The male gaze! Toxic! Oppressive! That’s how my feminist friends talk about it, and sometimes that’s absolutely justified. But the male gaze can also be very different. It can be playful and challenging! It can be yearning and tender: those are all forms of the male gaze I can’t get enough of. I’m thinking especially about the adventure I recently had with two lovely friends. Oh God, that was so wonderful. And their male...