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In my case, my response would be somehow similar to what Dancing_Doll said, though most probably in a much lesser extent.
Porn taught me the overall 'dynamics' of sex (eg. positions, paces, kinks, terms, etc.) even before I had sex myself (or before I got good at it). Once I learned the 'basics' though, I pretty much figured out new techniques/variations by myself ; it's very rare for me today to watch a scene and think "Hey that's cool, I should try this!".
But I also think it can be unreliable/misguiding for more specific things. Let's face it, the majority of porn is centered on pleasing men a lot more than women, so women might learn a few things (eg. stripteases, sensual moves, dirty talk, BJs, etc.), but men are left clueless about many things that concern how to please a woman, in my humble opinion.
I pretty much learned all the little subtleties by myself (eg. how to tease, create an emotional bond, handle breasts, perform cunnilingus, when to kiss, cumplay, etc.). I only rarely saw a man who did those things correctly in a porn scene (or was willing to in the first place).
Porn can also be useful to compare your own sexuality/performance with other people, though that's definitely not something one should mention on an internet forum.
First off, great thread. I'm surprised it hasn't come up before.
So, now you've made me feel like a dinosaur! There was no internet, no dvd's, hell I predate vcr's!
I think gay porn opened my mind to new things but, wait for it, I learned the most from my first girlfriend at uni. How about that!
I saw things in porn that would turn me on and also turn me off. I was smart enough to know that, in reality, some things were rare or extreme fetishes. I've been around a long time and seen kids, who weren't that smart, be taken advantage of. I've gotten into a fair few arguements and a couple of fights over that!
I think porn is great but it can also be dangerous if the viewer is naive.
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I have, yes. Although that's not usually the exact reason why I'm watching it most of the time, but I definitely see things that turn me on that I'd like to try, tweaks on different positions, different locations. Sometimes it inspires a new fantasy, scenario or fetish that works its way into my mind and becomes something I want to try (or dream of trying).
When I was younger, I definitely watched to learn technique on things like blowjobs, deep throating, DP, rimming, how to handle balls, what to expect with anal etc. I've found it pretty useful as long as you take things in context and strip away the fact that prepping for anal occurs off-scene and a lot of porn is taken to extremes and the positions are modified to allow for camera angles. But yeah, I think you can definitely pick up some new techniques and ideas.
I think in the same way as past generations used things like Kama Sutra and The Joy of Sex, the internet generation uses porn and erotica.
I have considered where it can go off the rails for younger kids that are drawn to the more extreme porn that's becoming commonplace - and by extreme I'm talking about the really brutal fucked up stuff. I often wonder if there is added pressure on younger girls to do the things depicted in vids and clips that are passed around and watched by guys in their peer group. There's definitely a potential downside as porn continues to push the limits in order to offer something new and shocking as more people become desensitized to watching 'normal' sex.
Great answer.
What scares the shit out of me is the ease of access for kids, they have neither the life experience nor, as a rule, the intelligence to differentiate between what's acceptable and what's not.
My biggest worry is the increase of porn which features bareback! It's not helping kids to know about the risks involved and the HIV rate is on the increase again, particularly in the under 25's.
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Yes many times during both sex and a blow job. Yes the physical feelings are there and it is awesome but I still don't think it compares to making eye contact. But I have a big thing for eyes and people's faces. So it could be just what turns each of us on.
I think both are awesome and believe me I wouldn't turn a blindfolded blow job down ever but just my opinion I think the eye contact just trumps it.
I completely agree.
I adore eyes, I've got an album of them on my page.
The two are so different because when you're blindfolded your other senses move up a gear. When an ex first did it to me I thought I wouldn't enjoy it as I couldn't see him but it was awesome!
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It may not change the physicality of it. Yes without eye contact the physical job of getting off is going to happen. But you add eye contact to it and you just took that blowjob from great to amazing. You've added a whole extra level to it. It's become more than just a physical thing and you've added a extra connection with the person involved.
It's the same as the rest of sex. Yes if you are inside a person and you are thrusting, the physical aspect is there. You are going to get off even if the person just lays there. The guy is going to get off no matter what. But you let that person get into it or you look at that person's eyes and you see how turned how they are. Or you see that face they make when they really cum, you have just taken that from just a good fuck into something special.
I think of it the same way as watching gay for pay porn. I have seen some str8 guys take the money and get fucked, but the whole time they are as limp as a dish rag and putting on a good show but they aren't into it or turned on by what is happening. Yes the guy is still getting off fucking them, but it is not the same even for me as a viewer.
Have you ever been blindfolded?
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I think that the word slut is society's way of putting people with high sex drives in a box. Some people have very low sex drives, what is the shameful name that is given to them? For the most part , it is just a case of people don't understand what it is like to have a high sex drive. If it is not like them, then it must be abnormal. Therefore shameful and lacking of self control are what and how these sluts are.
I don't feel shameful nor do I feel a lack of self control. I can say no, if I want to. But more importantly, I can say yes if I want to. Some people want to say yes and cannot. In my opinion they are the ones with the lack of self control.
So , those that say yes to their desires and are satisfied are described as sluts.
Wow, this could go on and on. Best thing to do is to be true to your self. If the word slut describes me then so be it. I'll be a slut, but not ashamed of my sex drive or who I have fun with.
I think it's more to do with the number of partners and the length of time you're with them. I've never been a slut during a relationship but when I'm single watch out! Cruising areas, saunas, glory holes and dark rooms are all good for easy anonymous sex.
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I always liked theporndude.com. One of the few porn websites that I bookmarked. They have 750+ porn websites listed by niche.
Happy Lushing, hope you like the forums.
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I hear where you are cum...er...coming from, dpw. At the same time, there is a certain intimacy in gazing into the eyes of a lover. The physical intensity may not change, but the emotional quality does. It's one reason why I prefer positions that allow eye contact (missionary, cowgirl) rather than ones where you face away from each other (doggie, reverse cowgirl).
My post was saying that it isn't essential not about intimacy.
I don't know if you've ever had a blowjob whilst blindfolded but it's very sensual, great after a massage!
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On the arginine and lysine, it should be noted that they compete with each other for absorption and could be ineffective when taken at the same time. I take arginine anyway because it helps me with my workouts as a nitric oxide booster. It should be taken on an empty stomach (I take up to 3g at a time), and it does seem to have an effect on the volume of ejaculation. I've pumped a girl's ass full of cum and had her tell me 2 (!) days later that it's STILL coming out.
Other things I've personally found to be helpful are indeed keeping myself well hydrated, and supplementing with zinc (50mg/day)
Sounds like someone else needs a bucket.
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Quote by SereneProdigy
For guys who would like to buy such toys, but are concerned with the appearance of a 'fake' pussy, it is possible to buy masturbation sleeves that don't look like a pussy at all. Tenga seems to be a good brand for that (never tried it) :
Every guy that does any DIY is now thinking "that looks like a paint roller."
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Quote by SereneProdigy
Personally, the more I ejaculate, the more liquidy my cum is. My cum is almost translucent in such a case, and also very light/slippery, hence why it can make such a mess at times.
My tricks to cum more (aside from apparently being genetically gifted in that domain) :
- Drinking a lot of water
- Taking a 50mg zinc supplement daily
- Holding a few days (2+) without ejaculating
- Edging (stimulating, pausing, pursuing, etc.)
And have a bucket handy!
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Quote by sheepdogls
I'm sure diet has a lot to do with it. I mean, if a girl can tell if you've had dairy, citrus, or beer from tasting your cum, diet must be a large factor. Which brings me to my other point, that I bet all of the processed foods does not help in sperm count I bet. Google it!
The part about the sperm count is probably true along with the use of chemical fertilizers that are used in crop production and additives used in animal feed.
The taste is something different, that's to do with seminal and prostate fluids that make up 95% of cum.
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The Dick Game!
Ladies, do you know your dick?
Can you place these zones in order from most pleasurable to least pleasurable?
I tried this little game with some women, and was surprised by the results. Some got it 100% right, others made a few mistakes...
Cut or uncut?
Different answers to the areas!
