How this has come about is that I am a member of another forum ,a sextoy forum to be more precise and whilst health and fitness is covered within the forum (stared by myself) it is still a minority thing. However on here there are a far number of like minded people who take health and fitness more seriously and hence its your opinions that count and interested in.
BMI has been described by some on this other forum as "poop" and "everyone who has a decent BMI look like golfclubs"
Now I beg to differ. Since I have lost over 6 stone I have an acceptable BMI and I don't look like a golfclub.
I agree the system does has it flaws for example fitness instructors ,bodybuilders and some sports players er Rugby players can have erroneous BMI readings because of their muscle mass .
For most it is probably the best system to date that is in place of measuring muscle fat and will be continued to be used for example by the UK Health Dept ( NHS) until a better system becomes available.
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black1
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In my opinion no . I would keep it to yourself . Regardless of being Bi, what you may encourage is a relationship with another whilst in an existing relationship. So in effect you would be cheating on your wife . All I can see from this arrangement is somebody getting hurt and a 20 year relationship at risk .
Communication is the cornerstone of all relationships. this can be done by talking writing a note texting etc. Either way it is going to be essential.
You both need to discuss your likes and dislikes and then set common boundaries. all this needs to be done through communication. Without this your just going to get frustrated of which I am guessing from what you have posted is the stage you are now at. By talking it will enable you to overcome some objections of which one appears to be that he his frightened of hurting you. You need to reassure him on this point.
Assuming he likes BDSM then you will both need some sort of safeword/sign system and make sure you both know the drill. Play safe !
God luck
You both need to discuss your likes and dislikes and then set common boundaries. all this needs to be done through communication. Without this your just going to get frustrated of which I am guessing from what you have posted is the stage you are now at. By talking it will enable you to overcome some objections of which one appears to be that he his frightened of hurting you. You need to reassure him on this point.
Assuming he likes BDSM then you will both need some sort of safeword/sign system and make sure you both know the drill. Play safe !
God luck
Quote by AmeliaLeigh
DRINK lots of water... avoid sweets and fried foods... avoid starchy foods and eat smaller portions... just don’t forget to exercise and walk, walk, walk...
I’ve found the Keto lifestyle to be extremely positive and productive.... once your body goes through sugar withdrawal it gets easier and if you reach ketosis .... omg the energy level you get is amazing and you will think you found a new drug ??
I agree with most of that actually.
Smaller potions - buy smaller plates .simples
Water - Yes . For me it staves off hunger .
Sugar- surprisingly tea tastes better without it !
Walking- Possibly the most pleasant and enjoyable form of exercise . Even walking doing window shopping helps . Who can argue about a bit of retail therapy!?
Over 4 Years I lost 6st 7 Pounds to what I am now which is 12st 1 pound .
I would not bother with any of the so called diets as I found and still see that peoples weight yo yo as a result of these. Any changes have to be a life style change . These need not be done all at once but phased in slowly. I did this by taking control of my own food shopping phasing in more fruit and vegetables . I phased out all takeaways as fast food tends to be laden with fats . Instead we went out more in restaraunts ,choosing those that advised you the calories that are in the food. I used to be a big pizza fan and had pizza with nearly everything. I havn't touched one now for nearly 3 years.
After around 3 years I introduced more exercise . I used the Wonder Core Smart Machine and weights which helped to get rid of the last remaining weight which was hanging around my tummy area. After a year I have now got visible Abs .
The other tip I can give is don't give up but keep at it. It could save your life as it did with me.
I would not bother with any of the so called diets as I found and still see that peoples weight yo yo as a result of these. Any changes have to be a life style change . These need not be done all at once but phased in slowly. I did this by taking control of my own food shopping phasing in more fruit and vegetables . I phased out all takeaways as fast food tends to be laden with fats . Instead we went out more in restaraunts ,choosing those that advised you the calories that are in the food. I used to be a big pizza fan and had pizza with nearly everything. I havn't touched one now for nearly 3 years.
After around 3 years I introduced more exercise . I used the Wonder Core Smart Machine and weights which helped to get rid of the last remaining weight which was hanging around my tummy area. After a year I have now got visible Abs .
The other tip I can give is don't give up but keep at it. It could save your life as it did with me.
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Well since I am rather old fashioned quite a long time... I would only attempt to kiss her after three dates.
A similar Mo to myself. With the increase of STDs certainly within the UK and with AIDs just bubbling under the radar again a cautious approach is probably better. It gives you chance to find out the background of your potential partner first.
Newer practices like the "Half Night Stand" are fuelling the problem IMHO.
This has happened to me only a few weeks ago. A younger lady seemed to have an obsession about me despite my Mrs accompanying me on both occasions. The stalking was kept within the confines of the nightclub. Everywhere I went she followed and was about always a few yards away. Apart from talking to her of which I didn't want to do, I tried defensive negative body language but she wasn't buying it. The second week I got her expelled by a door man on a technicality. A witness saw her helping herself to my Wife's bottle of wine . She has thankfully now been banned. Its quite a disturbing creepy experience but more upsetting for my wife.
Whilst not into swinging myself, but views from another forum of which I am a member of, is that in the UK, single girls are sometimes admitted. This is so that they can engage with an existing couple(s) . Your best bet is to direct your enquiry to the particular club to find out their policy on this.
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Short skirts are always hot. The mystery of what is under the skirt fuels my desire but let’s not forget the shoes. Women’s shoes really are important too. When a woman is wearing her favorite sexy shoes her confidence is intoxicating
I agree with this and perhaps one of the reasons I like seeing ladies wear a nice pencil skirt . For me they emphasise a ladies rear and add the potential of stockings to be worn .
Many thanks for your responses.
At least now thanks to you all , I understand the rationale behind the approaches .
TBH most tend to be quite respectful and ease off when they find out that I am in an existing relationship. Its just the odd one that crosses the line and then becomes problematic.
Thanks again
At least now thanks to you all , I understand the rationale behind the approaches .
TBH most tend to be quite respectful and ease off when they find out that I am in an existing relationship. Its just the odd one that crosses the line and then becomes problematic.
Thanks again
This is one I wanted to ask your ladies for some input .
A bit of background . I am in my mid 50s and a silver fox . I have been described by some as very good looking especially since I lost around 6.5 stone to my current weight of around 12 stone . The weight loss changed my looks for the better and I currently work out as well 4 times a week .Most of our friends place me in my mid 40s.
For some reason when out at bars , I keep being chatted up by younger ladies of which my wife sometimes feels this as a mixture of a threat and sometimes laughable . I have been married 22 years now and still very happy so obviously I am not looking for anyone else.
So that is my question really ,what do some younger women see in an older guy like me ? IMO they should be looking for guys of around heir own age instead of wasting their time on me.
Thanks
A bit of background . I am in my mid 50s and a silver fox . I have been described by some as very good looking especially since I lost around 6.5 stone to my current weight of around 12 stone . The weight loss changed my looks for the better and I currently work out as well 4 times a week .Most of our friends place me in my mid 40s.
For some reason when out at bars , I keep being chatted up by younger ladies of which my wife sometimes feels this as a mixture of a threat and sometimes laughable . I have been married 22 years now and still very happy so obviously I am not looking for anyone else.
So that is my question really ,what do some younger women see in an older guy like me ? IMO they should be looking for guys of around heir own age instead of wasting their time on me.
Thanks
I use a Wonder Core Smart Machine and a couple of dumbells . Combined with dieting my weight dropped from 18st 6 pounds to currently 12st 2 pounds over a period of 4 years. The exercising I started 2 years ago when I was 14 stone.
I have now stopped losing weight and just exercise to keep the pounds off and to tone. I work out 4 times a week roughly an hour for each session.
I have now stopped losing weight and just exercise to keep the pounds off and to tone. I work out 4 times a week roughly an hour for each session.