Join the best erotica focused adult social network now
Login
mercianknight
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 64
0 miles · Evesham
Forum
Active Ink Slinger
Hmmmm! Definitely one of the best 'crackers' I've ever pulled over Christmas.
Active Ink Slinger
Coming back to work after a 4-day long weekend and finding my 'in-tray' empty. 
Active Ink Slinger
The truth will set you free.......plus, my memory is awful so I'd never be able to remember what lie I'd made up if challenged again a few months later.
Active Ink Slinger
Oops, sorry Cherry. You're right, my answer was a tad one dimensional...mostly because this is a 'sex' site so I presume the advice re 'keeping the spark' was strictly for between the sheets! Let me try again from a non-sexual perspective.
If it's the "butterflies" in the tummy feeling you want I can only share with you what my missus told me. Short version: Humour.
The more you get to know someone the more 'comfortable' things get and the butterflies settle down (mostly), however, if your partner knows how to make you laugh AND can laugh at himself then it seems highly likely the butterflies will remain. I'm not talking slap-stick comedy here, just an ability to find humour in a situation when it is needed, and not get all bent out of shape if the joke is on him........this, apparently, is quite endearing and adds a soft touch to the 'macho' image. That should keep your spark bright.
If it is 'his' spark you are concerned about....well, that's a toughie. There is a saying (oft discussed amongst men) that "A woman marries a man hoping he will change, whilst a man marries a woman hoping that she will NOT." Whatever it was that attracted him to you is probably what will keep that spark alive....it has for me.
If it's the "butterflies" in the tummy feeling you want I can only share with you what my missus told me. Short version: Humour.
The more you get to know someone the more 'comfortable' things get and the butterflies settle down (mostly), however, if your partner knows how to make you laugh AND can laugh at himself then it seems highly likely the butterflies will remain. I'm not talking slap-stick comedy here, just an ability to find humour in a situation when it is needed, and not get all bent out of shape if the joke is on him........this, apparently, is quite endearing and adds a soft touch to the 'macho' image. That should keep your spark bright.
If it is 'his' spark you are concerned about....well, that's a toughie. There is a saying (oft discussed amongst men) that "A woman marries a man hoping he will change, whilst a man marries a woman hoping that she will NOT." Whatever it was that attracted him to you is probably what will keep that spark alive....it has for me.
Active Ink Slinger
If you thought last night was awesome, you're gonna love my morning 'push-ups' routine!
Active Ink Slinger
The boss deciding to take an impromptu week off over Christmas. He's gone until 4th January....which means, whilst the cats away........ muah haha!
and also 
Active Ink Slinger
Aside from the wonderful friendships I have made, finding Lush as an outlet for my acerbic wit was THE highlight - I guess the likes of Driver & Cassidy made me look tame and acceptable.
A close second was being taught how to use a 'chat room'. Hey! Don't laugh, I was a chat room virgin when I arrived and needed therapy from my Lush friends the first time I got 'cybered'. It's all good now.
A close second was being taught how to use a 'chat room'. Hey! Don't laugh, I was a chat room virgin when I arrived and needed therapy from my Lush friends the first time I got 'cybered'. It's all good now.
Active Ink Slinger
I liked Doll's answer, it most closely reminded me of my own solution.
Obviously your concerns will be predicated by two things:
1. what are the bounds you have already pushed;
2. is it you or him that is looking to keep the spark alive (and this is the big one)
I've been married 21 tumultuous years but still shag the wife at least 5 time a week. For me it is visual, so do NOT insult the effect of sexy attire (its not always lingerie), for her its emotional almost spiritual. I've told my wife what keeps me interested and, bless her, she tries. What I do is along the lines of what Doll said, for example, after a formal dinner one night a few years back I dragged the wife out into the car park and we 'dogged' - the memory of that night lasted for months. On another occasion during an intense thunder & lightening storm I pulled over in the car and gave her a seeing to - totally unexpected.
Just shake things up once in a while. Feed his interest with elements of your fantasies and you should both see the spark stay very much alive.
Obviously your concerns will be predicated by two things:
1. what are the bounds you have already pushed;
2. is it you or him that is looking to keep the spark alive (and this is the big one)
I've been married 21 tumultuous years but still shag the wife at least 5 time a week. For me it is visual, so do NOT insult the effect of sexy attire (its not always lingerie), for her its emotional almost spiritual. I've told my wife what keeps me interested and, bless her, she tries. What I do is along the lines of what Doll said, for example, after a formal dinner one night a few years back I dragged the wife out into the car park and we 'dogged' - the memory of that night lasted for months. On another occasion during an intense thunder & lightening storm I pulled over in the car and gave her a seeing to - totally unexpected.
Just shake things up once in a while. Feed his interest with elements of your fantasies and you should both see the spark stay very much alive.
Active Ink Slinger
Quote by WHR43
Without a question the more sexual partners you have the greater the potential risk. Certainly I have recommended to my daughters that they use condoms with every man they are with. Until the have a committed and mongamous relationship.
Do I always follow my own suggestion, not always, but it is a still prudent practice. Since I do not always practice what I preach, I am tested regularly.
If the guy I am seeing not tested, things will not last long.
I think that pretty much sums it up. Have I played away from home? Yes. Did I use condoms? Abso-bloody-lutely!!
Active Ink Slinger
Quote by Dancing_Doll
Get drunk together... Then if she acts shocked by your advances, just blame it on the alcohol and laugh it off.
This is what happens when my friends come on to me...
Oh Doll, where was it you said your staff Christmas party was this year? I...erm...have to deliver some...erm...flowers. Yes, that's it. So if a drunken middle aged flower delivery Dude suddenly starts giving you mouth-to-mouth...just be gentle.
Active Ink Slinger
Hell, you don't even have to get drunk to have an excuse....it's Christmas. Find some mistletoe and whammo! No harm no foul and if she lets you tickle her tonsils.... well, I'll leave the rest up to you.
Active Ink Slinger
There is a medical distinction between Guts and Balls. We've all heard about people having Guts or Balls. But do you really know the difference between them?
In an effort to keep you informed, here are the definitions:
GUTS - Is arriving home late after a night out with the guys, being met by your wife with a broom, and having the Guts to ask: 'Are you still cleaning, or are you flying somewhere?'
BALLS - Is coming home late after a night out with the guys, smelling of perfume and beer, lipstick on your collar, slapping your wife on the butt and having the Balls to say: 'You're next, Chubby.'
I hope this clears up any confusion on the definitions.
Medically, speaking there is No difference in the outcome.
Both can result in death.
In an effort to keep you informed, here are the definitions:
GUTS - Is arriving home late after a night out with the guys, being met by your wife with a broom, and having the Guts to ask: 'Are you still cleaning, or are you flying somewhere?'
BALLS - Is coming home late after a night out with the guys, smelling of perfume and beer, lipstick on your collar, slapping your wife on the butt and having the Balls to say: 'You're next, Chubby.'
I hope this clears up any confusion on the definitions.
Medically, speaking there is No difference in the outcome.
Both can result in death.