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black1
14 hours ago
Straight Male, 62
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Well as roleplayers we have quite a large collection of costumes and props . Most of them being hers ( a full wardrobe)
My favourite costume has to be the American Cop Uniform . When she slaps those cuffs on me I know I am in trouble !
We intend getting a 70s/80s style British WPC uniform for around Halloween and intend going around as a handcuffed zombie WPC and Criminal .
The British Cop Uniform is a little more conservative and would be more suitable forgoing out in.
My favourite costume has to be the American Cop Uniform . When she slaps those cuffs on me I know I am in trouble !
We intend getting a 70s/80s style British WPC uniform for around Halloween and intend going around as a handcuffed zombie WPC and Criminal .
The British Cop Uniform is a little more conservative and would be more suitable forgoing out in.
I have been told since I lost around 6 and a half stone it took 20 years off me. That's because when I was over weight it added around 10 years on my real age.
People often think now that I am 10 years younger than my actual age. These complements have come from both genders .
I am far fitter than when I was in my 20s and now very much more body confident .
People often think now that I am 10 years younger than my actual age. These complements have come from both genders .
I am far fitter than when I was in my 20s and now very much more body confident .
Quote by Sirene_Jaune
Your story reminded me of time my husband and I wear dancing in a night club, both taking a break and a guy just walked up to him. Lime wedge in hand and put it to my husband's lips.
The guy was eyeing up my husband, with those bedroom eyes. I laughed and said that was nice of the guy to give my husband his lime wedge. Guy looked surprised and looked between us and said "Oh you two are together. He is very handsome. Have a good night."
Anyway in your case if something like your situation happens again I would say "I'm flattered but I think my wife would be upset if you did that." Then leave it at that.
Thanks for that.
Your right it was a very similar situation. I think what caught me off guard was the direct approach . This is probably the first time anyone of either gender has asked for sex so directly and bluntly . Normally you can see a build up if you are chatted up and take some sort of action before it got too far.
I don't know how he go it so wrong either . Normally finding a same sex partner is far more difficult because they tend to be scarcer and therefore more observation of behaviours is often needed before approaching somebody.
Thankfully he never turned up the week after as we are regulars of this club so its our normal place to go on a Saturday night.
Your response was very much appreciated
Does it really matter the cost? As you are both having a good time. As regards who is expected to pay then it depends on who asked who for the date. If I asked a lady then I would be expected to cover her costs and vice versa.
The actual cost would be probably meaningless to yourself as I live in the UK and therefore have a different currency to yourself. Costs of things will also be very much different. Then there is also the time element. My last five dates after bumping into my current partner (now my Mrs )was 1988 .so again the amount would be meaningless .
The actual cost would be probably meaningless to yourself as I live in the UK and therefore have a different currency to yourself. Costs of things will also be very much different. Then there is also the time element. My last five dates after bumping into my current partner (now my Mrs )was 1988 .so again the amount would be meaningless .
Quote by Burquette
Hey, I like yoga pants and a baggy T-shirt. But I only wear them around the house, because I'm mindful of the impression I'm giving, even when I go to the store.
I've been struggling with depression this year. Trying to look attractive helps. My mantra has become: Make it look like you knew you would be leaving the house today.
For what its worth that's probably the right attitude to take. I think most like a well dressed woman or guy especially when going out on the town . I also agree about the white shirt another poster has mentioned.
Quote by Sensei
I agree with the communication point. No relationship (and certainly no BDSM relationship) is like another.
Personally, I don't like bratting (that is, faux misbehavior in order to induce a punishment). I would rather she request attention directly if she wishes it, or perhaps arrange for a regular scheduled session.
But by contrast lots of couples like the bratting dynamic. As long as both sides know and approve, it's all good.
I agree with that. We do a lot of roleplaying , so IMO some resistance does add to the occasion . At end of the day very few would willingly want to receive Corporal Punishment in a real life setting . So to make the play realistic this has to be factored in.
Its something you are going to have find out slowly. Talking to each other is probably the best way to find what you both want. There are very powerful people that are naturally assertive when it comes to business but like to be dominated in the bedroom as a release . So you cant always tell from a persons mannerisms.
Quote by Burquette
Hats. The more the better. Last gentleman I vacationed with brought over 30 hats for 7 days.
(Kidding.... Personally, I lilke guys that look businesslike. If they're wearing jeans, I like it with a collared shirt. I also like it when men wear watches.)
Interesting. Many ladies tend to like their guys dressed like that possibly with a tailored jacket as well . I do go out like that .
Many guys ,I know, however prefer to go out in jeans and a baggy T Shirt. I know plenty of this type to be forever single and I wonder why ?!
I don't think an apology was necessary .Its not as if either of you could have moved . In the UK this type of thing happens on the trains quite frequently due to over crowding. I had a ladies bust in my chest on one train. We just had a laugh about it and some flirty banter exchanged. Like I said its not as if either of us could have moved so you have to make best of a bad situation.
That's very scientific. I applaud your commitment .
To be honest I have lost that much weight ie 6 and a half stone that I have developed a phobia about putting weight on of which is key to the above . TBH I am quite happy with my body and to develop my Abs at the age of 55 , I have been told by many is a great achievement . So I mainly exercise to maintain my weight (12st 3 pounds) and any toning is a bonus. Its been a long journey for me as it took just over 4 years but it probably saved my life and has taken 10 years off me in appearance wise.
To be honest I have lost that much weight ie 6 and a half stone that I have developed a phobia about putting weight on of which is key to the above . TBH I am quite happy with my body and to develop my Abs at the age of 55 , I have been told by many is a great achievement . So I mainly exercise to maintain my weight (12st 3 pounds) and any toning is a bonus. Its been a long journey for me as it took just over 4 years but it probably saved my life and has taken 10 years off me in appearance wise.
In answer to the OP it shouldn't . Roleplaying is a form a BDSM and as such safeguards should be factored in such as passwords or signals to abort, should things get uncomfortable for either party. The roleplay should also fit in within your set boundaries. Any potential acts that may go beyond these boundaries needs to be properly discussed before hand . Another words Play Safe !
It is something we have talked about . As a relationship it was something that needs to be addressed . The best way is talking to each other. In BDSM terms I am what is called a switch . This is were I am comfortable in both dominant and submissive roles. My OH is submissive. However she is happy to take control on a couple of occasions which kind of satisfies my need sometimes to be dominated.
So if your in this situation of which I think your hinting at the best way is to talk to your partner and perhaps take it in turns to be the dominant person. At end of the day the whole idea is to keep your partner contented and happy. So I think its something you need to talk over perhaps over dinner out somewhere.
So if your in this situation of which I think your hinting at the best way is to talk to your partner and perhaps take it in turns to be the dominant person. At end of the day the whole idea is to keep your partner contented and happy. So I think its something you need to talk over perhaps over dinner out somewhere.
I am looking for sensible answers on handling a new situation that kind of caught me by surprise and certainly wasn't expecting it .
First of all I am heterosexual ,not Bisexual or even Bi curious . I am also happily married .
Both me and the Mrs were at our usual cabaret nightclub spot . Now its not unusual for me as I am a very confident on the dance floor , to dance on my own leaving the Mrs enjoying her wine at a table near the perimeter. Its no different as far as I can see than any other couple arrangement except perhaps the opposite way around. ie The woman on the dance floor with the guy looking on and perhaps when enough drink as been consumed joining his partner on the dance floor.
So there I was dancing on the dance floor near the centre minding my own business . I had even a couple of dances with another woman of who is a close friend to both of us whilst her partner chatted to my Mrs . So whilst I was dancing away happily on my own I was approached by a guy who admired my physique stating that "its a nice change to see a guy who looks after himself " So I nodded in agreement. He then applauded me on my dance moves. Again this has happened before as one of my Exes was a choreographer and so taught me etc. So again I agreed with him. I didn't think anything unusual so far as I have had plenty of compliments in the past albeit normally from women .
Anyway an hour or so passed after having a couple of more dances with my Mrs . She is quite a good Northern Soul dancer and the DJ played a few Northern Soul tracks.
Anyway after my Mrs again reunited with her bottle of wine at the table ,the same guy approached me and said "I fancy giving you a f**K "
This took me by surprise as this is the first time somebody has been that blunt from either gender . I was that flummoxed about it that I pretended not to hear the comment and carried on the best I could and he eventually disappeared .
So just in case I bump into him again , I would like to know how to gently put this guy down gently, without anyone get hurt or damaging anyone's confidence .
I just don't know how he got this so badly wrong as I wasn't giving out any signal at all and he must have seen me dancing with my Mrs and the female friend .
Thanks in advance
First of all I am heterosexual ,not Bisexual or even Bi curious . I am also happily married .
Both me and the Mrs were at our usual cabaret nightclub spot . Now its not unusual for me as I am a very confident on the dance floor , to dance on my own leaving the Mrs enjoying her wine at a table near the perimeter. Its no different as far as I can see than any other couple arrangement except perhaps the opposite way around. ie The woman on the dance floor with the guy looking on and perhaps when enough drink as been consumed joining his partner on the dance floor.
So there I was dancing on the dance floor near the centre minding my own business . I had even a couple of dances with another woman of who is a close friend to both of us whilst her partner chatted to my Mrs . So whilst I was dancing away happily on my own I was approached by a guy who admired my physique stating that "its a nice change to see a guy who looks after himself " So I nodded in agreement. He then applauded me on my dance moves. Again this has happened before as one of my Exes was a choreographer and so taught me etc. So again I agreed with him. I didn't think anything unusual so far as I have had plenty of compliments in the past albeit normally from women .
Anyway an hour or so passed after having a couple of more dances with my Mrs . She is quite a good Northern Soul dancer and the DJ played a few Northern Soul tracks.
Anyway after my Mrs again reunited with her bottle of wine at the table ,the same guy approached me and said "I fancy giving you a f**K "
This took me by surprise as this is the first time somebody has been that blunt from either gender . I was that flummoxed about it that I pretended not to hear the comment and carried on the best I could and he eventually disappeared .
So just in case I bump into him again , I would like to know how to gently put this guy down gently, without anyone get hurt or damaging anyone's confidence .
I just don't know how he got this so badly wrong as I wasn't giving out any signal at all and he must have seen me dancing with my Mrs and the female friend .
Thanks in advance
In my opinion your best bet is trying things at home with your wife after some sort of discussion. I would also recommend that you do some background reading. BDSM has a very broad spectrum and any sort of accessory used in sex is classified as BDSM . This can include something as trivial as a tickling feather. There are plenty of outlets that sell BDSM accessories and some can even be improvised from household items.
Once you have had a discussion as to what both of you want then boundaries can be set .With your background reading I would emphasise the chapter about safewords. With BDSM these are essential for playing safe.
Once you have had a discussion as to what both of you want then boundaries can be set .With your background reading I would emphasise the chapter about safewords. With BDSM these are essential for playing safe.