Quote by mercianknight
I liked Doll's answer, it most closely reminded me of my own solution.

Obviously your concerns will be predicated by two things:
1. what are the bounds you have already pushed;
2. is it you or him that is looking to keep the spark alive (and this is the big one)

I've been married 21 tumultuous years but still shag the wife at least 5 time a week. For me it is visual, so do NOT insult the effect of sexy attire (its not always lingerie), for her its emotional almost spiritual. I've told my wife what keeps me interested and, bless her, she tries. What I do is along the lines of what Doll said, for example, after a formal dinner one night a few years back I dragged the wife out into the car park and we 'dogged' - the memory of that night lasted for months. On another occasion during an intense thunder & lightening storm I pulled over in the car and gave her a seeing to - totally unexpected.

Just shake things up once in a while. Feed his interest with elements of your fantasies and you should both see the spark stay very much alive.

errr, i'm not insulting the effect of sexy attire, I always dress well and make special effort with my hair and make up, I am afterall 23 (it's what girls do!) it's nice to look good for someone.

I think people mis inturprate what I'm saying. Just because I say 'spark' i don't just mean sex. I mean romance and excitement. that pitter patter in your stomach when your loved one kisses you.

I don't know what you mean by your second point here.

Everyone's advice has been really helpful. thanks.

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