{{sigh}} I guess I'm the odd man out. I love good guys. If a man is chivalrous, reliable, wonderful AND has good self-esteem, bring it! Good guys always.
Thomas Jefferson. Maybe Poe. Would love to say Wilde, but he probably would not have given me the chance. I'll probably have to amend this.
I wish I could say I do...I really don't. I think it's like any time I'm trying to create something (i.e. sewing, building, painting, etc.). I am so caught up in getting it right that by the time I get it done, I rarely even get to enjoy the finished product lol. But I write for other people's enjoyment, so I don't think that's such a bad thing.
Okay, someone did it with The Beatles. I just listened to "Thank You" (one of my fave Led Zep songs), and I'm wondering: aside from Stairway to Heaven (which EVERYONE says is their favorite LZ song), what's your fave?
To my dismay, many of my partners don't last long at all (we're talking under a minute, honestly, unless he pulls out), but I think that's partly an anatomy issue, and partly because of the intense build-up beforehand (I love to seduce as foreplay). Shortest was under ten seconds...no, maybe under five! lol Luckily, I just see that as "Getting the first out of the way"...there's a lot to be said for a short refractory period! ;)
This is an awesome question. I definitely agree with DD and scott, make your story realistic and don't make your characters perfect (although, if you don't see anything wrong with a character and idealize them, you want to do that from a first-person perspective, because it speaks to the psychosexual nature of the writer, rather than being expressed as factual information).
Well-developed characters have "ticks", or characteristics unique to them, and leave readers with a sense of camaraderie and relation. "Word painting" is great when used to assist the reader in visualizing the scenario, but it's easy to overdo it and end up confusing your reader.
Some writers write as they speak. Unless it is meant to be a quirky first-person narration (think: Catcher in the Rye), DON'T DO IT. If I'm reading "seen" when it should be "saw" and every verb is preceded by "had" (had become, had wanted, had zipped), I can't take that story seriously, and I'll stop reading it.
The final one (and we all are guilty of having a typo our two) is: don't trust Word to find, or even correct, all your grammar and spelling mistakes. Overall, if you want to be taken seriously as a writer, you need to know how to spell and form a sentence. However, sometimes truly proper grammar detracts from the feel and flow of the story i.e.: "a man I was sorry to be with", while grammatically incorrect, flows better than, "a man with whom being made me feel sorrowful."
We also tend to rely on Word to automatically adjust our sentences when we quickly change wording. Hence, lots of small words like "the", "she","it" are either incorrectly left in or out, rendering our sentences flawed. Slowly reading your story out loud can help in identifying most wording errors in general, and especially in cases such as this.
(As an aside, I wrote this on my android and had to edit this post three times because I found either wording that was confusing or that my phone incorrectly auto-predicted. Everyone needs to proof-read. Always.)
Soooo many...how do you choose? Something, Golden Slumbers, While My Guitar Gently Weeps (*thank you, George*), Happiness Is A Warm Gun (So fucking naughty!), Eleanor Rigby, Yesterday...the entire Rubber Soul album is phenomenal. How the hell do you choose?
*Bail, then: again! *
(I'm not fond of the three word limit lol)
Probably the past. I think I was meant for the past lol...my values (outside of sex) and even my style is much more in line with the 50s. I would probably end up being a Betty Page by night, and a cookie-baking New Style mommy by day...showing all the neighborhood college boys how to please a woman haha.
Tease the hell out of, then most likely fuck. ;)
Damien Jurado - Sheets. Next: Bob Schneider - The King of the World
Is there any other way to do it? If my partner isn't absolutely exhausted and dizzy when I'm done with them, then I'm letting my "A" game slip.
A woman's perspective? It used to make me worry if my partner fantasized about the face, so I was against it, thinking it was somehow disrespectful or misogynistic. However, as I've gotten older, I've come to realize men are very visual creatures by nature and that it's more in line with completing the fantasy of "ownership" ....even if just for that moment. Socially, a woman's face is important, after all: it's the first impression others get of who she is, so if she allows a man to do that he must be special, right?
I don't see it as a desire to degrade anymore, but rather a desire to be placed/ranked above a woman's other partners...kind of the voice of the alpha, if you will. Men and women mark their territories in different ways but, like all animals, we still have a drive to mark them.
I feel like shaving is just another progression away from the Dark Ages...similar to the advent of regular bathing, deodorant use, teeth brushing and other rituals of personal hygiene are. Not only have I been shaving bare for the last twenty two years, but in that time I have converted my lovers into shavers as well (makes for much nicer oral). If your guy has never tried shaving or "manscaping", why not do it for him one night? Make it part of sexual play, and let him know it makes oral much better for everyone. ;)
young guy+older gal=best sex ever
