Quote by Jen
Chilly? Come to Scotland. The weather is lovely. That actually may be the first time I've ever uttered those words, lol
I'll have a Jolter please, Rumptastic. Extra jolty. If you're splitting it between me and G, make sure I get a teensy bit more than him
Also, to everyone in here who keeps flirting with my girl, I know who you are and I'm watching... *cough* Hannah *cough*
Quote by LYFBUZ
I don't know any guys who actually use the 1 -10 scoring scale other than the occasional comment such as "OMFG that girl is a fucking 12 I swear to God!" or something of that nature. In an attractiveness sense I either find a woman personally attractive to me or I don't. Its totally subjective and some girls don't always make that immediate hit but a few months later she is all you can think about. I'd guess anyone using a 1 - 10 rating scale is superficial at best.
Quote by Milik_the_Red
That makes sense. From you response I gather that you feel a need for that type of check. It is the same for other subs, regardless of gender (or gender affiliation.)
Pain is only a small part of punishment in D/s of course. It can be inward, as with you or it can invole some sort of humiliation or other emotional check. I believe some people need to feel the boundaries they have accepted enforced by their Dom. It’s a thin line for the Dom, and as abuse does tend to seduce its victim, the sub I suppose needs to be able to tell when the thrill or calm they derive from it becomes a true dread.
The point I’m working on is that in most of these forms, violence of either a physical or emotional nature is being sexulized. The difference is in how it is meant to affect the sub. Destructive violence is intended to cause fear and pain for its own sake. That is far different than what transpires in a true, healthy D/s lifestyle. Of course, that would be very difficult to explain to anyone looking in from the outside.
Quote by Milik_the_Red
This is an interesting thread.
So is punishment in a D/s relationship a violent abuse, or is it filling a need within the sub? Does it simply come down to intent as much as consent?
Quote by PrincessC
While it’s fundamental to the discussion of sexualising violence I do think we have to be careful to not suggest kinks are mostly a way of dealing with trauma or that they potentially are an indication of previous abuse. Not that that is being argued here but I just want to say I like incredibly dangerously rough sex and it’s not due to some latent trauma.
Kinks are strange, I think it’s okay to sexualise just about anything as long as no permanent harm is done and people consent. While they can be indicative they can also be impulsive in my opinion.
Quote by seeker4
I'll have a glass (bottle? pint?) of that Falstaff beer. Lovely day here. Yes, the garage will get cleaned after lunch. And I've got my grocery shopping done.
Actually, I have probably not mentioned that I am flying solo these days. Son (as mentioned many times) lives in another city and my wife is in China visiting her clan.
