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2 May 2009

Quote by lexylove
From a girl's perspective: were you looking, or were you leering?

There is a difference, and it matters.

Amen, sister.

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2 May 2009

He seems to vary the intensity of his ejaculation. If it's our second or third round, no, I can't feel it, but if we haven't had sex in three or four days I certainly can feel it as it seems pretty intense and the volume seems to be more as well. Um, he's the only guy I've ever had minus a condom, so I don't know about the rest of you.
A good size?
His.
Yes, it can make a difference, but he knows exactly how to touch me, just how I like him to stroke me and so on. He's not small, he's not huge, and I don't care because I wouldn't trade his for anything.

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2 May 2009

Mine is my muff, my pussy and every once in awhile, my snatch. What can I say? I was raised blue collar.

Although 'panty hamster' gave me the giggle fits. Hubby thought it a new classic.

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2 May 2009

Terribly sorry, but I do not mean for anyone to feel I'm judging them or their actions (unless they're breaking the law somehow). That isn't my job, or my lookout, I'm simply stating what works and doesn't work for me.
Durrasch, I apologize if I came off that way. That's not my intent, and I don't see you as a potential offender, I'm just playing devil's advocate and considering the extremes that can and have happened in this world. I know there's a large group of people who will never go beyond the thoughts, and you're right, it's unfair to only mention those who DO cross the line. Another apology for that.

I don't think that all n/c and fantasies are about hate and anger, but a frighteningly large percentage of the actual crimes are. That is what I get mad about, because in my work, I've had to help pick up the pieces after some of those crimes, and yes, I've seen firsthand how some of the perps did indeed have fantasies that got out of hand.

Can I restate my position as this:
Fantasies that are only fantasies are ok if you're ok with them, but if anyone ever considers crossing the line on the violent ones, please get help.
We all have things we're ok with, and we all have things that we're not ok with, as long as we're not judging each other, it's cool.
Is that better?

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1 May 2009

Quote by Durrasch
as long as we're not endorsing torture, or violence, a fantasy is just that. It's not real. I don't endorse violence or , even in fantasy form, but portraying two sisters who get involved with each other as they explore the rest of their sexuality does not harm anyone. A young woman who fantasizes about Daddy does not hurt anyone.

If the criterion for judgment is whether anyone gets hurt, why is fanasising about violence "wrong"? Fantasy hurts nobody. I in no way defend the act of someone, but none of the fantasies I have ever had about locking a hot chick in the closet have ever hurt anyone. The things I dreamed about doing to my daughter's kindergarten teacher never did anyone any harm. Fantasy is a perfectly viable outlet for desires we may have upon which we cannot morally act.

It's the emotions and desires that bring about those fantasies. To desire my husband to dress up as a fireman is simply a desire for a change, a pleasant variation on our sex life. There's no hatred or rage in it, mostly amusement. To even fantasize about your child's teacher? Where is that desire coming from? What emotions trigger that? Why does that appeal to you?
I'm a clinical psychologist and I've seen many cases where the line gets crossed, and the consequences vary from simple embarrassment to horrifying acts. The difference is in the degree and intensity of the fantasy.
I've crossed the line several times, and the worst thing that happened is my mother in law wanting to know why we had a fireman outfit in the hall closet. An outfit we no longer use, by the way because it was just a passing thing.
A violent fantasy though, tends to live on longer, and can become an obsession. If you're at the bar and you've already had too much to drink and your child's teacher comes in? How far away are you from not just crossing the line, but shattering it? I'm not saying you would or judging you in any way, but that possibility is there. Rage and anger can come to the surface quickly, especially if someone is intoxicated.

Of course, it may simply be a matter of language. Your fantasy might be no more than her saying no, but quickly changing her tune because she's always had the hots for you, but if true violence is involved in the fantasy? Be very careful. The human mind is incredibly complex and is capable of rationalizing things that we would normally never consider when we're in the grip of strong emotions.

There's also tons of research showing that many violent offenders engaged in a great deal of fantasy play before going too far. It's not worth it to fantasize about it, and I sure don't want to write it or read it. It's just not needed.

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1 May 2009

Quote by OrionTat
I love how everyone is portraying the good side of and forgetting that most times it is a powerplay that is basically in another form. The same would be for a priest abusing his flock, or a teacher with one of their students.

Everything has some way of being portrayed from a good point of view, but somethings are still not allowed because of it. I understand drives in the crowds and funds the site. I cannot understand however how is cool and , violence, and torture are too much. Just seems like selective persecution to me.

Just read what you wrote, 'most times'. It isn't always that way, and as long as we're not endorsing torture, or violence, a fantasy is just that. It's not real. I don't endorse violence or , even in fantasy form, but portraying two sisters who get involved with each other as they explore the rest of their sexuality does not harm anyone. A young woman who fantasizes about Daddy does not hurt anyone. A brother and sister who learn from each other is not wrong.

The last one is because I know it isn't wrong, having experienced it myself. (No, he wasn't a football player with eleven inches and I'm not a cheerleader with 38DD's! laughing9

) My brother and I were two kids who both lacked in self esteem because we were tall and skinny. We didn't have a lot of friends, but we had each other. One day a friendly wrestling match turned into some shy, tentative kisses, and thus we began our "affair" as we called it. It wasn't exactly the stuff of epic fantasy as we never got further than exploring each other with our fingers. No oral, no wild fucking, just a lot of kissing and holding each other close. Was it wrong? I suppose if you subscribe to some religious or moral viewpoints, yes, it was. Did it harm either of us in any way? Not even close.

We both got much needed human contact from a member of the opposite sex, which helped us to become more comfortable with the opposite sex. We both learned the value of simply being there for someone, we both learned how to open your heart to your partner as well. In between the kisses, we told each other everything, and I do mean everything. For a sixteen year old boy, he got a thorough lesson in female anatomy and just what we went through every month. At seventeen, I knew all about premature ejaculation and performance anxiety. Mostly, we both got a self esteem boost when we were at a critical time in our development. Sure, he was my brother, but the thought that someone found me sexually attractive sure made me feel special, even if I was tall, skinny and flat chested. The thought that I found his fumbling fingers and lips to be exciting made him feel better about himself as well.
After a year or so, I got asked out, and he had the guts to ask out a girl as well, and we both began dating. It seems that all of the men I've dated (and the one I married) were impressed with the fact that I was a pretty understanding partner. He had similar experiences.
Yes, we were each other's first love, but there was nothing wrong there, and no one can tell me different.

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