turn creates problems outside of the bedroom too.

So that is my whacky theory. Feel free to poke holes in it or fun at it.

Just know, if you share my bed, it will be no larger than a full size ever again.

R_R
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Yeah, I don't know if this holds true for all couples, but it is a nicely observed detail of marriage and relationships.

I love giant beds. I am told I sleep like a chalk outline, all splayed out, so the more room the better. Plus, more room for sex! That said, I only go into chalk outline mode after my SO is asleep. We are pretty cuddly before sleep.

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