is it my parents? because if it's my parents, i am stopping and perhaps never having sex again ever.
if it isn't them, though, i keep going.
Active Ink Slinger
Join the best erotica focused adult social network now
Login
bustyreadhead
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 41
United States
Forum
Active Ink Slinger
is the surprise a birthday party with all my family and friends? then, about 24 hours after the sex.
Active Ink Slinger
she's not the best by a long stretch -- not even close... but since this is lush i feel contractually obligated to respond: pussy galore.
Active Ink Slinger
also, anything by kazou ishiguro or michael chabon.
also: wolf hall, by hillary mantel. (spoiler: there are no wolves)
also: wolf hall, by hillary mantel. (spoiler: there are no wolves)
Active Ink Slinger
Quote by dpw
The Unbearable Lightness of Being by Kundera, it's a modern classic
many many dittos to this... it might be my all time favorite book ever.
Active Ink Slinger
Quote by BlackLeatherSkirt28
He would get a a good smack across his hunky face.
awesome
Active Ink Slinger
thanks, everyone. these are all really awesome and considered answers. i really appreciate it.
you guys rock.
you guys rock.
Active Ink Slinger
so here are my 4 truths and a lie:
1. the first concert i ever went to was the backstreet boys. i was 16. my friend and i managed to get ourselves back stage, and met a bunch of the crew and one band member: kevin richardson. kevin didn't hit on either one of us, but he did give us each our first ever beers as well as some sips of whiskey from a flask while he chatted us up.
2. i once had a lover that made the most amazing sounds, and said the most amazing sexy things when we were in bed together. one night i secretly recorded us having sex -- audio, not video. i never told him i did it. i still listen to it sometimes. it is awesome.
3. in high school, i wrote a script for the tv show "angel," in which the main character gets sucked into an alternate universe where he is the only human, hiding from all the other characters who are hungry vampires there. it was terrible, but i got a very nice letter back from joss whedon telling me to keep at it and suggesting some places i might want to consider for college if i wanted to write for a living.
4. the most dangerous/bats**t crazy place i have ever had sex was against the wall in the bedroom of a married man, while his wife was asleep in the bed. i had to bite his hand hard enough to bruise it in order to keep quiet.
5. despite my love of sci-fi and all things nerdy, i am the only person i know who has still not seen any of the star wars movies.
ps - also, ilgirl1414, this was an AWESOME post idea!!! thanks.
1. the first concert i ever went to was the backstreet boys. i was 16. my friend and i managed to get ourselves back stage, and met a bunch of the crew and one band member: kevin richardson. kevin didn't hit on either one of us, but he did give us each our first ever beers as well as some sips of whiskey from a flask while he chatted us up.
2. i once had a lover that made the most amazing sounds, and said the most amazing sexy things when we were in bed together. one night i secretly recorded us having sex -- audio, not video. i never told him i did it. i still listen to it sometimes. it is awesome.
3. in high school, i wrote a script for the tv show "angel," in which the main character gets sucked into an alternate universe where he is the only human, hiding from all the other characters who are hungry vampires there. it was terrible, but i got a very nice letter back from joss whedon telling me to keep at it and suggesting some places i might want to consider for college if i wanted to write for a living.
4. the most dangerous/bats**t crazy place i have ever had sex was against the wall in the bedroom of a married man, while his wife was asleep in the bed. i had to bite his hand hard enough to bruise it in order to keep quiet.
5. despite my love of sci-fi and all things nerdy, i am the only person i know who has still not seen any of the star wars movies.
ps - also, ilgirl1414, this was an AWESOME post idea!!! thanks.
Active Ink Slinger
Quote by DanielleX
1. My Mum once delivered a baby on a plane
2. I drive an orange Ford Focus STE Titanium X
3. I've never been to Ireland
4. My great grandfather flew a spitfire in the RAF
hmmm... you're never supposed to go with the least likely sounding, but...
i'm going to say #2, your mom never delivered a baby on a plane.
Active Ink Slinger
here is something i have noticed in my life that other women have nodded along with, and i'm curious to get a guy's perspective:
it's pretty much a "common knowledge" cliché to say that the big "home run fantasy" for a dude is being in a threesome. and it's equally a "common knowledge" cliché that women tend to resist them, or only participate to get them man to stop bugging them about it.
and yet...
i've noticed that whenever i've gotten a guy i'm seeing and another woman to agree to a threesome, more than likely it never transpires -- because the guy gets cold feet and backs out before the event. i have never once had a gal back out. and like i say, whenever i mention this to gals i know, they all say they have witnessed the same.
so i'm curious to get a guy's perspective: why do guys back out more than women? and just as intriguing to me, why do we continue to collectively talk about it in terms of it being a thing men love and women (sometimes) tolerate?
thx in advance!!!!
it's pretty much a "common knowledge" cliché to say that the big "home run fantasy" for a dude is being in a threesome. and it's equally a "common knowledge" cliché that women tend to resist them, or only participate to get them man to stop bugging them about it.
and yet...
i've noticed that whenever i've gotten a guy i'm seeing and another woman to agree to a threesome, more than likely it never transpires -- because the guy gets cold feet and backs out before the event. i have never once had a gal back out. and like i say, whenever i mention this to gals i know, they all say they have witnessed the same.
so i'm curious to get a guy's perspective: why do guys back out more than women? and just as intriguing to me, why do we continue to collectively talk about it in terms of it being a thing men love and women (sometimes) tolerate?
thx in advance!!!!
Active Ink Slinger
for a gal, i go old school: tori welles.
for a guy, jaime barry. he has that sexy accent, and it's hard not to look at his body when it's on the screen. yum!
for a guy, jaime barry. he has that sexy accent, and it's hard not to look at his body when it's on the screen. yum!
Active Ink Slinger
and actually, semaj5, i'm gong to add one last thing... because as i'm scooting around here in the forums, it's hitting me that you're the same guy posting complaints and looking for advice because sometimes girls put you in the "friend zone."
it also looks like you're a young dude, so i'm going to assume that you are looking for a way to do the right thing and sincerely not wanting to be an asshole, and give you advice that (i believe) will serve you well going forward:
i put it to you that your question here and your question about being in the friend zone are related. i may be wrong, but it looks like at this point in your life you are classifying women by categorizing them as "bone-able" or "icky/non-bone-able." if so, you would be well advised (and happier in the long run) to change your gal-sorting criteria.
try something like this:
** women who seem to have mutual chemistry and/or a connection with me.
** women who i really like as people, and enjoy spending some amount of time with.
** women who i neither have chemistry/connection, nor enjoy as people enough to want to spend time with.
if you try to sort this way, you'll save yourself a lot of headaches -- plus, you'll answer the questions you yourself brought to the lush community:
** you won't have to deprive yourself of the company and good friendship of someone you hit it off with online, just because you don't feel chemistry. you can go to the movies and maybe even have a grand time, or -- this is online meting after all -- go to the movies, decide that she's not someone you enjoy spending time with (for reasons that have nothing to do with whether or not you plan to bang her) and move on.
** you can treat women who "put you in the friend zone" -- or, as it's more commonly known, "like you but don't happen to feel the chemistry connection they are looking for in a lover" -- as people with agency and personal tastes/attractions, and decide from there how to proceed. again, not by the criteria of "do i get to bang her?," but rather, "do i enjoy her company enough to hang around and enjoy her as a fellow human being?" regardless of which way you answer, you're next steps will be obvious.
it also looks like you're a young dude, so i'm going to assume that you are looking for a way to do the right thing and sincerely not wanting to be an asshole, and give you advice that (i believe) will serve you well going forward:
i put it to you that your question here and your question about being in the friend zone are related. i may be wrong, but it looks like at this point in your life you are classifying women by categorizing them as "bone-able" or "icky/non-bone-able." if so, you would be well advised (and happier in the long run) to change your gal-sorting criteria.
try something like this:
** women who seem to have mutual chemistry and/or a connection with me.
** women who i really like as people, and enjoy spending some amount of time with.
** women who i neither have chemistry/connection, nor enjoy as people enough to want to spend time with.
if you try to sort this way, you'll save yourself a lot of headaches -- plus, you'll answer the questions you yourself brought to the lush community:
** you won't have to deprive yourself of the company and good friendship of someone you hit it off with online, just because you don't feel chemistry. you can go to the movies and maybe even have a grand time, or -- this is online meting after all -- go to the movies, decide that she's not someone you enjoy spending time with (for reasons that have nothing to do with whether or not you plan to bang her) and move on.
** you can treat women who "put you in the friend zone" -- or, as it's more commonly known, "like you but don't happen to feel the chemistry connection they are looking for in a lover" -- as people with agency and personal tastes/attractions, and decide from there how to proceed. again, not by the criteria of "do i get to bang her?," but rather, "do i enjoy her company enough to hang around and enjoy her as a fellow human being?" regardless of which way you answer, you're next steps will be obvious.
Active Ink Slinger
the posts here are pretty good, and i don't know that i have anything quality to add except maybe this:
since a lot of these types of questions are specific to specific people, it seems to me that if your friend thinks of it as cheating, it's cheating. can't tell someone that they should be okay with what they see as a breach of trust from a significant other.
since a lot of these types of questions are specific to specific people, it seems to me that if your friend thinks of it as cheating, it's cheating. can't tell someone that they should be okay with what they see as a breach of trust from a significant other.
Active Ink Slinger
"Am I an ass hole for thinking like this, how can I get out of this with any self respect?"
hmmm... that's actually two questions.
answer to question #1:
depends. but maybe.
answer to question #2:
dude, it's not like your date was to meet up in a hotel room and boink each others brains it. it was to go see a movie together and, presumably, talk to one another.
if you're looking to back out of that just because you feel she is not attractive enough to be seen with -- and then compound it by going online and telling everybody this hoping for validation -- then my guess is that you'll be fine. whatever your personal self-respect is based on, if it's gotten you this far i don't see it being damaged by being a no show to someone you led to believe you liked.
now, as to whether or not you're going to get out of it with the respect of others, well...
hmmm... that's actually two questions.
answer to question #1:
depends. but maybe.
answer to question #2:
dude, it's not like your date was to meet up in a hotel room and boink each others brains it. it was to go see a movie together and, presumably, talk to one another.
if you're looking to back out of that just because you feel she is not attractive enough to be seen with -- and then compound it by going online and telling everybody this hoping for validation -- then my guess is that you'll be fine. whatever your personal self-respect is based on, if it's gotten you this far i don't see it being damaged by being a no show to someone you led to believe you liked.
now, as to whether or not you're going to get out of it with the respect of others, well...
Active Ink Slinger
man, i hope that works out ok!!! i have been in a number of threesomes (fmm and ffm) but never with a current lover and an ex.
in my experience, it seems to go better when one member of the party is a relative outsider. makes everything afterwards... simpler.
in my experience, it seems to go better when one member of the party is a relative outsider. makes everything afterwards... simpler.
Active Ink Slinger
this:
"My question is do you think the women I have made love to have thought about other guys or women?"
followed by this:
"I ask if "you" (people of lush) thought they we're thinking about other men. I didn't asks if they were."
followed by this:
"I do think very highly of myself... Now if someone could challenge me with a strong line of thought then maybe. But that is rare. And I am not boasting."
is fucking high-larious.
why is it that the guys here who go out of the way to explain that their hostility is a byproduct of their vastly superior intelligence are the ones who don't seem to understand basic grammar, sentence structure, or how to effectively communicate simple ideas with words?
"My question is do you think the women I have made love to have thought about other guys or women?"
followed by this:
"I ask if "you" (people of lush) thought they we're thinking about other men. I didn't asks if they were."
followed by this:
"I do think very highly of myself... Now if someone could challenge me with a strong line of thought then maybe. But that is rare. And I am not boasting."
is fucking high-larious.
why is it that the guys here who go out of the way to explain that their hostility is a byproduct of their vastly superior intelligence are the ones who don't seem to understand basic grammar, sentence structure, or how to effectively communicate simple ideas with words?
Active Ink Slinger
Quote by vines
maybe I will try dirty talk. Who knows maybe my girl will enjoy something stupid like that.
that's the way! now tell her she isn't just stupid, she's a stupid whore!
see? you're a natural!
Active Ink Slinger
Quote by vines
My question is do you think the women I have made love to have thought about other guys or women?
yes, she is.
she is thinking of tim falconer, the boy she went to school with oh so many years ago. she still remembers his curly locks, and wonders what he's up to. when you move inside her, she closes her eyes and imagines that they are together.
curiously, she imagines that they are building bird houses and having liverwurst sandwiches in her dad's garage.
it's weird.
Active Ink Slinger
Quote by vines
My question is do you think the women I have made love to have thought about other guys or women?
yes, she is.
she is thinking of tim falconer, the boy she went to school with oh so many years ago. she still remembers his curly locks, and wonders what he's up to. when you move inside her, she closes her eyes and imagines that they are together.
curiously, she imagines that they are building bird houses and having liverwurst sandwiches in her dad's garage.
it's weird.
Active Ink Slinger
Go to a bar where guys were talking about women, sit quietly, and listen.
Active Ink Slinger
"Actually, I've never heard a PUA do this at all, this does not sound like PUA advice, it sounds like AFC advice (Average Frustrated Chump)."
yeah, sure. look, you sit in a bar and have wave after wave of guy come up and give you some clever "neg" and see how long it takes you before you want to stop hanging out at the bar.
yeah, sure. look, you sit in a bar and have wave after wave of guy come up and give you some clever "neg" and see how long it takes you before you want to stop hanging out at the bar.
Active Ink Slinger
the only way you spend your life in the friend zone is if you:
a). decide that whether or not you are in it is up to one girl, and
b). don't take a bloody hint and move on with your life.
seriously, if someone isn't attracted to you they aren't attracted to you. deal with it and go find someone who is.
don't decide what you need to do is hit on them harder or w/ more stealth. lot of guys who frequent PUA sites think you need to do one of those things, and it's fuck-all annoying.
a). decide that whether or not you are in it is up to one girl, and
b). don't take a bloody hint and move on with your life.
seriously, if someone isn't attracted to you they aren't attracted to you. deal with it and go find someone who is.
don't decide what you need to do is hit on them harder or w/ more stealth. lot of guys who frequent PUA sites think you need to do one of those things, and it's fuck-all annoying.
Active Ink Slinger
as with most things like this, depends on the guy. but with the right guy, it's pretty fucking awesome.
Active Ink Slinger
i have, but for friends who are amateur photographers. never professionally.
Active Ink Slinger
that is the most hilarious excuse i have ever heard, and i've heard a few in my day.
"my wife never has sex with me in my mistress's apartment, so when you think about it i really have permission without asking."
"my wife never has sex with me in my mistress's apartment, so when you think about it i really have permission without asking."
Active Ink Slinger
like most women, confident and funny is a pretty great turn on. (although i have noticed that a surprising number of men somehow believe that "being an asshole in public to me and my friends" will be interpreted by us as both confident and a laugh riot.)