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cokeheadbarbie
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 36
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Quote by lafayettemister
Men cheat because they are horny and/or neglected. If a couple in a marriage has no or very little sex that's just a sign of a bigger issue. Either husband or wife or both have become disconnected. They may actually be great friends and very much love the other. But the passion and desire is gone. Take your typical guy who no longer excites his wife... another woman falling for his charms, laughing at his jokes, craves his gaze, unable to hide her smile when he's around... that stuff is intoxicating to a man who has lost his "game". Sex is just the payoff. Men cheat to feel better about themselves even if it only lasts for the few minutes he's actually fucking someone.


So its like when you feel sorry about yourself and people go shopping or eat a tub of icecream to feel better for a little bit, cheating is also like that. When guys feel not appreciated or desired, they go dip their dick into something new to get that little rush of ego to feel good again. And then the ones who are really insecure end depressed that they aren't attractive cheat a lot. Hmmmm..... interesting! So cheating = ego/insecurity!
Your pics show obese or anorexic with the first one focused on her massive udders. Maybe if someone has a breast fetish but I find it gross.

Everyone prefers the hollywood look like megan fox or scarlett johanson not the runway model thin or the freakshow girls.

What would you call Playboy model girls? are they skinny or voluptuos? Whatever they are, that's what men want. End of story.

xx B.
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I'm still laughing at a recent study where they took a pretty (read "symmetric") college woman and had her approach men on campus to ask if they'd have sex with her. 100% said "yes"--married, with a gf, or single. They repeated the experiment with a young man approaching women and 0% said "yes". The researchers concluded that men cheat "beacause they can" i.e., that it's simply opportunity. Of course the experiment was stupid since we all knew the answer already. Would have been a shitty day for the guy though, I hear he'll be getting out of the ICU soon, lol (kidding). I disagree. I've had lots of opportunities I haven't taken.


That is not surprising because women are called sluts for having sex with strangers but blokes are cheered on!

What stopped you from taking those opportunities you mention? was it that you were afraid of maybe getting caught or was it that the girls were ugly? I think if a hottie suggest free sex to a guy where there is low possibilite to ever get caught then they will all take it. The only thing to stop them are if the girl is less hot than his girlfriend/wife or if he doesnt believe its really strings-free and that she might be crazy or a cling-on Glenn Close type that will hunt him down and wreck his relationship later. Its not often that a man gets approach by a hot girl on the street for sex unless she is a hooker. Most men will be looking for the cameras or think she is a decoy set up by his wife to try to catch him fucking around! Giggles.


Simple answer Barbie: ethics and integrity. I know it's hard to believe sometimes, but some men have them. If I'm in an exclusive relationship, I'm exclusive. Quite simply, I'm a man of my word. To turn the tables, as a woman, you likely get hit on often enough whether you have a bf/gf or not, why don't you take them up on it? Now consider why my answer MUST be different than yours just because I'm a man (unless yours involves plumbing-specific differences like fear of pregnancy or something).


Thats the funny bit is that usually I do take them up on it! Giggles. Life is a pleasure trip for me so if I'm feeling it then I go for it so maybe I am like a bloke that way BUT thats why I don't do comitments because I know I can't handle it. Men always need a woman to take care of them and be the "GF" role but they still need to fuck around and shag everything in site. Most slutty girls that I know just stay free of headaches and relationship and have the fun they want. Guys want to have their cake and eat it too so thats the problem. Its pretty rare to get a guy with ethics these days. I'm all for sex but just don't get why guys think they can have it all and are intitled to it! Like its ok for a guy to have a girl and then cheat but when a woman does it all hell brakes loose. Sort of like the double standard as I see it round my parts.
I was chatting up with this one guy when I first joined and I was going to be in his city over the Crimbo Holidays so we met up for some "eggnog" and we had a good shag in the back of his car. It was funny to see the person off screen and IRL. He was soooo sexy and fit but a total man-whore I think. He waited until we met to tell me he was married but whatever right. Men cheat bla bla bla. I figured it wasnt really my problem and I didn't want anything more anyway but I made sure to leave to leave some long blond hairs on his backseat on purpose and some lipstick smeers on his shorts. Not for sure if the wife found them but he's not on here anymore. Giggles.

Oh and I would still meet another guy from online if the chem was right.

xx B.
Quote by WHR43
My husband has never cheated on me nor have never I cheated on him and never will. We are both free to have sex with whom we want and where we want.

It is just about sex.

Seems we are back to the old distinction between love and sex. Have we not been here time and again?



I knew a couple in Spain that did that all the time so they they are each free to fuck around whenever they want. but then the guy started fucking this girl quite a lot and liked her better than the wife so he left her. but the new girl was a younger one and also a model. the wife was so sad she said she will never play these games again. its a recipe for bad times. men always go for the younger/hotter upgrade when they can hook it up.

xx B.
Quote by WorkAlone

I'm still laughing at a recent study where they took a pretty (read "symmetric") college woman and had her approach men on campus to ask if they'd have sex with her. 100% said "yes"--married, with a gf, or single. They repeated the experiment with a young man approaching women and 0% said "yes". The researchers concluded that men cheat "beacause they can" i.e., that it's simply opportunity. Of course the experiment was stupid since we all knew the answer already. Would have been a shitty day for the guy though, I hear he'll be getting out of the ICU soon, lol (kidding). I disagree. I've had lots of opportunities I haven't taken.


That is not surprising because women are called sluts for having sex with strangers but blokes are cheered on!

What stopped you from taking those opportunities you mention? was it that you were afraid of maybe getting caught or was it that the girls were ugly? I think if a hottie suggest free sex to a guy where there is low possibilite to ever get caught then they will all take it. The only thing to stop them are if the girl is less hot than his girlfriend/wife or if he doesnt believe its really strings-free and that she might be crazy or a cling-on Glenn Close type that will hunt him down and wreck his relationship later. Its not often that a man gets approach by a hot girl on the street for sex unless she is a hooker. Most men will be looking for the cameras or think she is a decoy set up by his wife to try to catch him fucking around! Giggles.

Quote by WorkAlone

Another study showed that women's preferences for men changes from 'nice guys' (gentle, stable, constant types) most of the time to 'alpha males' (strong, more assertive, more forceful) guys when they're ovulating. The conclusion here was the women want a stable life partner but want to breed with an "alpha". They actually said birth control is screwing all this up since women will often pick a life without really ovulating so when they stop taking bc pills, they discover a primal need for a guy that's the total opposite of their husband. They also said, basically, that it's a bad time in history for "manly men" since most women don't ovulate and so don't want them. Any of the women want to comment on that? lol.


I always want the bad boys even when i'm on the pill. The nice guys bore me. Snooze.

xx B.
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Oops! I think I need a spanking! Giggles.



Report to my office ;)



But you still didn't answer the question! Should I put you over MY knee now instead? Giggles.

xx B.
I don't like to connect too much with anyone I cyber with because I don't want to get emotionally involved. I fall in love very easily and sometimes I can become addicted to people. Once you start its hard to stop!!

xx B.
It doesn't matter to me how old he is because its more important how he looks! If he's hot and and can pass for under 30 than its fine by me. Age is just a number!

xx B.
Quote by overmykneenow
I try not to reply on "Ask the gals" for one obvious reason - why is this this not under "ask the guys"?



Oops! I think I need a spanking! Giggles.

I'm new to the Lush Forum. Men should please respond as well if that's ok with the administration staff on here. Its ok by me. I would like to hear what the boys think of this topic too so really its meant to ask everyone.

xx B.
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I find it inconceivable that intelligent life doesn't exist elsewhere in the universe, but I have no idea whether they have checked us out on earth yet, or if it's even practical to do so. There is still no evidence to suggest that faster than light travel is possible, without which they couldn't reasonably reach us could they?


Apparently the US Government has evidence that something has reached Earth. A few different times. They (the government & various branches of the Armed Forces) have even attemped several times, to produce/develop documentary films (providing they could manage the affairs/propaganda, themselves)

Very interesting read here...I never knew this til 30 minutes ago. I bet none of you had an inkling either?

http://www.presidentialufo.com/disney-ufo-connection/151-the-disney-ufo-connection

The Disney UFO Connection


Shite! I had not a clue that there was a connection between Walt Disney and aliens in real life. These disney documentaries shud be released to the public because we need to know about it. If these guvernment wankers keep us in the dark we become at the mercy of invasions and even more abductions!!!

Good info is in here. I just sent this article to my dad!

xx B.
I like dick for casual days and cock when its more sensualite

I like tool, rod, pole, drill, joystick, snake, rocket, noodle and schlong.

Every penis is different and it depends on the situation.

xx B.
I like men to look as perfect as they can. If they want to party with me then they need to get their lazy asses to the gym (giggles) and work out to sculpt that muscle. They need to pay attention to fashion too because jeans and tees take the easy way out and it soooo boring and generic. Snooze. If they start to slack after I commit and dont take care of themselves the way they used to than it never works out. I had one boyfriend that gained 9 kg and that was the last straw for me cause the attraction was gone which is a tragedy because he was perfect in the other ways. I did buy him a used-bowflex for his birthday but it didn't work so I had to ditch. I work hard on my look so I like men who work hard and look good standing next to me too. That might sound vain but its true. Luv the metrosexuals all the way. Hollywood men are all metrosexual so we can't say that its not hot.

He only needs to get down and dirty if its on me. Giggles.

xx B.
What is the real reason for it?

Is it because all their best mates do it or is it biological or just to know they can get a hot girl or are they just always horny?

What percent of men do you think cheat?


xx B.
Do you like men who are metrosexual?
Do we want them to be well-groomed and manscaped drinking a martini in the lounge or do we want the rugged man's man drinking a beer in the pub?
Which kind do you prefer and why is your preference that way?

xx B.
I can do it! It's one of my party tricks. Giggles. There are ways to relax certain muscles so that always helps. Guys are always amazed by my skills and because of that I can wrap them around my little finger and make them do whatever I want. Really girls there are some good blogs about deep throat and manuals to study if you want to learn how. Its important to practice on something other than a dick first while you get your confidence up. Its a nice little treat for the boys to be able to pull out of your bag of sexual tricks!

xx B.
I agree. This is a foolish game.

By treating women badly they will not like you and even worse than this is why you would want a girl that has no self esteem. Thinking that she will "gladly" say YES to any pathetic desperate boy just because she doesn't feel admired or appreciated? What macho self help book did this come from? Dating for Dummies?

If those men are not of her status then let her make that decision of her own and steer clear. There are lots of girls that will be happy to date those men who are of lower 'taste and class' as you described them. This beautiful and aristocratic woman is clearly out of their league. One can't always get what they want so its best to be aware of one's position on the totem pole and stick to it. These are just simple realities in the ways of l'amour.

xx B.
No I would not. I am a child of the universe before biology. We are all inter-related. It does not matter from what DNA strands you once came from but who you relate with now.

Plus people who fantasize of such thing always expect that their bio-parents are amazing people but believe me, they are not all going to be Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. What if you find out that they aren't great people at all? Why crush those dreams with the sting of reality?

I think it is best to look forward, not backward.

xx B.
I came to Lush many months ago because I am always traveling to sexy parts of the world and sometimes I am waiting around in airports or staying in a strange flat and have time alone when I am bored. Lush is like a stimulant in so many ways. I was a chat girl and a reader before but now I see the forums are great for a giggle too! I luv it!

xx B.
I prefer to suntan on nude beaches in Europe. They would laugh at such silly things like a c-string. A string does not offer much coverage anyway. Let your kitty see the sun. Its natural.

xx B.
I do so love shaverotica. Sometimes whilst I am shaving my own legs I imagine it is (insert name of lusty party boy or dangerous DJ) lathering me up and running the razor along my perfect smooth skin. Tingles. How could it not set any red-blooded girl off into ecstasy? Finding a man who can shave you with proper attention to detail to not miss any hairy bits is the mark of a great lover. Boys, take heed of this. Practice shaving before you find a girlfriend so that you can properly pleasure her. As a test subject perhaps use your own thighs or a stuffed animal with long hair. A man that shaves his woman is a keeper! Also if you can learn to wash our hair for us with a nice scalp massage too. Purrrr.... You will turn us into a love slave. Giggles. Shower erotica is so sexy and yet so underrated.

xx B.
I don't mind it at all. I used to date this bloke that fancied me pretending to be an innocent virgin. Imagine that. Giggles. So I would put on my short schoolgirl kilt and put up my hair in pigtails and he would fuck me when I had my period while I pretended to swoon from losing my cherry. When you do it up right its really quite authentic. He got to feel like "the man" with a big, thick joystick and I got to watch him do the rest of my laundry while he was washing the sheets afterwards. A clever girl knows not to give anything for free.

xx B.
Navin: security officer who conducts strip searches at the airport.

(...you won't catch me this time! Giggles)