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Never mind on the Summer Pudding. I'll definitely pass! OY!
Summer Pudding = Bread and fruit, not great.
Try bread and butter pudding, it's delicious.
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Quote by Shylass
Not as shallow (and fucking arrogant) as some of the other responders!
According to some, I should only be attempting to talk to the Jabba the Hutt's uglier, nastier twin if I want a relationship of any sort. Do you know how difficult it is to find somebody as unattractive as myself? Impossible. And those who already know the sorts of people I should approach will tell you that it is my lack of self-esteem that is the problem, not the ranks of Other Uglies. So be it.
I see the world very differently to many others, and struggle to talk to anybody for any reason, whether I term them "more" or "less" attractive than myself. I came to the point, shortly after joining Lush, where I realised that striving for something I couldn't find was only making the issue worse.
I realised, thanks to even individuals within this thread, that my outlook on life overall was more important than the details of things (and people) I can't understand or have. I've learned that, sometimes, just the vent (check out the Rage Cage) is enough. Other times, a distinct exploring of my feelings and the world around me is necessary. And sometimes, just the observation of others is enough to show me that often, the problem isn't always me. Sometimes, but not always.
It's what I choose to do about those things (or not) that makes the difference. With an adjustment of my world views, and self views, I've grown as a person (mostly), and all of us change with every passing minute in big and small ways.
The age group also has something to do with what you're venting about. As you all get a bit older and more mature (in some cases), you may find friendships and relationships much easier. The setting of where you strike up conversation may change, too.
If you think there is no hope, as I did, please believe that friendships, once won, will bring you joy. You just have to keep plodding through every day, and they will come into view when the other people are ready too.
Good luck!
https://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst19381_The-Rage-Cage.aspx
Your problem IS self esteem. At least that's what your posts seem to suggest. And, if you look in a mirror and only see the physical, you are being shallow.
If a man or woman only looks at the physical, they show a lack of intelligence. They are the ones to avoid!
At university I had a flatmate who was over 18 stone, certainly no Miss World. She had one of the bubbliest personalities I've ever come across. Lots of guys were attracted to her. She's been married for over 30 years now to a great looking guy.
You should let your intelligence, creativity and wit shine through. If they don't like you, they're not worth the bother.
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Quote by stephanie
Okay, People...
PERSPECTIVE...
(A YOUNG member bares his soul. Whom of US was cool at 20??? Not me, for sure...)
The key word here is ATTRACTIVE.
I bat WAY FUCKING WAY outside the park, and always have. I am NOT a good-looking guy, never have been. (Evidence available on this site!!!) But I AM ATTRACTIVE... Why?
Well, I'm basically a good guy. I'm VERY VERY funny. I'm quite smart. I have opinions I can talk about. I'm kind and I care for others. I'm TALENTED in a way that others seem impressed by. (I think it's just shit I do...) I have a certain style that, to be honest, puts some people off. But I carry it. (I am BEYOND insecure...) But that don't PLAY in the real world so you adapt... I, (and this is REALLY IMPORTANT!!!) love women. My best friends, (with a few exceptions...) are women. I'm in my 50s NOW, but I've always been FASCINATED and pleased by females. I AM NOT IN ANY WAY a "man's man"... (I know FUCK ALL about cars, GOLF or FOOTBALL or MEN STUFF!!!!) I can talk about nail varnish for hours...
I'm NOT the straightest guy in the world, but I'm straight. (?)
I'm not HALF as confident as I PRETEND. (But I pretend very well...) And this is interesting, 'cos where is THAT LINE, from SEEMING confident to BEING confident? (Fucked if I know...) But WOMEN value confidence above EVERY OTHER TRAIT in a man! (NOT arrogance, as someone said above, but a quiet self-assuredness...)
We all are unsure about a lot of things. About others, about ourselves indeed. There are NO PAT ANSWERS. Except ONE...
"TO THINE OWN SELF BE TRUE..."
I think it was VERY BRAVE of this young man to talk about his issue in public. He spoke HONESTLY, perhaps too honestly, but I think he sounds like a nice-if-perplexed young man.
I wish him well.
xx STEPH
Nicola: "Since WHEN are YOU nice???"
Me: "Fuck You. I'm cunting nice..."
Getting them is easy, keeping them is the hard part.PP1rqfCJZQDlVSua
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Quote by SereneProdigy
Electronic Cigarettes
Since a few years, electronic cigarettes keep gaining in popularity and everybody is talking about them, from the media to the medical community. Some say they're a miracle product, some say they should be regulated, some say they might be just harmful as conventional cigarettes.
Here's the thread to talk about everything that concerns electronic cigarettes...
Do you believe them to be beneficial or harmful? Should they be regulated as a smoking cessation method only?
Have you used them yourself to help you stop smoking? Were they effective? Do you still vape today?
To vapers, which gear and accessories do you use?
Enjoy!
One month, no real cigarettes just the e-cigarette. I'm not missing them at all, which surprised me.
I've even gone from strong to medium nicotine content. Next move is to low.
Wish me luck.
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Quote by ManofAdventure
*Yawn*.....the above is nonsense that self proclaimed "nice guys" spew. The fact is, you're not really interested in talking to these women as a means to getting to know them or just having a fun conversation...you're only interested in where the talking gets you. Hence, you get no results because women know when a guy isn't truly interested in them. Of course, I also haven't ruled out the fact that you're REALLY boring.....hope that helps.
Cruel, lol.
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Quote by mrd82
i agree with this. i'm not just here looking for a quick random lay if that's what the OP means (i can't see the first page for some reason?) but i've made genuine friends here and i don't see any reason not to meet an online friend in real life. in some situations i'm sure it wouldn't be a great idea but in general i don't see a problem.
But you'd have to reveal above the collar and that would ruin the mystery.
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Quote by ZigDust
Curvygalore, you are welcome to post anywhere you want anytime you want! You have my permission! LOL
Thanks for the description. It actually sounds tasty to me! Would you make some and send it over?
It ranks alongside Summer Pudding and Tapioca as the worst deserts ever dreamed up!
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Quote by playsit
Thank you for commenting. First, she never initiates... that's all me. She enjoys our intimacy, just not her to think about it much. When we do enjoy our time together, my body doesn't respond to her touch because of some numbness, but I do respond to her responses to my touch if that makes sense. We have both seen counselors and talked to the medical oncologist at the hospital. We are very aware of what's going on both emotionally and medically. Sometimes knowledge just isn't enough when emotions are involed.
This is a tricky one. Like everyone else, I'm so sorry for your position but at least it sounds as though the cancer is beaten.
I get from your posts and your bio that your wife has a lower sex drive than you have. I think it all too easy for a libido to disappear in such situations. Lack of sex can in effect be psychologically be welcome and one settles into a sexless life.
This struck me when you said about feeling like a prostitute. I think that's covering a problem she has, and you both have to get to the bottom of that.
Maybe try sharing a viagra, it's meant to work wonders on women as well.
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Quote by SereneProdigy
I probably shouldn't share this, but for the sake of being fair about my sexuality with you people, I'll share it anyway...
Yes I can suck my own dick, and yes I swallowed my own cum. I actually discovered this last year: I was jerking off and for some reason I wondered if I could suck my own dick. To my great surprise, I was actually able to get the head of my dick in my mouth in the proper position (similar to this guy).
Of course, I thought it was exciting to have my own dick in my mouth, and I kept kissing/licking the head with my lips/tongue while stroking the shaft with my hand. I finally came in my mouth and swallowed; it was actually nice to experiment how a cock spurting cum feels like in a mouth.
Then about a month and a half ago, I shared this with a girl and she didn't believe me. I performed the exact same position in front of her and she was quite astonished and thrilled about it: she actually helped me by pushing her weight on my hips and I could get my dick even deeper in my mouth than I previously could all by myself. Then she started stroking my cock and rimming my ass, while throwing all sorts of dirty things at me and ordering me to cum in my mouth. I finally came in my mouth and kissed her with my own cum.
There, I said it.
The thing about it though, is that my back hurts for quite a while after performing this (the middle of my back to be more precise); I guess it just stretches my spine in a very unnatural way. The last time I did this was more than a month ago and I can still feel an aching sensation in my back at times.
So yeah, I really shouldn't be performing this all that often.
Yes I missed this.
If we're in confession mode, here goes.
Yes I've done it a couple of times when I was younger. I lost my erection! The same thing happens if I stick my finger in my ass!!!
It seems like I have a problem disassociating the fact I'm doing it to myself.
I will say that if I was rimming you, my tongue would have to be surgically removed from your ass.pn1kAn9gfMzjJLtn
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Quote by SereneProdigy
I actually use a garlic powder, usually when I'm eating a dip of hummus or baba ghanoush. That's occasional though (maybe once/twice a week), but it still probably has an impact on the taste of my cum the next day.
But it's nice to see that you care about the taste of my cum.
I was wondering how you knew it was bitter after you ate garlic!
Try roasting the garlic in the skins before you add it to the dip. Use fresh not powder, there's no additives.
I'm always thinking about your cum.
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Quote by SereneProdigy
The quantity of pineapple juice necessary to improve the taste of cum can be very variable I guess, depending on the individual. I personally drink around 1 large glass (400 mL) per day on average and my cum usually tastes fine, but I also eat an overall healthy diet. I do eat a lot of broccolis and an average amount of garlic though (both of which can make cum taste bitter), so the 'baseline taste' of my cum is still probably around average. Just drink 1 large glass per day and you'll probably be fine: this will likely improve the taste of your cum by a significant margin anyway, even if it might not taste 'great' or anything.
And concerning the 'manliness' of alcoholic beverages, I've always thought that this was ridiculous. Men can enjoy sweet beverages (eg. fruit juices) just like anybody else, why would it be effeminate or inappropriate when alcohol is added to it?
What else? You should eat a chili pepper when everybody else is having a chocolate cake just to prove how manly you are? Ridiculous.
Just roast the garlic, it brings out the sweetness in it.
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Quote by lindseyaggie
I had a bf that decided to share me without telling me. He tied me up and blindfolded me. I knew something was going on so the next day I hid a camcorder just before he came over. After he left I watched the video of him tying me up. Then someone else walked in the room and handed him money and fucked me. I decided to wait to confront him. The next day it happened again. On the third day I recognized the guy. I called him up and showed him the video. He knew who the other two guys were.
The following day when my bf showed up the 3 guys were fucking me. He asked what was going on and acted all mad like I was cheating on him. I told him I cut out the middle man and took the money myself. He acted all innocent until I showed him the video. Then I told him thanks for sharing me but I'm not a whore and kicked him out.
Hope you didn't give the money back!
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Quote by LovingHer17
When I approach women,my intentions are NOT to hit on her.I learned that in high school.I know that if you go to a women just to mac on her,she will feel pressured and it won't work.But I go with the intentions of just wanting to know them that's all.
I didn't say that your intentions to hit on them. I said that you might be giving that impression.
If you aren't trying to hit on them, then must be getting the wrong idea. Therefore, your approach must be wrong.
Maybe ask a female friend to analyse it and give you some honest advice.
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Quote by SereneProdigy
Haha, I don't care if it's a 'gay thing' or not, I'm just saying that this is what I'd do myself if I was gay. I'm quite perfectionist about my appearance and the asshole is a central element of gay sex, so I'd likely try to maintain an impeccable asshole.
And I assume that the color changes with age: if you indulge in anal sex many times over the years, I assume that the skin around your asshole will eventually become rugged and darker with time, mostly due to friction and all that.
Anyway Derek, if you ever see me mention that my asshole is a cute shade of pink on these forums, you'll know what I'll be up to.
If you could have a cast taken I could get a customized fleshjack.
A photo would help as well. Just to get the colour and the hairiness exact.xU6xfuMe3SHmPntg
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Quote by Thefisherman
I agree with Magik, a bit of talk first is needed and meeting at a neutral site to give both parties an escape route is a good idea. That said, I have and will again, the relationship I have found is mutually satisfactory.
Winter in the Windy City may put people off, lol.
