I DO think that if they are being asked on a regular basis, then they must be pertinent questions. It's the nature of forums to have people not wanting to go through all the old posts to see if their question has been asked before. I can see both sides of the coin.
We are a society, though, so accustomed to immediate reward with minimal effort that it's only natural that most people post repeat questions without taking the time to search the forum.
Wow. I think I need to consider these answers...maybe I'm not taking long enough. When I write, it takes me, at most, about two hours to write and proof a story, and about ten minutes to write and proof a poem. I get distracted too easily, otherwise.
I have no idea what I'm going to write sometimes; I might have the concept or a character in mind, but I only solidify my plot as I'm actually typing. I think having this sort of impulsive tendency works for me most of the time, because when I try to outline a story first, I feel a sense of writer's block trying to go with it. My true stories were, without a doubt, the hardest to write. I just basically let it flow otherwise and, to me, that feels more comfortable.
Yes, absolutely. I've had two in the last three years and I am still good friends with both. In fact, still interact with each almost every day. I think the key for me is that my husband fulfills all of my emotional needs and is my best friend and soul mate (as cheesy as that sounds). That really goes a long way in dampening any emotional fixations I might have developed. And the fact my husband knew all about both (and even helped me to be with each lover) took away the rush of having some secret, illicit affair (which, I believe, is a huge component in people getting fixated during affairs). Hubby knows I care very much for both men, but also that I am just a person who tends to care about people, and he is secure in our relationship and love.
On a side note, it took a bit for each to get comfy with the idea that my husband not only approved but also assisted, but once they did...well, my local lover worships my hubby. He thinks he walks on water lol, which I love because my husband clearly does. ;)
Doesn't bother me a bit. Actually prefer it to "pussy", which clearly does not fall from the tongue quite as eloquently.
Jack, she likely has a tilted cervix. I do and I have the same damned problem. There isn't much you can do, except perhaps, consider having her apply a topical anesthetic to her cervix with a qtip (it's tricky to not get it in other places, but is surprisingly effective).
So I guess the question I have is: what about asking why HE'S taking 20 minutes to an hour to cum?
Do you always take so long to cum? How about when you masturbate? Here here to what DD said about lube and how your needs are important, but I'm also writing wondering if you might be having some copulation issues? I doubt that's the case (and don't all the women, here envy your GF lol), but if I were your doctor, I'd want to know a bit more on you, specifically.
Big Blue, having been in a situation where there were more options to choose, I chose heavy set. My husband feels he should drop some weight, but, to me, personality is everything. He's tough, kind, confident, faithful, an intellectual, a greath lover and provider. Having dated enough men of different types, I feel like a lucky girl.
(Going to add that my ex husband looked like John Cusack, whom I love, but that certainly wasn't enough to stay with the guy. )
People should never assume their looks are enough to keep someone interested. Looks fade, they can be easily lost in accidents, whatever. The only guarantee we have is that we won't look the same in five, ten, fifteen years, so you'd better really love what's underneath your partner's skin.
Why on Earth would you tell her? Guys, this is tantamount to a woman telling you you're just not big enough (and who knows whether this isn' t actually the crux of the issue, anyhow?). Telling her would do immeasurable damage (just as a woman telling you you're not big enough would).
Now, a little medical information about this condition: firstly, if she is so active and fit, she is actually causing herself to lose fat deposits within the vaginal canal, which easily leads to this problem. Case in point: when I was in the military, I was ridiculously fit, with a body fat percentage under ten percent. I went to the gyn and requested fitting for a diaphragm. The doctor told me they didn't have any large enough in stock and would have to special order one. I was, obviously, mortified. Sure, I'd had an eight pound baby, but how could I need that? (luckily for me, I have a tilted cervix, so it never effected sensation for my husband.) The doctor explained that they only kept smaller ones in stock because it was rare to have anyone need one that was as thin as I was. (If you've been in the military, you know what he was taking about lol). The thinner you are, the less fat accumulation in your vagina.
Your girlfriend can do Kegal exercises, which can help with the issue. They also help men, actually, so why not simply recommend to her that you both do them as a way to heighten pleasure (in addition to strengthening pelvic muscles, they are also known to a aid in increasing both blood flow and sensation)?
But either way, telling her bluntly that she isn't tight anymore is a big mistake. You will alienate her, and truthfully, who's to say she won't just decide to look for a better endowed partner who can appreciate her more (because telling her she's not tight is telling her she doesn't have what it takes to satisfy you anymore)?
Nada. Can't stand being confined in clothing while in bed.
I'm going to expand on this a bit later, but for now I'd suggest researching "right vs. left brain dominance". It's categorically one if the best opportunities for insight into the opposite gender, and even your own. As a rule: men are inherently right brain oriented, but because 90% of men are right-handed, they have more bilateral optimization. Men tend to be more visually oriented, where as the vast majority of women tend to be left brain dominant and, therefore, more emotive. More on this in a bit.
As I get to know some of the amazing people here, I am wondering: how many of you have stepped out from behind the comfort of your avatar and revealed your true identity to others and, if you have, how many? How did it work out? What made you feel comfortable with that?
Never Give You Up - Jerry Butler
"I want a little sugar in my bowl" - Nina Simone. God, I love her.
FUCK YEAAAAAAAAAA.
(This actually reminds me of my kids...riding along, or cleaning house while listening to songs like BR, along with others like Happiness Is a Warm Gun, Rocky Raccoon, Paperback Writer, Eleanor Rigby, Golden Slumbers, Life on Mars, Moonage Daydream (one of my all-time fave Bowie songs), Space Oddity, Band on The Run, Uncle Albert/Admiral Halsey, Serenade (Steve Miller's best song, imho)....to this day they prefer the classics to most new stuff. Music offers so many opportunities to create lasting memories and traditions with your kids, and I'm really appreciative to have learned that when they were young.
