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5 hours ago
Straight Male, 49
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Quote by hopp3r
I played piano for about two years when I was in elementary school before my music teacher moved away. Instead of finding a new one, I took up the violin and played for seven, all through middle school and high school. In college, my dormmate had a guitar so I started teaching myself that and have been on and off ever since (mostly off, unfortunately). I grew up in Bremerton so just like everyone else from there, I know how to play one bass line (if you’re familiar with MxPx, you know which one I’m talking about).

I would love to get back into music but it’s difficult to find the time. The rational thing would be to find somewhere to take lessons again, building off of what’s already there, but to be honest, I’ve been more interested in the prospect of vocal lessons lately. Ugh, there’s just never enough time.



you're not alone in that it's difficult to find the time, hopp3r.




today is the first day i saw this thread, so i hope it's not too far beyond an acceptable response timeline...




but one of the best things a music teacher taught me long ago, was that you can practice for just a few minutes and it's totally okay. such a great teacher. saudades...

if you practice one tune for less than five minutes (the typical length of a "45" rpm(?) on vinyl = a single recording on each A side and B side), then it's a completely reasonable amount of music "for the room." tah-dah! "thanks, folks, don't forget to tip your server," etc.

the notion of the "music class" is fine, but as a person who plays a musical instrument there isn't any negative part of adding to my practice time (even in tiny increments)...unless I, myself, bring it with or put it into the mix, which of course, would be a basically human thing for me to do. so we've all done it before.

but the LESSON from that GREAT TEACHER OMG was that if you put the instrument on a proper stand (tripod with a soft-ish restraint so it doesn't fall) and just place it in the corner of the room where you sit (when you're at home)...

then you start to find 5min or less intervals in which you can practice a tune. or a scale, or anything you want to play within local noise ordinance guidelines.

in my case it's whenEVER i watch a sports event. commercials? nope...

commercial broadcasting is on MUTE and you just pick up the instrument and see how much you can play before the game's back on. over time, i realized i appreciate not having to listen to beer or fast food advertising as much. plus, it's practice time without having to set aside any extra time. it's already been set aside and you sat down to watch the game, right? i'm so grateful for the music teachers in my life.
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with only the intent to help, i disagree that most men want a wild woman (because it requires extra effort, imho)

they actually want to be perceived/received as the GUY who CLAIMED/EARNED the wild woman's ...

a) attention;
b) attraction;
c) public declaration...


the partners who get jealous and insecure will only get MORE jealous and MORE insecure, because they are in the middle of their fear of "what others will or might think."

a lover who wants YOU for YOU is for keeps. even if it doesn't work out, you both keep on, for keeps. when your lover hasn't really wanted YOU, per se, then when it ends it doesn't keep well, at all.
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disagree.


you go to bed together (same time, routine, etc.) with your significant other pretty much every night.
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accepting the status quo....

What's something people have gotten wrong about you from your/their first impression?
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She's

a) fantastique,

too) cordial, and

trés) intelligent beauty.


It's likely lushspace is luckier with her here.
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feeling the frequencies vibrating about the perspired or breath abated live audience club air environ.
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towel or yoga-mat-thing smile

you can engineer the beach beneath it into a seat.

lunch out or lunch at home?
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nearly every time i've been in a church service, in fact.

have you ever avoided having sex with someone you're otherwise attracted to, because you KNOW they would get too clingy or needy afterwards?
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Quote by JamesLlewellyn
Serious question, not JUST prurient curiosity:

When you suck cock, is it pleasurable for you?

I asked a lover once and she said that, no, it was not physically pleasurable to suck cock, that it was like having a pole stuck in your mouth.

BUT, she also said that she got off on it because she knew it was such an enormous turn-on for me.

I get this point of view because I love eating pussy, but only because I love driving my partner wild and helping her cum. I mean, I wouldn't go down to the market and buy one for supper, but if it came with a woman attached…



they can tell that you feel that way.

it's not "bad" or "something you must change," not in any right. you be you, please.

but women know when their lover is only giving them oral "with a different goal in mind." it becomes counter-productive to your lovemaking strategy, then, because if you enjoy her orgasms resulting from your "oral technique", then her tensing up as a response to sensing "he's only doing this to get me to..." would be a natural reaction. most women cum less when more tensed up.



i would totally buy some for supper, myself. and some more for a late night snack... not sure if it would keep so well in the freezer.
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agree -


You can make a more delicious cup of coffee than you can buy from a coffeeshop/drive-thru place.
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false.

You drive (can drive) a car with a manual transmission (stickshift).
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yes, years ago in Glacier national park - it was a few different temperatures up and down the hike that day.


Have you ever been in a nude model art class?
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yes. kegel exercises are good for everyone, imho.


Have you ever admitted to someone you care about that you were wrong about something from YEARS ago?
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Quote by JackStay
No. Had to look that one up.

HYE tried your hand at black smithing? (not horse shoeing aka farriering)


yes, back when public schools had electives...

one year during advanced art class we had to make jewelry from scratch.

i made a gold-laden ring and a pendant that mixed an anagram into a heart when it hung just so on the necklace chain. does that count? we used a ball-peen hammer and cooling water and those phat oven mitts and everything.



Have you ever bluffed your way through a business deal/contract, knowing that if they double-checked you'd be "caught" but "knowing" they'll never do that? ;)
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does said GF like when you wear those speedo's/swimwear "just for her"?

if she considers it automatically sexy/flirtatious, then the discussion is about you and her and how your relationship is projected to all the other people in the world. ask yourself is she's correct in her view that you're an exhibitionist. you wouldn't be the first, if you honestly are.

if she considers it unacceptable public attire, then the discussion is about your preferences and how much you're willing to acquiesce to her or not in that regard.


you could always move to Brasil and fit right in. all ages of brasilian men wear a "sunga," and it's just as normal to see speedo'ed men at the beach as women in brasilian bikinis.
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any heterosexual guy who doesn't enjoy giving oral is either too inexperienced or not worth the time it would take to teach them.

if you like your significant other in a way that him-not-giving-oral isn't a deal-breaker, you can always ask if they want to please you or not. i know many women who would rather ghost a person than 'xplain how to do it. :P

if he wants to learn how, then you can demonstrate to him how you like to be touched and kissed and licked by placing his palm over your chin and showing him how he can tease and kiss and explore his tongue betwixt your nethers while you lick and kiss and demonstrate how to do it between his middle and ring fingers. you could awaken a sleeping giant, who knows?

almost every interpersonal problem eases or worsens, depending on how willing each person might be to listening to the significance of the other.

if the guy can't hear the truth that all gf's deserve oral orgasms, he's likely got bigger problems than a lack of dexterity or sensitivity in his kisses.
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Quote by Moonstone
I’ll take the guy side of Beth’s question...yes.

Would you let your partner do something sexual to/with/for you if it didn’t really turn you on, but would drive them wild?


Yes, of course.

But the caveat is that my wife already knows that what drives her wild honestly turns me on, too.

If it were something she wanted to do that honestly turns me off (like humiliation or pain or whatever else), then I wouldn't be able to just go along with it.

Also, an apathetic lover can be the absolute worst, so there's a fine line, I guess, in that scenario.



Would you rather that your ex- forgive or forget?
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(from MrsTypical, "Slow to anger, but she was quick to love.")

Love milked every lasting liquid drop of her essence, lathering her heaving gasps into laughing, collapsing about her love in silvery sheened embrace, their smiling blue giant and white dwarf hearts thumping in syncopated sensory circulation.

Quote by Devils_Desire


Lap grows with her burning passion

Love the way she makes me feel



Passion twirls and dances unbridled, while suitors fury, jealousy, adrenaline, memory, and hope stride and stomp and slide and slither and stretch in circulation.