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Clumeleon
Quote by NymphWriter
There is also no reason for you to be so aggressive towards me. I haven't used any such memes nor will I as they are rarely my thing unless I'm trying to be humorous like in the thread about unicorns... one you'll most likely never see in The Think Tank. I have not been immature nor unkind toward you or anyone else in The Spa, nor do I intend to be. I have honored the rules of The Spa and I intend to continue to do such.
Thus, in regards to the OP, you won't always have the same discussion twice. Some topics in The Spa won't be seen in The Think Tank and vice versa.
It was never my intention to be aggressive towards you - I believe you have misread my tone and I apologise for my part in that.
As per the rules of The Spa, I was only discussing the topic generally and not making any comment on you personally. I never meant to say that you personally were immature or unkind, only that I believed the posting of memes to be so (potentially).
Clumeleon
Quote by curvygalore
I had guests this evening and as it's still too mild for a fire I had a dozen candles (some scented, in various holders and of varying sizes) burning in the hearth for welcome and a feeling of warmth. It worked nicely.
I miss having a real fire. It really does make a room more cozy and homey.
Clumeleon
Quote by NymphWriter
It depends on the point they are trying to make and I'm not talking about just memes about Trump, but memes in general.
If you can't make a point without a meme, maybe The Spa isn't the right place for you. Such an image almost certainly has the potential to be offensive, and the users of The Spa should not have to worry about that.
We didn't close The Think Tank, so there's no reason for the same immature and unkind antics to spill into here.
Clumeleon
Quote by trinket
Hmmm I listened to "weightless" and it actually irritated me. I'm not sure what to make of that.
Perhaps you're an abnormally anxious person, and so even a 65% reduction in anxiety levels didn't make much of a dent.
Watching the video was as relaxing as listening to the music, for me. I'm interested in the theory of not having a repeated melody—it certainly did seem to allow you to listen without really having to pay attention.
Music isn't typically something I use to destress. I haven't been suffering from much stress or anxiety lately, so it's hard to say if this had much effect, but it sounds like there is some decent research to back it up.
Clumeleon
Quote by NymphWriter
I think it would truly depend on the meme. Some are harsher than others, I agree, and more suited for The Think Tank, but not all the Trump memes are so vile. However, it would truly be a case by case instance.
It's better if they're just avoided altogether. They are provocative and therefore have no place in The Spa. Someone engaging in a civilised, respectful discussion does not require memes to make their point.
Clumeleon
Quote by trinket
Why would a trump meme be a problem here? Unkind and upset others? I actually don't have a problem with any of the memes that are usually posted in the think tank. Should we not post them at all in the spa?
I think it would be wise not to. They are, by their nature, antagonistic, even if you personally don't have a problem with them. The Spa is supposed to be a supportive environment where everyone's opinions are heard and respected, without being dismissed or ridiculed.
Clumeleon
I've had doubts in the sense that, for a long time, I never properly understood bisexuality and therefore my own sexuality.
There was a time when I was young that I was convinced I was gay. I never told anyone, and I certainly didn't have a boyfriend or anything, but I felt pretty sure I was gay. Then I started noticing girls more, and I started to think that I had been mistaken, or I had grown out of it or something.
So then I identified as straight for a long time. And that seemed to work, except that in private I still got aroused by images of attractive men and even gay porn, but I didn't really understand what that meant for my sexuality.
When I had a sexual encounter with a man, I tried to put caveats on my sexuality. I claimed I was sexually attracted to men and women, but only romantically attracted to women, which is legitimate but wasn't accurate for me. I guess I just didn't really know how to be bisexual.
Eventually I just embraced it and started properly identifying as bisexual. I still haven't really told my parents though because I don't think they would really understand it unless I had a boyfriend, which isn't really a good reason not to tell them. I guess I just take the view that my sexuality doesn't really concern them until I'm in a relationship.
So yes, I have doubted my sexuality in a way. But now I'm very comfortable with it, and I can be open with my friends and colleagues about it, and I'm happy with that aspect of my life.
There was a time when I was young that I was convinced I was gay. I never told anyone, and I certainly didn't have a boyfriend or anything, but I felt pretty sure I was gay. Then I started noticing girls more, and I started to think that I had been mistaken, or I had grown out of it or something.
So then I identified as straight for a long time. And that seemed to work, except that in private I still got aroused by images of attractive men and even gay porn, but I didn't really understand what that meant for my sexuality.
When I had a sexual encounter with a man, I tried to put caveats on my sexuality. I claimed I was sexually attracted to men and women, but only romantically attracted to women, which is legitimate but wasn't accurate for me. I guess I just didn't really know how to be bisexual.
Eventually I just embraced it and started properly identifying as bisexual. I still haven't really told my parents though because I don't think they would really understand it unless I had a boyfriend, which isn't really a good reason not to tell them. I guess I just take the view that my sexuality doesn't really concern them until I'm in a relationship.
So yes, I have doubted my sexuality in a way. But now I'm very comfortable with it, and I can be open with my friends and colleagues about it, and I'm happy with that aspect of my life.
Clumeleon
I think discussing the same topics in both The Spa and The Think Tank is fine, because lots of people want to discuss these issues but just can't handle the intensity of The Think Tank. It's important that the more sensitive among us can express our feelings without worrying about being attacked by the less savoury characters that frequent that particular forum.
We won't see Trump memes in here, because that would be unkind and might upset others. The threads might be on the same topic, but they will be very different in nature.
We won't see Trump memes in here, because that would be unkind and might upset others. The threads might be on the same topic, but they will be very different in nature.
Clumeleon
Quote by Just_A_Guy_You_Know
Okay, I wasn't meaning for this to be a cultural appropriation of specifically native traditions. I can see how it comes off that way and I apologize for that. Maybe I should have asked what animal do you identify most with? Or if you were an animal what kind of animal would you be?
Or go all Harry Potter and ask what someone's patronus would be. Essentially the same question, but avoids the cultural appropriation (assuming the wizarding community doesn't get wind of it).
Clumeleon
Your boyfriend calls you "baby girl"? Cool.
The sex scenes in GoT are not explicit enough to be classed as pornography, in my opinion. They are not designed to arouse in the same way that porn is. I actually like that the show doesn't shy away from their sex scenes with coy implications. It's a show for adults and most adults have fucked—it's okay to show people fucking.
The sex scenes in GoT are not explicit enough to be classed as pornography, in my opinion. They are not designed to arouse in the same way that porn is. I actually like that the show doesn't shy away from their sex scenes with coy implications. It's a show for adults and most adults have fucked—it's okay to show people fucking.
