mine's dead. necrophillia is illegal in my state, so no.
The Laundry List. i've spoken on it before, but i'll do so again.
the laundry list is when someone starts out a story thusly:
Her name was Bridget. She had blonde hair, blue eyes, weighed 134 pounds, was 5'6' tall, and had 36DD boobs.
you get the idea? a story starts like that an i am done with it.
if you're doing it on the sly, and you know she would object if she knew, than yes, it is cheating.
how about this - always have a dildo or three on hand - they're not that expensive, they're much better than just grabbing a veggie, and they're safer too - the right tool for the right job and all that.
I'll make this simple. yes, you are.
the first step would be to talk to him about getting couples counselling. if he agrees, you've got some work to do, but you're headed in the right direction.
if he doesn't, i would leave him. that's not an ultimatum you make to get him to change his ways. that's a hard, cold, this is over, i want a divorice and i want you out of the house kind of thing. talk to your family about it first - make sure that you have support and a safe place to go should you need one. hopefully, it won't come to that, but yeah, this is abuse. abuse is not always physical. best of luck, and i hope it works out for you.
probably not by asking anonymous people on a sex stories website. *shrugs* my suggestion? try asking her, not us. btw, something that might help - how long ago did she give birth? pretty important info to know. having and raising a baby is pretty draining and time consuming.