Not likely a situation I'd encounter, given my preferences for experienced women. However if I unexpectdly found myself in that situation, I'd proceed very carefully.
[However I recently was a new stripper's first lapdance. Does that count?]
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realz
Over 90 days ago
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First I don't put excessive importance on her place. I'm much more interested (well until I hot hooked up, not currently checking out women's places) in her, not her place. However major negative marks for lots of religious crap (other than decoration), positive marks for books on science or history (on shelves, not set out just to be seen).
But really it's the person, not the pad, that will determine if it's a good fit.
But really it's the person, not the pad, that will determine if it's a good fit.
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I have a suggestion that's probably different than most others, but let her be who she is comfortable being. I understand that it arouses YOU when other men stare at your wife's tits, but it's obviously not something she likes to do. ...
I partly agree. But I have also found that some women do enjoy it once they feel confident that their partner is really onboard with it. So gentle encouragement is ok, but not arm-twisting.
My wife knows I will buy her anything that looks sexy on her, and has taken advantage of that offer frequently. Her ex husband did nothing but criticize her appearance, and she largely covered up when we met.
There is the undefinable: the laugh, the smile, the way a woman can look at me and make me melt, the sound of her breath when she begins to get aroused, the way she gives her body to me.
Then there is the body, especially the curve along her hip, the soft curves, the way breasts feel pressed against me, age is not an issue, whether in her 20s or very much mature, whether sleek or carrying a reasonable amount of extra padding, not important.
A sexy woman is one who is comfortable in her skin and sexuality, who knows how to both give pleasure and take pleasure.
Then there is the body, especially the curve along her hip, the soft curves, the way breasts feel pressed against me, age is not an issue, whether in her 20s or very much mature, whether sleek or carrying a reasonable amount of extra padding, not important.
A sexy woman is one who is comfortable in her skin and sexuality, who knows how to both give pleasure and take pleasure.
There's a lot of variables. I was in one for a while. My ex and I went open as part of heading in different directions. We still care for each other, and we slept and fucked together when we were both around but we both had other sexual interests so that's probably not the kind of relationship you're talking about.
Sexual jealousy is not a big thing with me, I'm more concerned with emotional loyalty. I'm not terribly concerned if she chooses to play as long as it's only play.
Sexual jealousy is not a big thing with me, I'm more concerned with emotional loyalty. I'm not terribly concerned if she chooses to play as long as it's only play.
wow.
That is a real challenge to explain to a woman because the sensations are so different, but I'll do my best. You know the feelings of being aroused, when your partner tingles that very core. In that sense you and I are more or less the same. Even if you and I both have oral sex with a partner, the experience is not that different. The difference occurs when the penis gets so hard that it almost aches (I don't think there is something quite like that for your) and it needs to be soothed. True a hand job will release the sexual energy, but entering the vagina is so much more than that.
That moment, things change. There is the intense sensations of all of her body in contact with you, but not just the outside. As the folds slip aside there is a sense of joining, like you lose the distinction between yourself and her... at the same time there is the sensation of thrust, of penetration there is also the sensation that she is absorbing you into her, that your penis is no longer yours alone but part of her body and you no longer have full control of it. At that point all the edgieness changes, even while you're still hard it's no longer aching, it's enveloped in a warmth bath of both taking and surrender.
There is nothing better.
That is a real challenge to explain to a woman because the sensations are so different, but I'll do my best. You know the feelings of being aroused, when your partner tingles that very core. In that sense you and I are more or less the same. Even if you and I both have oral sex with a partner, the experience is not that different. The difference occurs when the penis gets so hard that it almost aches (I don't think there is something quite like that for your) and it needs to be soothed. True a hand job will release the sexual energy, but entering the vagina is so much more than that.
That moment, things change. There is the intense sensations of all of her body in contact with you, but not just the outside. As the folds slip aside there is a sense of joining, like you lose the distinction between yourself and her... at the same time there is the sensation of thrust, of penetration there is also the sensation that she is absorbing you into her, that your penis is no longer yours alone but part of her body and you no longer have full control of it. At that point all the edgieness changes, even while you're still hard it's no longer aching, it's enveloped in a warmth bath of both taking and surrender.
There is nothing better.
I think this 'putting out too soon will doom the relationship' is largely a myth.
First it's part of a societal control to scare people out of sexual openness.
But also, there is a statistical component to it that may make it seem true but is actually an illusion. Consider this:
1) there are more first dates than 2nd or 5th dates
2) putting out on the first date means essentially more chance of having sex with people you may eventually tire of (not to say that such sex is bad)
3) looking back, then, there will be a number of hot sex first dates that went nowhere longterm, but they probably they would have gone nowhere long term anyhow. However the statistical illusion created is that the first date sex cooled the relationship when in fact it actually did not.
If it feels right, go with it. Don't throw away some magic that might happen. As I mentioned earlier, my wife and I started out with first date sex and never looked back.
First it's part of a societal control to scare people out of sexual openness.
But also, there is a statistical component to it that may make it seem true but is actually an illusion. Consider this:
1) there are more first dates than 2nd or 5th dates
2) putting out on the first date means essentially more chance of having sex with people you may eventually tire of (not to say that such sex is bad)
3) looking back, then, there will be a number of hot sex first dates that went nowhere longterm, but they probably they would have gone nowhere long term anyhow. However the statistical illusion created is that the first date sex cooled the relationship when in fact it actually did not.
If it feels right, go with it. Don't throw away some magic that might happen. As I mentioned earlier, my wife and I started out with first date sex and never looked back.
I have some knowledge of this because of clothes shopping. My wife buys her own clothes, but if it's sexy enough, I pay.She takes advantage of that system and gotten quite a wardrobe that way
Dress: basic black. Mid thigh or a bit shorter
Patterned black stockings
bra: none (with her perky tits, she seldom wears one any how)
Panties: black or red. lacy
Heels: moderately high, but comfortable. It's hard to be sexy when you're not comfortable.
Jewelry: minimal if at all
Dress: basic black. Mid thigh or a bit shorter
Patterned black stockings
bra: none (with her perky tits, she seldom wears one any how)
Panties: black or red. lacy
Heels: moderately high, but comfortable. It's hard to be sexy when you're not comfortable.
Jewelry: minimal if at all
I have done the massage thing at times in my life
It's a very different experience from date sax. There's not a lot of play acting, guesswork. There's not a lot of pressure. You both know why you're there. You both know why she's there. While I always treated the women with politeness, I did not feel any need to impress them with my charm or stamina. I don't have any need for her to pretend to be incredibly turned on by me. I'm just one more cock, I'm sure they've seen better.
It's a very different experience from date sax. There's not a lot of play acting, guesswork. There's not a lot of pressure. You both know why you're there. You both know why she's there. While I always treated the women with politeness, I did not feel any need to impress them with my charm or stamina. I don't have any need for her to pretend to be incredibly turned on by me. I'm just one more cock, I'm sure they've seen better.
I think some guys are influenced by porn films, but there is a difference between watching some abstract 'lesbian' scene on film, and it actually being someone you are close to.
My ex wife was out as bisexual from the time we first met, so it was not a surprise. However, as much as I tried, even though I am not very jealous, I was never fully comfortable with it. In fact, I was less bothered by her flirting with guys (flirting was ok behavior for both of us) then when she flirted with women.
We eventually parted, more to provide each other the freedom we needed than any animosity between us. I'm now with a very hetero feminine woman, and she's in a poly relationship with a cross dressing guy.
My ex wife was out as bisexual from the time we first met, so it was not a surprise. However, as much as I tried, even though I am not very jealous, I was never fully comfortable with it. In fact, I was less bothered by her flirting with guys (flirting was ok behavior for both of us) then when she flirted with women.
We eventually parted, more to provide each other the freedom we needed than any animosity between us. I'm now with a very hetero feminine woman, and she's in a poly relationship with a cross dressing guy.