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Bisexual Cis Male, 35
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Clumeleon
Quote by Dancing_Doll
Most people will say "just tell her" but to be honest... of the three male friends that confessed their feelings for me over the years, the friendship pretty much trainwrecked or blew up within the months following. The reasons for this involved various factors: either they kept trying to win me over, there was major awkwardness, the main intention of the 'so-called' friendship was to get with me, or they were just unable to handle seeing me with another guy.
Surely if the friendship is doomed to "blow up" after he tells her then it will happen even if he doesn't tell her; he still feels the same way. Is it really preferable to maintain a friendship where he suffers in silence while she, blissfully unaware, gets on with her life and inadvertently taunts the poor boy?
I agree he has to be prepared to hear no but if he really loves this girl like he says he does then I don't see that he has any viable option but to tell her.
Clumeleon
Quote by MMonroe
If you dont ask her out, soon someone else well and you'll spend forever wondering what would have happened if you had just told her.
Boom! Bang on, MMonroe.
Done right, there's no reason the friendship has to suffer as a consequence of her saying no (speaking from experience). Strap on a pair and go to it!
Best of luck.
Clumeleon
Quote by lugnut1369
Well as a "fluffy" man the 4"-5" is one of the reasons I'm still a virgin at 28y old. My personality just can't seem to make up for my looks & lack of size. I dont care what people say, the lack of size can affect confidence.
It's in your head, man! Lack of size can affect confidence but it doesn't have to.
Forget you even have a penis until it comes time to use it. At that stage, you can only work with what you've got. If someone bails because you're too small then that's their hang-up; it's not your fault and you're better off without them.
Four to five inches isn't crazily small. The problem isn't your cock, it's your lack of a can-do attitude. Go forth and screw!
On another note, I'm thinking of going into motivational speaking. Thoughts?
Clumeleon
I think how you feel about someone emotionally can strongly affect whether or not you find them beautiful. I can appreciate when someone is attractive or "hot" but the only people I have considered truly "beautiful" are those who I really do like as people as well. Someone who isn't so conventionally good-looking can be infinitely more beautiful than the most perfectly-formed woman in existence.
I hate to bring out the old 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder'-cliché but... I think you look at someone differently when you actually feel something about them. It's almost like their "inner beauty" shines through.
Physically, I think you 'see' beauty in the face; in particular, the eyes. When you look deep into their eyes and think, "Wow, they're beautiful," that's when you know.
I hate to bring out the old 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder'-cliché but... I think you look at someone differently when you actually feel something about them. It's almost like their "inner beauty" shines through.
Physically, I think you 'see' beauty in the face; in particular, the eyes. When you look deep into their eyes and think, "Wow, they're beautiful," that's when you know.
Clumeleon
Quote by Beck
@Clum: Thanks as well. I was 19 when my mom got remarried and my new step-sister was 17. The AOC varies depending on what state u are in.
Och, that's fine then. You would never have seen her as your sister, just another hot girl whose dad happens to have married your mum. Just like the situation of my dad and step-mother.
Clumeleon
My grandfather re-married when all his children were grown and my dad went on to marry his step-sister (both couples still married).
It all comes down to age: how old were you when the two families merged? If you were raised from children under the same roof and treated practically as brother and sister then there are issues (in fact, it's illegal in Scotland).
If you were both, say, teenagers and started to have feelings for each other, it's probably understandable. With adults, no foul.
I have a step-sister and I've known her pretty much all my life. I think of her now as my sister, and I am an uncle to her son. It would be morally questionable for me to now have a relationship with her (even though we weren't raised under the same roof).
Grey area.
It all comes down to age: how old were you when the two families merged? If you were raised from children under the same roof and treated practically as brother and sister then there are issues (in fact, it's illegal in Scotland).
If you were both, say, teenagers and started to have feelings for each other, it's probably understandable. With adults, no foul.
I have a step-sister and I've known her pretty much all my life. I think of her now as my sister, and I am an uncle to her son. It would be morally questionable for me to now have a relationship with her (even though we weren't raised under the same roof).
Grey area.
Clumeleon
I've got to say, when I was a bit younger it just wasn't so difficult to get drunk that I had to resort to these methods. And I'm still young!
Hell, if you were reasonably tall and could grow a bit stubble, there were plenty of stores that would sell you booze directly. The police didn't even mind half the time as long as you weren't in the street hassling people. Many a good night has been had in a children's play-park with a bottle of cheap cider.
Hell, if you were reasonably tall and could grow a bit stubble, there were plenty of stores that would sell you booze directly. The police didn't even mind half the time as long as you weren't in the street hassling people. Many a good night has been had in a children's play-park with a bottle of cheap cider.
Clumeleon
Quote by WellMadeMale
I would rather see (and imagine) Zoe ~ chest bumping another big firm set of female breasts, than daydream about and imagining your big firm breasts, bumping into anything, Clum.
Not that there's anything wrong with that kind of thing, mind you.
Zoe, please...carry on.
They're not as big and firm as they used to be, Jeff. Student living...
I agree, Zoe's lovely breasts will draw in a lot more punters than my considerably hairier ones; I shan't mention them again.
Clumeleon
Quote by Curlygirly
Welcome to Lush! There is the exact same forum thread posted in the lounge right now with a few pages of answers that you might find interesting.
http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst20517_What-are-we-doing-right-now.aspx
Buz, can you teach me that levitation thing?
(nice and helpful, right? Friendly, too? I think I broke out into a sweat.)
Very well done, CG; you'd make LM proud. Hope you've recovered.
Clumeleon
Quote by 321ZoeF
This is something I enjoy doing VERY much,I only wish more girls out there could enjoy it as much as myself and my friends,no offence to you babe but maybe you should try it more,you might get to like it!!! If it upsets you that much then try not to look at my profile so much,in it you will see that this is what I love to do and my job relates to this too,thank you for your comments tho babe,but I'm afraid I wont stop chatting or asking about things that mean so much to me x
Whoa! What the hell is your job?
Here I am, like a schmuck, studying at university when people are getting paid to rub against boobs? Sometimes I wonder where it all went wrong for me...
Clumeleon
Quote by 321ZoeF
Depending on how big and firm your breasts are have any girls had this happen to you and how did you feel about the other girls breasts bumping your breasts so hard ? I have just had this done to me,for me it really did feel nice,I would just like to no your feelings on it ?
My breasts are reasonably big and firm, although almost certainly not as much so as Zoe's, and I, like Zoe, like the feel of girls' big and firm breasts against my own.
Running and chest-bumping, though? The only chest-bumps I've done have been with guys with smaller (but maybe firmer) breasts than me, and they were more painful than pleasurable (still a good laugh).
Maybe I'm doing something wrong; perhaps Zoe could send us a video of her doing this with her partner? It would help if they were both naked (or at least in underwear) so that we can really see what's going on.
While you're at it, could we get a measurement of the depth of your vagina. In the name of science, of course.
Clumeleon
I've got a bit of a beard going on and I love it (as does my girlfriend, as long as I keep it reasonably trimmed).
If you think it will help you to feel good about yourself, then go for it. How you feel about yourself and the way you look is much more important than what anyone else thinks.
The good thing about beards is that if you decide it's not working for you or it's starting to irritate you, you can very easily get rid of it (and start from scratch, if you desire).
If you think it will help you to feel good about yourself, then go for it. How you feel about yourself and the way you look is much more important than what anyone else thinks.
The good thing about beards is that if you decide it's not working for you or it's starting to irritate you, you can very easily get rid of it (and start from scratch, if you desire).