Humph! Din't wan' a stupid Lelo anyway!
*sulks*
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Quote by Dancing_Doll
Random one-night stands have never really been my thing... *except while on vacation*
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opens photoshop
i'll be right with you, ok?
sending it over!
i'll be right with you, ok?
sending it over!
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picture message me!
get up nice and close to it
here, have my number...
get up nice and close to it
here, have my number...
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hey have you got cam?
can i watch you while you wank?
that would be so hot
can i watch you while you wank?
that would be so hot
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Hey, wanna cyber?
so fucking horny right now
how big are your tits?
so fucking horny right now
how big are your tits?
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Quote by titwnkplz
i have a girlfriend who i love but there is a girl that i work with that i cant help fantisising about and have to wank after every time i see her but but i dont want anything more from her bit confused.
EVERY time you see her? I really hope this is an exaggeration because it sounds like you might be getting a bit obsessed with her.
How closely do you work with this girl because you may not want to take things beyond fantasy but your body language might be sending her signals that you do - girls pick up on signals and it might affect your working relationship.
This sort of reminds me of an advert made by British comedian Peter Kay. Enjoy...
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I only crop but maybe I should take advantage of the other options that photoshop provides...
Simply making the original black and white and making the dark areas darker creates a more dynamic effect and gives me more definition. I then took that image and distorted it slightly to accentuate my shoulders and chest while maintaining the same width at the hips and then used a sharpen filter.
That's just a few clicks in photoshop. Professional image manipulators could do much more
Simply making the original black and white and making the dark areas darker creates a more dynamic effect and gives me more definition. I then took that image and distorted it slightly to accentuate my shoulders and chest while maintaining the same width at the hips and then used a sharpen filter.
That's just a few clicks in photoshop. Professional image manipulators could do much more
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I hate to say this but replying to this thread seems more trouble than it's worth.
Relationships should always be a personal choice, if you don't see the point of them or get anything out of them then don't get involved - there's no law (in most countries anyway) that says you have to.
Relationships should always be a personal choice, if you don't see the point of them or get anything out of them then don't get involved - there's no law (in most countries anyway) that says you have to.
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Quote by Dancing_Doll
This was my first thought too.
If you have a hot girl that's really eager to start cybering right out of the gate, that should probably be a red flag.
But wait a second ... that would mean... didn't we...? oh god!
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Quote by TheDevilsWeakness
Are you drunk? Not drunk enough? Forgot to take your meds? Took too many meds?
Cause seriously... Get out.
That's like your girlfriend telling you she prefers her ex-bf penis over yours.
Kinda rude and tactless, if you ask me.
He's a guy with a bit of butt-hurt from lush - wanted to flex his intellectual muscles in the forum, couldn't handle proper debate, ran away - comes back as some self-styled nihilist. Very, very sad.
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Assuming she's at least on the surface fairly vanilla, do it when you're husband isn't around - otherwise it'll seem like you're both pressuring her. Have a girly chat and steer the conversation towards unfulfilled sexual fantasies. When she asks what yours is explain it to her - then gauge her reaction. You could tell her that you would like to experience a threesome - but let her ask most of the questions about the details (eg mmf/mff) - otherwise it will look too set up. The key is to intrigue her to know more. If she's interested in any way she'll ask you plenty of questions.
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Quote by freakycactus
I like masters and doms who are willing to compromise and agree things with their sub / slave, it makes them seem more human and stuff, much more appealing than one who has their unbendable rules that must always be obeyed, no matter what
I'll deal with you later
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Quote by Han135
I wasn't sure if I should put this under the "relationship" or BDSM forum. I was wondering if a sub can be jealous. Well... Not that they can't be but as in is it a bad trait? Would you have to work on sharing your Dom with others? At the moment I can't, I am very jealous. I have a feeling that I can't be the only one out there. But is it wrong of me to limit a Dom's power by telling them I am jealous, therefore I can't stand having an open relationship?
While you think this shouldn't be under the BDSM forum, I think that this almost defines it!
You're jealous because you given yourself to someone who hasn't given themselves to you.
Decide what sort of sub you want to be. The sort that serves the leader of many, where you are one of many serfs? Or the sort of sub who dictates what their master does... the sort of master who likes compromise and agreement.
To be honest, the healthiest thing is the second option. The first option really is only temporary and doomed to disappointment. The second is the vanilla, but rewarding, way ahead - as long as you play along.
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There's a sticky thread specifically for this sort of request, add it there
http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst26227_All-Those-Seeking-a-MasterMistress-or-a-submissive-please-post-here.aspx
http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst26227_All-Those-Seeking-a-MasterMistress-or-a-submissive-please-post-here.aspx
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If you think you need something like Cialis or Viagra why on earth would want to avoid going to the doctors. Seriously, it's not going to be the most embarrassing thing he or she will have heard THAT DAY.
Whenever a part of your body isn't working properly it's worthwhile getting it checked out - there could be an underlying problem that needs sorting.
If you want to take something for a laugh you can either take something that's been clinically tested or pop something that's been knocked together in some backstreet Mogadishu pill factory - you have the freedom of choice
Whenever a part of your body isn't working properly it's worthwhile getting it checked out - there could be an underlying problem that needs sorting.
If you want to take something for a laugh you can either take something that's been clinically tested or pop something that's been knocked together in some backstreet Mogadishu pill factory - you have the freedom of choice
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If you close the page in the browser rather than simply moving away from it, it will no longer download any more data. By simply moving away from the page it may continue to update silently in the background. (On iPhone/Safari - click pages icon (bottom right) > page will minimise > click the big red X)
You might want to investigate how to switch off image files on this site if that option is available - the ridiculous numbers of gifs posted on profiles is getting out of hand and has seen some profiles nudging 30MB! equivalent to a full album of MP3 in gifs alone.
You might want to investigate how to switch off image files on this site if that option is available - the ridiculous numbers of gifs posted on profiles is getting out of hand and has seen some profiles nudging 30MB! equivalent to a full album of MP3 in gifs alone.
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Relationships help us live our lives - be they romantic, family, business, casual, professional, whatever - we try and nurture them to maximise benefits but they can all break down in the manner you describe above.
There are so many things we do that on the face of it seem self-destructive but we measure the benefits ahead of the risk involved. We drink even though it damages our health. We drive yet we know we could crash. We fall in love usually blind to the fact that statistically it will end in heartache and tears.
Reading your blogs on here it appears you've started a course of anti-depressants. You should allow a couple of weeks before you start seeing any benefit from them. Revisit this thread at a later date, then see if your opinion is altered in any way. I hope you see an improvement soon.
There are so many things we do that on the face of it seem self-destructive but we measure the benefits ahead of the risk involved. We drink even though it damages our health. We drive yet we know we could crash. We fall in love usually blind to the fact that statistically it will end in heartache and tears.
Reading your blogs on here it appears you've started a course of anti-depressants. You should allow a couple of weeks before you start seeing any benefit from them. Revisit this thread at a later date, then see if your opinion is altered in any way. I hope you see an improvement soon.
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@ awake
I guess it'll be similar to how you'll feel when the day comes that you finally get to touch a woman's tits!
I guess it'll be similar to how you'll feel when the day comes that you finally get to touch a woman's tits!
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Before you move on, you're going to have to be quite brutally honest with yourself. If you want to remain friends, can you genuinely support the decision he's made and the happiness he's found in his relationship? Being glad he's found happiness should be your first step to acceptance and moving on.
Remember, you never had a relationship with him, you had the fantasy of a relationship. If you don't reconcile your feelings for him you'll constantly be comparing EVERY MAN you meet with this idealised fantasy and no one will be able to live up to it.
What you're going through probably isn't clinical depression but it does sound like part of the grieving process. Find new things you can focus on, change your surroundings, meet new people - anything that offers variety and the sense that life always has more to offer and stimulate you.
Remember, you never had a relationship with him, you had the fantasy of a relationship. If you don't reconcile your feelings for him you'll constantly be comparing EVERY MAN you meet with this idealised fantasy and no one will be able to live up to it.
What you're going through probably isn't clinical depression but it does sound like part of the grieving process. Find new things you can focus on, change your surroundings, meet new people - anything that offers variety and the sense that life always has more to offer and stimulate you.
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@ gav could this be the root of the problem
http://www.atomni.com/issues-with-ajax-ios6-and-net-web-services
http://www.atomni.com/issues-with-ajax-ios6-and-net-web-services
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Quote by joasses
that's too much, most sensitive compassionate and smart guys dont have sense of humor, mostly they look serious and scary at the first impression, so how would you have the chance to know them at first ...
When women say they're looking for someone who is sensitive and compassionate with a good sense of humour, they're really looking for the same thing - empathy. They don't really mean sensitive in their world view: these men are seen as easily preoccupied or obsessive - attributes that are generally unattractive.
Quote by HappyEndings
They'll all tell you basically the same thing which you're already reading above. You'll hear the same phrases over and over and then you'll see them end up with some asshole that looks really male and sexy and treats them like shit and he'll have almost any woman he wants.
I've got a buddy and I absolutely HATE to go anywhere with him because women throw themselves at him shamelessly and he just simply doesn't care. He's a user and get's more sex than any other 100 men I've ever known.
Your friend has what the most women in the world will immediately say that they find attractive: bullet-proof confidence. Whether he gets it from his money, his looks or his intellect, women will always be wowed by a man who projects confidence. Of course what some people see as confident others may see as arrogant - it's quite subjective.
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And for women who talked about Grammar, please... the sexiest and most attractive men are not English speakers
I beg to differ
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Ok so you're the online nice guy and he's the online bad boy - sounds like she's getting the best of both worlds. Why on earth would she want to spoil that by offering exclusivity to either of you?
In reality, exclusivity online is pretty much a fast-track to some very, very bitter disappointment: be sure you really know what you want.
Yes, I'm sure you'll get some people saying "I have very a successful exclusive online relationship with blah, blah, blah and we live in magical luvey pixie land - we write romantic joint stories... blah, blah, blah" - and any other amount of low-grade horseshit. The sad fact is that most exclusive online relationships soon end up with one person getting shat upon when they find out the other has exclusivity with about half a dozen other people or has about four other accounts.
You want her? Man up.
In reality, exclusivity online is pretty much a fast-track to some very, very bitter disappointment: be sure you really know what you want.
Yes, I'm sure you'll get some people saying "I have very a successful exclusive online relationship with blah, blah, blah and we live in magical luvey pixie land - we write romantic joint stories... blah, blah, blah" - and any other amount of low-grade horseshit. The sad fact is that most exclusive online relationships soon end up with one person getting shat upon when they find out the other has exclusivity with about half a dozen other people or has about four other accounts.
You want her? Man up.
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Any mods around to redirect the replies to this identical post from the same person
http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst26687_Being-Exclusive.aspx
http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst26687_Being-Exclusive.aspx
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To score or comment a story the reader (usually) has to make it all the way to the end - number of views certainly does not equal number of reads.
I'd imagine that stories with exceptionally highs views (anything over 30,000) have probably found their way on to some social news site like reddit or digg or maybe even have been retweeted by someone with a million-plus followers - either way, you're going to get a lot of casual traffic not interested in scoring let alone signing up and commenting - most of them won't even read it.
My most commented story is also my most viewed story but it has the worst comment to view ratio of any of my stories, (the views came from it being an Editor's Pick). 35 comments from 16,900 views about one comment for every 500 views. Compare that though to my latest story which has fewer than 700 views but has 29 comments - one comment every 25 views! There doesn't seem to be any rhyme or reason behind it other than you know you can always rely on certain friends to leave comment.
I'd imagine that stories with exceptionally highs views (anything over 30,000) have probably found their way on to some social news site like reddit or digg or maybe even have been retweeted by someone with a million-plus followers - either way, you're going to get a lot of casual traffic not interested in scoring let alone signing up and commenting - most of them won't even read it.
My most commented story is also my most viewed story but it has the worst comment to view ratio of any of my stories, (the views came from it being an Editor's Pick). 35 comments from 16,900 views about one comment for every 500 views. Compare that though to my latest story which has fewer than 700 views but has 29 comments - one comment every 25 views! There doesn't seem to be any rhyme or reason behind it other than you know you can always rely on certain friends to leave comment.
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Quote by WellMadeMale
Yo, Player -- Where'd you jet off too, my man. I was just getting into your entire fantasy story series as well as your monumental narcissistic myth. I feel we could've hung out - wingman style. You know...you picking off my refuse and whatnot.
Long Live ThePlayer!
These would have been more appropriate, as it sadly turns out.
I did swing by your happening chatroom once... I forget which guy-pretending-to-be-a-female, which I witnessed you cybering up, but it was an impressive string of pick up lines you were furiously hammering out from your querty.
For a master such as you to have left us this soon, with so much knowledge and insight still to provide...
sadness
You shall be missed, lil brother. Like hemorrhoids
He seems to have left Lush, along with Hotmama, coincidentally. Don't worry if you're missing him, his real world wife-to-be , Bat, will keep you informed, I'm sure
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Quote by Shylass
"I just didn't like it" is fine. It takes a lot for a writer to get me to comment, personally.
I'm not trying to be up myself, I just enjoy writing when I am able, and like a hobby or sport, I want to get better at it. If I produce utter drivel and nobody tells me how to make it better, it's like the terrible auditions on X-Factor (which I love!). Kind-hearted family and friends lie to them, and then they are often humiliated. But they are so brave! I love them for it.
But I think the worst offenders are the mediocre ones. They don't add much, they just fade into the background and are forgotten.
I don't think there's anything wrong or needy about wanting to be better at writing. I'm not asking for the earth, I'm just exploring options.
Thank you for your replies, everybody.
The trouble is, a lot of the time it's just opinion and even if you value that person's opinion it shouldn't dictate what you do next.
Some people may look at some of my stuff and say it's too short, or there's not enough sex but I won't change how I write just because of what they say.
Two people could see a typical Lush love poem in vastly different ways: one person could see it is beautifully intimate and insightful but someone else might see the same thing as self-indulgent doggerel. Who's right? Probably neither of them.