someone recently made a comment to me that 'you like them young' based on the fact that i sometimes find playmates here that are a decade or so younger. while i'm still 30, that got me thinking about the term, a bit, and about the phenomenom in general, and here is the real issue with the word. it's not frowned upon for older men to seek out younger lovers, even admired, yet an issue is often made if an older woman does the same. i am pretty sure that, had someone called me a cougar, i'd be offended. some women don't let themselves, mentality wise, grow old. they are, despite their age, young at heart. i've spent time with women 30 years older than i, and really, had i not known, i would have never have guessed - they are still spirited, fun, joyful, and sexy.
also, as i said, the term denotates a predator. does it escape people that the younger girls or guys are a part of the equation too? some people have older souls. some mature faster, especially women. some are looking for the the security and stability and experience and wisdom an older woman can offer.
oh, i can spend time with an 20 yo girl and have a lively fun conversation on all manner of subjects and also be able to keep up physically. AND i'm a lot of fun to hang out with, too. so yeah... guys? wouldn't go around calling women cougars and not expect to take flak for it.
